Mixed reaction giving compliments as a guy

bobbybobby Registered Users Posts: 785 Curl Connoisseur
In the interest of promoting solidarity and togetherness in the curly community, I try to make it a point to compliment any woman I see, even strangers, that rock their curls. I try to play it from the angle of, "Since I have curly hair I try to share love with others that have it. There are usually one of two outcomes. It's either the compliment made her day and we often share a hug or I get a standoffish look like I'm some creepy dude. Thankfully, I find it to mostly be the former. At any rate, I'm going to keep being me. 
2B always with potential of white man's fro


"Curls aren't just for girls"


  • Guide 65Guide 65 Registered Users, Moderators Posts: 1,984 Curl Virtuoso
    You'll have to forgive those standoffish women.  They're probably in creepy guy overload.  There are so many creepers out there, when some strange man gives a compliment, we have to take a minute to try to figure out what this guy's angle is.  Especially if it's on a day when we don't feel like we look our best.

    It's always nice to get a compliment from a stranger though!
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    Changing up my shampoos because I can't find one I like
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  • BrittanyMBrittanyM Registered Users Posts: 1,218 Curl Virtuoso
    I can be a bit standoffish when it comes to compliments. T doesn't matter who is complimenting. I'm just naturally shy and very self conscious. Keep giving compliments, brush it off it it's not well received.
  • beantreesbeantrees Registered Users, Curl Ambassador Posts: 116 Curl Connoisseur
    I am pretty standoffish with receiving compliments from men.  It's hard to know a stranger's intentions, and I've often been in situations where compliments become a foot in the door to starting up a conversation.  Happened to me just last night at a meeting I went to, and the compliment started with my haircut.  Conversations aren't an issue on their own, but it's hard to take them at face value.  Men can also sometimes expect a gracious smile and thank you, which I am under no obligation to give.

    Compliments I don't mind receiving are short, specific, to the point, and with no further conversation.  Ie. "great shoes" "nice haircut" "I like your jacket". General comments on whether somebody likes my overall appearance (ie. "you're beautiful" "looking good today") do not go over well with me.

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    Earlobe length on one side and pixie short in back and other side.  Growing out to chin/jaw length.
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  • bobbybobby Registered Users Posts: 785 Curl Connoisseur
    Thanks for the feedback, ladies. I don't take offense to the ones that are standoffish. I see the varied responses as a mere reflection that everyone emotes differently. However, if those I compliment and it makes their day, I'll savor it. :)
    2B always with potential of white man's fro


    "Curls aren't just for girls"
  • CatitudeBooCatitudeBoo Registered Users Posts: 590 Curl Connoisseur
    When it comes to men giving hair compliments, I don't mind as long as he compliments me and keeps it moving. It shows that the compliment is more genuine other than trying to get something out of me. Hair compliments from any gender are the only physical ones I'm comfortable with anyway. 
    CG since Dec. 2013  B)
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    RO: Tresemme Botanique Nourish & Replenish Conditioner 
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  • jeepcurlygurljeepcurlygurl Registered Users, Curl Ambassador Posts: 20,731 Curl Virtuoso
    I don't know how I missed this thread but I always appreciate a hair compliment! And I enjoy giving them also. 
    --I'm located in Western PA.   --I found NC in late 2004, CG since February 2005, joined the forums in May 2005, started going grey in late 2005.   --My hair is 3B with some 3A, currently at mid back length when dry,  texture-medium/fine, porosity-top is low, middle is medium, ends are porous, elasticity-normal.   --My long time favorite products are Suave & VO5 conditioners, LA Looks Sport Gel, coconut oil, honey, vinegar.   
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  • curlypearlcurlypearl Registered Users Posts: 12,231 Curl Connoisseur
    Ditto Jeepy.
    2/c Coarse hair med. density.
    Highly porous. Color over grey.
    I love all the Curl Junkie products. Still experimenting with gels and curl creams. Still hoping for 2nd day hair....
    Every day is a gift :flower:
  • GretchenGretchen Administrator Moderators Posts: 10,840 Curl Virtuoso
    Me, too!  I especially like to give them to little girls. I know they often feel peer pressure to "fit in" and I want them to know they are beautiful just as they are! 

    NaturallyCurly.com co-founder

    You are beautiful!
  • bobbybobby Registered Users Posts: 785 Curl Connoisseur
    The way I see it is as much bad that goes on in our world we need to latch onto some good .
    2B always with potential of white man's fro


    "Curls aren't just for girls"

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