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Teacher troubles

someonestakarasomeonestakara Posts: 88Registered Users
I'm about to start my senior year of high school in a few weeks and there's this teacher that I know doesn't like me. She's also the teacher that basically decides on whether you graduate or not. Her grading system is very biased so I know I'm not going to get very good grades. Everyone who has had her tells me to basically kiss her butt so she'll like me, but I'm not comfortable with that idea. I don't think I should have to kiss up to her to be able to graduate essentially, it's wrong for her to be so biased on how she grades so why should I have to change so I graduate?

Ideas, experiences, thoughts? I could use anything right about now
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  • LotsawavesLotsawaves Posts: 8,660Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    How do you know she doesn't like you and why do you think that?
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  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Posts: 17,495Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    I would just plan to bring my A game (as you always should) and not worry about it yet. Once the semester begins, and if you notice something obviously amiss with her grading, you can always request a one-on-one mtg with her or an appointment w/ the principal or vice principal.

    Why do you believe this particular teacher has more authority to decide whether or not you graduate? Is she a dean or something? What subject does she teach?

  • mad scientistmad scientist Posts: 3,530Registered Users
    I'm not sure you mean by "kissing her ass" but producing work and behaving in (professional) manner that pleases your teacher, professor or boss is a part of achieving success.

    Try not to go in with a chip on your shoulder. You don't have to like this teacher or her class. Focus on the bigger picture which is graduating and moving beyond high school.
  • someonestakarasomeonestakara Posts: 88Registered Users
    I'm not sure you mean by "kissing her ass" but producing work and behaving in (professional) manner that pleases your teacher, professor or boss is a part of achieving success.

    Try not to go in with a chip on your shoulder. You don't have to like this teacher or her class. Focus on the bigger picture which is graduating and moving beyond high school.

    What I mean by kissing her ass is that if you want her to really really like you is that you have to always give her drinks and treats and compliment her. I always treat teachers with respect because I know their jobs hard. I always do my work, I'm always on time and I never talk in class so that's not an issue.
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  • someonestakarasomeonestakara Posts: 88Registered Users
    I would just plan to bring my A game (as you always should) and not worry about it yet. Once the semester begins, and if you notice something obviously amiss with her grading, you can always request a one-on-one mtg with her or an appointment w/ the principal or vice principal.

    Why do you believe this particular teacher has more authority to decide whether or not you graduate? Is she a dean or something? What subject does she teach?

    She the vice principal sort of, but she's the senior English teacher: the only class you're required to pass your senior year, so if you don't pass your butt's their for another miserable year. I'm not worried about my school work being bad, I've always been a good student and the work doesn't scare me, it's the teacher that does.
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  • someonestakarasomeonestakara Posts: 88Registered Users
    Lotsawaves wrote: »
    How do you know she doesn't like you and why do you think that?

    My boyfriend, who was a senior last year, told me that she wasn't really fond of me. I don't know why, I've always been polite to her, never talked back to her, always said hello in the hallway when she said hi to me. She's always chewed my butt for the smallest of things, she'll let other girls wear booty shorts and tank tops to school but the second I wear shorts that are a smidge shorter than my fingertips she's chewing me up one side and down the other. I think it's because I'm not a popular kid or the sibling of a popular kid, which to her is the most important thing ever.
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  • LotsawavesLotsawaves Posts: 8,660Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    I had a teacher in 7th grade that was feared by everyone. She was a spinster and would never give 100%. The highest grade you could get was a 98% and that was rare for her. My sister was very smart, so she liked her, but didn't expect much from me. When I started her class she looked me up and down and asked me if I could live up to my sister's standards. I told her I would try my best. She just scowled and said "I'll see." Fortunately, I did very well and got a 98% on my 1st project. She treated me very nice after that, but one night I went to her house with a group of kids and pulled up all her prize flowers. :evil1:
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  • BeautyisMireeBeautyisMiree Posts: 202Registered Users
    Lotsawaves wrote: »
    How do you know she doesn't like you and why do you think that?

    My boyfriend, who was a senior last year, told me that she wasn't really fond of me. I don't know why, I've always been polite to her, never talked back to her, always said hello in the hallway when she said hi to me. She's always chewed my butt for the smallest of things, she'll let other girls wear booty shorts and tank tops to school but the second I wear shorts that are a smidge shorter than my fingertips she's chewing me up one side and down the other. I think it's because I'm not a popular kid or the sibling of a popular kid, which to her is the most important thing ever.

    I know how you feel.

    Every year of school I have had a teacher that only likes the 'popular' kids and no matter how good in school you were she just wouldn't like you unless you were 'popular'. She was more mean to the respectful kids than the rude ones. I remember rolling up my pants and she yelled at while a girl had on short-shorts.

    The way to deal with teachers like this is to just ignore them and complete the school work she gives you to the best of your ability. Don't talk to her unless she asks you a question.
  • mrspoppersmrspoppers Posts: 7,223Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    I hate to say it but I'd probably start kissing her ass. I had a teacher in college that hated me because I didn't visit him in his off campus art studio or fawn all over him after class. Yeah, it was all on him, but that didn't matter when grades came out. After all the trouble I had to go through to get my grade raised, it would have been easier to just suck it up and go to his damned studio. Figuring this out made similar situations easier for me when I entered the business world.

    In the real world, there will be people you need to suck up to. You might as well start now. :(
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  • gagirl09gagirl09 Posts: 2,316Registered Users
    I'm a teacher(and have been a Senior English teacher twice) I am going to be honest and say it is so much easier to catch a high school teacher doing some dirt and have it corrected with interference from the administration combined with parent power because there is SO MUCH Red Tape. As a result I doubt she may pull a fast one with lowering your grade by full letters. If there is a grade that even looks funny grab another students' work and compare before you press the issue. I did rubrics for papers and I graded blindly(ie had students put Id numbers on their papers instead of names) so I would have no bias when grading and the student could see why they got the grade they got and none could say Ms. E graded me hard b/c she doesn't lie me. So hopefully she will use those. Now when u get to college and the professor pulls that crap, MY GOD!!!

    **FYI one of those English teachers who will post a message to the board w/ a grammatical error and not give a flip. Didn't pick the major and love it for the grammar*maniacal laugh, maniacal laugh*
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  • JosephineJosephine Posts: 14,175Registered Users
    mrspoppers wrote: »
    I hate to say it but I'd probably start kissing her ass. I had a teacher in college that hated me because I didn't visit him in his off campus art studio or fawn all over him after class. Yeah, it was all on him, but that didn't matter when grades came out. After all the trouble I had to go through to get my grade raised, it would have been easier to just suck it up and go to his damned studio. Figuring this out made similar situations easier for me when I entered the business world.

    In the real world, there will be people you need to suck up to. You might as well start now. :(

    This is true.
  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Posts: 17,495Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Josephine wrote: »
    mrspoppers wrote: »
    I hate to say it but I'd probably start kissing her ass. I had a teacher in college that hated me because I didn't visit him in his off campus art studio or fawn all over him after class. Yeah, it was all on him, but that didn't matter when grades came out. After all the trouble I had to go through to get my grade raised, it would have been easier to just suck it up and go to his damned studio. Figuring this out made similar situations easier for me when I entered the business world.

    In the real world, there will be people you need to suck up to. You might as well start now. :(

    This is true.

    You actually agree w/ this? I thought she was being facetious! I must have been born in the wrong dimension.:goofy::toothy10:

  • gagirl09gagirl09 Posts: 2,316Registered Users
    Josephine wrote: »
    mrspoppers wrote: »
    I hate to say it but I'd probably start kissing her ass. I had a teacher in college that hated me because I didn't visit him in his off campus art studio or fawn all over him after class. Yeah, it was all on him, but that didn't matter when grades came out. After all the trouble I had to go through to get my grade raised, it would have been easier to just suck it up and go to his damned studio. Figuring this out made similar situations easier for me when I entered the business world.

    In the real world, there will be people you need to suck up to. You might as well start now. :(

    This is true.

    You actually agree w/ this? I thought she was being facetious! I must have been born in the wrong dimension.:goofy::toothy10:

    This is too much for a *high school* English teacher. To suck up hardcore I mean.
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  • mrspoppersmrspoppers Posts: 7,223Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Josephine wrote: »
    mrspoppers wrote: »
    I hate to say it but I'd probably start kissing her ass. I had a teacher in college that hated me because I didn't visit him in his off campus art studio or fawn all over him after class. Yeah, it was all on him, but that didn't matter when grades came out. After all the trouble I had to go through to get my grade raised, it would have been easier to just suck it up and go to his damned studio. Figuring this out made similar situations easier for me when I entered the business world.

    In the real world, there will be people you need to suck up to. You might as well start now. :(

    This is true.

    You actually agree w/ this? I thought she was being facetious! I must have been born in the wrong dimension.:goofy::toothy10:
    No, I think you just like to make things difficult and report various people to the authorities. The OP is this close to graduation and you want her to report the vice principal to her boss and risk graduating? Sometimes we need to take the easiest path, not necessarily the righteous one. I'm not telling her to have sex with someone against her will. I'm telling her to try to get to know this woman and be nice to her so there won't be anything to stand in her way of graduating.

    I can't remember how old you are, but if you're 35 or under, it explains a lot.
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  • someonestakarasomeonestakara Posts: 88Registered Users
    Josephine wrote: »
    mrspoppers wrote: »
    I hate to say it but I'd probably start kissing her ass. I had a teacher in college that hated me because I didn't visit him in his off campus art studio or fawn all over him after class. Yeah, it was all on him, but that didn't matter when grades came out. After all the trouble I had to go through to get my grade raised, it would have been easier to just suck it up and go to his damned studio. Figuring this out made similar situations easier for me when I entered the business world.

    In the real world, there will be people you need to suck up to. You might as well start now. :(

    This is true.

    I guess by thing is, I was taught not to suck up to people. But I might as well keep my trap shut and talk to her when she asks and just do what she needs me to so I can just graduate on time. But I probably will go to the principal, or at least my mother sill because she has heard so many horror stories from several parents and students about how biased she is.
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  • CGNYCCGNYC Posts: 4,937Registered Users
    Part of being an adult is learning to choose your battles and get along with people in authority or higher up than you. If you want to be confrontational and difficult, fine. You may even be right - but it will rarely get you what you want.
  • someonestakarasomeonestakara Posts: 88Registered Users
    CGNYC wrote: »
    Part of being an adult is learning to choose your battles and get along with people in authority or higher up than you. If you want to be confrontational and difficult, fine. You may even be right - but it will rarely get you what you want.

    All I want is for her is to stop basing how she grades someones paper on how much she likes them. I don't care if she likes me, I'm not there for her to like me. She's treated me different for my entire school career and I don't want that to effect if I graduate with honors or not. I'm going to try my best to not get even more on her bad side by turning in all my assignments in the format she approves of and not being difficult but if my grades gonna suffer, you're darn right I'm gonna be confrontational! I work too hard to have a teacher that doesn't care for me ruin it for me.
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  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Posts: 17,495Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    mrspoppers wrote: »
    Josephine wrote: »

    This is true.

    You actually agree w/ this? I thought she was being facetious! I must have been born in the wrong dimension.:goofy::toothy10:
    No, I think you just like to make things difficult and report various people to the authorities. The OP is this close to graduation and you want her to report the vice principal to her boss and risk graduating? Sometimes we need to take the easiest path, not necessarily the righteous one. I'm not telling her to have sex with someone against her will. I'm telling her to try to get to know this woman and be nice to her so there won't be anything to stand in her way of graduating.

    I can't remember how old you are, but if you're 35 or under, it explains a lot.

    Huh?

    Age aside, I don't think it serves anyone well when you indulge ppl in this kind of narcissism or teach kids they need to brown nose. Sorry if that's how you've had to get by. But there are other ways.

    Yes, I absolutely would encourage a student to blow the whistle on a teacher who is behaving unethically! Why should this teacher be allowed to torment her students (if that's what's going on)?

    Still hoping you're kidding :P

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  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Posts: 17,495Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    CGNYC wrote: »
    Part of being an adult is learning to choose your battles and get along with people in authority or higher up than you. If you want to be confrontational and difficult, fine. You may even be right - but it will rarely get you what you want.

    All I want is for her is to stop basing how she grades someones paper on how much she likes them. I don't care if she likes me, I'm not there for her to like me. She's treated me different for my entire school career and I don't want that to effect if I graduate with honors or not. I'm going to try my best to not get even more on her bad side by turning in all my assignments in the format she approves of and not being difficult but if my grades gonna suffer, you're darn right I'm gonna be confrontational! I work too hard to have a teacher that doesn't care for me ruin it for me.

    I wouldn't say you should be confrontational. But if you strongly disagree w her grading, you should discuss it with her, one-on-one.

    She is there to teach you & help you improve your academic skills. Maybe she will like you as a person & maybe she won't. Don't worry about that; just do your best! And go in w an open mind.

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  • someonestakarasomeonestakara Posts: 88Registered Users
    CGNYC wrote: »
    Part of being an adult is learning to choose your battles and get along with people in authority or higher up than you. If you want to be confrontational and difficult, fine. You may even be right - but it will rarely get you what you want.

    All I want is for her is to stop basing how she grades someones paper on how much she likes them. I don't care if she likes me, I'm not there for her to like me. She's treated me different for my entire school career and I don't want that to effect if I graduate with honors or not. I'm going to try my best to not get even more on her bad side by turning in all my assignments in the format she approves of and not being difficult but if my grades gonna suffer, you're darn right I'm gonna be confrontational! I work too hard to have a teacher that doesn't care for me ruin it for me.

    I wouldn't say you should be confrontational. But if you strongly disagree w her grading, you should discuss it with her, one-on-one.

    She is there to teach you & help you improve your academic skills. Maybe she will like you as a person & maybe she won't. Don't worry about that; just do your best! And go in w an open mind.

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    I think that'll be the hardest part for me, going in with an open mind. But if I do that, it'll make it a lot easier on both of us. I never care if teachers like me as a person as long as they respect me as a student they are good in my book! But it doesn't hurt if they like me as a person too!
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