Son's Eye Surgery

inheritedcurlsinheritedcurls Posts: 2,954Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
Well, It has been 4 almost 5 years since I have posted a thread like this. Chas will have his 3rd eye surgery in a couple of weeks. I am so nervous....even though this time the surgery is not as invasive. They will not be cutting this time...just putting one little stitch on his inner right eye muscle to tighten the muscle so it is stronger and moves easier.

I guess my nervousness is that he will now remember this surgery. His last one was right after he turned 2. I just hating putting my kids under.

I know he needs the surgery though because his eyes are tired at the end of the day, more headaches, he can't catch a ball in front of his face, he struggles with finishing writing assignments, he has a head tilt and eye squinting. We've put it off for at least a year hoping school and school work would do the trick...but nope...not even our patching and exercises. This will get us fixed up for 1st grade so we don't fall behind.

Any suggestions on how to prepare an older child for surgery would be greatly appreciated. I've been open and honest with him...explaining everything that happens. Hopefully they haven't changed their procedures too much. I know he will be upset the day of...just because he hates the unexpected like his mother. I have been trying to put aside my worries so he doesn't feed off of it.

Please keep us in your thoughts and prayers the next few weeks. Surgery is May 16th.

Comments

  • ruralcurlsruralcurls Posts: 2,574Registered Users
    I don't have any words of advice, but you will be in my thoughts and prayers.
  • curlypearlcurlypearl Posts: 12,171Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    Mine too!
    2/c Coarse hair med. density.
    Highly porous. Color over grey.
    I love all the Curl Junkie products. Still experimenting with gels and curl creams. Still hoping for 2nd day hair....
    Every day is a gift :flower:
  • Like.AustraliaLike.Australia Posts: 2,544Registered Users
    I get terrible anxiety about doctors, so I don't have any real advice. I'll be thinking of you and chas though.
  • annabananaliseannabananalise Posts: 1,913Registered Users
    I had very similar surgeries on my eyes when I was young, starting at 6 months. My last was at the age of four, though. That one was to tighten muscles in the left eye so it follows my right eye (to prevent lazy eye as my left eye was now completely useless) and to strengthen.

    I can’t say from experience as a parent, but I do know that my parents didn’t show worry (or at least my mom didn’t—I remember her most), but my grandma was a mess. I don’t remember being afraid even though I knew exactly what was going to happen. My parents and doctors did stress that this could only help me so I was pretty chill. This happened right before Christmas, so the only bummer was wearing an eye patch on my right eye 24/7 during Christmas so I couldn’t see anything or any presents. The pictures of me on a couch are kinda pathetic haha.

    I think you’re doing great right now, actually, by keeping him informed and trying to remain calm. Idk the night before surgery my parents kept me up so I’d be more tired than anything before I went in. Too tired to freak out. Also, idk if he has a stuffed animal or anything he sleeps with for comfort, but I did have my booboo with me.

    I’ll be thinking of y’all though! Eye surgery is disconcerting.
    Last relaxer: 8.4.10
    BC: 9.6.11
    tumblr_mkqgfjWwA41qcwgrvo1_500.gif
    when will your favs?

  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Posts: 31,258Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Poor guy. I think I would just keep stressing how quickly the eyes heal...faster than almost any other part of the body...and how he'll be through this faster than a wink, or two. And I'd bribe him with ice cream and candy afterwards.

    Hope it goes well and quickly for you.
  • CGNYCCGNYC Posts: 4,938Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    Will be thinking about you guys. I'm sure everything will be fine and you're doing the right thing by preparing him. I also agree with bribes/something happy to focus on after - fish and Sea Monkeys work well.
  • inheritedcurlsinheritedcurls Posts: 2,954Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    Thanks guys! We plan to have lots of popsicles, candy ...ice-cream around the house afterwards. Good thing is he's excited to miss school. LOL

    Annabanananalise, thank you so much for your perspective. He knows he needs it...it's that unknown fear. He won't have to wear a patch thankfully afterwards...so that will be good.

    His restrictions are no playground/outside play for a week afterwards and no swimming for 2 weeks... This is one reason we jumped to do it now in May while in school instead of June. We will be having to find something other than swimming during Memorial weekend....but all is good.
  • cymprenicympreni Posts: 9,609Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    awww poor guy

    The things that helped me when I was a kid was to have a stuffed animal, plenty of activities for in the hospital, esp before surgery (for distraction) and lots of pudding, pop cycles and jello afterwards. My personal favorite was jello pudding pops, but they don't sell those anymore. Sad, those were awesome when you were sick. And I got my choice for whatever my first meal was afterwards. Basically I got spoiled, rare in my family. I was too busy picking out coloring books and post-op treats to be scared. The fear didn't kick in until the last minute. Then the doctors would chat with me for a few before putting me under, and that helped too.

    I'm not sure about your son's condition, but I felt better almost immediately. Even at a very young age I was able to put 2 and 2 together and that made it not bother me very much. Yeah it was scary and i had to get a lot of shots, but then I could keep up and play with the other kids.


    Well, good luck, I hope everything goes well and he has a smooth recovery.
  • SpiderSpider Posts: 3,381Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Hope he's doing well
    Don't let your heart be broken. Let it love.
  • annabananaliseannabananalise Posts: 1,913Registered Users
    Legends you're so welcome! I definitely want to know how he's doing.
    Last relaxer: 8.4.10
    BC: 9.6.11
    tumblr_mkqgfjWwA41qcwgrvo1_500.gif
    when will your favs?

  • jmartinezjmartinez Posts: 126Registered Users
    I agree with all those suggestions. When I was a kid I had 5 surgeries from age 6-12. Missing school and being spoiled was the best part :)

    Sent from my SPH-L710 using CurlTalk App
  • inheritedcurlsinheritedcurls Posts: 2,954Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    Well surgery is tomorrow around noon...I looked like a bad mom at the grocery store last night. I had push-pops, ice-cream bars, popsicles, gatorade...etc. In my cart. I was going to buy him a video game...but figured he wouldn't feel up to playing it... Movies it is. :)

    Thanks again you guys for all your encouragement and suggestions!
  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Posts: 31,258Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Good luck!
  • inheritedcurlsinheritedcurls Posts: 2,954Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    Hey Everyone,

    Chas is doing well. He pretty much slept all day yesterday with exception of 2 push pops, 1/2 pop tart and a 2 popsicles and pain meds.

    I'm still rotating tylenol/motrin because of the pain level. He ate a ton this morning...His eye is swollen and he can barely open it...but he gets more wiggly as the day goes on. Hopefully tomorrow will be better.

    The surgery was a must. Our doctor found that the muscle had slipped off the tendon so no matter how many exercises we would have done would not have fixed the issue without reattaching the muscle to the tendon. She's expecting great results. She seemed really excited to see that this was our problem. I'm just glad we didn't put the surgery off any longer and kept trying to fix it with exercise.

    Thanks so much for all your well wishes. :)
  • Jess the MessJess the Mess Posts: 5,844Registered Users
    Glad to hear he's doing well!
    High Priestess JessMess, follower of the Goddess of the Coiling Way and Confiscator of Concoctions in the Order of the Curly Crusaders

  • ruralcurlsruralcurls Posts: 2,574Registered Users
    Good. I am glad things went well. :)

    Sent from my SCH-S720C using CurlTalk App
  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Posts: 31,258Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    It's always good when you find out you made the absolute right choice. I hope he heals well and quickly. Kids usually do! :)
  • inheritedcurlsinheritedcurls Posts: 2,954Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    He is healing well. Back to school today...he's driving us crazy...He can't be outside or do anything strenous for 4 more days. Amazing...3 days of indoor games, video games, movies...etc.. He is done. LOL! Thank goodness he can get outside Memorial Weekend...he just can't swim.
  • Like.AustraliaLike.Australia Posts: 2,544Registered Users
    Just catching up with this thread now. So glad he did well with the surgery. :)
  • inheritedcurlsinheritedcurls Posts: 2,954Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    Thank you! I have even better news. We had our check-up on Friday and his eyes are perfectly straight up close and far away. His eyes are tracking together perfectly!

    We have a slight head tilt at distance but she thinks this is just a habit...and it will go away with time. He has a little extra inner eye tissue and swelling. In 6 weeks she can tell if that will go away...otherwise she can remove the tissue in the office. Yeah! I have a hard time thinking something else won't happen...so I keep trying to restrain my happiness for 6 weeks. LOL. He still wears glasses due to being far sighted...but so helping this will move us in the right direction. :)
  • curlypearlcurlypearl Posts: 12,171Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    Glad to hear this!
    2/c Coarse hair med. density.
    Highly porous. Color over grey.
    I love all the Curl Junkie products. Still experimenting with gels and curl creams. Still hoping for 2nd day hair....
    Every day is a gift :flower:
  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Posts: 17,813Registered Users Curl Virtuoso
    This is great! I bet you are so relieved. I would have been a basket case.

  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Posts: 31,258Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Glad the healing is going so well. :)
  • annabananaliseannabananalise Posts: 1,913Registered Users
    Hey! I'm glad your son is doing so well and the surgery was successful!
    Last relaxer: 8.4.10
    BC: 9.6.11
    tumblr_mkqgfjWwA41qcwgrvo1_500.gif
    when will your favs?

  • Jess the MessJess the Mess Posts: 5,844Registered Users
    Great news! Yay!
    High Priestess JessMess, follower of the Goddess of the Coiling Way and Confiscator of Concoctions in the Order of the Curly Crusaders

  • sarah42sarah42 Posts: 4,034Registered Users
    Great news! I hope he continues to recover easily and smoothly.
    ehLB.jpg
  • inheritedcurlsinheritedcurls Posts: 2,954Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    Hey Everyone!
    I just have to celebrate our good news. Chas' vision has improved immensely. His prescription went from a +4 to a +250. The doctor told us he is seeing the same from distance and upclose. She said he could go without glasses...she wants to see how strong his eyes will get in the next 2 months and she wants to see if his eyes get better with school or if he needs a light prescription so his eyes don't get too tired.

    My husband and I are speechless...my son has had glasses since he was 7 months old. We did laugh because Chas has been telling us the last few weeks he doesn't need glasses...he can see without them. We thought he was going through a stage where he didn't want to be different from all his friends. Of course, when we left the doctors this morning...he asked for his glasses...he told me...I don't want to go without my glasses. My son who hates big change...he's afraid that somebody will make fun of him because he looks different. He should be fine though...just some adjusting. I hated big changes too..growing up. :)
  • CGNYCCGNYC Posts: 4,938Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    I'm so glad to hear that! That's fantastic!
  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Posts: 31,258Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    I love it when a plan works out. :)

Leave a Comment

BoldItalicStrikethroughOrdered listUnordered list
Emoji
Image
Align leftAlign centerAlign rightToggle HTML viewToggle full pageToggle lights
Drop image/file