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Nephew is afraid to poop

SayoonSayoon Posts: 432Registered Users Curl Neophyte
My 2 years old nephew is in the process of potty training , he is doing well with the light stuff, but when it comes to the heavy one he shows fear n disgust to the point he becomes constipated n we hv to use laxatives , we love him dearly never show any negative reactions and we encourage him all the time,yet he finds it hard to poop :( , any suggestions ladies ?

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  • juanabjuanab Posts: 4,037Registered Users
    Sayoon, this is a common occurrence. Here is some info that may help:

    Tips for when a toddler withholds his poop

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    co-wash - NaturelleGrow Coconut Water or Marshmallow Root, Slippery Elm Bark & Blue Malva Cleansing Conditioners
    LI - KCKT mixed w/ SM C & H Curl & Style Milk
    DC - NG Mango & Coconut H2O or Chamomile/Brdck Root
    Gel - SM souffle (winter), KCCC (summer) or CR Naturals Aloe Whipped Butter Gel (year round)
    Sealers - Virgin Coconut Oil, Avocado butter, Aloe butter
    Ayurvedic treatments - Jamila Henna, Sukesh, Aloe Vera Powder, Hibiscus Powder
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  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Posts: 31,258Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    I would never use laxatives on a toddler. EVER! OMG...you'll screw up his bowels for life. Just feed him well with lots of roughage and water and things will come out when they are ready. The very most that should be done for a young child is a gentle enema, and ONLY under the direction of a health professional. Simple mild constipation from potty-training shouldn't require an enema. Please stop using laxatives.
  • juanabjuanab Posts: 4,037Registered Users
    I would never use laxatives on a toddler. EVER! OMG...you'll screw up his bowels for life. Just feed him well with lots of roughage and water and things will come out when they are ready. The very most that should be done for a young child is a gentle enema, and ONLY under the direction of a health professional. Simple mild constipation from potty-training shouldn't require an enema. Please stop using laxatives.

    Here is an interesting point of view regarding that:

    The Poop Wars, Why Miralax is a Bandaid

    texture - medium/fine, porosity - low/normal, elasticity - normal
    co-wash - NaturelleGrow Coconut Water or Marshmallow Root, Slippery Elm Bark & Blue Malva Cleansing Conditioners
    LI - KCKT mixed w/ SM C & H Curl & Style Milk
    DC - NG Mango & Coconut H2O or Chamomile/Brdck Root
    Gel - SM souffle (winter), KCCC (summer) or CR Naturals Aloe Whipped Butter Gel (year round)
    Sealers - Virgin Coconut Oil, Avocado butter, Aloe butter
    Ayurvedic treatments - Jamila Henna, Sukesh, Aloe Vera Powder, Hibiscus Powder
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  • SayoonSayoon Posts: 432Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Thanks ladies , and yea I don't think laxatives e good idea either, I hope other things work.
  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Posts: 31,258Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Perhaps your nephew isn't ready to pottytrain. I've pottytrained 4 of my own kids, and a few babysit-kids. What I've learned is that we (adults) don't really pottytrain kids...they pottytrain themselves. We should show them what to do, of course, but when it comes to whether or not they crap in their pants...well, that's strictly up to them. No amount of forcing them to sit on a potty will get the job done. We just do not have control over their bodies.

    When a kid is truly ready to train, it only takes 1 or 2 days. Anyone who spends weeks/months/years training a kid is really wasting their time, and probably aggravating the kid, causing regression and probably a real delay in when the actual training will occur. If after trying for a day or two and the kid isn't getting it, It's usually better to back off and go back to diapers and try again at a later date.

    And using laxatives to try to force pottytraining is just unconscionable, IMO.
  • SayoonSayoon Posts: 432Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Perhaps your nephew isn't ready to pottytrain. I've pottytrained 4 of my own kids, and a few babysit-kids. What I've learned is that we (adults) don't really pottytrain kids...they pottytrain themselves. We should show them what to do, of course, but when it comes to whether or not they crap in their pants...well, that's strictly up to them. No amount of forcing them to sit on a potty will get the job done. We just do not have control over their bodies.

    When a kid is truly ready to train, it only takes 1 or 2 days. Anyone who spends weeks/months/years training a kid is really wasting their time, and probably aggravating the kid, causing regression and probably a real delay in when the actual training will occur. If after trying for a day or two and the kid isn't getting it, It's usually better to back off and go back to diapers and try again at a later date.

    And using laxatives to try to force pottytraining is just unconscionable, IMO.

    Well he is back to diapers, I think his parents should ignore the whole thing, although he showed some progress few times but no , when he is ready is better however we dunno when to decide wether he is ready or not!
  • webjockeywebjockey Posts: 2,786Registered Users
    Some kids just need time. My 4 yr old has more accidents when he is constipated too. Fresh apples seem to help.

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  • SayoonSayoon Posts: 432Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    He finally did it :D today out of nowhere he decided by himself that he will do it he was so happy and proud and deserved a new toy for this ^_^ thank u ladies.
  • juanabjuanab Posts: 4,037Registered Users
    Great, the key was he wanted to do it. Not pressured into it.

    texture - medium/fine, porosity - low/normal, elasticity - normal
    co-wash - NaturelleGrow Coconut Water or Marshmallow Root, Slippery Elm Bark & Blue Malva Cleansing Conditioners
    LI - KCKT mixed w/ SM C & H Curl & Style Milk
    DC - NG Mango & Coconut H2O or Chamomile/Brdck Root
    Gel - SM souffle (winter), KCCC (summer) or CR Naturals Aloe Whipped Butter Gel (year round)
    Sealers - Virgin Coconut Oil, Avocado butter, Aloe butter
    Ayurvedic treatments - Jamila Henna, Sukesh, Aloe Vera Powder, Hibiscus Powder
    .


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  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Posts: 31,258Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Sayoon wrote: »
    He finally did it :D today out of nowhere he decided by himself that he will do it he was so happy and proud and deserved a new toy for this ^_^ thank u ladies.

    See...things came out when they were ready. :)

    Lots of praise, and new toys are always a good reward for the first big poop on the potty! Congrats to the big boy!
  • sarah42sarah42 Posts: 4,034Registered Users
    My older son went through a stage like that when he was about 3. It wasn't pretty. He'd been potty-trained for a while and seemed to be regressing. I could tell he needed to go and was clenching his muscles and doing everything he could to hold it in. My recommendations:
    -Maintain a healthy diet with plenty of roughage and water
    -Keep a relaxed attitude and don't make a big deal of it-no sharp or teasing words
    -Rewards and praise when they finally do go
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  • geekygeeky Posts: 4,995Registered Users
    I'm glad your nephew figured it out

    I had similar issues with my son. I think part of it is that when kids are used to going in a diaper (usually standing up) it feels very different than going in the potty and sitting down with a bare bottom and kids have a hard time doing it.

    Fiber and water are definitely good ideas.

    If the child is OK peeing in the potty and can verbalize when they need to poop, they can be in undies and ask for a diaper when they need to poop and go in there. I know a few people that did this.

    Did not work for my son, on the one hand he started to dislike the feeling of going in a diaper, on the other hand he was not ready to go in a potty so he held it. I noticed that he had the tendency to poop in the tub (I guess the warm water relaxed him), so one day I put him in a tub with just a little bit of warm water and when he said he was going to go, I just put the potty into the tub and had him sit on it there, and he went. Once he went once, he got over his fear and had no issues.
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  • inheritedcurlsinheritedcurls Posts: 2,954Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    Yup, we battled poop issues...oh it was horrible. I refused to give her miralax even though doctor suggested it and so many moms told me they give their kids a small dose every day.

    I went back to diapers...until it didn't hurt to poop anymore. During that time I changed her diet. I removed all carbs and added in more fiber...strawberry's, raisins, prunes, peach juice, etc. It helped...she still tells me when her poop is hard/soft. LOL. But I'm fine...lets me know things are still moving.

    So glad your nephew was able to go on his own. :)
  • lcl0706lcl0706 Posts: 959Registered Users
    My daughter is 5 and still holds her poop sometimes, & she's been potty trained since age 3. she's terrified of it. it was a viscous cycle - she's prone to constipation anyways and has been since an infant, did not matter if i breastfed & when i stopped that & moved to formula we used the hypoallergenic stuff and no matter, always constipated. therefore she's been afraid to poop since birth because it hurts & then she gets more constipated and so on.

    I'm sorry to those who disagree, but when she was so constipated it was rock solid & she'd scream in pain & bleed when she pooped, I gave her miralax. after a bit of time on this, it would soften up & be less painful and less scary & she learned to go when she needed to. now, she's less likely to hold it & rarely needs my intervention but she is a kid prone to backing up regardless of her diet & when it happens, I do what I can to help her out when nothing else is.
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  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Posts: 31,258Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    These constipated kids could probably benefit from regular doses of pro-biotics and/or yogurt.
  • SayoonSayoon Posts: 432Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    My sister his mom made this poop reward jar to encourage him , everytime he uses the toilet he can get one gift :) she also has his pic using the toilet on the other side :D hez in love with this toy jar
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  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Posts: 31,258Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Nothing wrong with Potty Bribery.

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