Fifi.G wrote: »
For some reason my dad felt comfortable enough to tell me about his problems. Not in great detail. Just that beta blockers had initially caused the problem in his 40's and diabetes had taken away all chances of hope. Very strange conversation for him. He was not big on sex talks with his daughter in any shape, form or fashion. "If you get pregnant, don't come home", was all I had heard until that point. He was having a bad day and in the frame of mind that my mother should have left him a long time ago. I wanted nothing more than to
But I decided to be an adult and lend my ear. Rather sad. It hit him young and could not be helped. My mom was aware of this.
curlypearl wrote: »
I think that was very wrong of your father.
spiderlashes5000 wrote: »
Awww, I feel bad for your father, Fifi. Was he married at the time this all happened?
So what happens when young or middle aged men develop ED die to medications? Do they still have the psychological desire but just can't crank it up? So they have no way to relieve that pressure? Or they just have spontanous wet dreams? They're horny but they can't take the edge off?
JackieJoe wrote: »
I recently dated an older man (80--I am 62). He was impotent--could not get or maintain an erection--but was still VERY interested in sex. He wanted to talk about it, look at Playboy, see me naked, touch me, etc. Somehow I had expected that since he couldn't "perform" he would not want to "go there". I was oh so wrong. In fact it was like being with a teenage boy who could not keep his hands to himself! He was more than willing to give me lots of attention in bed, but it was very awkward, and the age difference was a problem too.
Apparently, he could satisfy himself to some degree, but he said it was not the same as when he was younger. Very sad and frustrating for him.
I don't know what this adds to the discussion, but was just a recent experience. We are not seeing each other anymore. He wanted more of my time and attention than I was willing to give.
2poodles wrote: »
You got me curious, spiderlashes5000. Googling the average age of onset of ED led me to this article on webmd:
Erectile Dysfunction Common With Age
I had no idea that it was such a widespread problem. Guess my husband and I have been lucky so far!!
Myrna wrote: »
It may have been too much information for you,
Starmie, and it may have been somewhat tactless for her to share personal information with you. However, the issue of erectile dysfunction is very difficult for men to talk about, face, and get help for. So the more it is discussed and normalized, the easier it becomes to get help and/or address it. Menopause used to be a taboo subject too; my mother used to speak in hushed tones about "the change". I would like to see medical and psychological issues normalized, de-stigmatized and openly discussed without shame or embarassment. I would like someone to do for ED what Katie Couric did for colon cancer.
Myrna wrote: »
ED is often related to an underlying medical condition, but not always.
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