Ever Thought About Having A Teen Non-Hair Board?

SpringcurlSpringcurl Registered Users Posts: 8,002
Not that teens wouldn't be welcome on the regular non-hair board, of course.

Just a thought.
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  • GretchenGretchen Administrator Moderators Posts: 10,840 Curl Virtuoso
    I think this has come up before; I can't remember why we haven't done it.
    But I'd love to hear some comments for and against from everyone. What do y'all think?

    Gretchen
    NaturallyCurly.com co-founder
    3A

    You are beautiful!
  • Sugar Plum FairySugar Plum Fairy Registered Users Posts: 178
    I wouldn't mind, but I do like being able to talk with maturer people as well, so as long as we're still welcome on the non-hair board then I'd be all for it. :wink:
  • rouquinnerouquinne Registered Users Posts: 13,737 Curl Connoisseur
    not only has this idea come up before, so has the suggestion that there be a discussion board for the plus 40s only too.

    i think it's a VERY bad idea on both counts.

    we come to Naturally Curly as a community with something in common - at least most of us have curly hair. we should be celebrating that commonality of experience rather than trying to subdivide ourselves more.

    there are DOZENS of age-specific sites on the internet. if i want to discuss life with women my age only, i'm free to go elsewhere. i don't see why NC has to divide itself up into little groups to serve every single last community that comes here. we shouldn't be, nor should we try to be, all things to all people.

    there are times when teen members post things that are troubling them where the "older" members can offer valuable advice and counsel. and i think that there are things that "older" members can learn from people going through their teenage years in this crazy new century.

    DON'T divide - stay unified!
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  • SystemSystem Posts: 39,060 Administrator
    just so I understand the suggestion, are you recommending a board for teens where they can discuss content that is not rated R and above, or for topics where teens can interact regardless of "adult" related content?
  • SpringcurlSpringcurl Registered Users Posts: 8,002
    just so I understand the suggestion, are you recommending a board for teens where they can discuss content that is not rated R and above, or for topics where teens can interact regardless of "adult" related content?


    There's a topic on the non-hair board right now, "Are you a slut?" And there's a link to take a quiz. As I took the quiz I thought to myself, "I really would hate to have my 15 year old looking at this."

    That was my impetus.

    And yes, I know they could stumble across it anywhere. And, as I said above, I'm not thinking they should not be allowed on the regular non-hair board. But what I DO think, is that if there were a teen board, they might be more likely to bond with each other and less likely to stumble across content like that on NC.COM because they'd be enjoying talking to each other and might not feel the need to come to the regular non-hair board.

    I'm NOT thinking that NC.COM has to become age specific. I don't see any reason to split it up by decades . An adult is an adult. I was thinking more of simply a two-board split: An adult board (where teens can still come if they so desire) and a teen board.

    So, yeah, I guess I was thinking because of the R rated and sometimes above content.
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  • mrspoppersmrspoppers Registered Users Posts: 7,223 Curl Novice
    I think it's a great idea! I have a niece who's 15 and I can't imagine her wanting to interact with ladies my age (I'm 37). I think it would be nice for teens to be able to post pictures of the clothes they like without a bunch of older women telling them they're wasting their money on something so trendy. :wink:
    When are women going to face the fact that they don’t know their own bodies as well as men who have heard things?

    Don Langrick
    Bonsai Culturist
  • rouquinnerouquinne Registered Users Posts: 13,737 Curl Connoisseur
    we have a LOT of R-rated content here!

    quite often, there's a warning in the header about it!

    i also don't think it's up to us to police the usage of teen members. we are not their parents.

    in another topic a while back, i suggested that parents of members under 18 should be aware of the sites their children are using and the types of possible content they could be accessing there and if they would want them to be members, but that didn't seem to raise any alarm bells.

    i didn't open the thread in question, i wouldn't take the quiz, but if i had a 15-year old, i'd probably be blocking a site that had stuff like that on it anyway.

    if teens want to *bond* with each other, or if people my age and older want to discuss things specific to us - THERE ARE DOZENS UPON DOZENS UPON DOZENS of other sites out there in the gigantic big world wide web for them to chose from!

    WHY should Naturally Curly have to be the *everything* place?

    what's going to be next - hair discussion broken down by hair type? black only discussion? latina only discussion? do i get to have my own space for redhaired, middle-aged, Hungarian-Irish-Canadians?
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  • SpringcurlSpringcurl Registered Users Posts: 8,002
    rouquinne wrote:
    what's going to be next - hair discussion broken down by hair type? black only discussion? latina only discussion? do i get to have my own space for redhaired, middle-aged, Hungarian-Irish-Canadians?

    I really don't see my suggestion as such a "slippery slope" type deal.

    However, it was only a suggestion, and Gretchen and Michelle (and guides) will take it as such and make the appropriate decision, I'm sure.
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  • SystemSystem Posts: 39,060 Administrator
    The other thing to think about, and frankly I dont know enough about how true teen boards operate to make an informed opinion, is how to handle people revealing their age. Not everyone reveals their age here, and it would have to be an hononr/self policed situation. I'm sure we've had men posing as women here, and I wouldnt be surprised that there would be some older persons posing as teens on the board. I doubt this would be significant problem, considering that this site is primarily a hair board.

    I would like to hear from the parents of teens on how they deal with those issues and how they feel about it.

    My concern is the saftey and legality issues for our younger members that may/may not be covered by current policies and policing activities.


    As for suggestions to creat additional boards, we more than welcome our members to suggest things, even if they have been suggested previously. Ideas that may not have been feasable or desireable 2 or 3 years ago, may make perfect sense now.
  • rouquinnerouquinne Registered Users Posts: 13,737 Curl Connoisseur
    and if the idea is to keep the younger members from seeing "objectionable" material, shouldn't they be barred from the regular non-hair discussion?

    then what age do we set the cut-off? 18? aren't there still some places that don't consider one to be an adult until 21?

    there's a lot of "slippery slope" stuff inherent in creating a division based on age...
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  • SpringcurlSpringcurl Registered Users Posts: 8,002
    rouquinne wrote:
    there's a lot of "slippery slope" stuff inherent in creating a division based on age...

    I guess I don't see myself asking asking for a "division," but simply another board for younger people where they can choose to go if they so desire. It may be that, if it's created, no teens will visit there at all and then G. and M. can take it away.
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  • rouquinnerouquinne Registered Users Posts: 13,737 Curl Connoisseur
    and what guarantee do you have that the "teens" won't post the kinds of things that you find objectionable at the non-hair board now?

    it seems that you want to do this because you don't feel comfortable having teens exposed to stuff you wouldn't want your daughter exposed to - yes?

    not every person finds the same things objectionable - "teens" [if we could guarantee that only teens would be posting to this place] come from all different kinds of homes. someone from a more liberal environment could still post things you wouldn't be comfortable with for your child. someone from a more conservative environment could also post things that you wouldn't be comfortable with.

    and no one seems to be addressing the point i keep making over and over and over again -

    THERE ARE DOZENS OF SITES ALL OVER THE INTERNET GEARED SPECIFICALLY TO TEENAGERS!!!

    why does Naturally Curly have to create a special area for them? WHY do we have to be the One Web Anomaly that attempts to be all things to all people??????
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    http://labellatestarossa.blogspot.ca/

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  • rouquinnerouquinne Registered Users Posts: 13,737 Curl Connoisseur
    oops! double post.
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    http://labellatestarossa.blogspot.ca/

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  • SpringcurlSpringcurl Registered Users Posts: 8,002
    rouquinne wrote:
    and what guarantee do you have that the "teens" won't post the kinds of things that you find objectionable at the non-hair board now?

    I don't have one, of course. I don't know. And if they do; they do. And as I've said, I'm not saying they are not welcome on the existing non-hair board.

    But I'd feel somewhat more comfortable with two 14 year olds talking about their experiences with boys/sex, etc., than I would with a 36 year old talking to a 14 year old about sex, etc.

    Now before you jump all over me for the above statement: I'm not talking about serious questions about sex, sexuality, etc. I'm talking about things like "will you preform oral sex on your boyfriend?" or "will you watch porn with your guy?" That kind of thing.
    and no one seems to be addressing the point i keep making over and over and over again -

    THERE ARE DOZENS OF SITES ALL OVER THE INTERNET GEARED SPECIFICALLY TO TEENAGERS!!!

    why does Naturally Curly have to create a special area for them? WHY do we have to be the One Web Anomaly that attempts to be all things to all people??????

    I really felt I answered to this to best of MY ability, but maybe I hadn't made myself clear and that's why it seems like I didn't answer. Here goes again:

      1. By creating a teen board, I don't feel like NC.COM is trying to be all things to all people. 2. I'm NOT asking that there be other message boards by age decades

    That's as clear as I can respons as to why. And I still don't think that means that we're trying to be all things to all people.
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  • rouquinnerouquinne Registered Users Posts: 13,737 Curl Connoisseur
    Springcurl wrote:
      1. By creating a teen board, I don't feel like NC.COM is trying to be all things to all people. 2. I'm NOT asking that there be other message boards by age decades

    That's as clear as I can respons as to why. And I still don't think that means that we're trying to be all things to all people.

    YOU aren't asking that, but other people WILL! as soon as a "teen" board is created, the member who was asking for the over 40 board will be requesting one using the reason that if there's a place just for teens....

    then where do we stop?
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    http://labellatestarossa.blogspot.ca/

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  • SpringcurlSpringcurl Registered Users Posts: 8,002
    rouquinne wrote:
    YOU aren't asking that, but other people WILL! as soon as a "teen" board is created, the member who was asking for the over 40 board will be requesting one using the reason that if there's a place just for teens....

    then where do we stop?

    Well, let them ask. All G. and M. have to do is say no. (as they might do with the teen board anyway) :)
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