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question for curlies who are diplomatic

curlypearlcurlypearl Posts: 11,983Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
nm.
2/c Coarse hair med. density.
Highly porous. Color over grey.
I love all the Curl Junkie products. Still experimenting with gels and curl creams. Still hoping for 2nd day hair....
Every day is a gift :flower:

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  • ShubhoRShubhoR Posts: 107Registered Users
    If you are meeting him on a one on one basis, then I don't think he sees you as just a friend. All my male "just" friends are in my college group . We hang out together, study together etc. but all the guys I have have met on a "we-are-just-friends-date" kept hitting on me and some even tried to ..umm get into my pants :-| , when all they were just friends (to me) .
    So if you want to keep a "just friends" relationship with him, i'd suggest you bring some mutual friends along.

    I don't think I was much help, but be careful. Misunderstandings ruin good friendships and relationships. :)
    Sent from android curltalk app.
    HAIR TYPE -2a-b, black, mostly medium
    CO WASH, RO-HE HH and ENLEVEN and GARNIER RANGE
    CLARIFY- I use sulphate shampoos silicone free(diluted), vinegar rinses
    DC-pure coconut oil, olive oil, sometimes a SMT
    LI-aloe vera gel + castor oil
    I'm currently at BSL, aiming for waist length.I'm a very impatient person, wish me luck :D
    I love my flat iron, but I love my waves even more. :-D
  • Rubber BiscuitRubber Biscuit Posts: 1,294Registered Users
    Hmmm, I think I'm a fairly diplomatic person, but these matters are sensitive and I'd hate to a) continue to send the wrong signal (if that's the case), or b) give him the impression that I'm full of myself (if I'm misreading the situation).

    So, I might arrange to meet with him at 1 on Tuesday for tea, and when he arrives tell him that I have somewhere else to be in about an hour or so.

    I think his reaction to your time limit and how the interaction feels over the next hour can give you a little more insight into his feelings.

    I tend to suss things out before I make any hard and fast decisions on what to do.
    - Seek first to understand, then to be understood.
    - Character is how you treat those who can do nothing for you.
  • PerriPPerriP Posts: 6,613Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Can you reply with something along the lines of "I can meet you for tea at 2 on Thursday, that'll work out great because I've got a date at 330 in the same past of town". That way he knows he's friend zoned and not on a date. If all he's looking for its a friend, then not a big deal at all.

    Sent from my SCH-I535 using CurlTalk App
    Modified CG since Dec 2011
  • The New BlackThe New Black Posts: 16,742Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    The words you came up with sound fine to me CP.
    montage-3.gif No MAS.

    I am the new Black.

    "Hope the Mail are saving space tomorrow for Samantha Brick's reaction piece on the reactions to her piece about the reactions to her piece." ~ Tweet reposted by Rou.
  • curlypearlcurlypearl Posts: 11,983Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    Thank you all very much for your help in responding to this nice person! I'm going to close the thread because I got enough out of your responses not to need additional input.

    Very joyous and especially Happy New Year to SubhorR, Rubber Biscuit, PerriP, and The New Black! :blob4::thumbleft::thumbleft::thumbleft:
    2/c Coarse hair med. density.
    Highly porous. Color over grey.
    I love all the Curl Junkie products. Still experimenting with gels and curl creams. Still hoping for 2nd day hair....
    Every day is a gift :flower:
  • ShubhoRShubhoR Posts: 107Registered Users
    Happy new year to you too! :)

    Sent from android curltalk app.
    HAIR TYPE -2a-b, black, mostly medium
    CO WASH, RO-HE HH and ENLEVEN and GARNIER RANGE
    CLARIFY- I use sulphate shampoos silicone free(diluted), vinegar rinses
    DC-pure coconut oil, olive oil, sometimes a SMT
    LI-aloe vera gel + castor oil
    I'm currently at BSL, aiming for waist length.I'm a very impatient person, wish me luck :D
    I love my flat iron, but I love my waves even more. :-D

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