Transitioning Acceptance

TainaraTainara Posts: 7Registered Users, Curl Ambassador Curl Neophyte
edited March 27 in Transitioning
Hello everybody, 
Let.s create a whatsapp international group hair trasitioning to help us with that delicate period. I am Brasilian and nearly 4 months trasitioning. We can help each other and exchange experience, for everybody are interesting please leave your whatsapp contact.

Comments

  • GretchenGretchen Administrator Posts: 10,278Administrators, Moderators Administrator
    Or maybe you all could just chat here! We'd all like to read about your experiences; you can help so many others, too! 

    Gretchen
    NaturallyCurly.com co-founder
    3A

    You are beautiful!
  • TainaraTainara Posts: 7Registered Users, Curl Ambassador Curl Neophyte
    edited March 27
    Nice let's do it ;)
          I am Brazilian and have been traveling and living in Europe the last 5 years, now I am moving to live in Ibiza for the summer and winter prob Barcelona. I am manager events promoter and had decided to do a big change in my life this year. 
    I will put some pictures to share my current experience. 
       To start with, since i was 13 years old I did chemical treatment to staighten my hair because like many curly girls we were bullying in door and outooor. Moreover we see all this beautiful celebrity with long straight hair and dream have this amazing hair, not mention the impact of the media has on us...
    After many years of the same process i get tired and decided start my trasitioning. It is being a new world for me but I am so happy for this changement. 


    Always had straight before 13 nov 2017


     
    on 13 Nov 2017 i had stoped straight it i decided wait it growing natural 


     6 january 2018 i cut it and and dyed a bit


    was so hard deal with 2 texture and cut it again. I had only 6 inches of my natural hair and was trying hair styling.


    New cut on on 18 March 2018


    Not satisfied On Sunday 25 March 2018, yesterday i did my last cut hair and I need courage to go out with this new style. However I am very very happy with my hair As The Nature Gave Me :)

     
    Every day is a battle for me and I know I am not alone. Inside I can feeling every single cells of my body are celebrating with me this gloriously moment of acceptance and renewal.

    Tainara  
  • Aitana24Aitana24 Posts: 18Registered Users, Curl Ambassador Curl Novice
    Hi Tainara! I also started transitioning November last year. I tried for a month to work with my damaged hair but finally in January I ended up doing the Big Chop. I sort of look like a cabage now! haha! It's not been easy but this month I have actually begun to see spirals in my hair again. :)
  • GretchenGretchen Administrator Posts: 10,278Administrators, Moderators Administrator
    Wow, @Tainara.... you are a stunningly beautiful woman. And smart and talented, too . . . I can just tell!  Thanks for sharing your story. Your curls are really coming out!  What techniques/products are you using? 
    @Aitana24.... so happy you are seeing spirals again.... though I did get a chuckle out of the "cabbage" comment! 

    Gretchen
    NaturallyCurly.com co-founder
    3A

    You are beautiful!
  • TainaraTainara Posts: 7Registered Users, Curl Ambassador Curl Neophyte
    edited March 28
    @Aitana24, I need to get used to this new style, how you can see it is completely different how i had before but we know it will grows healthy and beautiful.

    @Gretchen, Thank you very much, your curls is sublime. I do a "capillary schedule" with natural organic products, things we have at home this routine care is based in 3 steps during week. I use for,
    Hydration: aloe vera, milk cream and coconut milk, natural honey, avocado, papaya, strawberry. (sometimes I use it pure or i mix with any hydration cream)
    Nutrition: Olive oil, coconut oil, castor oil, avocado, corn oil end so forth... (I like to put the oil before go to bed and i sleep with, in the morning i wash normally.
    Reconstruction: Maize starch, eggs, mayonnaise, unflavored gelatin, liquid keratin (I mix with a Hydration cream or Reconstruction cream both are ok)

    Ex:
                   Monday          Wednesday         Friday
    Week 1:  Hydration         Nutrition              Reconstruction
    Week 2:  Hydration         Nutrition              Hydration
    Week3 : Nutrition            Hydration            Hydration
    Week4:  Hydration          Nutrition              Hydration (Reconstruction only if i see that my hair need it)

    *A lot of conditioner, always after the treatments it is the last process when I wash my hair, helps a lot.

    :) When I wash to define the curls I use a leave-in humectant and  dry naturally then I active the curls pressing upwards.

    It is all I do at the moment and I would love to learn more techniques to make my hair more curls and less frizz on the top.

  • GretchenGretchen Administrator Posts: 10,278Administrators, Moderators Administrator
    What an impressive routine! 

    Gretchen
    NaturallyCurly.com co-founder
    3A

    You are beautiful!
  • AdorajAdoraj Posts: 5Registered Users, Curl Ambassador Curl Neophyte
    edited April 13
    I am in a similar boat as you. I have started my transitioning journey sometime last  year (although I didn't know it). I slowly stopped straightening my hair due to damage. I started wearing my natural curls although I hated it (I have come to want that hair back now). My hair started falling out but I didn't do anything about it since I was postpartum. My son is now almost 3 years and I have thinning of my hair and freaked out. I tried a weave (which I hated...its so ITCHY!) I did a big chop (not my intention but the hair dresser didn't listen to my wishes). I got depressed cried every week for about a month and a half. I had to learn that I was not my hair. In my eyes my hair defined my beauty. With the big chop I had to learn to love and feel confident in other things about myself. Couldn't really find much so I changed my health a little and started to work out. I started doing a henna treatments 1 every 3-4 weeks, deep conditioning every week, hot oils monthly, no tight hair dos, etc. I have come to accept my hair the henna gives my hair some length although it is taking away some of the curl so I will have to space that out a bit more. I'm still working on my regiment and it is hard. Sometimes I feel like giving up but I have a goal in mind. It's hard to read what your hair needs or lacks. 


    1st year postpartom


    1 1/2 -2 year mark transitioning before it all started going to crap


    Post big chop 

    Still getting used to the short hair and every day is a challenge. Have good days and bad days. I have no idea how to style it so I just leave it be. 

    Do you guys have any regimens that help with hair growth & strength? Or any ideas for styling with little to no stress on your hair?




  • AdorajAdoraj Posts: 5Registered Users, Curl Ambassador Curl Neophyte
    I am in a similar boat as you. I have started my transitioning journey sometime last  year (although I didn't know it). I slowly stopped straightening my hair due to damage. I started wearing my natural curls although I hated it (I have come to want that hair back now). My hair started falling out but I didn't do anything about it since I was postpartum. My son is now 2 years and I have thinning of my hair and freaked out. I tried a weave (which I hated...its so ITCHY!) I did a big chop (not my intention but the hair dresser didn't listen to my wishes). I got depressed cried every week for about a month and a half. I had to learn that I was not my hair. In my eyes my hair defined my beauty. With the big chop I had to learn to love and feel confident in other things about myself. Couldn't really find much so I changed my health a little and started to work out. I started doing a henna treatments 1 every 3-4 weeks, deep conditioning every week, hot oils weekly, no tight hair dos, etc. I have come to accept my hair the henna gives my hair some length although it is taking away some of the curl so I will have to space that out a bit more. I'm still working on my regiment and it is hard. Sometimes I feel like giving up but I have a goal in mind. It's hard to read what your hair needs or lacks. 


    Post partum 1st 9 months hair seemed still healthy with some heat damage 


    Postpartum 1 1/2 - 2 years before it all the damaged hair started to fall out and thin


    Just last month a couple weeks after the big chop

    I still struggle and try my best. I have good hair days and bad hair days. I have no idea how to style it so I mostly let it be. 

    Do you guys have any good regimens or any hair styling tips that don't put a lot of stress on your hair?



  • GretchenGretchen Administrator Posts: 10,278Administrators, Moderators Administrator
    You and your hair are beautiful... whatever length!

    Gretchen
    NaturallyCurly.com co-founder
    3A

    You are beautiful!
  • DionaDiona Posts: 1Registered Users, Curl Ambassador Curl Neophyte
    @Adoraj you look beautiful. For the hair loss, be sure to get your thyroid checked by your doctor. Hair loss is a common occurrence with thyroid problems and can easily be missed. 
  • Aitana24Aitana24 Posts: 18Registered Users, Curl Ambassador Curl Novice
    Hello @Adoraj I also have thin hair. Try using Flax seed gel as a styler, helps with definition, frizz and shine, and it's natural and a light product. Also, it's good for your hair :)
  • AdorajAdoraj Posts: 5Registered Users, Curl Ambassador Curl Neophyte
    Thanks for the recommendations!




  • StillunsureonmycurltypeStillunsureonmycurltype Posts: 54Registered Users, Curl Ambassador Curl Connoisseur
    Beautiful!
  • weirdcurlykoreanweirdcurlykorean Posts: 1Registered Users, Curl Ambassador Curl Neophyte
    Hi, Im Korean (if you read my username) and I was born with straight hair. When I started hitting puberty I had crazy curly hair growing on the roots and decided to rebond it. Basically chemically changing the hair strands, now I want to grow out my overprocessed hair and finally meet my curly/wavy hair (I'm not sure yet). But during this journey, I had realized my hair has been growing "weirdly". My profile pic shows you the strands. The hair in the front of my head is growing quite nicely but on the back and middle side is growing "wonkily and crooked". Could someone help identify whats happening and if I keep growing them they would grow beautifully?I've always loved curly hair and am jealous of my friend's(she has beautiful 2c/3a curls). Someone help? 
  • AdorajAdoraj Posts: 5Registered Users, Curl Ambassador Curl Neophyte
    I'm not sure but have you tried to enhance the curls on your crooked/wacky strands? I have hair like that as well and I enhance by finger curling. 
  • italiabellaitaliabella Posts: 1Registered Users, Curl Ambassador Curl Neophyte
    I'm now at 2.5 years since my last Japanese straightening treatment after 12 years of doing it. Had the same thing happen - big damage incident and decided to pull the plug. To be honest only in the last few weeks have I really started to like my hair again, but once in awhile I have a moment where it pulls at the heartstrings and I struggle again. Failed products / my friend doing my color well and then applying silicone filled gel that gave me 80s stringy hair, you name it.

    Everyone says be patient, which at the time is the most **** feedback ever, but it's so true! Each week and month my hair got healthier. If you can swing it without doing any heat at all and not doing much or any coloring it will be faster and better. I went cold turkey on the blow dryer in September and it's been steady improving ever since. My hair at the roots is way healthier than the ends!

    I don't have a well-structured routine for types of conditioning like someone mentioned here, but it's good to think about how your hair responds to protein, learn when it needs moisture (when you reactivate 2nd/3rd day, add some curl cream if you need, the Deva supercream does magic for me). I once read alternate masks between hydration and protein and that has worked well for me. 

    While I was transitioning, especially early on, the Shea Moisture JBCO mask was my savior. Now I use it rarely when I sense my hair needs the protein (e.g. after getting balyage highlights) but otherwise not as much. 

    It's an emotional rollercoaster but there is a pot of gold at the end, I promise! I've had people I haven't spoken to in 10 years message me privately to say my hair is amazing in my few social media posts, so keep the faith and power on. Figure out what else makes you feel beautiful and rely on that for the tough days (your favorite lipstick, best skinny jeans, the gym, etc.)
  • socurlssocurls Posts: 117Registered Users, Curl Ambassador Curl Dabbler
    @Tainara I love your hair ! :smiley:
    I just created an Instagram account on the evolution of my curly hair journey ! 
    It will be a pleasure to find you there  :)

    https://www.instagram.com/socurls/

    @socurls
  • GretchenGretchen Administrator Posts: 10,278Administrators, Moderators Administrator

    Figure out what else makes you feel beautiful and rely on that for the tough days (your favorite lipstick, best skinny jeans, the gym, etc.)
    Love your whole post but especially love this bit at the end. Brilliant advice!  Thanks for sharing your wisdom! 

    Gretchen
    NaturallyCurly.com co-founder
    3A

    You are beautiful!
  • curlypearlcurlypearl Posts: 12,078Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    Seeing the results after the transitioning is so exciting! Beautiful results - you all look much prettier with your curly hair.
    2/c Coarse hair med. density.
    Highly porous. Color over grey.
    I love all the Curl Junkie products. Still experimenting with gels and curl creams. Still hoping for 2nd day hair....
    Every day is a gift :flower:
  • TainaraTainara Posts: 7Registered Users, Curl Ambassador Curl Neophyte
    @Adoraj, You are so brave and for sure you will see the beautiful results at the end... that seemed to be a long process but when relax a bit about, it become more easy ;) soom i will put more new pics and I would love to know about how is going your progress.
    xx    
  • TainaraTainara Posts: 7Registered Users, Curl Ambassador Curl Neophyte
    @socurls, thank you! Yours curls are amazing :) 
    xx
  • TainaraTainara Posts: 7Registered Users, Curl Ambassador Curl Neophyte

    Update the development of my hair 3 months after the last pic. I don’t know yet if my hair is 3b or 3c type. I need to wait it grows until cut the scab hair. But I am very happy how it is now. 
  • socurlssocurls Posts: 117Registered Users, Curl Ambassador Curl Dabbler
    Wooooow I love it  ! ! :smiley: 
    I just created an Instagram account on the evolution of my curly hair journey ! 
    It will be a pleasure to find you there  :)

    https://www.instagram.com/socurls/

    @socurls

Leave a Comment

BoldItalicStrikethroughOrdered listUnordered list
Emoji
Image
Align leftAlign centerAlign rightToggle HTML viewToggle full pageToggle lights
Drop image/file