How to get myself together!?

Purplecurls17Purplecurls17 Registered Users Posts: 152 Curl Neophyte
Omg where do I start? I am noticing that my drive and motivation has been going down the drain the past couple of months. I have so many things I want to accomplish but I have zero drive and determination. It's frustrating how I can't focus on ANYTHING and stay driven. I'm 22 and I feel like I have no energy or ambition and it sucks. I can't really describe it , I want to do well and pursue my career goals but then then my bed calls my name. What's happening to me!? Does anyone feel this way sometimes? It's freaking me out :/

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  • Fifi.GFifi.G Registered Users Posts: 15,490 Curl Neophyte
    I think everyone goes through this, more than once, in their life. It's called burn out. I can't exactly tell you what to do or where to start, because that depends on several things and ultimately you have to sort it out.

    If you have so many things going on that you can not focus, my first bit of advice would be to shorten that list, if only for the time being. Don't try to focus on 20 things at once. That will wear you out just thinking about it. Take a deep breath, look at the most important things, get rid of (or set a side) as many distractions as possible, and go from there.

    Also remember that no one is standing over you with a stop watch. It's okay to slow down and give yourself a breather when need be. It's not okay to give up, lay down, and pull the covers over your head (unless you have a day off).

    Hope things get better!
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  • sKorpio1190sKorpio1190 Registered Users Posts: 1,862 Curl Neophyte
    Yes I've felt like this. More than once. I know it's not easy when you have demands of you that don't let you take time off. I hope u feel better. Luckily we are still young so hopefully it'll improve over time
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  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Registered Users Posts: 17,898 Curl Virtuoso
    Do you have any (other) symptoms of depression? (The lethary and loss in interests are already two symptoms.) Is it possible you have a vitamin deficiency -- Vit D or iron or magnesium? Have you had a physical lately? Are you sure your current goals are really the ones you want to pursue? Could something psychological be standing in your way - fear of something or some undealt with problem?

    I went thru something similar when I was about that age and in grad school. I just couldn't get myself to do anything. Eventually my funding ran out, tho, and I bucked up w/ a quickness! LOL

    Maybe schedule an appt w/ your dr and try to get some vigorous exercise in everyday until the appointment?
  • cymprenicympreni Registered Users Posts: 9,609 Curl Neophyte
    Try working in shorter increments. It's a lot easier to talk yourself into doing something that takes 15 minutes than it does an hour's worth of work. Sometimes just getting started is the hardest part and you might end up working longer. But if not, working in short spurts throughout the day can still get a lot of work done.

    Give yourself time off, and when you do, do it completely. No thinking about it, no feeling guilty that you should be working. Give yourself permission to do something else, or even nothing at all.

    I don't know what your goals are, but sometimes doing a related side project can help. Something you would consider more interesting or fun. It can renew your motivation while refining your skills. Creative types do this all the time.
  • wavydazewavydaze Registered Users Posts: 2,065 Curl Novice
    I agree with spiderlashes. I went through it as well around that age. Don't ignore it! At least you're conscious of the problem so that's already a good start (I wasnt at the time... I just kept blaming myself).

    I'd recommend talking to a psychologist/psychiatrist if you are able to. Getting regular vigorous exercise and sleeping a full 8 hrs (but not more) is going to help a lot. As is not eating big meals that are super carb-heavy, sugary or super fatty - basically eating well balanced meals. I'd agree about going to a dr to check things like iron deficiency which could be causing the tiredness. Hope you get the help you need!
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  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Registered Users Posts: 17,898 Curl Virtuoso
    wavydaze wrote: »
    I agree with spiderlashes. I went through it as well around that age. Don't ignore it! At least you're conscious of the problem so that's already a good start (I wasnt at the time... I just kept blaming myself).

    I'd recommend talking to a psychologist/psychiatrist if you are able to. Getting regular vigorous exercise and sleeping a full 8 hrs (but not more) is going to help a lot. As is not eating big meals that are super carb-heavy, sugary or super fatty - basically eating well balanced meals. I'd agree about going to a dr to check things like iron deficiency which could be causing the tiredness. Hope you get the help you need!

    Yes! I forgot that part -- cutting down on carbs helps!
  • Fifi.GFifi.G Registered Users Posts: 15,490 Curl Neophyte
    No offense to those suffering from depression, but In my personal opinion, the word depression is thrown around all too easily. (Psychologists agree *that is the ones not in bed with pharm. companies and who disagree with the 1980's lowering of depression criteria which caused a 400% increase in diagnoses and turned being human into a disorder). You can't seem to have a normal low anymore without people wanting you to go to a doctor. This is not saying that one shouldn't get checked, if things persist, but that depression is not the only cause of these symptoms. Stress, momentary anxiety, burnout and simple exhaustion can cause the same symptoms. I see no harm in someone trying some stress management exercises (which can range from physical to creative), reducing your load (especially if you are putting it on yourself/which you said you're ready to *start* your career path) taking a breather, and seeing if they get theirselves back on track before seeking professional help. We are not built to be happy/non stop productive 24-7. Life has it's normal highs and lows. You just don't want to remain in one state.
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  • LotsawavesLotsawaves Scottsdale, AZRegistered Users Posts: 9,777 Curl Virtuoso
    Definitely see your doctor and maybe have your thyroid checked. We can all get overloaded with our work and demands we put upon ourselves and depression is also an energy killer. Check out your health first and go from there.
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  • maxzinemaxzine Registered Users Posts: 3
    I agree with making a list. For me, starting with easily attainable builds my confidence so the more challenging/time involving ones will seem like less of a hurdle once you get to them...and if you have REALLY big goals, just break them down into step and do the little steps to that REALLY big goal.

    I also second getting your thyroid checked. When I was hypothryoid and not on medication I was so exhausted...it was beyond being lethargic. I didn't know how I was going to get motivated to walk to the bathroom to just get a shower.

    Take care and I hope you find your oomph and motivation.

    Jen
  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Registered Users Posts: 17,898 Curl Virtuoso
    So I just read this from Les Brown who I <3<3<3. It made me think of u & kind of what I was hinting at in my earlier part (but not stated as eloquently).

    "Sometimes we can't see what's holding us back because our ideas for ourselves are too firmly rooted in past expectations. Re-evaluate what you need and want, while taking into consideration your present situation and your hopes for the future.*If you are finding it difficult to accomplish a goal, revisit your reason for pursuing it in the first place. If it isn't in line with what you need and want, it may be time to make new decisions. If it is, then have faith that your preparation and execution will intersect with your destiny. We will all experience some level of favor in pursuit of our dreams. If you believe it and are willing to pay the price, you can achieve it! You have GREATNESS within you!"

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  • wavydazewavydaze Registered Users Posts: 2,065 Curl Novice
    Fifi.G wrote: »
    No offense to those suffering from depression, but In my personal opinion, the word depression is thrown around all too easily. (Psychologists agree *that is the ones not in bed with pharm. companies and who disagree with the 1980's lowering of depression criteria which caused a 400% increase in diagnoses and turned being human into a disorder). You can't seem to have a normal low anymore without people wanting you to go to a doctor. This is not saying that one shouldn't get checked, if things persist, but that depression is not the only cause of these symptoms. Stress, momentary anxiety, burnout and simple exhaustion can cause the same symptoms. I see no harm in someone trying some stress management exercises (which can range from physical to creative), reducing your load (especially if you are putting it on yourself/which you said you're ready to *start* your career path) taking a breather, and seeing if they get theirselves back on track before seeking professional help. We are not built to be happy/non stop productive 24-7. Life has it's normal highs and lows. You just don't want to remain in one state.

    Yes but if your "low" lasts for months and months and is interfering with your life that is called depression. It can be mild, it doesn't have to be severe, but it is what it is.

    I don't see the label as "unhelpful" at all. In fact, I wish I knew I was depressed when I was depressed. Instead I was just extremely tired all the time, lethargic, slept a lot, could barely keep up with my studies at the time, lost interest in hobbies or socializing or having fun, and generally just felt worthless and guilty... all the time (see some similarities to what the OP stated?). Instead of realizing... oh **** I'm actually depressed I actually need to see someone about this and do something about it... I just kept blaming myself, and feeling guilty constantly, and worthless and it only got worse. It ended in me failing academically whereas I was previously an A student all my life.

    So why is it that I cannot recommend the OP actually look into the possibility of depression? Does it need to get worse before it gets better.... as it did in my case?

    I'm not saying that she should go on medication immediately if that's where your reluctance lies. There are many that help depression including stress management, eating well, exercising, light therapy, therapy including cognitive therapy--> letting go of guilt/worthlessness. Depression isn't a character flaw and depression isn't something that you have to suffer through silently and it absolutely can be treated. Yes you're right, burnout and exhaustion can lead to depression, but depression is depression at the end of the day... it doesn't matter what caused it, if you're depressed the chemicals in your brain just aren't what they are normally and that needs to be taken into consideration.

    "Professional help" can take many forms. Simply talking to a trained psychologist is "professional help" and it's not a commitment and there's nothing scary about it.... even if you're not depressed it can be beneficial. Perhaps the OP goes to a school that has a trained psychologist that she can talk to, most do. If the OP connects with them, it can be a very fruitful series of sessions.

    Please, your comment is both stigmatizing and dismissive of an illness that is serious even in mild form and very common. Depression isn't just about "feeling tired" or "feeling down" or "burnt out" for a normal amount of time, it's feeling those things for an abnormal amount of time. It can really wreak havoc on your life but the good news is that there are steps that you can take to help heal and climb out of depression. No one should have to suffer in silence. There is help out there and if someone believes they are depressed I would only urge them to go out and seek help because it is available (rather than be dismissive or self-punishing and hide, which is what it tends to make you want to do.)
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  • curlypearlcurlypearl Registered Users Posts: 12,231 Curl Connoisseur
    I see where both of you are coming from (I think). I don't think Fifi intended to disparage true depression (see her first sentence).

    I've taken pills for serious depression twice and they did help me, (along with therapy) and I'm absolutely not discounting it at all; I speak from experience. However, I just bear in mind that pharma companies make an enormous amount of money from those pills and they are heavily marketed. I would take them again if I needed to, but only after struggling and failing to find other ways of improving my mental state.

    OP: lots of good suggestions on this thread. Post more if it helps. I wish you good luck and better times ahead!
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  • Purplecurls17Purplecurls17 Registered Users Posts: 152 Curl Neophyte
    Wow I'm do thankful for all the responeses. I'm trying to read through them all !
    Some history; I have had anxiety since I can remember. I'm not good with conflict I shut down. My mind is a constant roller coaster that never stops. I am prone to panic attacks.
    Depression has been mentioned to me before. As well as ADD. I don't feel depressed every hour of the day. I go through periods of depression like symptoms.
    I need my checkup but that usually leads to expensive specialists that my insurance will not cover.
    My Ma thinks it's my thyroid because I have a frequent menstrual cycle.
    Work is stressing me out because I make $8.20/hr and do so much work and it's never enough for my boss or my wallet. I am going to be 22 and I work a crappy full time job. I go to school full time as a Digital Media major. My goal is to be a web or app designer. My creativity is suffering from this weird thing I'm going through. It's frustrating.
    My family is going through a divorce and my Ma left last year and is not in a relationship with another man. Meanwhile my father is home with my 5 siblings working his butt off to pay everything. She doesn't help him at all. My Ma went off the deep end and does not try to have a relationship with me. She is repairing her relationship with my younger siblings at least. It's like she wants to forget about me.
    Between family , money trouble , work , and school I'm ready to throw in the towel.
  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Registered Users Posts: 17,898 Curl Virtuoso
    curlypearl wrote: »
    I see where both of you are coming from (I think). I don't think Fifi intended to disparage true depression (see her first sentence).

    I've taken pills for serious depression twice and they did help me, (along with therapy) and I'm absolutely not discounting it at all; I speak from experience. However, I just bear in mind that pharma companies make an enormous amount of money from those pills and they are heavily marketed. I would take them again if I needed to, but only after struggling and failing to find other ways of improving my mental state.

    OP: lots of good suggestions on this thread. Post more if it helps. I wish you good luck and better times ahead!

    I totally agree!

    I see merit in what both Fifi and wavydaze said (esp wavydaze...that was a fantastic post).

    What I think there is too much of is the heavy-handed, knee-jerk over prescribing of anti-depressant meds. It's seems like half of the population is taking them. Like you can't have a problem, a stressful period in your life or a time to experience a loss w/o being told to pop a pill.

    But is depression over-diagnosed? I don't think so. Considering the world we live in nowadays (child abuse, sexual assault, domestic violence, layoffs, bankruptcy, abortions, infertility, all kinds of immorality, unbalanced diets, lack of exercise, divorces, detachment from family, materialism, racism, looksism, loss of a spiritual belief system, on and on), it's very believable to me. (Yes, prolonged stress can cause changes in brain chemistry and electricity.)

    But just like there are many contributing factors to a depression diagnosis, there should be a variety of treatment types. Not just pop a pill! Meds have their place. But they aren't a panacea. And they shouldn't be the first resort bc in many cases some of the contributing factors are preventable/curable, if ppl would just try. It can be a PITA to do the work, esp compared to taking a pill, but the results can be so much more effective and holistic.
  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Registered Users Posts: 17,898 Curl Virtuoso
    Wow I'm do thankful for all the responeses. I'm trying to read through them all !
    Some history; I have had anxiety since I can remember. I'm not good with conflict I shut down. My mind is a constant roller coaster that never stops. I am prone to panic attacks.
    Depression has been mentioned to me before. As well as ADD. I don't feel depressed every hour of the day. I go through periods of depression like symptoms.
    I need my checkup but that usually leads to expensive specialists that my insurance will not cover.
    My Ma thinks it's my thyroid because I have a frequent menstrual cycle.
    Work is stressing me out because I make $8.20/hr and do so much work and it's never enough for my boss or my wallet. I am going to be 22 and I work a crappy full time job. I go to school full time as a Digital Media major. My goal is to be a web or app designer. My creativity is suffering from this weird thing I'm going through. It's frustrating.
    My family is going through a divorce and my Ma left last year and is not in a relationship with another man. Meanwhile my father is home with my 5 siblings working his butt off to pay everything. She doesn't help him at all. My Ma went off the deep end and does not try to have a relationship with me. She is repairing her relationship with my younger siblings at least. It's like she wants to forget about me.
    Between family , money trouble , work , and school I'm ready to throw in the towel.

    So sorry you are going thru this!

    Since you said you are a creative type, I would suggest trying the practice of Morning Pages, a technique devised by the author of The Artist's Way. (watch the clip under the Artist's Way Video Course)

    It's supposed to clear away our mental clutter and blocks and free up our minds to create.

    I didn't do it exactly as prescribed. But I did do it the best way I could. And when I finally re-read my writing, a reality that I had been denying for a long time, hit me hard. Very freeing. And is unsticking me from a rut I find myself often trapped in.
  • scrillsscrills Registered Users Posts: 6,700
    ^^ agreed. And depression doesn't have to handled with drugs. There are other ways. My BF uses meds for anxiety and I don't. At times, I should, but I use tapping and other things when it gets bad. There is nothing wrong with recgonizing the problem and deciding to deal with it.


    Another suggestion would be to meet regulary with people who are working on or have reached similar goals.
  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Registered Users Posts: 17,898 Curl Virtuoso
    scrills wrote: »
    ^^ agreed. And depression doesn't have to handled with drugs. There are other ways. My BF uses meds for anxiety and I don't. At times, I should, but I use tapping and other things when it gets bad. There is nothing wrong with recgonizing the problem and deciding to deal with it.


    Another suggestion would be to meet regulary with people who are working on or have reached similar goals.

    Did you learn how from that bald guy who "can make me thin?"

    Bc I tried his technique (I don't think it was to lose weight...not sure) but I totally didn't get it. Is there another resource you know of?
  • BluebloodBlueblood Registered Users Posts: 1,748 Curl Neophyte
    Wow I'm do thankful for all the responeses. I'm trying to read through them all !
    Some history; I have had anxiety since I can remember. I'm not good with conflict I shut down. My mind is a constant roller coaster that never stops. I am prone to panic attacks.
    Depression has been mentioned to me before. As well as ADD. I don't feel depressed every hour of the day. I go through periods of depression like symptoms.
    I need my checkup but that usually leads to expensive specialists that my insurance will not cover.
    My Ma thinks it's my thyroid because I have a frequent menstrual cycle <snip>
    Between family , money trouble , work , and school I'm ready to throw in the towel.

    I have had a frequent menstural cycle on and off throughout my life and my thyroid has been fine. I've not been able to pin down the exact cause but it seems stress and weight related. If I'm stressed and oddly it includes stress from training for a sporting event, or I'm at the lower end of my correct weight that's when it tends to happen.

    Rather than take drugs I think you need someone outside your family whether they be a professional or just a non-judgemental stranger to listen to you. If you can get to see a professional than a phycologist should be able to teach you methods that will help with your anxiety and the panic attacks. Either way talking to someone should make you feel better, and I know people both the anxious/depressed and the non-judgemental stranger who have seen it work.
  • Fifi.GFifi.G Registered Users Posts: 15,490 Curl Neophyte
    wavydaze wrote: »
    Fifi.G wrote: »
    No offense to those suffering from depression, but In my personal opinion, the word depression is thrown around all too easily. (Psychologists agree *that is the ones not in bed with pharm. companies and who disagree with the 1980's lowering of depression criteria which caused a 400% increase in diagnoses and turned being human into a disorder). You can't seem to have a normal low anymore without people wanting you to go to a doctor. This is not saying that one shouldn't get checked, if things persist, but that depression is not the only cause of these symptoms. Stress, momentary anxiety, burnout and simple exhaustion can cause the same symptoms. I see no harm in someone trying some stress management exercises (which can range from physical to creative), reducing your load (especially if you are putting it on yourself/which you said you're ready to *start* your career path) taking a breather, and seeing if they get theirselves back on track before seeking professional help. We are not built to be happy/non stop productive 24-7. Life has it's normal highs and lows. You just don't want to remain in one state.

    Yes but if your "low" lasts for months and months and is interfering with your life that is called depression. It can be mild, it doesn't have to be severe, but it is what it is.

    I don't see the label as "unhelpful" at all. In fact, I wish I knew I was depressed when I was depressed. Instead I was just extremely tired all the time, lethargic, slept a lot, could barely keep up with my studies at the time, lost interest in hobbies or socializing or having fun, and generally just felt worthless and guilty... all the time (see some similarities to what the OP stated?). Instead of realizing... oh **** I'm actually depressed I actually need to see someone about this and do something about it... I just kept blaming myself, and feeling guilty constantly, and worthless and it only got worse. It ended in me failing academically whereas I was previously an A student all my life.

    So why is it that I cannot recommend the OP actually look into the possibility of depression? Does it need to get worse before it gets better.... as it did in my case?

    I'm not saying that she should go on medication immediately if that's where your reluctance lies. There are many that help depression including stress management, eating well, exercising, light therapy, therapy including cognitive therapy--> letting go of guilt/worthlessness. Depression isn't a character flaw and depression isn't something that you have to suffer through silently and it absolutely can be treated. Yes you're right, burnout and exhaustion can lead to depression, but depression is depression at the end of the day... it doesn't matter what caused it, if you're depressed the chemicals in your brain just aren't what they are normally and that needs to be taken into consideration.

    "Professional help" can take many forms. Simply talking to a trained psychologist is "professional help" and it's not a commitment and there's nothing scary about it.... even if you're not depressed it can be beneficial. Perhaps the OP goes to a school that has a trained psychologist that she can talk to, most do. If the OP connects with them, it can be a very fruitful series of sessions.

    Please, your comment is both stigmatizing and dismissive of an illness that is serious even in mild form and very common. Depression isn't just about "feeling tired" or "feeling down" or "burnt out" for a normal amount of time, it's feeling those things for an abnormal amount of time. It can really wreak havoc on your life but the good news is that there are steps that you can take to help heal and climb out of depression. No one should have to suffer in silence. There is help out there and if someone believes they are depressed I would only urge them to go out and seek help because it is available (rather than be dismissive or self-punishing and hide, which is what it tends to make you want to do.)

    I was not stigmatizing or being dismissive. I have no issues with people seeking help for depression. It just seems like an immediate go to when people mention a few key words but is not always the case.

    I work 12 hour swing shifts on an incredibly stressful job, and burn out is common. It comes on slowly (and the OP did not state this had been going on for months solid, but increasing over the past couple months). I have moments of insomnia. I get down. I might cry because I am so tired, and I have had people say "go talk to a psychiatrist! you're depressed!" I'm just worn out, stressed and mentally exhausted. I personally do not like it when people come out of the gate with that, when they don't know what is behind my feelings. I don't feel comfortable immediately making that assumption for anyone else either, especially without knowing more.

    I absolutely meant my first sentence when I said no offense. I often talk to people suffering from mild to severe depression to bipolar disorder to paranoid schizophrenics on my job. I see no point in hiding it or being embarrassed to talk about it. I do however think it is often misdiagnosed and I happen to agree with some research recommending people be re evaluated here and there. Unfortunately some doctors out there will just push meds and not give a crap about anything else.
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  • Fifi.GFifi.G Registered Users Posts: 15,490 Curl Neophyte
    Wow I'm do thankful for all the responeses. I'm trying to read through them all !
    Some history; I have had anxiety since I can remember. I'm not good with conflict I shut down. My mind is a constant roller coaster that never stops. I am prone to panic attacks.
    Depression has been mentioned to me before. As well as ADD. I don't feel depressed every hour of the day. I go through periods of depression like symptoms.
    I need my checkup but that usually leads to expensive specialists that my insurance will not cover.
    My Ma thinks it's my thyroid because I have a frequent menstrual cycle.
    Work is stressing me out because I make $8.20/hr and do so much work and it's never enough for my boss or my wallet. I am going to be 22 and I work a crappy full time job. I go to school full time as a Digital Media major. My goal is to be a web or app designer. My creativity is suffering from this weird thing I'm going through. It's frustrating.
    My family is going through a divorce and my Ma left last year and is not in a relationship with another man. Meanwhile my father is home with my 5 siblings working his butt off to pay everything. She doesn't help him at all. My Ma went off the deep end and does not try to have a relationship with me. She is repairing her relationship with my younger siblings at least. It's like she wants to forget about me.
    Between family , money trouble , work , and school I'm ready to throw in the towel.

    I am so sorry, Purplecurls. You have a lot on your plate and frequent cycles on top of that...

    Please do speak with a doctor about it. Sometimes stress can do odd things to your body but you want to make sure it's not something more.

    Anxiety is a tricky beast, too. I had some issues with it after my father died. It took me a little while to get myself back on track, but there are numerous ways to do it, and plenty of information out there about any and every option.

    I wish you the best of luck, and I hope things start to take a turn for the better.
    When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

    [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]
  • Purplecurls17Purplecurls17 Registered Users Posts: 152 Curl Neophyte
    I just want to tell you ladies how thankful I am that you all are so eager to listen and help me. I burden my boyfriend with my stress/family problems/anxiety and he is such a sweetheart for being there for me. But I feel bad because I know other people have more troubles than I do.
    I don't want my father to know I feel this way. My mother tried to commit suicide a few summers ago ( he told me last summer) and I'm afraid he will worry and stress. He's got so much on his plate being a single dad of my 5 siblings and working overtime. I'm not suicidal I'm just bummed and lazy and unmotivated and can't seem to get inspired and energized. Anxiety will always be there for me unfortunately but I manage for the most part.
    I think having another source of income would make me feel better. My roommates get paid almost $4 more than I do and I do more manual labor. I like networking and marketing so I might do independent sales for Chole+Isabel. I think my money situation brings me down the most.
    Again ladies , I appreciate all the advice. I should check out some of your suggestions. <3
  • scrillsscrills Registered Users Posts: 6,700
    scrills wrote: »
    ^^ agreed. And depression doesn't have to handled with drugs. There are other ways. My BF uses meds for anxiety and I don't. At times, I should, but I use tapping and other things when it gets bad. There is nothing wrong with recgonizing the problem and deciding to deal with it.


    Another suggestion would be to meet regulary with people who are working on or have reached similar goals.

    Did you learn how from that bald guy who "can make me thin?"

    Bc I tried his technique (I don't think it was to lose weight...not sure) but I totally didn't get it. Is there another resource you know of?


    HA! I don't know that guy, LOL

    Let me see if I can find the website. And not sure I'm even doing it correctly, but focusing on something positive (that is the opposite of what's bothering me) for two minutes, well that works wonders for me. I think the physical act of tapping keeps me focused so my mind doesn't wander. Perhaps it the pressure point or the rhythmic nature of it that's soothing.
  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Registered Users Posts: 17,898 Curl Virtuoso
    scrills wrote: »
    scrills wrote: »
    ^^ agreed. And depression doesn't have to handled with drugs. There are other ways. My BF uses meds for anxiety and I don't. At times, I should, but I use tapping and other things when it gets bad. There is nothing wrong with recgonizing the problem and deciding to deal with it.


    Another suggestion would be to meet regulary with people who are working on or have reached similar goals.

    Did you learn how from that bald guy who "can make me thin?"

    Bc I tried his technique (I don't think it was to lose weight...not sure) but I totally didn't get it. Is there another resource you know of?


    HA! I don't know that guy, LOL

    Let me see if I can find the website. And not sure I'm even doing it correctly, but focusing on something positive (that is the opposite of what's bothering me) for two minutes, well that works wonders for me. I think the physical act of tapping keeps me focused so my mind doesn't wander. Perhaps it the pressure point or the rhythmic nature of it that's soothing.


    This guy:
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    Seems I had underestimated him. Not only can he make me thin, but also confident, sleepy and free of phobias. All w/ tapping and his books and CDs.
  • BluebloodBlueblood Registered Users Posts: 1,748 Curl Neophyte
    Oh Paul Mckenna.

    He can also stop you smoking....

    Every smoker I've met who has tried to give up has his stuff.

    He works like other practitioners of hypnotherapy if you are open to suggestion.

    For every person you find who claims it works there are two people who claim it didn't help at all.

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