Negativity

in Going Gray
Have any of you had to deal with negativity from others about going grey? I have a colleague who stopped chemical colouring when I did, we both developed an allergy and decided to try henna. She's stuck with it and I gave up, didn't like the unpredictability of it, nor the (neon) orange roots. Usually she's very nice and supportive but I came into work tonight and she just blurted out that I should colour my hair again, it looked better with some colour. I just stood my corner and told her I couldn't deal with the orange roots or the possibility of it going too dark if I upped the indigo (conversations we've had before) but she just went on. She's not known for her subtlety and always speaks her mind, usually I don't care but she really annoyed me tonight. Atm she has two inches of orangey roots, then mostly brown hair and some very dark ends, not sure why she thinks I'd want to be going down that route, not exactly a good look imo.
I think she may have touched a nerve as I have a couple of inches of grey and it does look messy just now, I'm tossing up whether to get some more highlights to blend it a bit more.
Why can't people just keep their opinions to themselves?
I think she may have touched a nerve as I have a couple of inches of grey and it does look messy just now, I'm tossing up whether to get some more highlights to blend it a bit more.
Why can't people just keep their opinions to themselves?
3b in South Australia.
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I don't feel so bad about it today, it just really irritated me at the time even though I know that's just the way she rolls, I think she turns her filters off sometimes and just speaks her mind without thought to the consequences.
I have a thick skin so it never bothered me and it probably just hardened my resolve to never color my hair.
--My CG and grey hair progress -
http://www.naturallycurly.com/curltalk/going-gray/179328-jeepys-grey-hair-progress.html
--My article at NaturallyCurly about going grey -
https://www.naturallycurly.com/curlreading/color/how-i-went-completely-gray-and-loved-it
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I have no family here so at least I'm not having to deal with them, though I don't think the SO is entirely on board (who is almost completely grey himself!).
I have to say I do feel more determined not to go back to colouring, so maybe she helped!