The Body Bashing Revolution
Purplecurls17
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So, almost every time I log onto FB I am bombarded with those stupid memes that bash thin women and curvy women. It's sickening!
I am a curvier girl myself. I got boobs, booty and full hips and thighs. I used to LOATHE my body! As a 21 year old I am finally beginning to appreciate my body. I'm not obsessed with my thighs touching or if my bum can fit into a pair of Abercrombie jeans!
I recently had a coworker tell me that I needed to lose weight. At first I was taken aback, but then I placed her hands on my obliques and told her " these are solid! I am thick, not fat!"
Standing up for my body is something that I have never done before. Usually I go home and cry like a little girl lol. This is going to sound douch-y, but I kind of hate being called curvy or thick by other people because many women who are over weight call themselves curvy. I thought curvy meant that you are thicker and have fuller hips and breasts. So I instantly associate it with that.
Why is there do much body bashing!? Why do women feel the need to say hurtful things about each others bodies' ?!so sad!
I am a curvier girl myself. I got boobs, booty and full hips and thighs. I used to LOATHE my body! As a 21 year old I am finally beginning to appreciate my body. I'm not obsessed with my thighs touching or if my bum can fit into a pair of Abercrombie jeans!
I recently had a coworker tell me that I needed to lose weight. At first I was taken aback, but then I placed her hands on my obliques and told her " these are solid! I am thick, not fat!"
Standing up for my body is something that I have never done before. Usually I go home and cry like a little girl lol. This is going to sound douch-y, but I kind of hate being called curvy or thick by other people because many women who are over weight call themselves curvy. I thought curvy meant that you are thicker and have fuller hips and breasts. So I instantly associate it with that.
Why is there do much body bashing!? Why do women feel the need to say hurtful things about each others bodies' ?!so sad!
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You're right...it sounds douchy.
Actually curvy originally didn't mean overweight. It meant women who were hourglass or pear shaped. Now it exclusively means overweight women, even those who have no curves whatsoever.
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That's what I was talking about. ^ I went through a period where I was overweight due to an in diagnosed gluten allergy. I wouldn't call my self curvy then, curvy to me = carrying your weight in your butt, hips, and thighs and\or having a full bust.
The most unhealthy place to store fat is on your waist line. Which is where mine was.
I think a woman's beauty is in how she carries herself. You can be overweight and be beautiful. My mother had 6 kids and has always struggled with her weight. I still think she is gorgeous and awesome.
I was simply trying to explain how the word "curvy " is being misused. My roommate always said I was " thick" or " curvy" and I would take offense. I took it as a hint to lose a few. She eventually explained to me that thick and curvy does not mean overweight where she comes from. It means you have a more hour glass figure or pear shaped figure and you are not a straight figure. Slapping on the label of curvy gives people an excuse to be overweight and carry it in an unhealthy area of the body.
My own best friend was overweight and aware of it. I still thought she was beautiful. She was unhappy with carrying around extra weight so she started working out and eating right. She looks amazing ! She's not thin as a rail, but she is a healthy size for her body type. My problem is people who don't think that being a size 12 is okay ( Abercrombie CEO * cough* ) and that women need to be a size 2 to be attractive or healthy.
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are contrary to each other. you can't say "Body bashing is wrong" then say "I wish those fatties would stop calling themselves 'curvy'"
You can't tell health by looking at someone, and I think the bigger issue is that people think women's bodies weather thin or heavy are public property to be commented on.
So if an overweight woman wants to call herself curvy, that doesn't affect my life in the slightest. Go for it.
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Eva Longoria is so thin she has to have breasts and hips photoshopped on. She has no curves whatsoever. I've never heard anyone calling her curvy. J-Lo is curvy by Hollywood standards but by regular everyday Puerta Rican Bronx standards she's slim.
Yeah, I guess these terms are thrown around somewhat ambiguously. But unless it's like a blind date situation, how is it misleading? You can visually tell if a person is overweight, regardless of what they call themselves.
I agree wholeheartedly.
Women's bodies are objectified in so many ways that people feel free to comment on them almost as if they're separate entities from the person they contain.
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Not to be flip, but...so f*cking what? Anyone with a brain and a 4th grade education, knows that curvy means anything with curves. If overweight women want to co-opt the word...so what? It won't change the meaning. I don't see how it hurts anyone for them to use that term. I can, however, see how it hurts all women to have some women standing up and proclaiming that fatties aren't allowed to use the word curvy unless they have a slim waistline. Save that for the misogynists.
The word does have a different meaning if a woman who is ruler shaped but overweight is considered curvy. An overweight woman who is hourglass or pear shaped is still curvy, as the curves being mentioned are those of a round butt and hips that are wider than the waist. Let's agree to disagree.
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You guys are inspiring me to throw out words like skinny or curvy because those adjectives have kind of ignited the body bashing campaign and society cannot agree on what those words mean without putting people down.
More importantly, even though you're complaining about body-bashing, you yourself have been bashing people's bodies in this thread. You may not mean anything bad, but you're still using insulting language. Think of how many women (not to mention men) have serious body image issues, and how common eating disorders are. Just be a little more sensitive, and this won't have to be a cluster F
tl;dr version: Some of the people reading this thread probably have serious body image and food issues. Your posts could be harmful to them, so it's best to be a little more sensitive and respectful. Not to mention, people with less-serious issues could still feel insulted.
I'm not huge, but I never say in curvy.
It's like fat women calling themselves thick. Thick is big butt thighs and hips, but you still gave a waist line. Doesn't have to be perfect, but you can't be shaped like a BARREL!
Personally I don't label myself. I'm fat in my opinion. But in not huge. I'd like to lose weight, but if I don't I won't feel ugly. And I CERTAINLY don't care what men have to say! Or the media..
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To hurt anyone. Sorry guys :P
I'm not going to sit here and pretend that I do not use some kind of adjective to describe a person to another person. I am human and I say stuff that will displease some, but I can't say and do right ALL the time.
I don't want to bring negativity towards body image to this forum. Again, I'm sorry for my offensive terms
In terms of buying and making clothing, "healthy figure" means nothing and you need to know if you are a rectangle, apple, pear or hourglass. And you need to know your actual body measurements, possibly your dress size. Different situations call for the use of different terminology. Why be so didactic about this? There are so many other larger issues are at play here besides this terminology.