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Embracing your heat damage

CurlyStephyCurlyStephy Posts: 3Registered Users
Ok so recently I have been watching a lot of Youtube videos and reading a lot of articles regarding heat damage. From what I've seen, many people out there are bashing those with heat damage because they straighten their hair instead of wearing it in their natural state. Now of course everyone is entitled to their own opinion but I truly don't understand why people bash those who straighten their hair especially if they're not perming it!

I'm writing about this because there's comments out there that are making heat damaged curlies like myself feel insecure about the hair that they have instead of trying to encourage them to embrace their heat damage and giving them advice on how to make it work for them because I KNOW many of you ladies have had to deal with heat damage and had to contemplate whether or not to BC or not. But, there are people like myself who won't bc because they know they WILL straighten their hair again.

For me personally, I straighten my hair because I'm a full time college student who has 2 jobs, I'm a leader of multiple diversity groups on campus and try to mantain a 3.4 average. So let's be honest, as much as I would love to continuously wear my hair curly, I don't have time to take care of it so I go to the dominicans and get it straightened. But during Winter and Summer breaks, I will rock my twist and braid outs, giving my hair a break with the upmost TLC to mantain my healthy locs.

Enough about me and sorry this is so long, but I would like to hear from anyone how you guys feel and deal/dealt with heat damage in the past and how social media has affected you in doing so.

Comments

  • KrullenbolKrullenbol Posts: 114Registered Users
    I had heat damage, because probably because of the same reasons as you. There was a period when I was very busy. I just wanted to get up in the morning and don't do much with my hair. Which resulted in heat damage because I straightening a lot. I wasn't even that bad but I still didn't like the way it looked and I especially did not like my hair to be unhealthy (in general, whether I have heat damage or not) so I cut it off, it was not more than 3 centimeters. Grew it back healthy and I just went to my normal hair routine. I diminished straighten my hair a lot. If I don't want to spend a lot of time on my hair, I put it in a protective style instead of straightening it.

    A lot of people are like, it's just hair. But I rather be completely healthy, not only in body but also in hair and the heat damage just annoyed the living hell out of me. Social media did not really had an influence in it, not at all actually. It's my hair, I couldn't care less what other people think about what I do to my hair.
  • Corrina777Corrina777 Posts: 3,193Registered Users
    My damaged hair was never from heat, just bad highlights. I chopped off a good 8 inches at once after seeing myself in a picture and realizing that my hair looked fried.
    I say do whatever works for you, but I personally have never understood the concept of it being easier to straighten hair than to wear it curly. When I was busy (full time school, two nearly full time jobs, 3.6 GPA, sorority and social life), I just did wash and go's. If I was going out, I diffused. And that's what I still do now. But like I said, that's just me.
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  • CurlyStephyCurlyStephy Posts: 3Registered Users
    I understand where you're coming from with that and yes it can be irritating when you're left with those straight ends and I have been tempted to just cut it all off and I'm most likely going to next year after I graduate but for right now, it's really a hassle leaving it curly because hair obviously takes a lot of time and patience to deal with. My hair isn't wash and go friendly which is why I started straightening it in the first place. It was honestly less time consuming and I personally don't care for always doing protective styles.

    I'm glad you guys didn't feel affected by how other people tend to react to hair that's been heat damaged. I know straightening is horrible but I've tried it both ways, and for right now, getting my wash and set done every two weeks (and I bring my own products) just seems to work better for the time being.
  • sleighbellesleighbelle Posts: 28Registered Users
    I understand where you're coming from with that and yes it can be irritating when you're left with those straight ends and I have been tempted to just cut it all off and I'm most likely going to next year after I graduate but for right now, it's really a hassle leaving it curly because hair obviously takes a lot of time and patience to deal with. My hair isn't wash and go friendly which is why I started straightening it in the first place. It was honestly less time consuming and I personally don't care for always doing protective styles.

    I'm glad you guys didn't feel affected by how other people tend to react to hair that's been heat damaged. I know straightening is horrible but I've tried it both ways, and for right now, getting my wash and set done every two weeks (and I bring my own products) just seems to work better for the time being.

    What do you mean that your hair isn't wash and go friendly? Are you talking about your curl pattern because there are an abundance of ladies on here who have every single type of hair type and curl pattern. I'm sure that if you wanted to wear your hair curly, you could find a way to enhance your natural hair with the right methods and products. Never rule it out for yourself!

    That being said, I do see where you're coming from about people being judgmental about straightening curly hair. I think a lot of it, at least in the curly community, comes from a frustration with society in general discouraging women from looking at their curls/curly texture as beautiful. Because of this, you get a lot of discouragement to alter hair with straightening/chemicals because every hair texture can be styled and maintained in a way that is beautiful without using such methods (which is a movement that I definitely agree with). As far as heat damage goes though, and with people's decision to straighten their hair or not, I'm only concerned with myself. If other people want to damage their hair, that's none of my business unless they ask me for my opinion or advice. If I want to blowout my hair once and awhile, I don't care what other people think.

    As far as specifics go...I don't know if I would ever say to "embrace" your heat damage (this wording suggests you've thrown caution to the wind and will just fry the heck out of it without a second thought), but definitely look for ways to minimize it and embrace your decisions. In the end, you just want your hair to be the best that it can! As long as you're keeping your hair's health in mind and taking steps to protect it (like using a heat spray etc.), then I don't see any reason to be insecure.
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  • Firefox7275Firefox7275 Posts: 3,750Registered Users
    My issue was mechanical damage (including 'straightening' my hair with a 24/7 ponytail) and chemical damage. It was my own fault so I put my big girl pants on, accepted that and cut off/ grew it out, researching ingredients and techniques along the way. I still choose to colour so I still have some damage, again I accept that.

    If social media makes you feel insecure stay away from it, you clearly have too much going for you to waste time on that. As Eleanor Roosevelt said "No-one can make you feel inferior without your consent."

    If you want to straighten your hair go ahead, but please don't go spreading the myth that healthy curly hair has to be a lot of work, it does not. IME it's more that caring for damaged hair is a lot of work, since it does not heal like skin does.
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