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Why won't my dad talk to me ?

ScrawnyCurlyScrawnyCurly Posts: 27Registered Users
The last time I talked to him was in 2011. I text but he never texts back.

I'm not even bothersome. I stayed in the guest room while I visited.

I have no idea what to do. I'm confused and really sad.

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  • The New BlackThe New Black Posts: 16,738Registered Users
    Need more info than that, sweets.
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  • ScrawnyCurlyScrawnyCurly Posts: 27Registered Users
    Okay. He lives in another state. He ignores my calls and texts.

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  • scrillsscrills Posts: 6,700Registered Users
    I think she meant more history and background

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  • M2LRM2LR Posts: 8,630Registered Users
    Did you have an argument about something? Why does he live in another state?

    Why don't you call him instead of texting?
    :rambo:
  • AmnerisAmneris Posts: 15,117Registered Users
    Has he ever been in your life fully? Did he ever live with your mother? With you? Does he or has he paid child support?
    Get used to me. Black, confident, cocky; my name, not yours; my religion, not yours; my goals, my own; get used to me. -Muhammad Ali


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  • CurlyCanadianCurlyCanadian Posts: 10,771Registered Users Curl Dabbler
    Did his number maybe change?
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  • SunshineGrrlSunshineGrrl Posts: 3,823Registered Users
    Does he know how to text or even read texts? I'm not joking. I just showed my dad how to figure out if he has texts and read them, then how to send them about 3 months ago. If we didn't call him, we never heard from him...

    And I know this has nothing to do with you, but I'm just going to say that as tight as me and my family are, especially my dad, if we didn't have regular family meals or he didn't call me because something was needed, it probably would be a very, very, very long time in between our talks.

  • curlypearlcurlypearl Posts: 11,970Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Think about maybe writing him a letter. Sometimes older people respond to old fashioned methods more than texting. Tell him you love him (if you do) and that you miss him and be honest. Ask him to be a part of your life. Tell him a little about what is going on in your life and try not to accuse him of anything, or of abandoning you.

    I hope you get a good response. {{{Scrawny}}}
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  • mrspoppersmrspoppers Posts: 7,223Registered Users
    How old are you? How old is he?
    When are women going to face the fact that they don’t know their own bodies as well as men who have heard things?

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  • ScrawnyCurlyScrawnyCurly Posts: 27Registered Users
    No arguments. Yes. In another state

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  • ScrawnyCurlyScrawnyCurly Posts: 27Registered Users
    He hasn't been in my life fully. He doesn't live with us. He's supposed to until I finish school.

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  • mcherycemcheryce Posts: 363Registered Users
    He's not your dad. He's a sperm donor. Would you let a "friend" treat you like that and still consider them a friend? I'd move on. Not being mean I swear. It's the social worker in me. People allow themselves to be crapped on just because there's blood. So what? You are losing way more sleep over this than he is.
  • ScrawnyCurlyScrawnyCurly Posts: 27Registered Users
    18 54 He knows how to.

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  • ScrawnyCurlyScrawnyCurly Posts: 27Registered Users
    Thank you

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  • scrillsscrills Posts: 6,700Registered Users
    Have you and your dad ever had a relationship?
    Is is usual to go long periods with contact?
    Does he contact you?
    Does he have other kids?
    Does he talk to them?
    How is his relationship with your mother?
  • ScrawnyCurlyScrawnyCurly Posts: 27Registered Users
    scrills wrote: »
    Have you and your dad ever had a relationship?
    Is is usual to go long periods with contact?
    Does he contact you?
    Does he have other kids?
    Does he talk to them?
    How is his relationship with your mother?

    No relationship. No contact. Kids. I think so. There is none

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  • The New BlackThe New Black Posts: 16,738Registered Users
    OK, then no offense, but why do you expect him to suddenly starting replying to your texts? He's an absentee father. Why do some fathers abandon their kids? They're soulless jerks? Sometimes they let a bad relationship with the other parent taint the relationship with the kid. I don't know....
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  • AmnerisAmneris Posts: 15,117Registered Users
    Easier said than done, but based on what you wrote, he's not much of a father, and you shouldn't have any expectations of him or internalize his behaviour in any way. What I mean by that is, you'll need to learn to accept who he is and just because his sperm created you doesn't mean he has any parental feelings for you and it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with him. HE is the one losing out on having a relationship with you and all the benefits that come with parental love. Just concentrate on the people in your life who do love you and are there for you. I'm sorry that he has to be that way.
    Get used to me. Black, confident, cocky; my name, not yours; my religion, not yours; my goals, my own; get used to me. -Muhammad Ali


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  • mcherycemcheryce Posts: 363Registered Users
    +100!!
    Amneris wrote: »
    Easier said than done, but based on what you wrote, he's not much of a father, and you shouldn't have any expectations of him or internalize his behaviour in any way. What I mean by that is, you'll need to learn to accept who he is and just because his sperm created you doesn't mean he has any parental feelings for you and it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with him. HE is the one losing out on having a relationship with you and all the benefits that come with parental love. Just concentrate on the people in your life who do love you and are there for you. I'm sorry that he has to be that way.



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  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Posts: 31,258Registered Users
    In my experience, deadbeat parents aren't worthy of the child even trying to have a relationship. Any adult who can abandon their child is lower than dogsh1t. I'm sorry this man is hurting you, but he will never be a decent human being. You need to protect yourself from him and find higher quality people to share your life with.
  • ScrawnyCurlyScrawnyCurly Posts: 27Registered Users
    Thank you guys.

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