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"Don't buy me anything for V-Day."

M2LRM2LR Posts: 8,630Registered Users
If you tell your husband/SO/Whomever to not get you anything for Valentine's Day, do you mean it? Do you expect NOTHING - like even a card? Or do still still expect SOMETHING just not anything expensive?
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  • geekygeeky Posts: 4,995Registered Users
    I mean it, but I am a V-Day h8r.
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  • redcelticcurlsredcelticcurls Posts: 17,502Registered Users
    I meant it this year because S/O had a minor car accident and just payed out for a weekly rental. I just told him that I wanted a card, which will actually suffice for me as long as he writes a nice note in it. :)
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  • internetchickinternetchick Posts: 6,191Registered Users
    I mean it. But I always say what I mean. If he asks me what's wrong and I say nothing, I mean nothing. I don't like games.
  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Posts: 31,258Registered Users
    I said it, and mean it. I don't like cards.
  • lazy loopslazy loops Posts: 8,792Registered Users
    I mean it, but you know what he does, he buys me something anyhow, & since he told me not to buy him anything either, I didn't! :roll:
  • geekygeeky Posts: 4,995Registered Users
    I mean it, but you know what he does, he buys me something anyhow, & since he told me not to buy him anything either, I didn't! :roll:

    Here is what you do. Buy a box of good chocolates and hide them. If he gets you something you pull them out as a gift. If her doesn't get you anything you get to eat them yourself. It's a win-win.
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  • lazy loopslazy loops Posts: 8,792Registered Users
    geeky wrote:
    I mean it, but you know what he does, he buys me something anyhow, & since he told me not to buy him anything either, I didn't! :roll:

    Here is what you do. Buy a box of good chocolates and hide them. If he gets you something you pull them out as a gift. If her doesn't get you anything you get to eat them yourself. It's a win-win.

    So true, wise one! :)
  • MeghuneyMeghuney Posts: 4,263Registered Users
    I mean it. It's just another friggin' day.
  • Oregano  (formerly babywavy)Oregano (formerly babywavy) Posts: 5,297Registered Users
    If I say it, I mean it. I don't think it's fair to say "don't get me anything" but then still expect SOMETHING.

    Then again, I don't expect much for Valentines day anyway. I think it's pretty much reserved for people who are in the early parts of dating, and need to be reminded that someone cares about them. My husband busts his a$$ at work every day so that I can stay home with our daughter. He takes care of me when I'm sick, and cooks me dinner when I'm too tired to do it myself. Those things tell me more about how he feels about me than flowers and candy.

    That being said, I DO tell him to get something for his daughter for V-day. I think it's cute, and the responsibility of a dad to make his daughter feel important and know she has a valentine.
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  • eccentric_kurlzeccentric_kurlz Posts: 4,144Registered Users
    I mean it. We do special things for eachother all the time, so there's no need to buy something just because it's for Valentine's Day. It's funny because I have to stop him from buying me things. I think he appreciates the fact that I don't expect/need him to buy me anything, so he WANTS to spend money on me.

    AND he is paying for our trip to Puerto Rico next month, so I think it would be pretty selfish of me to expect/want anything. He already does SO much for me during the other 364 1/4 days out of the year. :)
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  • iris427iris427 Posts: 6,002Registered Users
    I mean it. SO and I agreed not to get each other anything for Valentine's Day. We've done this before so I'm not worried he's going to actually get me something and then I will be stuck with no gift for him.
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  • medussamedussa Posts: 12,993Registered Users
    Yes, I mean it. Hubby has bad taste in jewelry and I don't do chocolate. :lol:

    I also don't want a card. Two years ago, my husband got me a card and I made the fatal error or just reading his message. Apparently, he spent a lot of time picking out the card that best expressed his feelings and he was crushed when I didn't read it. :oops:
  • SweetPicklesSweetPickles Posts: 850Registered Users
    geeky wrote:
    I mean it, but I am a V-Day h8r.
    Me too. So is my husband. We do cards, but that's it. We're trying to conjure up some V-Day love from now on though, considering it's Z's birthday and all. We don't feel right h8ing it anymore.
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  • ShrekLoverShrekLover Posts: 2,551Registered Users
    babywavy wrote:
    That being said, I DO tell him to get something for his daughter for V-day. I think it's cute, and the responsibility of a dad to make his daughter feel important and know she has a valentine.

    I love this. I wish my dad had done this.
  • iris427iris427 Posts: 6,002Registered Users
    sdcurly wrote:
    babywavy wrote:
    That being said, I DO tell him to get something for his daughter for V-day. I think it's cute, and the responsibility of a dad to make his daughter feel important and know she has a valentine.

    I love this. I wish my dad had done this.

    That's really sweet. My dad got me a beautiful bracelet for Valentine's Day a few years ago and it was really touching.
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  • 2happy2happy Posts: 5,138Registered Users
    I mean it. I assume he will still get me a card, but don't care if he doesn't. In december, he gave me a ring. Last week I got a dozen roses. God knows I don't need the chocolate. I think he's relieved to be off the hook :wink:
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  • PoodleheadPoodlehead Posts: 6,959Registered Users
    I mean it. And then he always gets me a card, which makes me mad, because I always forget to get him one. I should stock up, so I have one for every occasion, because I have the same problem with our anniversary.
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  • M2LRM2LR Posts: 8,630Registered Users
    geeky wrote:
    I mean it, but I am a V-Day h8r.
    Me too. So is my husband. We do cards, but that's it. We're trying to conjure up some V-Day love from now on though, considering it's Z's birthday and all. We don't feel right h8ing it anymore.

    Guanoing my own thread, but your avatar is gorgeous!!!

    We usually get each other something small, but I am thinking this year, just cards. Hubby usually picks out some good cards, and I like getting them.

    A lady called into the radio station and said that she told her husband not to get her anythihng and then was totally shocked and pissed off when he, DIDN'T GET HER ANYTHING. The radio people were like, "DUH."
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  • deezee02deezee02 Posts: 1,509Registered Users
    i say it and mean it...

    This christmas, I told him i didn;t want anything...i told him we could fill eachothers stocking with little things and then i got him a christmas gift from Steven that was it..

    he ended up with bathroom stuff like razor heads and whatnot in the stocking and some OSU stuff from Steven, i did not spend more that $50...and i would have had to buy him most the stocking stuff within the month anyways..

    He got me a massaging pillow thing, bath and body works stuff for the stocking and from Steven...a freakin caret diamond necklace...did i like it YES, was i kind of pissed YES. His excuse was that he is a jeweler and cannot not buy me jewelry b/c it is just what he does..

    i told him i didn't want anything for V-day...just for him to plan the night out for once so i didn't have to worry about anything but looking pretty...he never wants to paln anything, hell i even decided what we did on my birthday last yaer :roll: so this will be gift enough (even though he is predictable so i pretty much can figure it out)
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  • pinksugarpinksugar Posts: 2,346Registered Users
    I mean it. My husband's birthday is the 8th (today), our wedding anniversary is the 12th, and then Valentine's too. We don't celebrate Valentine's Day with gifts.
  • Oregano  (formerly babywavy)Oregano (formerly babywavy) Posts: 5,297Registered Users
    I took a nap, and slept on it, and decided I change my mind a little.

    Although I may say I don't want anything, I don't consider a card to be "anything". I mean, c'mon, it's like 2 bucks, and paper, and takes seconds to pick up. I'm a card person, and I think people can take a little bit of time to pick up a card. It makes people feel good.

    So although I don't want anything like gifts or such for Valentines day (or my birthday), I'd still appreciate the thought being put into buying a card.

    And yes, my dad - although usually being absent from my life - would often get me chocolates and a little "be my valentine" card. It made me feel so special, because kids are so left out of this holiday. So I encourage dh to do the same.
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  • PoodleheadPoodlehead Posts: 6,959Registered Users
    babywavy wrote:
    And yes, my dad - although usually being absent from my life - would often get me chocolates and a little "be my valentine" card. It made me feel so special, because kids are so left out of this holiday. So I encourage dh to do the same.

    Your dad was sweet. My FIL used to be that way too.

    However, you don't really think kids are left out on Valentine's do you? My kids come home with almost as much candy on VD as they do on Halloween, plus cards from all their classmates, and each class has a party where they make a craft involving candy, and usually have a treat on top of it all. Trust me, they are NOT left out.
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  • Oregano  (formerly babywavy)Oregano (formerly babywavy) Posts: 5,297Registered Users
    Poodlehead wrote:
    babywavy wrote:
    And yes, my dad - although usually being absent from my life - would often get me chocolates and a little "be my valentine" card. It made me feel so special, because kids are so left out of this holiday. So I encourage dh to do the same.

    Your dad was sweet. My FIL used to be that way too.

    However, you don't really think kids are left out on Valentine's do you? My kids come home with almost as much candy on VD as they do on Halloween, plus cards from all their classmates, and each class has a party where they make a craft involving candy, and usually have a treat on top of it all. Trust me, they are NOT left out.


    Well, ya, but it's a little different coming from someone special like your dad, ya know?
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  • JessyCatJessyCat Posts: 91Registered Users
    I like Valentine's Day for it's cutesy commercial qualities TBH. I told my lover that I didn't want anything with a smile; he knew I didn't mean it! We both like to give each other small, silly little gifts for Valentine's. It's fun, we're young, why not?

    I miss being a kid and passing out a billion of those little rip apart cards. ;]
  • medussamedussa Posts: 12,993Registered Users
    Poodlehead wrote:
    My kids come home with almost as much candy on VD as they do on Halloween, plus cards from all their classmates, and each class has a party where they make a craft involving candy, and usually have a treat on top of it all. Trust me, they are NOT left out.

    They've outlawed candy in my son's school. You know, the whole wellness theme. :roll: The teacher sent home the class list for parents who wanted to send in cards. But no candy, please. Bastages!
  • marielle448marielle448 Posts: 1,823Registered Users
    I don't tell him what to do or not do and he does the same for me. There have been years we've given each other cards, one year he surprised me with a photo printer he snatched on sale, other years we've done nothing but we do buy stuff for each other at any moment during the year (or buy stuff for ourselves). Pretty much the same for christmas.

    We definitely avoid the restaurants around this time like the plague and when he proposed it was 3 days after Valentine's Day because he didn't want to intermingle our special moment with the mass holiday and be a bit predictable.

    We don't view Valentine's Day as a command to do something cheesey and lovey dovey but we don't avoid doing something sweet for each other on Feb. 14th because people think it's a hallmark holiday either. Most years we do nothing but that nothing is pretty good for us year round.
  • mayimmayim Posts: 2,301Registered Users
    my bf and i decided (mostly at my suggestion) not to get each other anything for v-day, because we're saving for the move.

    but then i sent him this link.

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  • MMWMMW Posts: 557Registered Users
    I said it this year, and I meant it. I have no plans to buy him anything, so I hope he doesn't get me something. I don't need some arbitrary day to express how I feel to him, and I don't have to buy him something to do it.
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  • yagottaloveyacurlsyagottaloveyacurls Posts: 5,766Registered Users
    I boycott V-day. I'm a V-day hater, too.

    I don't think I've ever told my husband "don't get me anything" (for Christmas/birthday). I like presents.

    I tell everyone else that (don't get me anything) but not my husband.
    If I told him that, he would probably think I wasn't feeling well or something.
  • MegaraMegara Posts: 424Registered Users
    iris427 wrote:
    sdcurly wrote:
    babywavy wrote:
    That being said, I DO tell him to get something for his daughter for V-day. I think it's cute, and the responsibility of a dad to make his daughter feel important and know she has a valentine.

    I love this. I wish my dad had done this.

    That's really sweet. My dad got me a beautiful bracelet for Valentine's Day a few years ago and it was really touching.

    Awww! I agree. I remember one year when I was very young (maybe 8ish?) we picked my dad up from the airport on VDay and he had a red rose for my mom, and a white rose in a little mailbox vase for me. I will always remember that Valentine's. Probably the ONLY one I will ever remember!
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