Newbie in need of some advice

SunStarsMoonSunStarsMoon Registered Users Posts: 1
Hi everyone :wave: I've been "lurking" on the forum for a little while and finally decided to join. I've had issues with my hair for as long as I can remember. I've always been very self-conscious about it. When I was younger I just wanted to have straight hair like everyone else. I was even made fun of growing up because my hair was curly. I used to try to straighten my hair but it's so curly it doesn't hold and is always frizzy. It literally used to take my hours to blow dry and then straighten my hair and the outcome was less than desirable. I eventually gave up on straightening it several years ago and have been wearing my hair curly ever since.

My routine is fairly easy- I shampoo and condition every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday. I am currently using One 'n Only (sulfate free) shampoo and conditioner. I have tried everything, from the most expensive to least expensive and I have never been able to tell much of a difference in the way my hair looks. After I wash my hair I put in two pumps of the One 'n Only curl cream (my hair is very thick) and I let it dry naturally. I wash my hair at night so by the time I wake up in the morning it is 99% dry. In the morning I usually wet my hair just a little and then apply a small amount of Beyond the Zone Noodle Head cream.

Here are the problems I'm having...the hair at the top of my head is extremely frizzy (always has been) and I usually spray the top with hairspray to somewhat tame the frizz. If pull my hair up and pull some of the bottom layer down, there is a drastic difference- the top portion is very dry and looks damaged while the bottom is very healthy looking and almost silky feeling. This doesn't make sense to me because I do not color my hair or use heat on it so I cannot figure out why there is such a difference between the top layer and bottom layer. I have one side of hair that seems to grow faster and is thicker than the other, (I've been told this is normal) but on that side, it is always twice as frizzy as the other side and dryer than the other side. My hair overall has always been extremely dry. Whenever I get my hair cut they always comment on it and try to get me to try some product. I've tried them all though and nothing seems to help.

So I came here looking for some help. Does anyone have any suggestions as to what I might be doing wrong or what I could do differently? I hate having to spray hairspray and "glue down" the frizz on top and I'm so tired of my hair being so dry. I'm attaching some pictures below to give an idea as to what my hair looks like now. I've never been able to determine what hair type I am- it seems I am between a couple. Any suggestions you all might have would be greatly appreciated :smile:



  • KorkscrewKorkscrew Registered Users Posts: 1,834 Curl Neophyte
    Figuring out your hair properties - like porosity, density, elasticity - can help. These might guide you toward appropriate techniques/products. ... Debatably, many of us also place some value on curl typing systems, like Andre Walker's chart (1,2,3,4 / a,b,c) to determine size of curl and texture.

    Some specific ingredients may or may not affect your hair dramatically. Some vary depending on climactic changes (with humidity/dew point changes). Some hair loves or hates protein in products. Sulfates and silicones have a certain affect, and so on. Balancing product when in combo is impt. Experiment.

    You can peruse this site and continue gathering info (like on the things stated above, and more), and keep posting questions.

    Just a gentle reminder: everything is relative. What's "dry" or "super curly" to one head of hair is normal for another. You might have to accept certain aspects of your hair. Also, frizz isn't necessarily Satan's halo. A certain amount of it often comes with the territory. Curly hair will rarely be 100% predictable or "controllable", which is half the beauty of it. Unless you chemically or thermally beat it into flattened submission, it will always have a will to do its own thing (brave little determined thing).

    At times, I've had to fight against a tendency to fall into the trap of wanting "perfect" curls because it sets me up to be what folks here call a "product junkie" (My affectionate term for it is "product b--ch", because you get owned before you can bat a lash). It's an expensive, trifling little addiction that annoys lovers everywhere :D I mention this to you now just as a heads up.

    Good luck!
  • Aqua_LilyAqua_Lily Registered Users Posts: 557
    Welcome!! :)

    I'm also fairly new to the CG method... I also have frizz on top. But some things are gradually working... Like putting gel in the top of your hair when it's wet, let it dry, then scrunch it out. Or, add a nourishing oil. Experiment with products :)

    Other than that, it's as Korkscrew said, you can never 100% control curly hair.
    Current length: tailbone
    Goal length: mid-thigh (wet)
    3A/2C M iii med por, high elast

    Clarify: Nivea
    Lo-poo: Nature's Gate
    CW: Elvive Volume Collagen
    RO: EO Keratin, Desert Essence Raspberry

    LI: Elvive volume collagen, KCKT
    Seal: Grapeseed oil
    Gel: Studioline

    PT: EO Keratin co
    DT: RO+oils
    Hairgrowth stim.: JBCO+EVCO 5-10$ discount code:
    VHT541 Many natural hair products! :D
  • GretchenGretchen Administrator Moderators Posts: 10,840 Curl Virtuoso
    Welcome, SunStarsMoon! We're glad to have you here with us. Check out our Texture Types area to start learning more about your hair.

    Gretchen co-founder

    You are beautiful!

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