"Why don't you just straighten your hair"

naturally_me456naturally_me456 Posts: 3Registered Users
If i had a nickel for everytime somebody asked me that i would be rich..Because as of right now i am trying to go seven months without heat..and April 10,2015 will be seven months,so all this asking or telling me to striaghten my hair can be a ittle overwhelming,but i typically respond with,I love my curls,straight hair is nice but can get boring,and lets not forget about humidity and rain,and sweat.This typically ends the conversation..and they just say ok,and walk away.
In the past i have fed into to the comments,and straightened it but it only left me with frizzy,dry,damaged curls,so i learned to embrace the frizz and the curls and live with it..and now i am where i am today,happy and i love with my curls.

Since i guessing some or most of you have heard this comment before..what was your reaction and response to it..and did you ever give into the comments?


  • CatitudeBooCatitudeBoo Posts: 590Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    I just retort, "Because I don't want to." If I'm having a *****y day, then I'll tell them not to worry about my hair. Luckily, most people I encounter love my hair and don't make ridiculous comments.
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  • potatoheadpotatohead Posts: 175Registered Users
    I get those comments every now and then. About a month ago I straightened my hair for the first time in almost a year. Not because of what people said, just because I wanted to see the difference in my hair's health after treating it better for a year. I got a bunch of compliments and people telling me I should straighten more often. They meant well but It was kind of annoying because I rarely get compliments on my curly hair.
    I usually just straight up say "No" or "I don't want to" when someone tells me to straighten it. Piss off, it's my hair and I do what I want with it.

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  • Lady_CreoleLady_Creole Posts: 400Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Why do some of you feel that you have to explain anything to crazy, nosy people?

    No one ever approaches me with any craziness. I guess I walk with such confidence that they are afraid they will get their feelings hurt...[they are correct].

    I get so many compliments that I am amazed! Also, family members are going natural because of me...LOL!

    Some of you need to put your shoulders back, your head up and "work that"! Make people think twice...
    My hair is "exotic, beautiful and free",,,yeah, that be ME!!!
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  • DaniGirl88DaniGirl88 Posts: 1,583Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    I usually just tell them that I love my hair, embrace my curls, and don't see a need to straighten. They usually take the hint.

    And besides, ain't nobody got time for that.

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  • adthomasadthomas Posts: 5,525Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    I get this question but not put that way. People ask me if I ever straighten and when I say no they ask why. I say I don't like straight hair. Also I have certain relatives who seem to be itching to see my hair straight because they want to know how long it is but I really don't care enough to straighten it so they're like "can you tug it straight? "
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  • mrs_holmesmrs_holmes Posts: 4Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    "Because I don't like straight hair".
    I know it's a bit mean, but "straighten your hair" is mean as well.
  • MjslyfeMjslyfe Posts: 8Registered Users
    I think as a type 4 natural there can be a slight difference in the way this is statement is communicated. Our hair is more on the kinky side of the curly spectrum and people will assume that we don't comb our hair. Take for instance the comments made about Blue Ivy. So yes, I've been asked why I don't straighten. However, more often I'm asked, am I going to comb my hair. I usually politely respond that I don't use combs! These comments usually come from women who very likely have hair similar to mine but they are relaxed so we will never know! They don't understand because they have not had the natural experience of caring for their hair. I think education is the key. We have to educate people about our hair. Sharing is caring! I'm dedicated to ending the myth that kinky/ curly hair is not beautiful!

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  • NappychildNappychild Posts: 22Registered Users
    I just ignore the comments. At my school I get more compliments than at home. It's weird, and when they say I just don't like my hair being straightened, it's too much of a hassle for me. All the years of getting it pressed, having my hair sizzle and smoke, getting my ears and scalp burned, and seeing all the damage I have now has made me develop a strong dislike to heat tools. I like that I can wear my hair and not worry about it reverting. As i'm transitioning I love my hair day by day and now i feel like.. myself if it makes sense. But the thing is people shouldn't have any input on how you should wear your hair, if you wanna wear it straight or curly it should be about if you're happy with yourself, not them.
  • adthomasadthomas Posts: 5,525Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    mrs_holmes wrote: »
    "Because I don't like straight hair".
    I know it's a bit mean, but "straighten your hair" is mean as well.

    I don't think it's mean if you're not going up to some straight hair person and saying how ugly their hair is. In this case it was a question and an honest answer was given. People who don't like honest answers shouldn't ask the questions. I don't like straight hair. When I was relaxed I wore rollersets most of the time. Even my college roommate remarked at how I preferred my hair curly while she wore her relaxed hair straight. I wouldn't but if I were to ask straight haired people why don't you curl your hair. and they said they didn't like curly hair how can I be offended.
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  • sixelamysixelamy Posts: 4,157Registered Users Curl Novice
    Anytime I ask for tips on hairstyles, my stylist friend always tells me to straighten it. I just say no and move on. Simple. Well, after complaining a bit to someone about it first. lol

    It's annoying, but sadly most people don't know what else to do. They are ignorant and uneducated on how to take care of their own hair. I think the majority of people in this world have some sort of texture, minus the few with stick straight hair. We just have to tune those people out. Speaking with confidence or not.. that doesn't prevent anyone from telling you to straighten it if that's the only thing they know how to do. I've learned to not ask people's opinions anymore. If they offer it when it is not asked for, well shame on them, they are the one with the problem not me. While they are slaving for 30 minutes over their straightener, we can be out the door after some simple scrunches. Joke's on them.

    It also amuses me that some of people are the ones that "wish their hair was like ours". Nothing is preventing them from learning. Sheesh.
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  • Thirst4MoistureThirst4Moisture Posts: 5Registered Users
    I used to get this all the time in high school. What's worse is that I got them from type 2, 3, and 4 natural curlies as well. I have 2b/2c hair that doesn't have a certain pattern but does crazy random S waves wherever it wants. I remember people with beautiful naturally defined curls in high school always teased me and told me that my hair is just messy and unkept so I should use heat on my hair like other naturally straight girls because obviously that's how my hair actually is and I'm just being lazy and not taking care of it properly...
    I can understand straight haired people not understanding the way wavy/curly hair behaves, but curly girls teasing me with this stuff? Just because I don't have ringlets and my roots are weighed down, that means I'm not certified curly? AUGH it just hits the nerve :hmph:

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