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Do you say something when someone cuts in line?

spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Posts: 17,495Registered Users Curl Neophyte
I always do; I can't help myself. And I'm kinda nasty about it.

I got into it w/ a mother-daughter pair today at the courthouse. There was a really long line to catch the eleveator, for some reason. They came in right behind me. The daughter got in line in back of me and the mother skipped ahead of me by about 7 or 8 ppl after saying, "oh, hell no" and was motioning to the daughter to skip ahead, too.

I had a dr's appt after and had to go to work. Both important things IMO. So I was like, "You do realize we are all waiting in line, don't you?" really loudly.

And the daughter was like, "mom..."

And the mother was inching closer to the elevators, ignoring me.

And I was like, "What exactly makes your situation so important that you feel you can cut in front of everyone else who got here before you??"

And the mother was like, "don't say ish to me, point blank!"

And I was like, "Someone needs to say it: you can't cut the line."

And then the daughter took up for her mother and they were tag teaming me. LOL

But then I realized the long line was for elevators for floors 9-18. And I need ed to go to the third floor, so I just walked away and got on an empty, awaiting elevator.

But I was pissed! (Would have stayed to finish the argument had I not been in such a hurry, myself. LOL)

What a damn nerve!

What do you do?

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  • NetGNetG Posts: 8,116Registered Users
    I rarely even experience lines, but have been known to say something and embarass my mom in the process...

    We were at a bagel place and waiting out turn to order, and we were next. A man comes and pushes me out of the way so he can stand in front of the hanging menu to look at it, which I didn't mind as the letters were small. However, when the employee asked "who's next?" and he tried to order, I said "Actually, we were next." The guy mumbled about not knowing we were there and I said "Given you pushed me out of the way to get to the menu, you knew perfectly well I was there. You simply didn't think I would say something." There were a few other people in the place who gave me thumbs up for it later. :) And my mom was totally embarassed, because apparently she was taught that nice girls are doormats.
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  • The New BlackThe New Black Posts: 16,738Registered Users
    Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't.
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  • theliothelio Posts: 5,374Registered Users
    depends on the situation, my mood and who I am with.

    i was in a good mood when some lady cut in front of me when i was getting my cheese form the amish. i had just ate some yummy amish food so i was on cloud nine. i refused to let her bring me down. the little amish girl knew i was next and ignored the lady for a second looking at me for a reponds. i signal for her to let the rude lady go first. afterward i got my cheese and stayed happy.

    when i went to disney world with my family, we stood in line to get on the trolley from the parking lot to the actually gate of the park. there was an actually line but once the trolley pulled up people decided to ignore it and push pass. i got seperated from my peoples and didnt wnat to get lost so i ended up pushing through people and when i got on i squeezed between my dad and some lady i knew was behind us. i then said very loudly, "happiest place on earth my bum, you mean rudest! how can adults push pass a little girl like that? what would had happened if we were seperated, dad? when these grown ups had helped me find you? i doubt it seeing as they just almost trampled me!" The lady next to us turned beet red and looked away. a few more laughed and said, "you would thing they were given things away." or similar things agreeing with me. few others who looked must had cut through the line looked ashamed as well. my dad said dont let a$$holes ruining our day. but if i did get lost he would had raised such hell they would had shut down the park to find me. that would teach them not to cut in line when they wouldn't even be allowed inside.
  • NarniaNarnia Posts: 1,770Registered Users
    Not a line cut situation, but recently I was at Ikea where carts are NOT allowed in the showroom upstairs. Some lady was behind me with her cart was literally pushing me down with it to get past. I hadn't even see her there since my back was turned. I turned to her and said "usually excuse me works well." She looked right at me and laughed, and then said to her friend "did you hear what that girl just said to me?" Yes, GIRL. I turned to my friend and said "did you see what that biatch just did to me?!" at which point a confrontation occurred. I won ;)

    I just hate when people are rude and unapologetic.
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  • sarah42sarah42 Posts: 4,034Registered Users
    I can't think of the last time someone cut in front of me in line. It doesn't happen often. If so, I'm likely to not say anything--I'll just feel angry and stew about it. I'm a weenie like that.

    I do remember one time years ago when my boyfriend and I accidentally cut in front of someone at the movie theater. I honestly didn't realize the person was waiting. He made a snide remark and I felt really sheepish. Maybe that's why I don't like to say anything to cutters....? Hmmm, I think I'm having a psychological breakthrough here.
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  • claudine19claudine19 Posts: 4,486Registered Users
    Nine times out of ten, I say something, but I also let people go in front of me a lot. I just don't mind that much anymore.
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  • SpringcurlSpringcurl Posts: 8,002Registered Users
    Always. I'm not mean about it but I'll definitely tell you that you cut me.
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  • dee-naturedee-nature Posts: 630Registered Users
    Sure will.

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  • coilynappcoilynapp Posts: 4,233Registered Users
    Oh I ALWAYS do. It annoys me to high heaven. I'm I invisible? No. Get back in line then.

    I usually just say "Ummm, I'm in line"
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  • CurlyminxCurlyminx Posts: 5,581Registered Users
    Always. Without a doubt. I hate that. Depending on my mood I'm either ok or a jerk about it.
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  • nynaeve77nynaeve77 Posts: 7,135Registered Users
    Definitely. I usually just smile nicely and say, "The back of the line is actually over there!" It works every time.
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  • divegirldivegirl Posts: 1,286Registered Users
    I usually say something and am usually polite about it. I got some attitude from a woman who cut in front of me in a Starbucks once. I told her very politely that I was already in line and she said very nastily that she had been waiting longer than me and so was in front of me. The barista and the woman in line behind me both told her that no, I was in line first! She was very embarrassed after that.
  • inheritedcurlsinheritedcurls Posts: 2,954Registered Users
    nynaeve77 wrote: »
    Definitely. I usually just smile nicely and say, "The back of the line is actually over there!" It works every time.

    This is usually me...unless people don't back down...then I become Netg at the bagel place.
  • Like.AustraliaLike.Australia Posts: 2,544Registered Users
    I usually do the same as nyn. If that doesn't work, I'll usually speak up to the cashier or whatever before the cutter has a chance.
  • EricachristinaEricachristina Posts: 496Registered Users
    I always do because its just plain rude that some people feel they are entitled to cut lines while everyone else has to wait.
  • HoneycurlsHoneycurls Posts: 1,889Registered Users
    I always do; I can't help myself. And I'm kinda nasty about it.

    I got into it w/ a mother-daughter pair today at the courthouse. There was a really long line to catch the eleveator, for some reason. They came in right behind me. The daughter got in line in back of me and the mother skipped ahead of me by about 7 or 8 ppl after saying, "oh, hell no" and was motioning to the daughter to skip ahead, too.

    I had a dr's appt after and had to go to work. Both important things IMO. So I was like, "You do realize we are all waiting in line, don't you?" really loudly.

    And the daughter was like, "mom..."

    And the mother was inching closer to the elevators, ignoring me.

    And I was like, "What exactly makes your situation so important that you feel you can cut in front of everyone else who got here before you??"

    And the mother was like, "don't say ish to me, point blank!"

    And I was like, "Someone needs to say it: you can't cut the line."

    And then the daughter took up for her mother and they were tag teaming me. LOL

    But then I realized the long line was for elevators for floors 9-18. And I need ed to go to the third floor, so I just walked away and got on an empty, awaiting elevator.

    But I was pissed! (Would have stayed to finish the argument had I not been in such a hurry, myself. LOL)

    What a damn nerve!

    What do you do?

    Yes, I do, and I am, too...which I'm sure will come as no surprise to anyone.

    It's one of the reasons I had to quit riding public transportation when I used to work and commute. I could not bear to watch people walk up to the front and left of the line of people patiently waiting to board the train, thereby cutting everyone in the line and blocking the way of those exiting the train. The unrequited rage inside me was of a ridiculous level because I couldn't chase down these people and give them a piece of my mind...and if I did...most likely it would go as yours went, and I just can't tolerate that kind of entitlement and frustration.
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  • NetGNetG Posts: 8,116Registered Users
    nynaeve77 wrote: »
    Definitely. I usually just smile nicely and say, "The back of the line is actually over there!" It works every time.

    This is usually me...unless people don't back down...then I become Netg at the bagel place.


    :laughing4:

    I love that "Netg at the bagel place" just became synonymous with b----! I was actually nice about saying I was next, then just straightforward and not nasty about pointing out that he had to push me out of his way to get to the menu, not *mean* about it. Just assertive. :)
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  • curlysue21curlysue21 Posts: 5,219Registered Users
    I ordinarily let it slide. Most of the time I'll sulk and mumble loud enough to hear. I suck at confrontation and figure it isn't worth wasting my breath on people like that.

    I think if the line was very long though I would say something.
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  • KilajoKilajo Posts: 786Registered Users
    I always say something, BUT I have never heard of lines for an elevator! lol I've stood in big crowds waiting on the elevator and the ones shoving the hardest get on first, but lines, no...
  • curlyarcacurlyarca Posts: 8,449Registered Users
    Sometimes I say something, sometimes I don't.

    I hate when someone is waiting behind you and they start getting annoyed with the wait. All that sighing and mumbling of "jesus" is not making me want to move any faster.

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  • inheritedcurlsinheritedcurls Posts: 2,954Registered Users
    NetG wrote: »
    nynaeve77 wrote: »
    Definitely. I usually just smile nicely and say, "The back of the line is actually over there!" It works every time.

    This is usually me...unless people don't back down...then I become Netg at the bagel place.


    :laughing4:

    I love that "Netg at the bagel place" just became synonymous with b----! I was actually nice about saying I was next, then just straightforward and not nasty about pointing out that he had to push me out of his way to get to the menu, not *mean* about it. Just assertive. :)

    I didn't mean it that way. :D If you think about it...if it is synonymous...I am one too. LOL!
  • LadyV69LadyV69 Posts: 3,397Registered Users
    I often will say something, but it depends on my mood and in how much of a hurry I am.
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  • rileybrileyb Posts: 1,975Registered Users
    I will if there is a definite 'line' like at Starbucks or the post office or what have you. I wouldn't say something if there was just a group of people waiting for elevators, or boarding a train or something because at least where I work/live there doesn't tend to be an organized line for those things.

    I usually will just be polite and say 'oh sorry, think I'm next, I think the end of the line is over there' type of thing, but this summer I got really annoyed with some woman at the zoo. There was a really long line and the man selling tickets was a little older and kind of slow so it was not moving. I'd been in line with my 18 month old for a LONG 25 mins and I was next, and there was a line of 20-30 families behind me. This obnoxious woman with two children walked up and was standing off to the side near me like she was going to go next, and said to me 'it's ok I have a membership.' The woman behind me said 'I have a membership too, they don't have a membership gate open today, you have to wait in line.' Obnoxious woman says 'well, I can't wait in that line, my child can't wait in line.' I said, 'well, sorry, my child hasn't been happy waiting in line either, but I'm next.' She then proceeded to throw a fit which I totally ignored, but the woman behind me caved and let her go next. :disgust:
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  • SystemSystem Posts: 39,059 Administrator
    I don't. I am usually worried about confrontation and how the person might react. I avoid eye contract and act like I didn't see them.
  • murrrcatmurrrcat Posts: 9,596Registered Users
    I usually say "oh sorry, you can go in front I don't mind", and smile. Like they actually had the right of way. HAHAHAH.

    It's my passive aggressive approach

    I wouldn't call them out, people these days.
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  • mrspoppersmrspoppers Posts: 7,223Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    nynaeve77 wrote: »
    Definitely. I usually just smile nicely and say, "The back of the line is actually over there!" It works every time.
    This. I pretend to give them the benefit of the doubt and they take the hint. I'm surprised at how many people won't say anything but are grateful when I do.
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  • StarmieStarmie Posts: 6,681Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    I generally say something. Once upon I time I wouldn't have done, but I've got more bolshie as I've got older. I feel uncomfortable after the event but I can deal with that better than I can deal with stewing later because I didn't say something.
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  • SCGSCG Posts: 5,416Registered Users
    Line-jumpers REALLY bother me, because line-jumping comes with the assumption that their time is more valuable than mine. FALSE!

    However, I never say anything. Apparently, I prefer to stew about it and perhaps someday I'll develop a twitch in my right eye because of it. One can only hope!

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  • InissantAngelInissantAngel Posts: 173Registered Users
    Yes, I say something especially when my girls are with me (2,6). Usually I don't have to my 6 year old handles it beautifully. There's nothing like being politely scolded by a small curly haired little girl.

    I don't tolerate rudeness like that, and neither do my children. They are also the first ones to let someone else go in front of them if it's obviously needed and hold doors and do small things like that for people as well.

    People these days are so obnoxious and they teach their children to be that way as well.
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  • geekygeeky Posts: 4,995Registered Users
    I usually say something and take the "The back of the line is over there approach" and it rarely leads to confrontation.

    I had an interesting incident waiting in line for the Vatican Museum in Rome a few years ago. We were there on vacation during one of the hottest summers ever and I was also in my first trimester of pregnancy. The Vatican Museum is one of those places where there is always a line and it was one of the few places we decided it was worth waitiing for. We'd probably already been in line for a good 30-40 minutes in the heat, moving ever so slowly closer.
    There was a Russian tour group a couple of people behind us and, me being from the USSR ,I always notice Russian-speakers everywhere just out of curiosity so my ears perk up. I also know that Russians are pretty notorious line-cutters. I guess it comes from decades of shortages of and long lines for basic necessities like food and toilet paper.
    This lady in her 60s and her daughter from the group start kind of wandering and hovering around the line and I figure they are trying to find a place to cut in. Sure enough after a few minutes they are trying to work their way in a little bit ahead of us.
    I said to her very politely in Russian "Excuse me, there is a line here, where are you going?" She looked a little shocked that I was speaking fluent Russian, I guess I don't look the part.
    Then she finally says "I am trying to join my group"
    I tell her "I know where your group is, it is over there" and I point to them behind us. At this point she just gave up and went back to them, looking annoyed and pissy. I know if they had gotten in, they would have had the whole group join them, though.

    that was really the only time I have ever gotten pushback for calling someone on cutting, though
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