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Hair length and age

I've read that long hair makes a person look younger, but I've also heard the opposite. I guess to a certain extent, it depends on the person. But, in general, do you think that a person who tends to look younger than her age looks even younger with long, curly or wavy hair? I've had long hair for most of my adult life and have always been told that I look younger than my age. I wear my hair up most of the time so I suppose it has little to do with my hair, but my features. I think the hair could've been a contributing factor, though. I'm short as it is, but the long hair dwarfed me a bit. However, I think that short hair could actually make someone appear older because, esp. with short layers around the face, it draws attention to lines around the eyes and on the forehead. I don't have those yet (I'm 25), but I am starting to see slight lines - it's like coming attractions.

I recently cut my hair to just above my shoulders, and I can't decide whether it makes me look older/younger. I think it makes me look less feminine somehow. I wish I had pictures to do a before and after. When hair is worn straight vs. curly, do you believe this also makes a difference? I generally wear my hair straight because my waves/curls are not uniform any more. It's easier just to blow it out. But when I do have a curly day, I think with the longer length, it made me look younger. I've often heard that curls are associated with youth. So, do you think a woman in her 20's with straight hair who looks younger than her age would look older with hair above her shoulders? I haven't gotten any comments that have led me to believe that, but rarely will a person say, "Oh that cut makes you look older," because that would be seen as an insult. I still wear my hair up so much because of my vocation, but maybe will wear it down more often and see if I'm actually treated like an adult in public. :lol:
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  • banjocurlbanjocurl Posts: 1,020Registered Users
    But, in general, do you think that a person who tends to look younger than her age looks even younger with long, curly or wavy hair?

    we may be at opposite ends of the aging issue but someone recently guessed my age at 20 yrs younger than i am, probably because i color and wear my hair long and curly. if i wanted to look older i'd go gray and cut my hair in a middle aged woman's bob. not ready for that one yet :)
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  • redcelticcurlsredcelticcurls Posts: 17,502Registered Users
    I'm not sure about length, but I feel that I look younger with it curly than with it straight. I still get taken for mid twenties sometimes (although usually it's late 20s to early 30s) and I'm late thirties.
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  • GoddessCurlsGoddessCurls Posts: 1,537Registered Users
    I definately look and feel younger with my hair curly. I used to be told that a woman needsto cut her hair by a certain age because long hair ages her, or makes her look like she's trying to be young. It used to drive me nuts cause I thougt it might take met till I'm 40 to grow as long as I want it then you say I need to cut it? Now I see that just isn't true. Look at all of the actresses over a certain ages with long hair and they look great. Also one of the reasons I used to straightene my hair when I was younger was cause it made me look older. I'm only 28 but my curls still make me look younger, thier more free and whimsical, I guess.
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  • HeatherDawnHeatherDawn Posts: 300Registered Users
    It must have something to do with more than hair. I have been told (almost daily) that I look younger than I am (29) and I've had my hair short and strait, long and curly... it doesn't seem to make much of a difference for me.

    I think the key is to wear your hair with confidence. I'm growing it our again and hoping for waist length in my 30's. Who knows after that! I agree with Banjocurl - her hair looks young and makes me think she acts young too! It's about personal style, not age. :lol:
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  • banjocurlbanjocurl Posts: 1,020Registered Users
    It must have something to do with more than hair. I have been told (almost daily) that I look younger than I am (29) and I've had my hair short and strait, long and curly... it doesn't seem to make much of a difference for me.

    I think the key is to wear your hair with confidence. I'm growing it our again and hoping for waist length in my 30's. Who knows after that! I agree with Banjocurl - her hair looks young and makes me think she acts young too! It's about personal style, not age. :lol:

    thanks! its all about attitude. i am 57 but very "immature" for my age, trying to get my hair down to my waist, playing the banjo, sleeping in my van, hiking in the woods with my dogs, swimming in lakes and sometimes still getting in trouble for breaking rules. i just love you young curlies who are wearing your hair however you want, being assertive about who you are and having fun. keep up the good work!!
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  • rock cloudrock cloud Posts: 26Registered Users
    I definately look and feel younger with my hair curly. I used to be told that a woman needsto cut her hair by a certain age because long hair ages her, or makes her look like she's trying to be young. It used to drive me nuts cause I thougt it might take met till I'm 40 to grow as long as I want it then you say I need to cut it? Now I see that just isn't true. Look at all of the actresses over a certain ages with long hair and they look great. Also one of the reasons I used to straightene my hair when I was younger was cause it made me look older. I'm only 28 but my curls still make me look younger, thier more free and whimsical, I guess.

    For some reason with me, I look younger with straighter hair.... maybe its just my perception. I think its ridiculous that by a certain age you are told that you 'should' cut your hair. I would look absolutely horrible in short hair at ANY age....I have a 'not small' nose and sharper features that my longer hair tends to soften...

    On the other hand I see lots of younger gals with adorable short cuts... I envy them.... l wish I had the option of choice!
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  • rock cloudrock cloud Posts: 26Registered Users
    banjocurl wrote:
    It must have something to do with more than hair. I have been told (almost daily) that I look younger than I am (29) and I've had my hair short and strait, long and curly... it doesn't seem to make much of a difference for me.

    I think the key is to wear your hair with confidence. I'm growing it our again and hoping for waist length in my 30's. Who knows after that! I agree with Banjocurl - her hair looks young and makes me think she acts young too! It's about personal style, not age. :lol:

    thanks! its all about attitude. i am 57 but very "immature" for my age, trying to get my hair down to my waist, playing the banjo, sleeping in my van, hiking in the woods with my dogs, swimming in lakes and sometimes still getting in trouble for breaking rules. i just love you young curlies who are wearing your hair however you want, being assertive about who you are and having fun. keep up the good work!!
    banjo

    Banjocurl you are adorable! I love your attitude and you have fabulous hair!
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  • dahlia76dahlia76 Posts: 5Registered Users
    My vote also goes for curly making people look younger--in general of course! There's something carefree about curls, and a bit wild and daring. I think mine make me look/feel younger for sure. They just make me feel like I stand out in a crowd a bit, they can be so fun and unique.
  • GoddessCurlsGoddessCurls Posts: 1,537Registered Users
    They do stand out. People seem to notice them. The guard who checked me in told me how nice my hair was, and a guy from work told me that's the first thing he noticed.
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  • ManthaJayManthaJay Posts: 32Registered Users
    My hair has been everything from waist-length to the short crop I have now. I don't think its the length of the hair that can age you, especially when it is short, but the cut and style. I was very careful to design (this hair cut has been a 4 month process) that doesn't make me look frumpy. People have always mistaken me for older than I am, but that is primarily from the way that I carry myself, not my hair!
  • banjocurlbanjocurl Posts: 1,020Registered Users
    Banjocurl you are adorable! I love your attitude and you have fabulous hair!

    thanks!! well i am realizing as i get older that nobody cares how much fun i have except me, and the world won't end if someone does not like me or disapproves of things i do. as a young woman, i thought far too much about what other people thought and that got me nowhere. so, it is a very interesting journey--the hair thing has me fascinated to the max and i am feeling much like an explorer! :)
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  • monica001monica001 Posts: 43Registered Users
    IMO hair has nothing to do with how old a person looks. i'm 32 and still get mistken for a teenger! i'm very short 4'11 and a half.[ lol had to get the half in.] right away people just look at my height.
  • Gemini13Gemini13 Posts: 5,000Registered Users
    monica001 wrote:
    IMO hair has nothing to do with how old a person looks. i'm 32 and still get mistken for a teenger! i'm very short 4'11 and a half.[ lol had to get the half in.] right away people just look at my height.

    I think a lot of factors come into play, you can't really just say it's about your hair. I'm about an inch shorter than you, so I feel your pain! The one time my husband saw me with straight hair, he said I looked older. But I've only straightened my hair a handful of times since it turned curly, I have no plans of making it a habit!

    It's possible that long hair can make you look young, but IMO that's b/c so many people have a preconceived notion that you need to cut it short once you reach a certain age. On me, I think I look younger when my hair is either really long, or short (shoulder length). I feel that I look closer to my age when it's somewhere in between, say, a few inches past my shoulders.
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  • zeldagoblinzeldagoblin Posts: 575Registered Users
    I think it also depends on how the hair is cared for. I would honestly say that when I battled my hair and brushed it out and scraped it back I did look older. It was all fluffy anf witchy, and tied back harshly looked severe and I had frizz poking out all over! NOT a pretty sight LOL!!

    Since looking after my hair I have started getting compliments, people saying I look younger now, even though my length hasnt changed much.
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  • CricketCricket Posts: 205Registered Users
    banjocurl wrote:
    Banjocurl you are adorable! I love your attitude and you have fabulous hair!

    thanks!! well i am realizing as i get older that nobody cares how much fun i have except me, and the world won't end if someone does not like me or disapproves of things i do. as a young woman, i thought far too much about what other people thought and that got me nowhere. so, it is a very interesting journey--the hair thing has me fascinated to the max and i am feeling much like an explorer! :)

    Bravo! I agree 100%. :)
  • aeroheadaerohead Posts: 179Registered Users
    BANJO: you look absolutley amazing and you have gorgeous hair, the colour is lovely, I hope that I look as young as you when I'm your age!!
    people are normally taken aback when I tell them my age(im 34) they often think that I am in my 20's and don't believe me when I tell them my real age, and it doesnt matter if I have short/long, curly or straight, I agree totally with zelda, if your hair is well cared for then I think, imho, it really makes a difference. :lol:
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  • CurlyMireyaCurlyMireya Banned Posts: 956Banned Users
    monica001 wrote:
    IMO hair has nothing to do with how old a person looks. i'm 32 and still get mistken for a teenger! i'm very short 4'11 and a half.[ lol had to get the half in.] right away people just look at my height.

    I'm 5'2, and I definitely think height has something to do with it. I was telling someone at work that I want to buy a pack of cigarettes sometime, just to see if I get carded or not. This was a short man I was talking to, and he said oh yeah you will - we short people always look younger to people (or something like that). But, I see teens come in our store and marvel at how time has passed by so quickly - it seems like just yesterday I was 15. They look so young to me. I can't believe how someone would confuse me, a 25 year-old-woman, with an 18-year-old! Well I just hope I continue to look younger than my age when I'm in my 30s and 40s and WANT to look younger!
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  • SkibiesSkibies Posts: 156Registered Users
    Everyone says I look younger with my curly hair. Like I am highschool age but that's not saying much because I am in my early 20's.
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  • banjocurlbanjocurl Posts: 1,020Registered Users
    aerohead wrote:
    BANJO: you look absolutley amazing and you have gorgeous hair, the colour is lovely, I hope that I look as young as you when I'm your age!!
    people are normally taken aback when I tell them my age(im 34) they often think that I am in my 20's and don't believe me when I tell them my real age, and it doesnt matter if I have short/long, curly or straight, I agree totally with zelda, if your hair is well cared for then I think, imho, it really makes a difference. :lol:
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    thanks! your curls are lovely-very healthy and shiny. i remember when i was your age i was putting up posters for our 15th high school reunion and someone carded me at a bar. that was a huge thrill. tho when i was 13 i made myself a phony ID and used to drink at the bars....ah those wild days--i would not want them back again..:)
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  • monica001monica001 Posts: 43Registered Users
    monica001 wrote:
    IMO hair has nothing to do with how old a person looks. i'm 32 and still get mistken for a teenger! i'm very short 4'11 and a half.[ lol had to get the half in.] right away people just look at my height.

    I'm 5'2, and I definitely think height has something to do with it. I was telling someone at work that I want to buy a pack of cigarettes sometime, just to see if I get carded or not. This was a short man I was talking to, and he said oh yeah you will - we short people always look younger to people (or something like that). But, I see teens come in our store and marvel at how time has passed by so quickly - it seems like just yesterday I was 15. They look so young to me. I can't believe how someone would confuse me, a 25 year-old-woman, with an 18-year-old! Well I just hope I continue to look younger than my age when I'm in my 30s and 40s and WANT to look younger!
    i keep trying to convince myself i will like looking younger when i'm in my 40's too. i'm afraid though one day i will just wake up and look old. LOL that it wll be wow what happen? she use to look so young, now she look's old! :lol:
  • JosephineJosephine Posts: 14,175Registered Users
    Gemini13 wrote:
    It's possible that long hair can make you look young, but IMO that's b/c so many people have a preconceived notion that you need to cut it short once you reach a certain age. On me, I think I look younger when my hair is either really long, or short (shoulder length). I feel that I look closer to my age when it's somewhere in between, say, a few inches past my shoulders.

    Same here. I've also read that it's 'unprofessional' to have very long hair(it's supposed to look more fun). I was going to cut mine before my first professional job but instead I just put it back. I love my long hair! I kind of look like a cute kid with shoulder length hair since it's so curly and I think I look more feminine/sexy with long curly hair which is my style now. I've been losing a lot of it though and it's thinning out :( so I cut it to be a few inches below my shoulder. I'm waiting for it to grow out again by fall(don't really like it short at all). I thought about the age thing too.. as long as my hair doesn't get too thin, it will be staying long. It's also much easier to care for long.
  • MaloryMalory Posts: 379Registered Users
    banjocurl wrote:
    we may be at opposite ends of the aging issue but someone recently guessed my age at 20 yrs younger than i am, probably because i color and wear my hair long and curly. if i wanted to look older i'd go gray and cut my hair in a middle aged woman's bob. not ready for that one yet :)

    What do you mean by a middle-aged woman's bob? Do you have a link to a picture (not yours, of cours)e. I think of a bob as something that can be worn by all ages, depending on the cut and the person's face shape.

    I think whether a style is aging depends on the person who is wearing it. For example, I have long, narrow face with high cheekbones, so long hair drags me down and makes me look like Morticia on the Addams family.

    Also, I think very long hair on someone who is obviously old-looking (grey hair, lots of wrinkles) looks bad.
  • st. louis bluest. louis blue Posts: 404Registered Users
    I think that the connection between age and long hair might be more precisely understood as a connection between the-state-of-your-jawline and hair length. Most women's jawline slacken ever so slightly over the course of our 30s, and almost as many women are in denial about how dramatic an impact this shift can have on how a haircut looks. I don't think that long hair automatically makes you look younger; I think a taut jawline that can support long hair automatically makes you look younger.

    So many of you are so young, you may not have yet had the experience of doing the exact same thing to your hair but having it look somehow . . . different. It's usually something subtle that's moved, like your eyelids or the corners of your mouth, just a little loosening in the jaw, or more girth in the neck. If you are able to see it for what it is, and make the adjustments (in eye makeup or lipstick or hair length), you're far more likely to be one of these women that looks good for years, which society sort of always defaults to "young-looking." It really means they're looking GOOD.

    On the other hand, if you are one of these women who insists on rocking that high ponytail year after year after year, or hair hitting the small of your back, and you just tilt and swirl and squint, in the mirror until you kind of see what it is you were hoping to see, you will look like someone who plainly use to look good.

    Again, I am not saying that older women cannot carry long hair. I am only pointing out that the issue is usually that a face that is beginning to slacken where it was once taut is generally not stunning with a cape of long hair around it the way 25 year old skin and bones can be. We all age differently, but the most important thing is to honestly work with what is facing you in the mirror. That's my view.
  • banjocurlbanjocurl Posts: 1,020Registered Users
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    state of jawline--hmmm i sure can relate to that! i know my face and neck are not what they were at 25, but for now i think the long hair is ok. at some point it won't be, then i'll figure out something else, and probably let it be gray then too. short curly hair can be adorable or sophisticated on someone of any age, as long as you wear it with FLAIR...
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  • CurlyMireyaCurlyMireya Banned Posts: 956Banned Users
    St. Louis blue - I've heard similar things, about jawline and also the neck as a whole. Long hair can draw attention to these things, and with gravity, long hair automatically brings everything down, esp. long, straight hair. Even at 25, I'm starting to think about this stuff because we're bombarded with anti-aging techniques in magazines, television, etc. Although, i have a hard time imagining myself looking good with my hair above my shoulders. I had it cut to about an inch above my shoulders recently, but am growing it back to at least shoulder-length. I liked it shorter for awhile, but don't feel right with it above my shoulders. It's not "me." I feel I look better with longer hair, and it's easier to pull back when needed.

    Banjocurl - I haven't seen your pics cept for your avatar, but your curls look great. I agree that it's less about the hair and more about how you wear it. I also agree with some of the others who say that hair probably does not play too great a role when determining one's age. There are lots of other factors, particularly how one carries herself and acts, like Banjo brought up (wasn't something i thought about).

    Since I work in retail, I can wear basically whatever I want within reason. I wear khakis and basic t-shirts from the junior's department. I am short and small, and most of women's smalls in shirts are baggy in the sides and overwhelm me. I also wear kids' pants because the lengths are right. I can't find a 28 inseam in stores anymore, even in petites. Even Penney's isn't carrying them in their catalogs anymore, except in those tapered in, large-thighed type styles that I just cannot go for, lol! Kids pants tend to be younger looking, with cargo pockets and flared legs, though I try to find the most basic ones possible. When I worked in an office and had to wear dress pants and suits all the time, I definitely looked older, felt older and was treated differently in public. Just wasn't for me though, the job or the clothes. In ways, I'm immature for my age. I'm still struggling to figure out what I want to do with my life when many other people my age have it all together.
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  • CurlyMireyaCurlyMireya Banned Posts: 956Banned Users
    monica001 wrote:
    monica001 wrote:
    IMO hair has nothing to do with how old a person looks. i'm 32 and still get mistken for a teenger! i'm very short 4'11 and a half.[ lol had to get the half in.] right away people just look at my height.

    I'm 5'2, and I definitely think height has something to do with it. I was telling someone at work that I want to buy a pack of cigarettes sometime, just to see if I get carded or not. This was a short man I was talking to, and he said oh yeah you will - we short people always look younger to people (or something like that). But, I see teens come in our store and marvel at how time has passed by so quickly - it seems like just yesterday I was 15. They look so young to me. I can't believe how someone would confuse me, a 25 year-old-woman, with an 18-year-old! Well I just hope I continue to look younger than my age when I'm in my 30s and 40s and WANT to look younger!
    i keep trying to convince myself i will like looking younger when i'm in my 40's too. i'm afraid though one day i will just wake up and look old. LOL that it wll be wow what happen? she use to look so young, now she look's old! :lol:

    Lol, I have that same fear! I used to go to the tanning bed every other day for a several-month stretch in high school. We had a contest going to see who could get the darkest - I can't believe I did that looking back on it now. I'm afraid it's going to catch up with me all at once. One day I'll wake up and look like I've aged 10 years in one night! :(
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  • MaloryMalory Posts: 379Registered Users
    So many of you are so young, you may not have yet had the experience of doing the exact same thing to your hair but having it look somehow . . . different. It's usually something subtle that's moved, like your eyelids or the corners of your mouth, just a little loosening in the jaw, or more girth in the neck. If you are able to see it for what it is, and make the adjustments (in eye makeup or lipstick or hair length), you're far more likely to be one of these women that looks good for years, which society sort of always defaults to "young-looking." It really means they're looking GOOD.

    On the other hand, if you are one of these women who insists on rocking that high ponytail year after year after year, or hair hitting the small of your back, and you just tilt and swirl and squint, in the mirror until you kind of see what it is you were hoping to see, you will look like someone who plainly use to look good.

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    A magazine I used to work for once did an article on looking good at different ages. They showed a series of photographs of the same woman at different stages in her life.

    She looked great up until her 20s. In her 30s, she didn't look very good. But the photo of her in her 40s showed her looking fabulous again.

    I think it was because when she was in her 30s, she tried to dress and style her hair and makeup the same way that she did in her 20s, and it didn't suit the way she looked at the time, but by the time she reached her 40s, she had realised that she had to change her style to suit the way she looked right now.
  • banjocurlbanjocurl Posts: 1,020Registered Users
    Well I just hope I continue to look younger than my age when I'm in my 30s and 40s and WANT to look younger!
    i keep trying to convince myself i will like looking younger when i'm in my 40's too. i'm afraid though one day i will just wake up and look old. LOL that it wll be wow what happen? she use to look so young, now she look's old! :lol:[/quote]

    Lol, I have that same fear! I used to go to the tanning bed every other day for a several-month stretch in high school. We had a contest going to see who could get the darkest - I can't believe I did that looking back on it now. I'm afraid it's going to catch up with me all at once. One day I'll wake up and look like I've aged 10 years in one night! :([/quote]

    but by the time that happens, your eyes will have gotten so bad you can't see it and it won't matter anyway, take it from one who knows :)
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