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What inspired you to go natural?

KorkscrewKorkscrew Posts: 1,834Registered Users
Do any of you ladies recall the event/s or change in thinking that led you to finally go natural?

For me it was seeing my sister go natural. We were teenagers and both of us had had relaxed hair up until that point. I didn't have the guts to get off the creamy crack by myself but she did and I was just shocked at how amazing and healthy her natural hair looked as it grew out (a STUNNING mane of 4a curls w/a little 3c tossed in). She had the best coils/curls I'd ever seen in my life (up until that point) and envy wasn't a strong enough word for how I felt about it. She wore it with such confidence too, in a straight-haired world. I'll never forget that.

Anyway, I'd love to hear your stories :lurk:
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  • KiraSavannahKiraSavannah Posts: 423Registered Users
    Being able to wash and go, and seeing curly hair was so cute and especially 007newnew YouTube channel her daughters natural journey 2 year anniversary video.Thank her so muchh!!!

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  • CurlyCutie1394CurlyCutie1394 Posts: 348Registered Users
    Taren916 and Spelman College in the fall. I knew I had curly hair and when I leave the person I trust to do my hair will be here. Right before my junior year I put the flat iron down and started learning my hair. Now 3 weeks before I am to leave home I know what my hair likes and what I have to do to keep it up
  • coracora Posts: 456Registered Users
    There was never a what that inspired me, it was a who. My future sister in law was natural and she was so cute and stylish with her 'fro. Prior to meeting her, it never occurred to me not to straighten my hair/get a relaxer. It was like "are we allowed to do that?". Even though I figured out I could go natural I still debated about it during my 8 month transition (it didn't help that my father and my brother tried to discourage me, luckily I'm a grown woman and I ignored them). I plugged into Youtube towards the end of my transition and five years later, I haven't looked back.
  • KorkscrewKorkscrew Posts: 1,834Registered Users
    Cora, what got me was how you didn't allow the men in your life to decide for you what to do with your hair.

    I'd be a red hot liar with pants on fire if I pretended there weren't times when what men said influenced what I did with my hair ... and that's long after deciding to go natural.
  • FronomenalFronomenal Posts: 712Registered Users
    A particularly horrible chemical burn from a 'relaxer' done at a hair salon insired me to go natural.
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  • KorkscrewKorkscrew Posts: 1,834Registered Users
    Oh right. Who can forget all that burning and scabbing?!?

    Was it just your scalp that was burned (which is bad enough), or did that ish damage your hair too?
  • naturalNeeenaturalNeee Posts: 11Registered Users
    I just got tired of keeping up with relaxers, when I already had naturally wavy hair that didn't take to relaxers well anyways. Also, got tired of waking up an hour early flat ironing and seeing my hair sizzle.

    After that, 3 years later, I'm enjoying my third BC , and my TWA. And being able to express myself healthily and uniquely .
  • adthomasadthomas Posts: 5,525Registered Users
    I went natural because I had to. When my hair started falling out the doc said no more chemicals. Before that it had never crossed my mind. It was ingrained in me since childhood that this is what I am supposed to do. I remember throwing up often as a kid from the chemical smell and my mom telling me "women have to suffer to be beautiful". Now I know I can be beautiful and not suffer from burns and nausea I am much happier.
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  • anissafersureanissafersure Posts: 255Registered Users
    It was pretty hard for me to except my natural hair. My mother always said that my hair was unruly, and that the relaxers helped make my hair more manageable. I finally decided to go natural when I was up in college, because I wasn't able to have anyone relax my hair. So, I figured why not try to go natural! Almost 2 years later since that day and I'm so happy that I made the decision to embrace my naturals curls. I can truly see how healthy my hair has become. My one regret in life is ever getting a relaxer to begin with. But, I am now more appreciative of the hair I was born with. I no longer see my hair as a burden, but an extension of me. This is the hair I was born with, so why even attempt to change it!
  • KorkscrewKorkscrew Posts: 1,834Registered Users
    A list (so far) of what sparked our naturally curly journey:

    other people (including at college, and Youtube posters)
    discovery of successful WNGs
    chemical disasters
    relaxer & straight-ironing “fatigue”
    doctor's orders from hair falling out
    difficulty getting help w/relaxing

    :book:
  • anonymous_135568anonymous_135568 Posts: 23Registered Users
    Oh yeah, definitely the chemical burns. My scalp always burned; I was always crying.
    I should thank the internet too. I never knew there was another option other than to relax. I had relaxers and weaves ever since I could remember. I used to think everyone was either relaxed or relaxed and weaved up. :scratch: Just leaving my hair alone never crossed my mind...
  • curlylifestylecurlylifestyle Posts: 77Registered Users
    Well I was always natural then I decided to get a texturizer just to try it and I hate it it's one of my biggest regrets and I am currently growing it out. Then my friend went curly and I was like wait I shouldn't use combs or brushes? And the rest is history.
  • curlymuffincurlymuffin Posts: 29Registered Users
    When, after the worst relaxer ever, my hair began to literally melt off of my head in the shower trying to rinse that mess out. And after combing the hair that I had left on my head, my comb would be full of shed hair. My head looked like Baghdad on a good day. After that I waited 21 days, and then it was bye bye birdie. I cut all that mess off and started over as a natural.
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  • bobbybobby Posts: 669Registered Users
    My hair isn't even remotely close to 4 as I am a 2b but I do have a couple things that inspired me to go natural. I resisted having curly hair for 20 years, wearing it short and cropped (even buzzcut at times) but when I got to my early 30s I saw a few guys around me lose their hair so I thought, "I've lost some but still have a lot, maybe having curls isn't so bad." Started wearing it longer at age 33 (I'll be 41 next week) but went through a phase where I'd blowdry it and use a round styling brush to give it volume. However, as time went on I found it actually took more work trying to tame the curls than it did to let them do their thing.

    Thanks for starting this topic, Korkscrew. ;-)
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  • FronomenalFronomenal Posts: 712Registered Users
    Korkscrew wrote: »
    Oh right. Who can forget all that burning and scabbing?!?

    Was it just your scalp that was burned (which is bad enough), or did that ish damage your hair too?

    My scalp was burned and a huge portion of my hair 'melted' into my scalp. My hair fell out from the site of the burn leaving me with a palm-sized bald spot that thankfully regrew. I was so traumatized that I vowed never to get another 'relaxer' again.
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  • awkwardcurlyawkwardcurly Posts: 13Registered Users
    When I gave up chemical relaxers, it was about 4 years ago. I just remember having the relaxer on and pushing myself to keep it on longer and longer because of my obsession with straight hair. Because of this, I ended up almost passing out from the fumes and my first encounter with relaxer scabs. It took me until a couple months ago to completely stop heat styling though, and I am almost through with my transition from heat damage. I can honestly say that since becoming natural I've never felt better and have never gotten more compliments on m hair before, and I don't intend on ever going back, besides the occassional heat styling :)
  • curlsandkinkscurlsandkinks Posts: 41Registered Users
    because i want to be chemical free and i don't like bone straight hair on my oval face shape. i like thickness and curls.
  • curlicious13curlicious13 Posts: 1,632Registered Users
    I stopped relaxing my hair a year ago because I know it's healthier for me. Two months ago, I stopped straightening my hair & my hair is better than ever. Not going back except 'straightening' to get a trim. I get more compliments on my curly hair than my straight hair.
  • BlackAngelPlayahBlackAngelPlayah Posts: 1,419Registered Users
    My love of locs. I just had to have them. Had to!! LoL!

    I suffered in my journey, but I'm on the other side doing just fine. :)
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  • KorkscrewKorkscrew Posts: 1,834Registered Users
    Fronomenal wrote: »

    My scalp was burned and a huge portion of my hair 'melted' into my scalp. My hair fell out from the site of the burn leaving me with a palm-sized bald spot that thankfully regrew. I was so traumatized that I vowed never to get another 'relaxer' again.

    Fronomenal (love your username), gotta admit, that was hard to read. It all sounded completely horrific and I winced just thinking about the pain that had to have caused you. What made me feel better was looking at your avatar pic and knowing you won't suffer through that crap again :D

    (PS Your hair looks great, voluminous, really healthy ... Have you considered creating a pic album to showcase it?)
  • bobbybobby Posts: 669Registered Users
    Korkscrew wrote: »
    Fronomenal wrote: »

    My scalp was burned and a huge portion of my hair 'melted' into my scalp. My hair fell out from the site of the burn leaving me with a palm-sized bald spot that thankfully regrew. I was so traumatized that I vowed never to get another 'relaxer' again.

    Fronomenal (love your username), gotta admit, that was hard to read. It all sounded completely horrific and I winced just thinking about the pain that had to have caused you. What made me feel better was looking at your avatar pic and knowing you won't suffer through that crap again :D

    (PS Your hair looks great, voluminous, really healthy ... Have you considered creating a pic album to showcase it?)

    I agree, "Fronomenal" is a great user name and as one with hair that 'fros, I can appreciate that. Lot of good responses to this thread. You might get enough to write a book, Korkscrew. :)
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  • FronomenalFronomenal Posts: 712Registered Users
    Korkscrew wrote: »
    Fronomenal wrote: »

    My scalp was burned and a huge portion of my hair 'melted' into my scalp. My hair fell out from the site of the burn leaving me with a palm-sized bald spot that thankfully regrew. I was so traumatized that I vowed never to get another 'relaxer' again.

    Fronomenal (love your username), gotta admit, that was hard to read. It all sounded completely horrific and I winced just thinking about the pain that had to have caused you. What made me feel better was looking at your avatar pic and knowing you won't suffer through that crap again :D

    (PS Your hair looks great, voluminous, really healthy ... Have you considered creating a pic album to showcase it?)

    It was. I'm glad it will never happen again.

    Thank you for the complement on my hair! The pic in my avatar is a couple years old though. I've been meaning to take pictures of the different hair styles I do. I think I'll start a pic album when I start grad school in early August.
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  • bobbybobby Posts: 669Registered Users
    Korkscrew wrote: »
    Yay! I look forward to your pics :blob:

    I second that. Fronomenal, you have gorgeous hair. :) Korkscrew inspired me to do a photo gallery.
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  • bobbybobby Posts: 669Registered Users
    My love of locs. I just had to have them. Had to!! LoL!

    I suffered in my journey, but I'm on the other side doing just fine. :)

    I just saw your gallery, you made the right move going to the "other side." I'm glad I did. Your hair is gorgeous.
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  • secret_karmasecret_karma Posts: 438Registered Users
    I went natural for mainly 2 reasons; one is I'm not a fan of going to the beauty salon. I hated spending hours getting my hair done and it would only look cute for a couple of days because, reason 2, my hair is super thick. So even with a relaxer my hair was never super straight, it was always poofy. I didn't even make much sense for me to relax it since it stayed fluffy.
  • bobbybobby Posts: 669Registered Users
    I went natural for mainly 2 reasons; one is I'm not a fan of going to the beauty salon. I hated spending hours getting my hair done and it would only look cute for a couple of days because, reason 2, my hair is super thick. So even with a relaxer my hair was never super straight, it was always poofy. I didn't even make much sense for me to relax it since it stayed fluffy.

    Though I have never flat ironed, I have done curling iron a few times, I would think that takes longer than just getting out of the shower and letting the curls do their thing.
    2B always with potential of white man's fro

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