Help with my daughters hair, please!
My daughter is 5.5 and has 4C hair. I'm at a loss on what to do with it. She has only had one trim in her life so when it's wet, it reaches her butt, when it's dry, it's at her shoulders. It is so incredibly thick that I can not get it into one ponytail. Putting it into 2 is a huge, huge struggle. The problem is that it is impossible to comb out. And if we don't comb it out, it's a giant brillo pad sort of look. We reached a new low yesterday as she stayed up 2 hours past bedtime crying because her hair was not done and it was so big her sleep cap did not fit. Then she woke up again at 12:45 this morning and cried for another 1.5 hours because her hair was not done. When I attempt to comb it, she cries and screams. We have been doing pretty good since the school year started with keeping it up in braids or twists of some kind but it gets these horrible little fuzzies in it and sometimes starts to smell icky so I feel obligated to take it all out and wash it once in awhile (generally I keep hairbands in while washing it so it's cleaner but not clean). Yesterday I made the critical mistake of taking it out of 2 buns and washing it. So now I have a whole head of hair to try to comb out and we're making no progress. I feel like if I could find something to weigh down/stretch out her curls, that might help but her hair is really fine so I don't know that I will find anything like that. What am I doing wrong? Or more importantly, what can I do? We don't really have any hair places around here that she could go to and all the people we know with her hair type are older and get their hair straightened. Help?!?!?!