Next move - relaxed and short? Advice appreciated!

Elsie87Elsie87 Posts: 12Registered Users
Hey, I'm trying to explore what the best option is for my hair - it's a bit out of control and I'm fed up of it : / One option is relaxing it and having it cut short. Either into some kind of bob or shorter into a pixie style (eek!) The appeal of lower maintenance is strong... and I think it may be good for my hair to cut the majority of it off. I also like the idea of a short style, it's not something I've ever done and want a change. Currently it's about five inches past my shoulders and the last couple of inches are quite damaged and spilt. The thing is, I've never relaxed my hair before and would really appreciate some advice on the following:

Firstly, can I still have healthy hair if it's relaxed as long as I look after it?

Secondly, will a relaxer (a 'gentle' one/nothing really harsh) make my hair lie nicely so that a short style would look how I would want it to look? I have 3B hair. I'm less worried about this if I did go for a bob length style but more concerned about pixie short hair not looking as I'd want it to.

Thirdly (!), will a relaxer smooth out ALL the curl, or would it leave it with a slight wave? That may depend which type is used...? I am near clueless on relaxers!

Advice and thoughts would be much appreciated and if anyone has experience of going short with relaxed hair it would be awesome to hear what you think. Am I treading dangerous ground here? lol. Thanks! : )

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  • Elsie87Elsie87 Posts: 12Registered Users
    Bump. Anyone have any advice for me, please? I need some words of wisdom from the experts!
  • multicultcurlymulticultcurly Posts: 5,136Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    If your hair is fine you need to mention it to the stylist. Fine hair is easily damaged in chemical processes. The site hairboutique.com has an article thay explains the different types of chemical straighteners and relaxers. NC may also have an article.

    I would recommend going to a professional. Rusk Anti-Curl, Ouidad's texturizer or Phyto relaxer type 1 would be what I recommend. Unlike a lot of the relaxers specifically geared toward people of African descent, the ones I mentioned shouldn't give you the dreaded scab hair. The upkeep of relaxing the new growth would depend on your hair properties and on how straight you want your hair. The straighteners I mentioned will probably leave your hair with some wave that can be easily straightened with heat.

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  • BluebloodBlueblood Posts: 1,748Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    If the stylist is any good they should examine your hair before doing anything to it, and then mention it is fine.

    In fact if you are new to the salon or stylist go for a consultation, and if they don't mention it go elsewhere.

    Some people I know have ended up with bad hair cuts because the stylist hasn't noticed the properties of their hair. Luckily these people weren't getting chemically processed as well.....
  • Elsie87Elsie87 Posts: 12Registered Users
    Thanks, multicultcurly, that's really useful. I have had a look around and found a relaxer by ORS Olive oil relaxer (no lye) so I'm hoping that one would suit me potentially. My texture is on the fine side so yeah, I wouldn't want to use anything too harsh. Would rather still have a wave than have damage. Hopefully mini straighteners would achieve the desired look if I end up getting really short hair as especially the back and the sides would be pretty short with the kind of style I have in mind. Thinking about it I'd rather keep a bit of wave in there and ideally wouldn't want it to go poker straight. I guess I don't know how my hair will act unless I try it. I kinda feel like I'm betraying the curly sisterhood by relaxing and possibly chopping it off! But honestly I need something easy to look after for a bit. And something different! It's been the same for years : / I would likely go back to natural and long. Thing is I worry that growing out the relaxer would be problematic and I don't want to have to do a major big chop or shave my head (looks fine on some women but it would not suit me.)
  • Elsie87Elsie87 Posts: 12Registered Users
    Thanks for the good advice, Blueblood. That's another thing that makes me nervous - going to a bad stylist! Hmm starting to think I should abandon this idea but that seems like the wimpy way out!
  • multicultcurlymulticultcurly Posts: 5,136Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    Have you ever had short hair? If you're feeling nervous I would get three inches cut off first to see how you feel. I agree with Blueblood that you should do a consultation first. Many stylists don't cut curly hair well and some don't understand how hair properties affect the outcome of chemical processes. Take your time before doing something you may not like.

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  • Elsie87Elsie87 Posts: 12Registered Users
    Not as short as I'm thinking, no. It's been kinda short (chin length or so) years ago. I think you're right about being more gradual! Good plan. Thanks. I'd probably more like maybe five or six inches off though. I'm not especially attached to my long(er) hair and I think (I think) short would suit... how can you be sure until you do it. I will certainly be cautious about stylists too. Need to have a think and do more research. Going to be a bit trial and error I think. Well hopefully not much error lol.
  • multicultcurlymulticultcurly Posts: 5,136Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    Sounds like a good plan Elsie. Let us know what you decide. :-)

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    HG: Jessicurl Too Shea and Kinky Curly Curling Custard
    Shampoo: nonsulfate shampoo and Suave Naturals sulfate shampoo when needed
  • BelleJar89BelleJar89 Posts: 14Registered Users
    Hey, Elsie87, can I ask what you decided in the end? I'm also wanting to go short (no hesitation, definitely getting it chopped!) I was also going to try Organic Root relaxer if I go down that road, apparently it's meant to be gentler than others. If you used it would you mind letting me know how you got on? Thank you!

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