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Anyone up for "No Shorter than Shoulder-Length"

I have gone from having super long hair as a child to a Halle Berry cut and long again. I keep flip-flopping, even though I know really short hair looks atrocious on me. :evil:

So...

I would like to propose a challenge for any brave souls out there who are in the same flip-flopping boat.

If you're someone who knows your hair should never be shorter than shoulder-length, maybe this is for you. My challenge is a way to become more disciplined in this area.

When my hair is really short, I like it the first week or so, then I get angry and frustrated as it grows out, and dream of having long hair.

If I make a pact with at least one other person to never cut my hair shorter than shoulder-length again in life (no more bobs or pixie cuts!), I'll really keep my word.

By the way, shoulder-length means just that. No chin-length anything. When someone is facing you, they should not be able to see anything behind you from your ears to your shoulders.

It's a crazy proposal, I know. I was thinking we can even check in every now and again with moral support and encouragement. Is anyone game?
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  • reformedreformed Posts: 4Registered Users
    I'm game! My hair is almost shoulder length and driving me nuts at the moment. I've been growing it out for almost 2 years and got it "trimmed" (about 2 inches) about 6 weeks ago. I was just today eyeing the chin length bob of a coworker and deluding muself that shorter could work for me. I know, however, that if scissors touch my hair again any time soon I will end up getting it allllllll cut off.

    Did you read my mind?!

    My hair was short (less than 3 inches on average) until 2 years ago. Short was easy, but I didn't like the lack of options for styling, and I hated not being able to camoflauge a bad hair day (loving the ability to clip it up now!). I haven't figured out the curly hair of length thing but I WANT TO!

    We can do it!!! Right? ;)
  • ShinyShiny Posts: 49Registered Users
    Yay! :D

    I can certainly relate, reformed. My hair touches my shoulders. Now that it's this length and I've passed the awkward grow-out phase, I can just live my life without stressing over hair growth from this point on. Any hair growth past where it is now is gravy...icing on the cake.

    People wonder how Indian women have such long hair. Easy - they typically don't mess with their hair and leave it alone, only trimming a tiny bit if absolutely necessary.

    I am already planning my Christmas season updos!
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  • heavengirl410heavengirl410 Posts: 821Registered Users
    I would like to try as well, In Jan 2006 I had waist length hair, then cut it above shoulder length, and have had it cut several times since then, I MISS my long hair so bad.
  • Oregano  (formerly babywavy)Oregano (formerly babywavy) Posts: 5,297Registered Users
    I'll jump in too. I'm constantly cutting off my hair, only to be miserable 2 weeks later. I was growing out my hair for my wedding in October of 2005. I had gotten it longer than I had in a long time. It was past my shoulders, which is a feat for me.


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    Then I decided sometime in January of 2006, that it looked ratty, and then some stupid hairdresser talked me into cutting it all off, and so I did. :evil:

    Okay, so then I was so mad that it was short - so can you explain to me why back in August I chopped off ALL my hair, and gave myself a really short curly bob? I mean, it was cute, but I knew I didn't want it short, so why would I do that?

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    Okay, now it's probably reaching the curve of my shoulders/neck - so it's not quite shoulder length yet. I don't go to a stylist, I cut it myself, and i haven't done it since I chopped it all off in August. I've sworn that I am not going to touch it, I'm just going to let it grow. Since my last cut I've only done S&D's on my split ends, but I am determined to NOT cut it and let it grow long FINALLY. I've been on this obsessive cutting disaster since high school!
    ~ the artist formerly known as babywavy ~

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  • DarbyDarby Posts: 1,025Registered Users
    I've done the same thing. I look at old pics from college days where I had long hair - way past bra strap. And then I cut it short. Since then, the longest I had was shoulder length. And then I get tired of it or feel that it's stringy and I get it cut short again. This last go around.... I was growing it out but got some bad cuts from a non-curly stylist and it was looking quite bad. I complained to my new stylist who is deva trained, and she said I had two options.... either let the short layers grow out to catch up with the longer ones OR cut the longer ones to match the shorter ones and start over.
    I decided for the latter. I STILL don't know what I want!! I really like the idea of having longer hair but my hair is so fine and thin, it might not look good. I've gotten compliments on my new cut (shorter hair). UGH... What to do. The curl is much better shorter. So, I"m still in the deciding stage.
    Darby
    PW:curlyhaired

    Natural hair color - dark brunette
    Fine, thinish hair/3a, 3b
  • ShinyShiny Posts: 49Registered Users
    Babywavy, your hair looks GREAT either way! It looks silky and soft.

    When I was growing out my Halle Berry cut last year, the bottom half of my hair grew 3x faster than the top. So I cut the bottom half to be the length of the top half so my hair would be more blunt and have more swing as it grew out. I didn't want crazy layers. I wanted to be able to pull all of my hair into a ponytail, not have to gel down the top pieces. It worked! I now have shoulder-length hair that is full with NO layers or stray bits.

    OK ladies, we have a deal. A deal is a deal - a promise. When our hair gets past shoulder length, we can NOT give in to the temptation to cut it to chin-length (or worse) or ear-length or shorter. The shortest we can go is back up to our shoulders.

    I think all women look great with shoulder-length hair. :)
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  • ClaritaClarita Posts: 198Registered Users
    I'm in! For the past few years I've been trying to keep my hair trimmed to shoulder length. However, since I trim it myself I often end up taking off too much trying to even it out. :oops:

    This challenge goes along well with my self-imposed "no cutting in 2007" challenge. I'm going for waist length (still got a way!) just to see if it is possible, but I know I never ever want it shorter than shoulder length again!
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  • Oregano  (formerly babywavy)Oregano (formerly babywavy) Posts: 5,297Registered Users
    Thanks Shiny!!

    I'm also trying to grow out my layers. Something else I've been "trying" to do for years, but never succeeded. I'm sick of having the same old layered curly style that I've had since I was 16. I really need to stick with it so I can try something new.
    ~ the artist formerly known as babywavy ~

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  • vanek07vanek07 Posts: 86Registered Users
    I'm in too! As a freshman in high school I cut my long hair into this cute short bob. I totally loved it so I kept getting it cut like that again. When I finally wanted to grow it out I would let it until it hit this completely awkward stage and so I would go in for a trim and then end up having all my hair cut back into a short cut. My hair hasn't hit my shoulders since freshman year and now I'm a senior. The last time I cut it was December and I liked it for like 2 weeks and now I want long hair!
  • LImeLIme Posts: 57Registered Users
    I'm in as well!!!! My hair was the longest and waviest it had ever been, however i needed a change and was convinced to get it all cut off pixie style..i have done this many times before..grow then cut..but this time it was very painful..i loved my wavy long hair..short does not look good on me ever and is too much maintenance!!! So far i have been growing it out for 5 1/2 months and it is one of the most "painful" hair things i have ever had to do..my wave has not totally come back as of yet..i am still "condition washing" and CG..these layers and going to take forever to grow out..i am trying to see how long i can go without a trim...

    For me, i hope this will be the LAST TIME..i grow out and cut off my hair!!
  • LadyCurlyLocksLadyCurlyLocks Posts: 341Registered Users
    I'm in!!! I'm trying to get my hair to a little below BSL anyway, but I'm game to say that I'll NEVER have hair shorter than shoulder length again!!!
    3B Corkscrew... I'm back on the boards now! Just got The Big Chop on Monday, pics coming soon.
  • csbcsb Posts: 225Registered Users
    I'm in. My hair needs to be as long as my collarbone or longer. I kept worrying about it because I just hit 40, but I still look better with longer hair.
  • CurlyQTPieCurlyQTPie Posts: 447Registered Users
    I'm in! My hair was almost to my waist and then I got the bright idea that I would cut it into a chin length bob. This was after my daughter was born, so I blame it on being postpartum! LOL...

    Anyway, since then the growing out process has been painful and I can never manage to keep it very long. I have a deva cut and the longest part of the layers is to the very tips of my shoulders, but the bulk of my curls is to my chin really. I would love to have long hair like the picture of Shakira at the Grammy's that someone posted!
    3B with some 3a. Fell off but am now back on the CG bandwagon and looking for my HG products.
  • ShinyShiny Posts: 49Registered Users
    Awesome! So we have a deal. :D

    Remember our pact the next time you reach for the phone to call your stylist or before you touch those scissors, ladies!
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  • JeanGenieJeanGenie Posts: 33Registered Users
    Dude, I am so on board. I'm glad to see I'm not the only one that has cut it all off so many times! It is about a couple of inches from shoulder length now, but I really want for it to get long again, at least BSL. I need all the help and encouragement I can get!
    Hair type: 3A. Almost chin length with Bettie bangs. Currently using GF Curl & Shine S/C, leave in and jojoba oil. Colored black. Check out my curly journal on this site!
  • ShinyShiny Posts: 49Registered Users
    Do we have any more takers?
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  • KurlyKaeKurlyKae Posts: 3,413Registered Users
    Shiny wrote:
    Do we have any more takers?

    Me! Me! Like Now, who is going to go to the hairdresser with me so that I don't let her talk me into anything foolish? Like csb, I'm a 40 (almost 41) year old 3a/2b who needs to keep a little length.
    3a/2c
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  • csbcsb Posts: 225Registered Users
    I'd love to, but I doubt you're coming to Savannah for a cut. It took me forever to find a stylist who agreed that my hair looks better long. (Now if I could stick to a resolution about bangs...) Interestingly, though, as my 2b/3a hair gets longer, it also gets more spiral-y on the bottom. When straight my hair now reaches 2 inches above bsl, but when curly it's just past the break in my shoulders. Basically, the longer it gets, the shorter it gets when curly. And it's still wavy on top. Irritating.
  • bostonwavesbostonwaves Posts: 727Registered Users
    :? I'll try but I just don't think my hair grows any longer than the top of my shoulders.
    "What's the good of having naturally curly hair if nobody's jealous?" Freida - Peanuts

    ~CG 8/06 ~
    fine, wavy - 2b/3a
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  • KurlyKaeKurlyKae Posts: 3,413Registered Users
    csb wrote:
    I'd love to, but I doubt you're coming to Savannah for a cut. It took me forever to find a stylist who agreed that my hair looks better long. (Now if I could stick to a resolution about bangs...) Interestingly, though, as my 2b/3a hair gets longer, it also gets more spiral-y on the bottom. When straight my hair now reaches 2 inches above bsl, but when curly it's just past the break in my shoulders. Basically, the longer it gets, the shorter it gets when curly. And it's still wavy on top. Irritating.

    Oh, we do have similiar hair, but you are right, GA isn't around the corner from NJ! I'll have to stay strong...
    3a/2c
    Trader Joe's Tingle conditioner wash/ conditioner
    AG re:coil, LALooks gel, John Frieda Secret Weapon
  • JaxieJaxie Posts: 1,282Registered Users
    I'll jump in too! I'm working to get my hair slightly longer than BSL (when Dry), right now its a few inches above BSL when dry. I really don't like he length it is now, it is taking everything in my power not to have it all chopped off again, just b/c I hate this growing out phase! ~~jax
    2c or 3a Cut most of my hair off in July '12 and am working on regrowing it.
  • ShinyShiny Posts: 49Registered Users
    So how are we all doing with this? I'm still going strong and sticking with the plan!
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  • AnnikaAnnika Posts: 123Registered Users
    I'm joining you now! Last year I had my hair destroyed by someone who boiled it in bleach :shock: so I had no choice but to cut it off. In the back it's shoulder length, but it's shorter around the face.. partially because I had the hair framing my face and also the bottom layer in the back chemically straightened in April which just looks stupid now that I'm wearing it curly. Anyway, my hair is better the longer it is, so I'm growing it out now.
    This challenge is exactly what I need to keep the scissors out of it!
    2c-3a/m/ii (FIA), CG since June 1st, 2007!
    Love Jessicurl and KCCC might be my HG.

  • keikokkeikok Banned Posts: 585Banned Users
    No way, I cant do it. My hair is almost straight when its at shoulder length and its just too much work to get it to look nice. Now that is only 2 inches long its fluffy and curly and pretty most of the time.
    Keiko

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  • WildflowerWildflower Posts: 112Registered Users
    Count me in for sure!

    My new mantra "I will not cut and I will not bleach"
    pw: curls
  • cara4curlscara4curls Posts: 336Registered Users
    I am so in with this, and can relate to the getting it cut when it gets to an awkward length. Right now, the back of my hair is definitely shoulder length, and my front pieces are still a couple inches above, so it's a little awkward. But the curl is still good, and is more visible. And like many people here, my hair looks longer when wet. I haven't had my hair cut for more than 5 months now, which is the longest I've gone without a haircut for many years. Back in January, I had my hair cut, and although my cutter does a great job, it was way shorter than I really wanted, so I've only trimmed my bangs(since I look better with bangs, and know how to trim them)since then. My hair looks similar to babywavy's in degree of curl. You can bet that I'm going for a lot longer with NO other trimming. I'm aiming for January 2008, and see how things are going then. If they are still OK, I'm aiming for another 6 months, etc. I'm saving boatloads of money too, as it's $55 plus tip to get my hair cut, and I'm on a very low beauty budget.
    And about the not having had it cut since last January, it doesn't look like I've gone that long. My hair looks like it's the same length as about 3 months ago. Does this ever change, in that hair actually looks longer as it grows? I know this kind of a strange question.
    health-conscious, visionary artist in transition
  • JaxieJaxie Posts: 1,282Registered Users
    Unfortunately I gave into highlights in March. It did some damage, but not too much. I am keeping the length though. But I swear my hair never looks like it has grown at all!! I know it has, and I can tell when it is wet, but thats it! It is so frustrating!
    2c or 3a Cut most of my hair off in July '12 and am working on regrowing it.
  • StormCloudCurlyStormCloudCurly Posts: 116Registered Users
    I bobbed my long hair in March or April, and now I'm trying to grow it. It's not even shoulder length yet, as I've trimmed and re-shaped once since then. I've decided not to cut in until December, but the only thing is I'm starting a new job in a couple of weeks, and I need to look professional...
    pw: curlie
  • JuicyTubeJuicyTube Posts: 2,369Registered Users
    this has always been my rule
    3b-3c CG
  • NewMrs.NewMrs. Posts: 87Registered Users
    I experimented a bit in college with shorter cuts, and had a few I really liked, then I moved back hom and tried it again, and it was seriously the worst cut I ever had, think triange hair lady from Dilbert . That was in 2003 and I havent even had a trim since then (I know that bad) I'm traumatized.
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