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falling in love...

luvmylocsluvmylocs Posts: 7,578Registered Users
i'm falling in love with a guy. i haven't told him. it's still early, sort of. we met in may of last year and dated a few months but it never got really serious. i didn't think he was ready for what i was so i backed away and we ended up being friends, real friends over the course of the year plus that followed us sort of dating. i was always attracted to him and enjoyed talking to him and respected him a lot. we had lots of things in common. we'd keep in touch periodically via email, text or an occasional phone conversation. i was in a relationship and told him so. he also dated and became more ready for commitment but i don't think things really took off with anyone. he never stepped out of bounds with me and i really wanted my relationship to work so i didn't jeopardize it in any way. my relationship didn't work out. after over a year it was obviously lacking in emotional and physical intimacy. when my relationship ended i told the friend and he asked me to lunch that weekend. i went and we've been seeing each other ever since and communicating daily.

everything feels so good!! i really like being around him and the chemistry is fantastic. we can talk, laugh, play and also have more serious discussions (often times that he initiates). we're on the same page about many things. i wrote in my journal the other day all the reasons that are not physical that i like him because i didn't want to be driven by that just because it was so lacking in my previous relationship. i'm clear in my mind that it's not just physical, for him either, i asked. we actually haven't gone there yet but it's so nice to be in his arms and the kissing is so nice!!

i'm a little scared. this feels like what it's supposed to be like, a mature, healthy, adult relationship. i feel like i want to be with him more than anything else in the world. in a way it's not like anything i've ever experienced, perhaps because we're both feeling so connected at the same time. many times i like a guy and he's lukewarm on me or vice versa, we just can't get the feelings together at the same time. i don't want something bad to happen with us. i really think i'm falling or already in love with him. we both agree that our relationship, marathon, not a sprint and honestly i don't feel anxious. i feel calm about him but super excited when he's on his way over or we talk or are going out on a date or just hanging out. i told myself that i would do and say what i feel with him and not censor myself out of fear of what could go wrong. so far so good. he's very verbal and expressive with me too. he's divorced (a few years) no kids. he's also a few years older than me. he knows i want to marry and have a child and he is open to marriage again and a child so we'll see. i'm trying not to worry about all the what ifs and just enjoy the ride.

this year isn't ending at all like i thought it might but i can honestly say i'm SO happy and it feels so nice to be into someone passionately and to have those feelings reciprocated. i really hope 2013 is my year for love and more.

i guess that's it ;) i just wanted to share what's going on with my curlfriends.
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  • goldencurlygoldencurly Posts: 2,385Registered Users
    I have no advice for you. But I will say YAY!!! to feeling passionate about someone and having them reciprocate.

    I wish you all the best in 2013 and beyond :love6:
  • kaybkayb Posts: 5,054Registered Users
    The joy you feel came across very clearly in your post. I'm very happy for you luvmylocs. I hope everything works out.
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  • spring1onuspring1onu Posts: 16,528Registered Users
    :love5:

    This was so wonderful to read, I was smiling the whole time. Best of luck to you in this relationship!!
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  • JosephineJosephine Posts: 14,175Registered Users
    That's so nice, so happy for you. I can relate and it's wonderful.
  • murrrcatmurrrcat Posts: 9,596Registered Users
    that's so nice, I can't relate, but I assume its wonderful, everyone says so.
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  • cyndicyndi Posts: 3,341Registered Users
    So happy for you! Best wishes in 2013!
    I think that I deceive genius.:happy10:
  • jeepcurlygurljeepcurlygurl Posts: 19,250Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    Ain't love grand?
    Good luck!
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  • SariaSaria Posts: 15,963Registered Users
    Aww, what a sweet, serene post! I wish you the best this coming year! :)
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  • dee-naturedee-nature Posts: 630Registered Users
    Love is beautiful and without it we are incomplete. I feel you i am head over heels koukou for coco puffs in love and what makes it amazing is that the feeling is mutual! Yay! Good luck for 2013 please keep us posted

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  • StarmieStarmie Posts: 6,681Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    What a lovely positive post! I hope things work out for you both.
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  • CurlyCanadianCurlyCanadian Posts: 10,780Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    Awwww.....that made me smile :)

    Best wishes for a brilliant 2013!!!!
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  • LadyV69LadyV69 Posts: 3,397Registered Users
    I've forgotten what falling in love was like. It's been so long since I felt anything like that. Best wishes for you and your relationship in 2013. If I ever do what I need to do, I hope to feel the same way about someone one of these days.
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  • The New BlackThe New Black Posts: 16,738Registered Users
    I'm happy for you LML
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  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Posts: 17,495Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Awesome. Wishing you guys the best!

  • irociroc Posts: 7,890Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    When I was at that point with bf, I resigned myself to let down my guard and completely open myself to him. Once I put down the walls, I could tell he fell for me even more. And when I was sure of my feelings I just took a chance and told him. It was hard bc im so closed off with my feelings normally. But he was very responsive.

    Good luck, and good for you!


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  • JosephineJosephine Posts: 14,175Registered Users
    So when are you going to tell him? :geek:
  • luvmylocsluvmylocs Posts: 7,578Registered Users
    thanks for the kind words, well wishes and support!! :love5:

    josephine, i'm not sure when i'll tell him. knowing me, i'll probably just blurt it out one day ;)

    iroc, thanks so much for sharing your story. i'm in total agreement with you. i know you can get hurt when you love hard but i just don't think it's worth it unless you give it your all.
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  • coilynappcoilynapp Posts: 4,233Registered Users
    I left this tab open because I wanted to read it when I wasn't busy (I'm at work). All I have to say is YAY!!!!!! I love love :D

    Congrats and I wish you happiness and much success in this relationship.
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  • LAwomanLAwoman Posts: 2,949Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    I am just so happy to read your post, luvmylocs.

    You really deserve a wonderful man, and this guy sounds really great. Even better, he sounds like he is helping to bring out the best in YOU! :love7:
    I think 2013 is going to be an amazing year for you!
  • OBBOBB Posts: 4,174Registered Users
    please turn in you "Forever Alone Club" card to our club president and good luck to you :thumbleft:
  • dee-naturedee-nature Posts: 630Registered Users
    luvmylocs wrote: »
    i know you can get hurt when you love hard but i just don't think it's worth it unless you give it your all.

    Thats is sooo true!!!

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    perfect. It means that you've decided to look beyond the imperfections.”:wav:

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  • wild~hairwild~hair Posts: 9,890Registered Users
    Yay, so happy for you, lml!

    ^ When I typed "lml" it autocorrected it to "mom." A good omen, I must say! :D
  • luvmylocsluvmylocs Posts: 7,578Registered Users
    ^^^ that is awesome and thanks girl!!

    i receive all the positive energy your girls (and obb) are sending my way. thanks!!
    a dreamy pisces :fish:
    please recycle, it matters...
    i change lives...through fitness
    i'm more relaxed being natural
  • mad scientistmad scientist Posts: 3,530Registered Users
    Awwww.....that made me smile :)

    Best wishes for a brilliant 2013!!!!

    Ditto! Loved reading your post (-:
  • OBBOBB Posts: 4,174Registered Users
    i dedicate this song to you Luvmylocs

    KNOCK ON WOOD "Amii Stewart" - YouTube
  • MojoDojoMojoDojo Posts: 702Registered Users
    Aww that brings back memories. I may have to go snuggle now from all them warm toasty feelings.

    Good luck to you both! You sound very happy!
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  • luvmylocsluvmylocs Posts: 7,578Registered Users
    OBB wrote: »
    i dedicate this song to you Luvmylocs

    KNOCK ON WOOD "Amii Stewart" - YouTube


    giggle ;) i'll take it...let me find some wood!!!
    a dreamy pisces :fish:
    please recycle, it matters...
    i change lives...through fitness
    i'm more relaxed being natural