Transitioning with damaged hair?HELPP!

ravennattorravennattor Registered Users Posts: 2
Hello! , I am new to this website and i just came to look for others opinion on this matter. I am currently 16 years of age and in High School. My whole life from what i can remember my hair has been permed, from a very young age. The "perm life" was okay for me i guess, i didn't experience much breakage or anything and i had long almost BSL hair until the age of 13. At 13, I began to style my own hair, WITHOUT the help of my mother! (oh no!) and i had lack of knowledge about my hair. I bought my first flat iron and flat ironed my hair EVERYYDAYYY . Hey, i didn't know better, i think i continued this for 2 years untill i noticed breakage and stopped. But now my hair is heat damaged, always breaking, when i comb my hair, my rooom floor is COVERED in little pieces of hair. I've tried EVERYTHING, relaxer stretching, trying to keep my hair healthy and eating healthy. Nothing works my hair is now barely shoulder length(wow! from almost bsl, to barely shoulder length). So the real thing is, i have been thinking about going natural, BUTT i dont have the courage AT ALL to BC! so i'm thinking about transitioning then after a while cutting off my permed end.The thing about that is, my hair is different lengths, i'm scared of being judged(c'mon i'm in high school, who knows what those kids will say or think), more hair breakage, i dont know how i could, i cannot deal with being judged!! and my family think its a horrible idea! but the biggest problem i would have is not knowing how to style it and how i would look. So if I was to transition what should i expect on my journey? How do i deal with judgmental people? Any ideas of how to style it? Products i should use in my hair? And i have no encouragement at all about doing this, sighh. Btw, if i transition i'm planning on starting my sometime in August.
P.S. I'm new to this website. I hope to get some helpful news back. And thank you veryy much for taking your time out to read my thread!


  • anissafersureanissafersure Registered Users Posts: 255
    I can relate to you 100%. I'm 19 and I only started embracing my curls recently, so I understand how hard is. I started getting my first relaxers at the age of 8 and got my last one when I was 18. When I was in my senior year of high school, I decided that I didn't want to relax my hair anymore. As I was transitioning (and dealing with the 2 different textures of hair) I got some comments made to me about how i needed to relax my hair, but I didn't care. The way I saw it was, at least I'm gonna have nice & healthy hair eventually unlike all of them.

    I didn't do a BC either btw, because I've always had long hair that was down my back & that would've been too much for me. I did do 2 major hair cuts though. In February 2012 I cut my hair to my shoulders & in March 2013 I cut the rest of my relaxed hair off which ended up making my hair up to my shoulders again.

    You're gonna have to be patient, and you need to have a lot of courage. Your hair isn't going to become healthy over night. Don't worry about what any of those people think about you. I know you're in high school, and that's hard to do, but you have to be brave & think of yourself. If you keep relaxing & straightening your hair, you're gonna lose your hair. Your hair can only take a certain amount of abuse. So first things first, STOP USING HEAT. No more straightening, blow drying, relaxers, nothing. Next, try doing a restorative mask on your to strengthen it a little. I like the one from Shea Moisture. Make sure you use leave-ins, and oils. You should really read the Curly Girl Handbook. It has so much info in there to help you! I really hope your journey goes well.

    Sorry for such a long post btw, hahaha.

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