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Only attracted to tall guys?

DedachanDedachan Posts: 1,644Registered Users
I like men to be at least taller than me. It's silly but I can't help it. I'm sure I am missing out on many great guys because I don't look twice at them.

Does it matter to you? Did anyone use to think like me but then overcome their prejudice?

I once saw one of those TED videos where the guest speaker explained this preference among women was completely cultural, not biological at all.
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  • Fifi.GFifi.G Posts: 15,490Registered Users
    No, I can't say I am only attracted in taller guys. I have dated several men who were taller, almost my exact same height, and shorter. While I do have a fondness for big, tall, viking vampires (hence my Alex Skarsgard crush)... I don't really have a specific set of physical requirements. It's typically something else that attracts me.

    I will say that the shorter guys could indeed pose awkward moments. There is a year book picture of me dancing with my 8th grade boyfriend (if only for a fleeting moment), at a school dance. It's pretty funny, and cute

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  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Posts: 17,495Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    I'm tall (for a woman) and I grew up in a tall family...and I admit there was a bit of tall snobbery at play. I just think taller is better (sorry but that's just how I feel).

    Yes, a man's height matters to me. The taller he is, the better. I dated two guys who were 6'9" and I found it very attractive...tho any taller might be a bit too tall.

    I won't date anyone shorter than 5'10". But my preference is 6" and over. The last Iguy I dated longterm was 6'2" and it was great.

  • Firefox7275Firefox7275 Posts: 3,750Registered Users
    Looks are important, physical attraction is what separates your best friend from your partner. I don't mean looks in the sense of necessarily classically/ commercially attractive, most of us have things that turn us on or off.

    The guys I've fancied the most have been fairly tall and slim to skinny with broad shoulders, other than that most have been unusual looking and I definitely like a 'bit of rough'!! Don't mind bald and/ or character lines, either can be sexy on the right guy.

    Don't usually go for guys that are either significantly overweight or muscle bound nor pretty boys. I don't beat myself up for not fancying women, so I am not going to beat myself up for what doesn't do it for me in a man.
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  • Fifi.GFifi.G Posts: 15,490Registered Users
    ^ Nor should you. We all have different reasons for "our" attractions.

    I do love to tease my friend, restlessly, because he has a strict list of what he finds to be physically attractive (that is tall, dark haired and handsome by all general accounts) but always seems to date the opposite of that list. As I have mentioned several times, he is also color blind. Red heads/gingers kind of scare him (south park, perhaps? lol. idk), but he has dated several ginger guys and did not even known it. He thought their hair was brown. I also tease him when I mention someone I find attractive, he flips over their long hair being unattractive, and then wonders who the total hottie is when the guy cuts his hair.

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  • LuuuuucyLuuuuucy Posts: 146Registered Users
    I wouldn't say I have a strict list, but I'm definitely with you on the tall thing. I'm tall and I don't want to feel like an amazon. My boyfriend is about five inches taller than me and I think it's perfect. I wouldn't be comfortable with a shorter guy. Not to say that I would have turned him down if everything else had been perfect but I would prefer height.
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  • DedachanDedachan Posts: 1,644Registered Users
    One thing I always thought was strange...or maybe just plain stupid...is how the media will fuss about celebrity couples where the man is shorter. Why should anyone care what shoes Mrs. Sarkozy wears is beyond me.

    It's well known movie producers cast women to be shorter than their male counterparts, or they resort to tricks to give that illusion. Katniss, as I recently read somewhere, is a rare exception.
  • JosephineJosephine Posts: 14,175Registered Users
    Definitely, the physical chemistry is much stronger when the guy is taller than me and just tall in general. Tall for me is 6'0 and up and short to me is 5'8 and under. I'm 5'6 (and always in heels). My ex who I had the most amazing connection with is 5'8 and usually appeared shorter than me.

    I dated a guy my height but we were off in many other ways. I wonder if he were taller, if things would be different. The tallest guy I seriously dated was 6'. that was nice. It's not necessary but I'm pretty sure I could not be attracted to someone shorter than me. I'm not that tall so it's not an issue.
  • frankie88frankie88 Posts: 106Registered Users
    I personally like plain ol' average height guys. I have never really been attracted to tall guys. I like to feel close to my guy and with tall guys I just don't think I would feel exactly the same, being to tall would make me feel distant since I am on the shorter side. I'm 5'4. But height isn't something that I find to be too important. If I found the right guy for me, I honestly wouldn't care how tall he is.
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  • jeepcurlygurljeepcurlygurl Posts: 19,249Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    I prefer men to be from right around my height to not more than a few inches taller than me. 5'6" to 5'8" is perfect for me.
    I have no attraction to tall men.
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  • Who Me?Who Me? Posts: 3,181Registered Users
    Luuuuucy wrote: »
    Not to say that I would have turned him down if everything else had been perfect but I would prefer height.

    I agree.


    I don't agree with hard and fast rules like "I'm ONLY attracted to tall guys". Even if you've never previously been, maybe a guy who's super attractive to you in every other way will be shorter and you'll find him attractive.

    It's one thing to not be hitting on guys you don't think are hot, but I think people are only hurting themselves when they turn down a guy because of one physical characteristic, like height. If you otherwise find him charming, what's one date to see if you are attracted to him beyond something like height?
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  • multicultcurlymulticultcurly Posts: 5,132Registered Users
    I am attracted to tall guys, especially those from 6' to 6'3. I am only 5'2, so it isn't often that I meet guys shorter than me, though it has happened. I got this preference from my female relatives. Like Who Me, it isn't set in stone. I have been attracted to two short guys - 5'4 and 5'6, but they were both exceptionally good-looking. I noticed that if a guy is tall and makes me laugh, he can win me over, even if he isn't very handsome, not so much for short guys. I do get annoyed, though, when a short guy tells me not to wear heels so I am not taller than him. You are 5'4, shouldn't you be used to women being taller than you?! Lol

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  • Fifi.GFifi.G Posts: 15,490Registered Users
    ^ I like to think of my friend as a perfect example of how a great deal of it is sometimes BS. He doesn't even know what your hair or eye color really is. Just what he thinks it is, and he is often wrong. I'm always perplexed that he doesn't see the same exact face, despite the length of hair. He literally can not recognize the person after the hair is cut, a good 90% of the time, and is automatically blinded it. It's a wall or a human quirk he can not get past. Like height, or ...

    He will never get past that. He might turn down the same guy and then go out with him a year later once he cut his hair and have no memory of speaking to him before. Though, granted, that won't happen with height.

    But, there are plenty of guys that people have tried to set me up with, and I have had no interest in them what so ever. For me it comes down to not having anything past a friendship rather than a physical attraction (this one's eyes, that ones smile, this ones sense of humor, something about his presence, it's all pheromones with this one, etc). No matter how much they push, I won't change my mind on it, because it is not there.

    I think we are all guilty on missing out by someone else's standards.

    But my friend should still admit he is completely wrong ;)
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  • RumwolfRumwolf Posts: 66Registered Users
    I'm 5'3 and in the last two years I've liked two guys. One is my height and the other is a bit shorter than me. I do prefer taller guys I have to admit but it isn't a must in my list.

    A few things I look for are some physical traits like smile, hair, presence, and most importantly to me style. He has to know how to dress himself and have his own style lol

    There's this thing with guys and hair though, I call it hair swag where the slightest movement of their hair makes them look very attractive. I don't know if anyone else likes this?

    And yes I prefer long hair on guys from eyebrow length to chin length.
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  • Fifi.GFifi.G Posts: 15,490Registered Users
    Dedachan wrote: »
    One thing I always thought was strange...or maybe just plain stupid...is how the media will fuss about celebrity couples where the man is shorter. Why should anyone care what shoes Mrs. Sarkozy wears is beyond me.

    It's well known movie producers cast women to be shorter than their male counterparts, or they resort to tricks to give that illusion. Katniss, as I recently read somewhere, is a rare exception.

    That can be silly. If she's attracted to him, she is attracted to him.


    I personally can think of several movies where the woman was taller than her male counter part. It is silly if some cast women to be shorter, though I have heard of men in the lower 5 ft range asking for a co star that was closer to their height.
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  • SamanthascurlzSamanthascurlz Posts: 1,082Registered Users
    Love tall guys. My bf is 6'4" and I am 5'3", it's great!
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  • Fifi.GFifi.G Posts: 15,490Registered Users
    Perfect example...

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    My greatest musical love, Prince, is 5'2 and Appollonia is 5'4. Prince was closer to 5'4 in his heels.

    He appeared to be closer to the same height as Kristin Scott Thomas, who is 5'6.

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    But again, he was jacked up. He still dances like a mad man in his heels.

    He dated both women.
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  • bringingcurliesback?bringingcurliesback? Posts: 1,307Registered Users
    I agree sometimes tall guys have horrid personalities. But then again that goes for anyone regardless of genes lol. I can see you may like certain thinga like braces, scruff, pretty eyes etc. But sometimes it takes a moment for you to fall head over into someone you hadn't expected lol. Just keep you eyes peeled so you don't miss over. And be sure to look over the tall guy who asks you to dance's shoulder cause there just might be someone worthwhile you haven't gotten to know. Don't let a few inches get the best of ya ;)

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  • Fifi.GFifi.G Posts: 15,490Registered Users
    OBB wrote: »
    ahem...

    Hahahaha. Wonderful.
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  • Fifi.GFifi.G Posts: 15,490Registered Users
    I agree sometimes tall guys have horrid personalities. But then again that goes for anyone regardless of genes lol. I can see you may like certain thinga like braces, scruff, pretty eyes etc. But sometimes it takes a moment for you to fall head over into someone you hadn't expected lol. Just keep you eyes peeled so you don't miss over. And be sure to look over the tall guy who asks you to dance's shoulder cause there just might be someone worthwhile you haven't gotten to know. Don't let a few inches get the best of ya ;)

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  • wavydazewavydaze Posts: 2,061Registered Users
    I think every guy I've dated has been taller than me, but I'm 5'4, so most people are taller than me.

    Some were taller by a couple of inches, some more, by who knows by how much, who was keeping track? Not me.

    Anyway, I am happy to report that I've found no correlation between tallness of guy and quality of guy and much less quality of relationship.
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  • MunchyMunchy Posts: 5,206Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    One of my friends always said "she likes the little ones" about the men I've dated. I tend to gravitate toward shorter men (maybe because I'm under 5 feet and even my dad and brother are only 5'5").

    My SO is about 5'4" and I love that we just fit, but it wouldn't repel me from someone if they had all of the internal qualities I look for.
  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Posts: 17,495Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Who Me? wrote: »
    Luuuuucy wrote: »
    Not to say that I would have turned him down if everything else had been perfect but I would prefer height.

    I agree.


    I don't agree with hard and fast rules like "I'm ONLY attracted to tall guys". Even if you've never previously been, maybe a guy who's super attractive to you in every other way will be shorter and you'll find him attractive.

    It's one thing to not be hitting on guys you don't think are hot, but I think people are only hurting themselves when they turn down a guy because of one physical characteristic, like height. If you otherwise find him charming, what's one date to see if you are attracted to him beyond something like height?

    Just pointing out that finding someone attractive and be attracted to someone are two totally different things.

    Not arguing w/ you about your or anyone's personal preferences but...

    Yes, I could find a short man attractive. But no, I couldn't be attracted to him.

    It's not about hurting yourself or limiting yorself w/ arbitrary rules. If you aren't attracted to a person or a type of person you just arent't attracted.

  • DedachanDedachan Posts: 1,644Registered Users
    Maybe we just want to feel petite and dainty, because we associate that with feeling feminine.
  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Posts: 17,495Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Dedachan wrote: »
    Maybe we just want to feel petite and dainty, because we associate that with feeling feminine.

    Not me.

  • DedachanDedachan Posts: 1,644Registered Users
    I guess I don't want to feel like I could squish the guy.
  • JosephineJosephine Posts: 14,175Registered Users
    Who Me? wrote: »
    Luuuuucy wrote: »
    Not to say that I would have turned him down if everything else had been perfect but I would prefer height.

    I agree.


    I don't agree with hard and fast rules like "I'm ONLY attracted to tall guys". Even if you've never previously been, maybe a guy who's super attractive to you in every other way will be shorter and you'll find him attractive.

    It's one thing to not be hitting on guys you don't think are hot, but I think people are only hurting themselves when they turn down a guy because of one physical characteristic, like height. If you otherwise find him charming, what's one date to see if you are attracted to him beyond something like height?

    Just pointing out that finding someone attractive and be attracted to someone are two totally different things.


    Not arguing w/ you about your or anyone's personal preferences but...

    Yes, I could find a short man attractive. But no, I couldn't be attracted to him.

    It's not about hurting yourself or limiting yorself w/ arbitrary rules. If you aren't attracted to a person or a type of person you just arent't attracted.

    This is true. I can be highly attracted to someone but don't find them attractive. This is usually my case. I've seen attractive men that I'm not attracted to just because their personality or something isn't doing it for me. I'm less into looks when it comes to physical chemistry.

    I think what who me meant was, when you are highly attracted to someone they become attractive to you (in a biased way). But if you weren't attracted to them, they just wouldn't be.

    LOL I love how we overanalyze these things, but that's in my nature.
  • JosephineJosephine Posts: 14,175Registered Users
    Dedachan wrote: »
    I guess I don't want to feel like I could squish the guy.

    I like a guy to be at least a little bigger than me(height or weight). My first bf was my height and weight or smaller and it just didnt do it for me. I felt bigger than him when i hugged him, like hugging my little cousin. Just no. I also dont like really skinny guys..even if they are tall..feel like im hugging bones. And i love a little belly on a guy.
  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Posts: 17,495Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Josephine wrote: »
    Dedachan wrote: »
    I guess I don't want to feel like I could squish the guy.

    I like a guy to be at least a little bigger than me(height or weight). My first bf was my height and weight or smaller and it just didnt do it for me. I felt bigger than him when i hugged him, like hugging my little cousin. Just no. I also dont like really skinny guys..even if they are tall..feel like im hugging bones. And i love a little belly on a guy.

    Yeah, I don't want to feel like I'm hugged up on a little child! Or that he won't be able to defend himself if other guys try him while we're out together. (It has happened!)

  • sew and sewsew and sew Posts: 3,443Registered Users
    For whatever reason I don't feel comfortable with tall guys. There have definitely been some exceptions, but by and large they don't register on my radar. It's like they're filtered out in a close to unconscious, knee-jerk way.

    I've been attracted to a fair number of short guys because I am comfortable with guys right around my height and a couple inches taller (which is a bit more preferable than my exact height). I'm 5'6". I tend to like guys who have a scrapperish physique.
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