We’d like your help getting CurlTalk back on its feet!

By participating on CurlTalk — posting, commenting, liking — in the next few weeks, you will automatically be entered to win amazing prizes.

Our latest winner is Savagegirl!

CurlyCanadian, Bomega and EllaJ have also won wonderful prizes! Will you be next? Post, like, comment, GET ACTIVE and help us get CurlTalk ENERGIZED again!

Learn more!


The last two years i'v grown my 3b curls from my chin, to my elbows, because I was a self harmer. But now, I'm seven months clean, and I want to cut my hair and donate it, and get my hair back to where I like it (My collar bones) But i'm scared that people will be able to see the scars. Any support, or good thoughts is very very very welcome .


  • curlypearlcurlypearl Posts: 11,983Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    Hay Shahnal :wave: Congratulations on overcoming that! It's very difficult to do.

    Most of the time people won't notice or pay that much attention. We are all so focused on ourselves that we don't always register what we see in others (except of course for their curls!) :toothy4:

    Anyway, I see nothing wrong with a white lie if someone asks and if you prefer not to discuss it. Where are your scars located? For example, if it's near your throat you could say its from thryoid surgery.

    I hope your life continues to be easier for you so that you don't fall back on that pattern. The very best of luck and may your new hairstyle be gorgeous. :thumbleft:
    2/c Coarse hair med. density.
    Highly porous. Color over grey.
    I love all the Curl Junkie products. Still experimenting with gels and curl creams. Still hoping for 2nd day hair....
    Every day is a gift :flower:
  • rbbrbb Posts: 4,206Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    i agree with curlypearl, it's no one's business. ahd i also doubt people will notice and say something. most will only notice your curls. and, scars do fade over time. have your tried mederma on them?
    and congratulations on overcoming such a problem! you should feel pride, not embarrassment.

    3a, some 2c & 3b, medium texture, porosity normal, low elasticity :-(
    washing/cowashing, conditioning, protein tx: curl junkie products
    leave in:curl junkie conditioners and treatments as leave in
    styling: curl junkie 
    sealants - jane carter nourish & shine
  • DevushkaDevushka Posts: 1,080Registered Users
    Yep, I agree, too. It's your business, and just because someone asks a question, doesn't mean you have to answer it. "Little white lies" are just you keeping your business to yourself, and that's fine.

    Have fun flaunting your curls and looking and feeling great!
    [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]3b / Fine / Low (to Med) Density / Normal Porosity & Elasticity
    Currently Using [*Holy Grails*]
    Cleansers: DC No-Poo / DC Low-Poo / *BaSo & ACV*
    Co-Washes/ROs: CJ Beauticurls Argan & OO / DC OneC / Organicals DC Creme
    Additives: *Silk Amino Acids* / Honeyquat / Fragrance Oils
    LIs (found some!): KCKT / CJ Beauticurls LI / CJ Curl Assurance Smoothing Daily Condish
    DTs: *Coconut Oil* rinses / *Honey*, EVOO, & DC OneC / CJ Curl Rehab
    Sealer: *DM Super Buttercreme*
    Goal: APL Hair
  • BlackAngelPlayahBlackAngelPlayah Posts: 1,419Registered Users
    I have a few scars of my own, but they are VERY visible. So I can't cover them up. And lies only go so far. I've tried the cat story... Just getting hurt over time and the scars remain. The tales work for some, but not all believe your stories.

    Most of the time I just change the subject. They wanna pry, but I wiggle out of it.

    I have no hair advice, but congrats on the recovery. I know better than most that it is not easy. (((HUGS)))


    😜🍸Sent LIVE from my JPhone 4s using some CurlTalk app. 😜🍸

    /home/leaving?target=http%3A%2F%2FAfroCurls.wordpress.com" class="Popup

Leave a Comment

BoldItalicStrikethroughOrdered listUnordered list
Align leftAlign centerAlign rightToggle HTML viewToggle full pageToggle lights
Drop image/file