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Why does my hair look like this? :(

MissNileMissNile Posts: 3Registered Users
Hello all,

First, it's very nice to join this site. I hope we can be friends and share experience and advice all the time. :)

I registered here because of an irking trouble on my mind. Here is a picture of my hair:

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(Sorry for the quality of the picture, I was a little in a hurry.)

This part of my hair is on the top of my scalp. I let my hair air dry, brush it back and braid the ends or pull it in a ponytail (I have medium, thick hair.)

Yet this is how it looks like. No matter how much I pull it back, it always dries in this way, and the ends are a little frizzy and the whole layer is dull. However, the lower layers are smooth and nice.

I never color my hair (except a henna dye last month), I used to blow dry once a week but I have been air drying a lot lately, I wash my hair once a week (it's not greasy), I shampoo only when I deep condition, which I have been doing lately every week, and I cold rinse at the end of every shower.

I don't smoke, I don't towel dry, I eat well (except lots of fried food, I suppose. It's the country cuisine XD).

I use Dabur Amla Oil to tame any frizzes, and a cheap, local conditioner, and Pantene shampoo. I like them all except the shampoo, which I feel to dry out my hair, so I am going to change it to Sunsilk Argan Oil and Babassu.

The rest of my hair is fine, and the lower layers. How can I achieve a shiny healthy look on the top layer, too? :(

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  • PyjamaLlamaPyjamaLlama Posts: 72Registered Users
    Welcome to naturally curly!! I'm sure you will find lots of information here :)
    I'm really sorry, but I can't see your picture, is it possible for you to post it again? That would help us help you out :)
  • MissNileMissNile Posts: 3Registered Users
    Hello Pyjama Lama! :D

    I clicked on the image and it's working fine for me. ^^; Could you tell me why doesn't it show up for you?

    Thank you for trying to help me! ^^
  • PyjamaLlamaPyjamaLlama Posts: 72Registered Users
    The frizziness is probably due to brushing your hair. It sounds crazy at first, but by not brushing your hair when it is dry will make it look so much better. Brushing causes frizz, and breaks up the curl pattern. This would explain why only your top layer is frizzy, because that is the one that would get the most brushing.
    Another thing you can do is to follow the Curly Girl method. This method involves cutting out sulfates (drying ingredients found in most shampoo, your Pantene shampoo contains them) and silicones (found in many conditioners and styling products). Silicones make your hair appear shiny and healthy, when in reality your hair can be really unhealthy. Silicones coat the hair, and this can weigh your hair down. Try switching to a sulfate free shampoo, a silicone free conditioner and silicone free styling products. Most wavy haired people's routines generally go something like:
    Wash hair with sulfate free shampoo, rubbed into scalp well
    Rinse out shampoo
    Comb through silicone free conditioner
    Rinse out conditioner
    Scrunch out excess water with your hands
    Apply leave in (either combed through or scrunched in) to hair
    Scrunch in curl cream
    Scrunch in gel
    Diffuse dry to 80-90% dry

    These are just the basics, but these will definitely help. If your hair doesn't get oily, you might want to try "co-washing" (washing your hair with conditioner), and your can find out loads about that on this site.
    Also, it is a good idea to find out your hair properties - whether you have fine, medium or coarse hair, whether you have high, medium or low porosity and other things like that. There is a really good website called Live Curly Live Free that tells you all about these, but I can't remember the link sorry :/
    Good luck with your hair journey, and make sure to keep us all updated!!
  • PyjamaLlamaPyjamaLlama Posts: 72Registered Users
    Sorry, I didn't see your reply!! It just doesn't show any form of picture, just a blank space. It's probably because I'm on the app haha :)
  • Firefox7275Firefox7275 Posts: 3,750Registered Users
    Welcome!

    Because you are trying to force your hair to be something it is not, it is not straight or smooth it is wavy/ curly. That is not 2s wavy hair, if that is your canopy after brushing you have proper curls hidden in there, your curl pattern is too strong to be pulled out. Have you considered working with your curl pattern instead of fighting it? There are loads of tutorials on up dos that work with your curls on YouTube, also a book called 'Strictly Curls'.

    Brushing is damaging and causes frizz by separating the individual strands so switch to very wide tooth combing or finger combing. Also regular tight up dos are damaging, I wrecked my hair partly by ponytailing 24/7. Instead of shampooing use a low-poo (no anionic surfactants) or conditioner only washing: always use a rich leave in conditioner applied to dripping wet hair.

    Can you cut back on the fried food? That is usually a pro inflammatory diet which is not great for skin, hair or any other part of the body. Foods containing added sugars or added fats should be maximum 10% of your daily calories, a really tiny amount. The rest should be piles of fruit and veg in the full rainbow of colours, oily fish, plain dairy products, nuts, seeds, beans, lentils. If you waste a lot of calories on fried food it's impossible to get all the servings of healthy wholefoods in without gaining a lot of weight.
    2a-2c, medium texture, porous/ colour treated. Three years CG. Past bra strap length heading for waist.

    CO-wash: Inecto coconut/ Elvive Volume Collagen
    Treatments: Komaza Care Matani, coconut/ sweet almond/ fractionated coconut oils, Hairveda Sitrinillah
    Leave in: Fructis Sleek & Shine (old), Gliss Ultimate Volume, various Elvive
    Styler: Umberto Giannini jelly, Au Naturale styling gelee
    Flour sack towel, pixie diffuse or air dry.
    Experimenting with: benign neglect
  • wavydazewavydaze Posts: 2,061Registered Users
    Hi MissNile!

    Your frizz issues are coming from a few things. Firstly the shampoo, which I agree is too harsh. There are many low-poos (sulfate/sulfonate free shampoos) on the market now. I'm recently using YesToCucumbers shampoo (the newer, sulfate-free formulation) and I like it... this one is available in drug stores. Many do well with cowashing which is cleansing your hair with a cheap light conditioner like Suave Naturals, Tressemme Naturals, V05, or a proper cleansing conditioner like Curl Junkie Daily Fix (available on Curlmart, Aveyou or Curl Junkie website). If you go the cowashing route you'd have to avoid silicones which are not water soluble in all your products.

    Don't brush your hair dry, you're breaking up the waves and curls causing frizz. And can I suggest you stop pulling on it? Your hair isn't straight, it's wavy at the least and possibly curly too... if you begin treating it as such you will see a reduction in frizz. Just airdry without messing with it, touching it and you'll see your natural pattern come through.

    It's important that you use a conditioner that is suitable for your properties. Look for protein if you have fine, porous or damaged hair. Look for protein free if you have coarse hair.

    As far as styling, here we all get to experiment. A common styling routine is using a little bit of leave-in conditioner, followed by a filler gel such as homemade FSG, okra gel topped with a hard hold gel... wait till 100% dry then SOTC (scrunch out the scrunch). You can experiment here... some do conditioner-only styling, others skip the leave-in and just do gels, some mix gels and leave-in rather than layer. Technique is also important, some clip for volume, super soaker is good for clumps, some like the smasters method while drying. It's hard to say what will work ahead of time you just need to experiment and see what works for you.
    2bc/ f / ii. low porosity roots + normal-high porosity shaft where bleached. normal elasticity.

    Currently using:
    Poo: Earthbath Oatmeal & Aloe
    RO: V05 Kiwi Lime
    LI: CJ Smoothing Lotion
    Styler: UFD CM, CJ PP
    PT: CJ Repair Me

    :thumright: hydrolized protein, jelly stylers
    :angry8: guar hydroxypropyltrimonium chloride, sulfates, jojoba oil
    Neutral on cones.

    iherb discount code: CFN646
  • MissNileMissNile Posts: 3Registered Users
    Thank you so much for the replies, everyone! :)

    @PyjamaLlama: Haha, I never knew that brushing could be that harmful. XD I brush a lot actually so that could be it! I use a paddle brush so I thought it was ok but guess not. XD

    I do co-wash except when I deep condition, especially with yogurt, to remove the buildup and the smell. I'll try to use the conditioner only though. Thank you so much!

    @Firefox7275: Haha, I don't think I have curly hair. :) Maybe really wavy ones. But the lower layers of my hair (the healthy ones) aren't curly but softly wavy, too. ^^

    I'll definitely stop brushing. XD I am not sure if I can cut back on fried food since I am only 17 and I have to eat what my family makes, but hey, I do drink a lot of water, eat fresh veggies and fruits, always a cup of plain yogurt and regular beans and fish. :) We eat fried foods daily, I suppose, but perhaps not as much as I made it sound. XD I'll do my best to cut back though. ^^

    Thank you so much! :)

    @wavydaze: Will try to do so. :) I already air dry but I admit that I brush a lot hoping to make it straighter, but maybe it's time to embrace my waves. XD

    Thank you so much everyone! :)
  • Firefox7275Firefox7275 Posts: 3,750Registered Users
    MissNile wrote: »
    Thank you so much for the replies, everyone! :)

    @PyjamaLlama: Haha, I never knew that brushing could be that harmful. XD I brush a lot actually so that could be it! I use a paddle brush so I thought it was ok but guess not. XD

    I do co-wash except when I deep condition, especially with yogurt, to remove the buildup and the smell. I'll try to use the conditioner only though. Thank you so much!

    @Firefox7275: Haha, I don't think I have curly hair. :) Maybe really wavy ones. But the lower layers of my hair (the healthy ones) aren't curly but softly wavy, too. ^^

    I'll definitely stop brushing. XD I am not sure if I can cut back on fried food since I am only 17 and I have to eat what my family makes, but hey, I do drink a lot of water, eat fresh veggies and fruits, always a cup of plain yogurt and regular beans and fish. :) We eat fried foods daily, I suppose, but perhaps not as much as I made it sound. XD I'll do my best to cut back though. ^^

    Thank you so much! :)

    @wavydaze: Will try to do so. :) I already air dry but I admit that I brush a lot hoping to make it straighter, but maybe it's time to embrace my waves. XD

    Thank you so much everyone! :)

    I'm smiling, you'll see if you try the full Curly Girl method. That is what brushing and towel turbans do, they stretch your waves and curls right out. You have strong wave right up to your roots, that looks 2c/ 3a to me, manybe you have a weaker pattern in the underlayers it may not be the same all over.

    Mine looks straight but poofy when I brush and ponytail damp, you wouldn't know I have 2a to 2c waves with ringlets around the face. Heck I didn't know until I was a proper wavy in my late thirites, my own mother was shocked when she saw my hair like that the first time!
    2a-2c, medium texture, porous/ colour treated. Three years CG. Past bra strap length heading for waist.

    CO-wash: Inecto coconut/ Elvive Volume Collagen
    Treatments: Komaza Care Matani, coconut/ sweet almond/ fractionated coconut oils, Hairveda Sitrinillah
    Leave in: Fructis Sleek & Shine (old), Gliss Ultimate Volume, various Elvive
    Styler: Umberto Giannini jelly, Au Naturale styling gelee
    Flour sack towel, pixie diffuse or air dry.
    Experimenting with: benign neglect
  • PyjamaLlamaPyjamaLlama Posts: 72Registered Users
    Not brushing will definitely help! If I brush my hair when wet, and then when it is dry I get a crazy frizzy straight-ish mess on my haha, with one weird bend in the middle.
    I managed to see the picture, and if that is your hair after being brushed out, you will have some seriously gorgeous hair when you don't brush!!
    Good luck with the rest of your hair journey - keep us updated!! :)
  • chupiechupie Posts: 5,275Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    Hers a pretty inspirational teen story about changing her own diet. You don't have to be plant strong but you can maybe do more on your own! /home/leaving?target=https%3A%2F%2Fm.facebook.com%2FEngine2Diet%2Fposts%2F10151693688583377" class="Popup

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