How to manage my weird curly hair?!

sheyennearamasheyennearama Posts: 1Registered Users
Hi! I'm new to this site but I needed someone to talk to about my weird hair. Anywhoo, I'm 14 and I have crazy thick curly hair that I have absolutely no idea how to take care of. My dad is black and native american and my mom is black, white, and puerto rican. So I'm not exactly "mixed" but I'm exactly 100% kinky black either (does that make sense?). My mom started relaxing my hair when I was 4 and it was relaxed until about a year ago when I was 13. My hair is certainly thicker, curlier, and tangle filled but I still have relaxed hair on top. I think I'm a 3b but I have many different textures. I keep my hair in tight pony tails and buns but I know that can't be healthy. I can't wear my hair down because it's frizzy and in this weird in-between straight and curly stage so pony tails are the only thing I can wear. I wish my hair were healthy and completely curly so I can wear it down or at least stop wearing it in pony tails. Does anyone have any tips on how to manage this crazy mane of mine? And any products you can recommend? Hopefully you can understand this and thank you so much.


  • Firefox7275Firefox7275 Posts: 3,750Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    There are many protective styles for when transitioning, all kinds of buns for example. See YouTube for tutorials on up dos, also a book called Strictly Curls.
    2a-2c, medium texture, porous/ colour treated. Three years CG. Past bra strap length heading for waist.

    CO-wash: Inecto coconut/ Elvive Volume Collagen
    Treatments: Komaza Care Matani, coconut/ sweet almond/ fractionated coconut oils, Hairveda Sitrinillah
    Leave in: Fructis Sleek & Shine (old), Gliss Ultimate Volume, various Elvive
    Styler: Umberto Giannini jelly, Au Naturale styling gelee
    Flour sack towel, pixie diffuse or air dry.
    Experimenting with: benign neglect
  • MariamCFMariamCF Posts: 68Registered Users
    Take a rule .. If u want a healthy and shiny curly hair you have to have those things:
    -Pre wash oil
    -Deep conditioner
    -Leave in conditioner
    -CG friendly gel
    - A shampoo but better to be non sulfates and chemical things (A shampoo is NOT mecessary to get)
    Now anyway a leave in i would say choose kinky curly leave in .i heard its awesome but i actually i have no organic stuff in my country so im not following the CG method and hair still okay xD.. Anyway the conditioner must have healthy things like coconut oil or avocado oil etc etc .
    And a pre wash oil I Highly suggest coconut oil :)
    Have a great day!

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  • ultracurlzultracurlz Posts: 213Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    I was in a similar place my 10th grade year XD Try different things. There are lots of good youtube tutorials for transitioning curlies. I learned so much from them...until I got impatient and just chopped all mine off. My hair is 4a and It ended up being an inch long all over, so I had a twa for quite a while XD

    Depending on how comfortable you are with short hair and how long your new growth is you may want to try that. I found it so much easier than transitioning. There are lots of things you can do with short hair (that I wish I had known back then) so it won't be boring! Plus it will get rid of all the strait- possibly damaged- hair in one go.

    I don't know how helpful I'll be but here are some things I've learned over the past five years-

    Try not to pull on your edges too much because that's not good for them. whenever you can wear it down (not when you sleep though) You can try wearing loser pony's, bangs, and lots of other things XD

    Do not wash your hair with shampoo every day. I'mma repeat that because it's so important, do not wash your hair with shampoo every day PLEASE. That is really bad for it. Conditioner does a decent job of cleansing the hair or you can use cleansing conditioners (you don't have to use those every day either.) And regardless of what anyone may say- because those silly little strait haired girls don't know any better, listen to your own head. If it needs cleaning, clean it. If it doesn't, leave it. You know it better than they do so don't feel pressured into doing something that will harm your hair in the long run.

    You're hair will need a lot of moisture so start looking around for things that work for your hair. Leave in's are good, butters are good- though you may wanna try lighter things, oils are good- look up how to use the type of product you are wanting to try first so you use it correctly. This sight has everything you will need XD (and on the off chance it doesn't, hey, that's what google is for XD)

    You're hair is weakest where the strait bits meet your curls, so be careful with it. It will break there most often. The next weakest part are the relaxed ends. Ends need more care as a rule because they are the oldest parts of the hair. Take care and be gentle with them.

    To detangle: When you are in the shower put your conditioner in your hair and use either your fingers or a wide tooth comb or denman (is that the right spelling?) brush to comb it from the ends and working your way up. If you need to, section your hair before you do it. When you meet a snarl, DON'T yank. take it in your fingers and gently pull the hair away from it a little at a time. You'll sometimes end up with a little ball of hair attached to one strand that caused the whole thing. (buggers) Don't cut out knots, even if it's tempting XD When you feel yourself getting frustrated rinse your hands (cause they will probably be gooey with condish), stretch and take a deep breath before starting again XD (for future reference if you don't need it now)

    What I do is detangle with a condish with lots of slip (shampoo if it's that day) rince it all out really well then put in a thicker condish and leave it. The for the next few days you can just spritz it with a leave in and go. An easy way to make a leave in is to just dilute a conditioner in water (lots of water) and use that. I do something similar.

    Basically that all sums up to-

    Don't shampoo every day.
    and be gentle with it.

    I don't think I have anything else to tell you...

    Make sure to wipe the condish/oil/product off your skin afterwords cause it can cause breakouts (at least on me it does)

    Try not to hog the bathroom or rinse hair down the drain >.>

    Maybe keep your products in your room cause people are weird about tons of stuff in the shower.

    Protect your hair from cold weather, windy weather and peoples fingers cause apparently personal space is a thing of the past -.-

    I know it's a long and tedious process but it's so worth it in the long run. Good luck!

    3C/4A mix (Seriously it's all over the place)
    Hair is kinda fine and kinda thick.
    Super short, I'd like definition but styling products don't like me

    Profile pic taken the February 2015
    Chopped off (was shoulder length) November 2014

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