I'm getting really fed up with my family, especially my mom. My SIL and brother just had a baby and they had her come with them to find out the gender, for the 3D sonogram and she was in the delivery room. Personally my husband and I just want it to be us because we feel like these are moments for OUR family, not extended family. My mom threw a fit when she realized I wasn't going to have her at the appt where we find out the gender. I've told her she's not going to be in the delivery room and she informed me that yes she would. I don't feel like just because they wanted her there I have to have her there. I don't think anyone should assume they will be a part of those moments for other people. Have any of you run into this? How'd you handle it? Oh and she also assumed I want her to stay with me after the baby is born but I don't. Both DH and I will be able to take off during that time. She keeps pressuring me to put a futon in the nursery "just in case someone needs to stay". I find it ridiculous she keeps pushing and pushing. Any words of advice? I'm not backing down or changing my mind!