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My curls don't suit me :(

Hello everyone,

I'm new here. I've been visiting this site for a few weeks now and finally decided to register. Please excuse my english, I'm not a native speaker.

So, my hair type is 3b. When I was younger, I had wavy hair which turned curly during my teenage years (I'm still in, 17 now). About a year ago I found out about the curly girl method. I tried it on my hair and I loved it! I was just growing out a relaxer (which I shouldn't have used because it destroyed my hair) and it helped my curls to gain back health and definition. Nevertheless I had to cut my hair to collarbone length because of breakage. Now there's only healthy hair back and I'm really happy about that, but... I just don't like the way my hair looks on me.
My curls themselves look really nice and everything, just not on me. Every time I straightened my hair I thought it looked so much better straight and flattered my face much more. I wish I could get my wavy hair back.

I already thought about getting a japanese straightening treatment. The price wouldn't be a problem. Did anyone try this?

Thank you so much for reading all this. I really hope anybody answers me. :)



  • SayoonSayoon Posts: 432Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Pics would be helpful...hmm maybe cuz the haircut is kinda short which make curly hair looks funny i hv 3b curls myself n I can't imagine cutting them shorter than shoulder length, try to be creative with hair styles straightening ur hair n putting chemicals will only make things worse . Braid ur hair it works for my 3b curls i just wet comb n do a French or Dutch braid it's super cute n ur hair will look straight in them.
  • GalaxyGalaxy Posts: 22Registered Users
    I would love to upload pics... but I feel uncomfortable doing it.
    Yes, right now I'm trying to grow my hair long but it takes sooo long.
    Thank you for your suggestions, I'll try them out :) I googled the dutch braid, it looks really nice!
  • lucyprimroselucyprimrose Posts: 166Registered Users
    I went through a long phase of thinking that curls didn't suit my face, and also considered the Japanese straightening. I am so glad now that I didn't do it.

    I think almost everyone actually looks best with their natural face/hair combination, it just seems to work that way. It might well be that your current length or cut is not the one you'll like best, but I would stick with it and grow it out naturally, otherwise you will have so much damage to deal with again and end up back at square one. It might be better to give your hair a chance to grow out and see how you feel about it then. It is up to you though - you should do whatever makes you feel confident, but just consider feeling confident about your natural hair and giving it the benefit of the doubt for a while. You're not compelled to stick with it if you really want to be straight, that option is there and you should feel free to take it, but I'd say give it more time, try to come to terms with your natural hair because it will be easier. And probably in time you'll come to feel it looks better natural too.

    Using different styles, clips, bands etc can give you different looks in the meantime.

    By the way, your wavy hair may come back - mine went into type 3 curls for a while around 19 onwards then got wavier again. Also with length it may change. Either way I'm sure looks great!
    UK based wavy :hello2:

    Mostly waves, but curls and straight bits too!
    Fine to medium, high porosity, medium density, very low elasticity
    Highlights damage (growing it out), seems to like protein and need lots of moisture.

    Cleanse - CJDF, trying out low poos ; Co wash- Uk chemist brands, Urtekram Rose or Aloe, Hairveda Amala Cream Rinse; RO - varies, Tigi Moisture Maniac, Desert Essence Coconut ; Leave in - Keracare natural textures; Sealant - argan oil
    Trying out new things, still looking.
  • anonymous_133347anonymous_133347 Posts: 1,426Registered Users
    I think it might be the length and/or style that's keeping you from loving your curls. I also feel most people look better with their natural texture. But I also think lots of people happen to look good with multiple textures. If you want looser curls (closer to waves) I recommend raking product in downwards and not scrunching up at all. And then you might try using double pronged curl clips at the ends of your curls to elongate them as they dry. Also added length will definitely help loosen your curl. You might want to try hair, skin, nail vitamins. I just started taking them and my nails are growing pretty fast so I'm assuming it must be helping my hair too. (Hard to tell due to shrinkage.) But I gave some to my mother at the same time and she reported that the bangs that she'd cut herself grew back in a week.
    3A - C, HP, ME, HD. (Coarse, High Porosity, Medium Elasticity, High Density.)

    CG since Nov. 2012

    Poos: SM Moisture Retention + Yucca Baobab, TJ's Tea Tree Tingle
    Condish: TJ 'sTea Tree Tingle*, SM Moisture Retention* + Curl & Shine + Yucca Baobab, Yes to Blueberries
    Stylers: KCKT*, SM Curl Enhancing Smoothie* + Curl & Style Milk*, KCCC*, FSG*, CJ Pattern Pusha, Curl Keeper
    Sealers: Jojoba* or Grapeseed* oil

    * = HG

  • GalaxyGalaxy Posts: 22Registered Users
    Thank you very, very much for your kind answers. I really appreciate them. I think I'll try growing my hair out as you suggested, without straightening it. Sometimes it just seems easier to go straight but I will give it a try.
  • lcl0706lcl0706 Posts: 959Registered Users
    I did not like my hair one bit when I first went curly. it took me months to learn to like it again. I'd been straightening it for ten years!! now ill straighten it once in a while and I don't ever feel like me, I think it looks weird! I'd gotten used to seein myself with straight hair and it took a while to get used to seeing it curly again. stick with it for a while, let it grow back in. ultimately it's your hair & do what makes u feel best, but I wouldn't give up on it yet. chances are it will really grow on you, no pun intended lol. I bet it looks great you're just not used to it :-)
    :wave: fine, thin, normal/(low?) porosity. Mod-CG. Usually I can't co-wash more than 1x a week, & sometimes I have to use T-Gel in rotation due to scalp issues.

    Co-wash: VO5 Volumizing
    Poo: Giovanni 50:50
    RO:TN, Nexxus Youth Renewal, Alba Coconut
    LI: KCKT
    PT: gelatin PT, ION EC
    Stylers: Giovanni mousse, TIGI Curls Rock amplifier (a-cone), Curls Rock Strong Hold Mousse
    Gels: SCC spray gel

  • KrullenbolKrullenbol Posts: 114Registered Users
    It wouldn't have be your natural hair if I didn't look well on you. In other words, it's your natural hair, it looks good on you. It's just your point of view, maybe you compare to much or maybe you just have a different opinion of how you want your curls to be. But yes, it could also be your length, I don't like short hair in general on myself, I know it matches my face and all but I just don't like it and don't feel comfortable with it. But if it makes you unhappy , you can also go for something else, but I think that it doesn't matter what you try, if you're hair is naturally curly and you will straighten it permanently, it will always cause some damage
  • MissDarceiMissDarcei Posts: 193Registered Users
    Yeah I agree with everyone. I hate when my hair is short so I dont think my current length flatters me at all. And some people say I look better with straight hair but that's only because my straight hair was very long. I cut it short to go curly and now I'm waiting for it to grow back. Just have patience!
    3c Hair
    Fine Strands, High Density, Low Porosity
    CG since August 2011
    :love4:Loving my hair!!!:love4:
  • GalaxyGalaxy Posts: 22Registered Users
    Thanks again for your answers. I'm glad to know I'm not the only one with this problem :happy7:

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