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DH thinks he's getting fired

LoloDSMLoloDSM Posts: 3,778Registered Users
His company's year-end is this month, and things haven't been going well. Yesterday, one of the managers called DH an "arrogant S.O.B." DH is the executive director of new business for his company but they aren't interested in new business. He's given them numerous opportunities to make hundreds and thousands, if not millions, of dollars and they refuse to try them.

DH isn't over dramatic, so I believe him. Fortunately, we have six months' worth of savings set aside, but I'm scared. I can't say anything to family or friends so thanks for letting me say it here.

:-(
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  • CurlyCanadianCurlyCanadian Posts: 10,778Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    Oh no, just awful to hear :(

    Will keep you guys in my thoughts!
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  • SystemSystem Posts: 39,059 Administrator
    So sorry to hear! We're here for you! :(
  • irociroc Posts: 7,890Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    That really does suck. I hope whatever the outcome, things find a way to work out in the end.

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  • CanItBeChristineCanItBeChristine Posts: 6,343Registered Users
    Ugh, Happy Holidays, huh???

    Lots of good thoughts your way.

    And what kind of a manager calls somebody an arrogant SOB? How professional.
  • The New BlackThe New Black Posts: 16,738Registered Users
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  • wild~hairwild~hair Posts: 9,890Registered Users
    SO thought he was getting fired too. For months. Then he was, in late October. :(

    It was a shock, regardless. In the months leading up to it, he kept asking his bosses what he could do to be more valuable to the company, how he could increase his billability, and they kept telling him he was fine and it was their job to worry about that. :roll:

    Anyway, we're past the point of it being a shock and him being depressed about it. He's freelancing, and keeping pretty busy doing that, while looking for full-time opportunities. Life goes on.

    I'm glad you have six months saved up. We have some savings as well, and he did get a severance. [He was technically "let go" so that's something, I suppose. His company was known for never "firing" anyone. He worked in PR, so …] We also moved in together [planned before this happened], so there is some savings in that.

    Anyway, if it DOES happen, it is no fun, super stressful and all that. But you'll get through it, I have no doubt. ;)
  • scrillsscrills Posts: 6,700Registered Users
    That sucks. I hope everything works out :-(
  • curlypearlcurlypearl Posts: 11,970Registered Users Curl Novice
    Hope it doesn't happen!
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  • claudine19claudine19 Posts: 4,486Registered Users
    I'm sorry, Lolo.

    I hope everything works out for you.
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  • cyndicyndi Posts: 3,341Registered Users
    I'm sorry, that really sucks. :(
    I think that I deceive genius.:happy10:
  • wavycurly40+wavycurly40+ Posts: 2,017Registered Users
    Wishing you all the best. So sorry for the stress. I hope it doesn't happen, but it sounds like you have a good plan and I bet you'll land on your feet if the worst comes to pass.

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  • LoloDSMLoloDSM Posts: 3,778Registered Users
    Thanks everyone. I feel sick about it but I don't want to make DH feel worse.

    He's wanted to leave publishing for years and this might force him to do so. This will be the second time in four years that he's been let go. Ugh.
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  • goldencurlygoldencurly Posts: 2,385Registered Users
    LoloDSM wrote: »
    Thanks everyone. I feel sick about it but I don't want to make DH feel worse.

    He's wanted to leave publishing for years and this might force him to do so. This will be the second time in four years that he's been let go. Ugh.

    I was fired after my son was born and I applied for unemployment and got it! The Employment Security Commission sided with me that the reason for termination was BS. You can fire people for no reason, but if you give a reason it has to be legit (in "hire at will"/non-union workforce jobs). So there is a possibility that he can still get unemployment benefits.

    Hope for the best but have a plan. Go ahead and sit down and rework your budget right now and cut all the fluff. Save every cent you can get your hands on. For the holidays, if you have not done your shopping, talk about not buying things. Focus on the traditions of the holiday. Do stuff that is Christmas-y: go look at lights, go ice-skating, go caroling with a group from church or your neighborhood. Volunteer! Nothing gets you in the holiday spirit like giving of yourself, your time. Once I was actually unemployed, I got a regular volunteer position. It gave me something productive to do; I felt useful and I could put it on my resume.

    I will keep your family in my thoughts and prayers. I know what it's like. I am facing possible lay-off myself. If it happens I will have been laid off 3 times in 4 years!!! You feel helpless so focus on what you can control. I wish you the best!
  • violetsviolets Posts: 1,689Registered Users
    Hope for the best and wish you luck.
  • theliothelio Posts: 5,374Registered Users
    Hope it works out, But look on the brightside, he wanted out of publishing? Maybe this will give him the opportunity to find his passion!! Good Luck!
  • LoloDSMLoloDSM Posts: 3,778Registered Users
    DH just called. His company closed a warehouse and he has a 1 p.m. conference with his boss. The company is blaming Obamacare and taxes. :-(
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  • JosephineJosephine Posts: 14,175Registered Users
    I'm so sorry :(. Has he been looking for anything else or even thought about it? Hopefully it's not what he thinks it is.
  • LoloDSMLoloDSM Posts: 3,778Registered Users
    It happened. Nice package with payment this year and salary through the end of January. DH's boss was very emotional and sad because he didn't want to do it. I will have to look at the agreement and to make sure DH won't be waiving his right to unemployment benefits if he accepts the package.

    Fortunately, DH has been on the phone nonstop since Thursday and he has a couple things in the works.
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  • theliothelio Posts: 5,374Registered Users
    Oh no!! {{{HUGS}}}
  • NarniaNarnia Posts: 1,770Registered Users
    Oh no; so sorry :( Glad to hear he has many rods in the fire though. Hopefully something comes through!
    Very smart to check the package for the unemployment stipulation. I feel like someone does waive their right here for unemployment when accepting a severance package, but not sure how it works where you're from.
    Keep us posted, you're in my thoughts and prayers!
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  • OBBOBB Posts: 4,174Registered Users
    sorry to hear that Lolo
  • GretchenGretchen Administrator Posts: 8,454Administrators, Moderators Administrator
    I'm so sorry. It's quite a kick in the gut, isn't it?

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  • LAwomanLAwoman Posts: 2,949Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Oh no, I'm so sorry!! That totally stinks. :pale:
    But I'm very glad to hear he already has some irons in the fire--that's incredibly promising!
  • LotsawavesLotsawaves Posts: 8,660Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Lolo, I'm so sorry. I hate that a lot of companies lay people off around the holiday season.

    In AZ you can't collect unemployment until your severance runs out. Stay positive and know we are all thinking of you and your husband.
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  • CurlyminxCurlyminx Posts: 5,581Registered Users
    I'm so sorry.
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  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Posts: 17,495Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Praying for you guys!

  • curlypearlcurlypearl Posts: 11,970Registered Users Curl Novice
    oh, Lolo, I am so sorry. :(
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  • nynaeve77nynaeve77 Posts: 7,135Registered Users
    :( That sucks, Lolo. I'm sorry.
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