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I fired an intern. On my birthday. Or maybe not? Awkward awkward awkward...

DedachanDedachan Posts: 1,644Registered Users
As I'm typing, I'm sitting on my desk with my (possibly former) intern sitting next by. I dismissed her earlier today because she basically disappeared for two whole days without giving us any warning, this after a two week vacation she gave herself after only 3 weeks on the job which she only told me about less than a week prior.

So she turned up just now with watery eyes beggging for her internship. Since my boss had already given the final word, I asked that she wait for her to arrive from lunch, which should be any minute now.

She showed me her plane ticket. There was a delay and she only got back from her trip to the States this morning. Apparently she had warned our other intern (don't get me started on him), but he forgot to say anything to us.

If it was up to me, I'd give her the 2nd chance. I think this is a rookie error and believe she realizes she erred. But I'm a softie. It's no longer in my hands though.

Oh and did I mention it's my birthday?
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  • redcelticcurlsredcelticcurls Posts: 17,502Registered Users
    I wouldn't take her back. All that missed time? Telling another intern as opposed to calling in? No. Crying in tears? Hell no. Next she'll have Mommy calling you.

    Besides, it's not her birthday.
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  • CurlyminxCurlyminx Posts: 5,581Registered Users
    Yeah, I'd be inclined to not be sympathetic. She is a grown woman, she should know that calling another intern isn't cutting it when you need to inform people of your extended absence. If that long absence wasn't mentioned when she started, she should have been let go when she sprung it up within a week of leaving.

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  • DedachanDedachan Posts: 1,644Registered Users
    Besides, it's not her birthday.

    lol

    Background story. She and her family, including extended family, take a trip to the US every two years. She joined us recently and the trip, which had already been purchased and everything, had slipped her mind.

    Even my friend/work colleague, who thinks I'm a softie,and has little tolerance for these missteps, thinks she deserves a second chance.

    I'm disappointed because I hired her thiking she seemed responsible and mature. I wish it had been our other intern doing this, because he's been skating on thin ice for some time. But her? :angry2:
  • redcelticcurlsredcelticcurls Posts: 17,502Registered Users
    If she comes back, she knows she'll be able to get away with this kind of behavior again if she pleads and turns on the waterworks. May as well learn sooner rather than later about what is appropriate and responsible workplace behavior.

    We had a guy get fired recently because he left in the middle of his shift without telling anyone because he felt sick. Just left!

    His *mother* called about it because it wasn't fair to fire her previous baby for being sick. Uh, no. He was fired for just leaving without telling anyone.
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  • CurlyminxCurlyminx Posts: 5,581Registered Users
    I doubt it slipped her mind.

    If my family and I were going on a trip when I was trying to get an internship, my family would make sure to remind me to tell my work that I was leaving so that I can learn to be responsible while I'm trying to get the position, not a week before.
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  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Posts: 17,495Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    I'm a softie, too. I'd read her the riot act and giver her a second chance.

    Happy bday.

  • DedachanDedachan Posts: 1,644Registered Users
    My boss is back but busy. The intern is still sitting in her spot. You could cut the tension with a knife.
  • DedachanDedachan Posts: 1,644Registered Users
    And thank you for the b-day wishes! :D
  • JosephineJosephine Posts: 14,175Registered Users
    That sucks, I would've given another chance too and a stern warning. It does seem like a rookie mistake and not pure carelessness.
  • Who Me?Who Me? Posts: 3,181Registered Users
    I'd give her another chance, but put her on "probation" for a while. And I'd make sure she's aware that 1) Her vacation plans should have been disclosed when accepting the job. You could have "fired" her for going on the vacation within a few months of being hired simply because she did not arrange it as she accepted the job offer, and 2) there is NO excuse that she did not call and/or email the office with the delayed return. That is unacceptable. There is virtually no where left in the world that doesn't have communication abilities.
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  • DedachanDedachan Posts: 1,644Registered Users
    So my boss said no. Oh well.

    I do feel sorry for her, but what can you do?
  • redcelticcurlsredcelticcurls Posts: 17,502Registered Users
    Not much. Hopefully, she'll learn from this.
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  • luvmylocsluvmylocs Posts: 7,578Registered Users
    how much longer is her internship? is she a college or graduate school intern? would a successful internship lead to a possible job offer?

    to me anyone qualified to have an internship in this economy/environment should know the basics of such a thing. she seems like she doesn't really take the internship seriously. i'd be inclined to let her go but then i don't know all the specifics of the internship? i assume it's paid, relevant to her studies etc. i just can't see screwing off an important job opportunity these days.
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  • luvmylocsluvmylocs Posts: 7,578Registered Users
    Dedachan wrote: »
    So my boss said no. Oh well.

    I do feel sorry for her, but what can you do?

    your boss said no she can't stay? so she's out of there?
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  • DedachanDedachan Posts: 1,644Registered Users
    She's in her first semester at college. The internship pays a minimum wage.

    Her family seems to be well off. I don't think the money is a problem. And the economic recession didn't hit our country so roughly. But she should have been smarter. Having in her resumé that she worked here would carry some considerable weight, I think.
  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Posts: 17,495Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Costly life lesson. Oh well, it's out of your hands now.

  • LotsawavesLotsawaves Posts: 8,660Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Happy Birthday....:occasion4:

    Don't let this situation get you down. It's tough out there and it's best she learn this lesson now. You tried for her, but it was out of your hands. Enjoy your day.
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  • theliothelio Posts: 5,374Registered Users
    Happy Birthday!!!

    I guess she will know better for next time. if she could get in contact with the other intern, why couldnt she get in contact with you?
  • MojoDojoMojoDojo Posts: 702Registered Users
    So far as I'm concerned, your boss did the right thing.

    But I'm not much of a softie. She needed to learn that waterworks get her nowhere.
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  • juanabjuanab Posts: 4,037Registered Users
    First and foremost, Happy Birthday!

    Second, it didn't slip her mind. She knew she had this trip when she applied for the internship. It wasn't a spur of the moment situation. The responsible and mature thing to do would have been to mention it at the interview or once she accepted the internship and ask to take the time off. If she was told she couldn't take the time, then suck it up or quit. Now she knows, hard lesson to learn. Better to learn it early, when she has so little to lose.

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  • redcelticcurlsredcelticcurls Posts: 17,502Registered Users
    Yeah. Better to learn early. Sounds like a downside of being well off. She probably hasn't had to handle much responsibility yet.
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  • juanabjuanab Posts: 4,037Registered Users
    Yeah. Better to learn early. Sounds like a downside of being well off. She probably hasn't had to handle much responsibility yet.

    Agreed!

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  • OBBOBB Posts: 4,174Registered Users
    i think this thread is a subtle clever way to let us know its her BD. :occasion9::occasion6::occasion1::occasion4:
  • DedachanDedachan Posts: 1,644Registered Users
    OBB wrote: »
    i think this thread is a subtle clever way to let us know its her BD. :occasion9::occasion6::occasion1::occasion4:

    Subtle?
  • The New BlackThe New Black Posts: 16,738Registered Users
    Happy Birthday!!!!
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  • inheritedcurlsinheritedcurls Posts: 2,954Registered Users
    Happy Birthday!

    Makes you feel better my hubby had to go in the day after Christmas and fire 2 people. He hated it...they wanted them fired right before but he refused. I can't decide which is worse..fired before or after. Either stinks.
  • kat180kat180 Posts: 6,280Registered Users
    Calling BS on the vacation 'slipping her mind'. Who forgets they're going away?

    It sucks for her but there you go. She'll learn from it.
  • Fifi.GFifi.G Posts: 15,490Registered Users
    Happy (happy :) happy) Birthday!!

    I believe your boss made the right decision. A few years ago mine hired a girl who simply could not grasp the job, or protocol. She burst into tears on day 5, and did not stop crying. Anytime she messed up, or broke the rules, tears would flow and a story of her childhood neglect would randomly be thrown in to deflect from the matter at hand. I recommended termination, when asked about her progress, soon after she started. She was in no way mature enough to handle the job, and had no urge to correct her mistakes. She just wanted a pay check and to be pampered.
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  • Fifi.GFifi.G Posts: 15,490Registered Users
    Yeah. Better to learn early. Sounds like a downside of being well off. She probably hasn't had to handle much responsibility yet.

    I see this, with a specific age group, despite their families financial status. Sure, the ones who are well off seem to be a little worse, but they all have some of the same issues. The one I mentioned in my last post was being bribed with money, by her parents, to keep her job. She was 26. I think it's a result of helicopter parenting. I truly do hate to say it, but every employee my boss has hired in the past 5 years, with exception of ONE, that is in their 20's, has been a complete bust. Refusal to wash their dishes, clean up spilled food or drink,asking people to do their work for them on a daily basis because "it's too hard" or "I can't", walking away from the job if they can't take off, etc. Even ones who have been there for 5 years are still refusing to do specific aspects of the job and asking their partners to do it for them. Unfortunately, they work with ones who will. A great disservice has been done.

    And don't get me wrong. I remember what it was like to be 21 (minimum age requirement to do my job). Would I have been ready? Oh no! Not even close, but if you come in at 26, cry until you get your way, ask people to do t for you, and at 30 you still can not fully do your job, there is a problem.
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  • redcelticcurlsredcelticcurls Posts: 17,502Registered Users
    I've lucked out. Many of my co workers are in their 20s. Most of them are diligent, hard workers who are good team players. But, the company can afford to be picky. There are far more applicants than positions. If someone doesn't work out, they're gone and pretty easily replaced.
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