why doesnt my hair look natural on me?

curlywavybeauty

I wore my hair out yesterday and a girl said it looks like a wig...when I first went natural people thought I had a texturizer, when it was permed people thought my hair was tracks. Why does my hair never look natural on me?

Sun-Rei

My guess is that it has very little to do with you and much more to do with other people's preconceived notions of what "should" be growing out of your head. Your signature suggests a rich heritage that maybe people can't see just by looking at you? Either way, take it as a compliment that your hair looks like (naturally) what someone else would buy to try to acheive!

foxycus02

Sun-Rei love your reply.

curlywavybeauty

Sun-Rei wrote:

My guess is that it has very little to do with you and much more to do with other people's preconceived notions of what "should" be growing out of your head. Your signature suggests a rich heritage that maybe people can't see just by looking at you? Either way, take it as a compliment that your hair looks like (naturally) what someone else would buy to try to acheive!

that was a very good response! thanks,it's just hard to take it as a compliment when I dont think my hair is really any differnt than other african americans. Like recently someone told me I had a good grade of hair, I just didnt say anything. I wounder if I have a good grade what's a failing grade of hair? I dont mind other compliments like people just saying "I like you hair" it just bothers me when I get 'compliments' for my hair texture because it's not what other percive to be 'typical' african american hair

LadyLibra1982

curlywavybeauty wrote:

Sun-Rei wrote:

My guess is that it has very little to do with you and much more to do with other people's preconceived notions of what "should" be growing out of your head. Your signature suggests a rich heritage that maybe people can't see just by looking at you? Either way, take it as a compliment that your hair looks like (naturally) what someone else would buy to try to acheive!

that was a very good response! thanks,it's just hard to take it as a compliment when I dont think my hair is really any differnt than other african americans. Like recently someone told me I had a good grade of hair, I just didnt say anything. I wounder if I have a good grade what's a failing grade of hair? I dont mind other compliments like people just saying "I like you hair" it just bothers me when I get 'compliments' for my hair texture because it's not what other percive to be 'typical' african american hair

first of all... i completely understand you. i've gotten that crap all my life too, relaxed or natural. to me it's like they're saying, "black women can't possibly have heathy, nice-looking hair... so it must be fake or you must have done something to it!"

either that, or they assume it came from another part of your heritage. it's because you're "mixed" that you have "that good hair." :roll:

secondly... the bolded part of your quote. i'm gonna start saying this to people who tell me i have a "good grade of hair" because that's just too funny... let's see how they respond to that!

curlywavybeauty

Thanks. It's nice to know there are other natural women out there with unnatural hair LOL

Sun-Rei

we'll educate the masses! Any suggestions on a response to "it looks so exotic?"

eccentric_kurlz

Sun-Rei wrote:

we'll educate the masses! Any suggestions on a response to "it looks so exotic?"

In a way, it is exotic. Since most people aren't used to seeing women with their natural curls/coils, it's almost foreign to them. Exotic basically means something uncommon/unusual. And while women wearing their hair naturally is increasing and is normal to us, there still is a HUGE population who still chemically relax and the mention of wearing one's hair natural is not.

If people actually had a chance to see what their hair looked like naturally, there would be nothing exotic about it because pretty much everyone would have coily hair. Naturally straight hair would probably then be exotic.

Sun-Rei

In a way, it is exotic. Since most people aren't used to seeing women with their natural curls/coils, it's almost foreign to them. Exotic basically means something uncommon/unusual. And while women wearing their hair naturally is increasing and is normal to us, there still is a HUGE population who still chemically relax and the mention of wearing one's hair natural is not.

If people actually had a chance to see what their hair looked like naturally, there would be nothing exotic about it because pretty much everyone would have coily hair. Naturally straight hair would probably then be exotic. Wink

You are so right. Maybe if more people wore their hair naturally curlywavy's hair wouldn't seem so "unnatural" to them either.

Sun-Rei

:oops: double post