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Hate my cut!

Asked for a trim and ended up with serious layers. I had layers but these are much more itense. It's too short on the sides so it's poofy and the back is too long. I feel like crying!

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  • KorkscrewKorkscrew Posts: 1,834Registered Users
    So sorry this happened. I can see why you'd feel really upset and disappointed. In fact, I recall the feeling all too well.

    This may sound a little hollow right now, but it's just a gentle reminder: Your hair will grow out and before you know it this will be a distant memory.

    As for right now, one idea is to get a little more cut off the back to even things out more. At least that way, there will be more balance. I personally would avoid going to the same person for that. I would either choose someone you've already had cut your hair, or research someone else close by who has received rave online reviews for cutting wavy/curly hair. (If you're looking for guidance about researching and preparing for a cut, feel free to read this blog entry of mine, and this one, about getting the best wavy/curly cuts possible.)

    To the poof on the sides, you could experiment with pretty barrettes, clips, or cotton bands.
  • DCWavyLadyDCWavyLady Posts: 373Registered Users
    Thanks, Korkscrew. You actually replied the first time I went to this stylist. I listened to your advice and was very specific about what I wanted. I LOVED the shape, but only had her cut 1/2 an inch at that point because I was nervous a new stylist may butcher it. This time I trusted her more and provided less guidance. I simply said I wanted to trim an inch off. I requested a dry cut because she did such a great job last time. I should have specified that I wanted an inch off of the same cut I already had. Instead, she got creative and added more layers. I have so much less hair! It feels weird. In any case, I feel better after spending some time experimenting with bobby pins. I'll definitely be pulling back the part that's too short. I can't wear it in a pony tail because it looks really weird, but going to experiment with updos tomorrow. I have a hard time with them bc my scalp is so sensitive...=headaches.:( thanks for the blog. I will never go to a stylist again and not be super anal about explaining what I want. Trust is simply not an option! Just caught me off guard because I was able to trust my old stylist of 8 years (she moved). Thanks, again!
  • Morgan_AdcockMorgan_Adcock Posts: 2,573Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Poor you! I hate, hate, hate when that happens! I'm so paranoid about it at this point that I even told the wonderful stylist at Devachan that obviously I was there for a Deva cut, etc., etc.

    Definitely post a review of this hairdresser to help steer other curlies away from her.
    Peace,
    Morgan

    Baby Fine 3B, low porosity, normal density and elasticity
    CGing since July 2008
  • BlackAngelPlayahBlackAngelPlayah Posts: 1,419Registered Users
    Many hugs Dear. It will grow out. When I first cut my locs my hair was very short and had this weird boxy shape. I wasn't crazy about it, but I knew it would grow out. And that is still helping me when I see an odd shape of my hair now. It's growing. It will grow. :)


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  • KorkscrewKorkscrew Posts: 1,834Registered Users
    DCWavyLady wrote: »
    Thanks, Korkscrew. You actually replied the first time I went to this stylist. I listened to your advice and was very specific about what I wanted. I LOVED the shape, but only had her cut 1/2 an inch at that point because I was nervous a new stylist may butcher it. This time I trusted her more and provided less guidance. I simply said I wanted to trim an inch off. I requested a dry cut because she did such a great job last time. I should have specified that I wanted an inch off of the same cut I already had. Instead, she got creative and added more layers. I have so much less hair! It feels weird. In any case, I feel better after spending some time experimenting with bobby pins. I'll definitely be pulling back the part that's too short. I can't wear it in a pony tail because it looks really weird, but going to experiment with updos tomorrow. I have a hard time with them bc my scalp is so sensitive...=headaches.:( thanks for the blog. I will never go to a stylist again and not be super anal about explaining what I want. Trust is simply not an option! Just caught me off guard because I was able to trust my old stylist of 8 years (she moved). Thanks, again!

    Oh, sorry I didn't connect the dots to realize you were the same person! I tend to kind of suck at remembering usernames w/out some sort of icon that gives me a visual reminder LOL My bad. ... I'm relieved to hear your experimentation with bobby pins is making you feel better. I hope you're giving yourself a break when it comes to the stylist taking things in a new direction. It actually sounds like you BOTH meant well.

    Sometimes stylists see so many clients that it's hard to recall exactly what each returning customer's tastes are (especially new ones). BUT each time someone sits in her chair, a stylist should ask for clarification on what her client wants. Tastes change. Memory is faulty. What's cool is you now know exactly what you need to do next time. I bet you won't ever again forget to be specific. You know to volunteer what you want each time you sit down for a cut. Maybe that's the gift at the core of this disaster. (If so, I can certainly relate.)

    Call it paranoia, but I've been seeing the same stylist for a while now and yet I still bring in pictures of what I want each time and talk inches. We're all in this thing together, sister :wave:
  • DCWavyLadyDCWavyLady Posts: 373Registered Users
    No worries! I didn't mean to say you should remember me-was more saying I appreciate you again providing advice and encouragement. You're right about memory! My old stylist was recommended to me by a mutual friend so she always remembered me. I *thought* this new stylist remembered me, but when she asked (during the cut) if my last cut was 3 months ago, I realized she had no recollection of our first encounter.:( Yes, this was a learning experience. I suppose I feel embarrassed to be so specific with my instructions...so set in my ways. You're right though- it's my hair and next time I will be very specific again. My old stylist wrote to me and recommended someone for me (and my sister who also went to her for 8 years), so I'm looking forward to trying someone new in a few months when this grows out...or in a month just to even it out.
    Thank you, again, for your advice. It's nice to know that I'm not alone.
  • DCWavyLadyDCWavyLady Posts: 373Registered Users
    Thank you Morgan and BlackAngel, too! I'll definitely post a review. She got a few good reviews on NC.com, but one poster sounds like she had a similar experience.
  • KorkscrewKorkscrew Posts: 1,834Registered Users
  • waymire01waymire01 Posts: 117Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Just wanted to let you know I have the same problems with updos and ponys, terrible headaches and it actually hurts when I let it down. I thought I was the only one. Glad to hear I'm not totally weird. :)
    3A, fine, porous, colored, protein sensitive
    Buildup/breakout with: butters, coconut/argan oil, polyquats.
    Poo:SheaMoisture Fruit Fusion Coconut Water Weightless Shampoo
    RO/CoW/DT/LI: TRESemme Botanique Nourish and Replenish Conditioner

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