Blended families/stepfamilies?

spiderlashes5000

Anyone have experience blending two families w/ kids? Actual, personal, long-ish term experience where you and a SO blended your families? Would like some input. TIA

curlyprincess1

Yes.

spiderlashes5000

If you care to share...what was the worst thing to happen? And what is the main thing you know now that you wish you knew then? thnx

claudine191

Never sell out or betray your own children to please or appease a partner. Your children will not forget it.

curlyprincess1

~Don't use your kids as pawns.
~Don't talk bad about your ex around the kids.
~You might have to suck up pride, but know doing the right thing for your kids is the most important thing you can do.
~The lawyers are the only ones who win.
~Don't get into a power struggle.
~Keep focused on what is best for your kids, even if it can be a huge cluster.
Best of luck!

curlyprincess1

spiderlashes5000 wrote: »

If you care to share...what was the worst thing to happen? And what is the main thing you know now that you wish you knew then? thnx

Worst thing to happen.
Using your kids as pawns. That only hurts them in the long run.
Hindsight is always 20/20.
If you want to make a change, never ever do it without going through the court system! Nothing good ever comes from trusting your ex.
Best of luck.

spiderlashes5000

What about dealing w/ a partner's child(ren)? Or dealing w/ step siblings or step parents if you were the child in the situation and not the adult? What about different rules or expectations or personalities?

curlyprincess1

Too many variables.
My first question is how old are the kids?
Are you married or not? Or remarried?
Slippery slope for sure.