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How do I make my natural hair look nicer?

Yeah yeah, I know I'm young (you'll be able to tell in the pics I post) but don't just answer with "You're too young to worry about looks" because whether I am or not, I do worry.

So I went to school today with straight hair, and everybody said I looked "a lot better". Agh! That was like a slap in the face >_< I've always hated my hair, but now I feel even worse. *sigh*

Here's me with my natural hair:
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And me this morning:
sexayyladayy.jpg

Anyway, is there anything I can do to make my hair look nicer (I don't use animal tested products, so don't suggest things owned by proctor&gamble etc)? I know there's probably a wealth of knowledge on this forum, but I have a lot of things to do and not enough time to browse around. My hair is reminiscent of a mop, and I feel really, really ugly -_-

Thanks for any help ~ Elisabeth

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  • waterlily716waterlily716 Posts: 781Registered Users
    You are not ugly. You're very pretty, and I love your curls. They make you look fun. :)

    What's your current curly hair routine? It's hard to suggest something if we don't know what products and how you apply them... how you sleep on your hair.. etc.
    [sigpic][/sigpic]
    3a/b low to normal porosity curls
    CG method since 2006 @:-)
    CO wash: suave naturals coconut
    rinse out CO: GVP conditioning balm
    stylers: KCNT, CK, jessicurl spiralicious
    @waterlily716 on YouTube, FB, & Twitter
    Blog: Curls and Blossoms

  • HouseofcurlsHouseofcurls Posts: 322Registered Users
    You are super cute! The difference they are probably noticing (therefore commenting on) is the frizz. I can tell in your pic there is not a ton of definition in your curls. What's your products?
    I use Shea moisture and I really like it, smoothed a lot of my frizz down.
    Rae ~ 2c/3a ~
    Wife to a 3c Curly Guy
    Mom to a straight and a curly.


    "The Longer the Hair, the Bigger the Blob."

    Porous, very dense but fine hair. Medium everything else.
    CoWash: Tressemee naturals
    RO: Generic biolage and generic joico k-pak
    LI: Tresemee
    Miss Jessie's Pillow soft curls, diffuse 50%, add KCCC and diffuse to 80%.
    Always wash upside down.
  • lj_princesslj_princess Posts: 46Registered Users
    nooo your natural hair is nice! Probably the dye dried it out abit, try a deep treatment
    your curly hair is similar to shakira's...im jealous :P
    finally starting to love my hair ^.^
    12813d725e4d11e28d7d22000a1f981a_7.jpg
    cleanse: Dr.Bronner mild castile soap
    condition: tresemme naturals (sometimes used as styler)
    LI/style: curl cream mixed with coconut oil (current cream by andalou naturals)

    product minimalist :sunny:
  • triple_spiraltriple_spiral Posts: 249Registered Users
    You are so cute....seriously, never think you look ugly!! Your hair looks good both ways, but I love the curly hair.....amazing volume! Maybe work on defining the curls more - do you use gel or leave-in conditioner? Shampoo?

    Also, know that people tend to like whatever is different. I wore my hair STRAIGHT from age 7 - 22....when I went curly everyone raved about how cute it was, how it looked great, etc. Then I changed cities, and my friends here have only ever known me with CURLY hair - and they see pics of the straight haired me and rave about how cute it looks, how I should try and straighten it again, etc. People just like seeing something DIFFERENT, it's not that your curly hair doesn't look nice!
    [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]

    4a?? Maybe 3c...some 4b??? No clue

    tiny s-waves, coils, and spirals


    - Cleanser: CJ Daily Fix or KC Come Clean
    - Co-wash: Suave Naturals or V05
    - RO: GVP Conditioning Balm or Tresemme Naturals
    -Stylers: Garnier Pure Clean Gel, CJ Aloe Fix, KCCC


    "I remember your childhood hair....flowin' wild at the county fair" - kelley stoltz

    "and all the hours that you've been sitting at your vanity....may they carry you far from your misery" - conor oberst
  • ThreehoursThreehours Posts: 8Registered Users
    Thanks guys :3
    What's your current curly hair routine? It's hard to suggest something if we don't know what products and how you apply them... how you sleep on your hair.. etc.

    All I do is shampoo with this:
    Avalon Organics | SHAMPOOS
    And condition with this:
    Fragrance Free Conditioner | J
    If I'm going to wear a ponytail or bun out of the house, I'll put some gel by "Aussie" l that's so old (from the time I still used animal tested things) they no longer sell it.
    I comb my hair while its still wet, and then ponytail it to dry because otherwise, it'll end up quite frizzy at the top and it looks pretty... crazy X)
    I sleep with my hair in a ponytail.
    And that's all I do to my hair, ever, except maybe the occasional dye or bleach (on only one spot every time, the one in the second photo).

    Again, thanks guys :) :toothy8:
  • EricachristinaEricachristina Posts: 496Registered Users
    I agree with everyone else you should really be proud of how you look.


    Your natural hair is nice, you don’t have very defined curls but you still have some nice waves. I also think your hair looks much better in its natural state, so much more volume! Don’t feel bad about what the people at school think, everyone prefers different things and you are going to get people who love your hair straight and others who love it curly so just go with what you like.

    I use the Shea Moistures line many of their products keep my hair feeling nice and soft.
  • poemaXXpoemaXX Posts: 456Registered Users
    Threehours wrote: »
    Here's me with my natural hair:
    uglayyladayy.jpg

    WHOA – Has no one told you you look like SHAKIRA?!!!
    normal_Selene%20Miranda%201.jpg

    Ok, freak out over. :) But seriously, embrace your curls! I think they give you so much personality.

    If you're looking for cruelty-free products, I highly recommend Aubrey Organics. <3 Shea Moisture is good too.

    Do you know your hair's properties (porosity, texture, etc)? This site is very useful: /home/leaving?target=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.livecurlylivefree.com%2Fcurly%2520hair%2520basics.htm" class="Popup Figuring that out will help you find products that will work well for you – just check the signatures of users on this forum to find a "hair twin". And ask lots of questions!
    || 3b; normal porosity; fine/normal texture || CG since Feb 2010 || SD/dandruff prone

    Current Routine BAQ henna 1/month Leave-in OH Hair Dew Cheapie Conditioner Tresemme Naturals Moisturizing
    Old Stand-bys extra-virgin coconut oil Protein AO GPB; Moisture AO HR Style AOMMJ – Kept for troubleshooting.
    Waiting to try extra-wide curlformers SD treatment H&S Clinical Strength

  • poemaXXpoemaXX Posts: 456Registered Users
    nooo your natural hair is nice! Probably the dye dried it out abit, try a deep treatment
    your curly hair is similar to shakira's...im jealous :P

    SEE!!!! Glad I'm not the only one who thought that. :cyclopsani:
    || 3b; normal porosity; fine/normal texture || CG since Feb 2010 || SD/dandruff prone

    Current Routine BAQ henna 1/month Leave-in OH Hair Dew Cheapie Conditioner Tresemme Naturals Moisturizing
    Old Stand-bys extra-virgin coconut oil Protein AO GPB; Moisture AO HR Style AOMMJ – Kept for troubleshooting.
    Waiting to try extra-wide curlformers SD treatment H&S Clinical Strength

  • ThreehoursThreehours Posts: 8Registered Users
    poemaXX wrote: »
    WHOA – Has no one told you you look like SHAKIRA?!!!
    normal_Selene%20Miranda%201.jpg

    Ok, freak out over. :) But seriously, embrace your curls! I think they give you so much personality.

    If you're looking for cruelty-free products, I highly recommend Aubrey Organics. <3 Shea Moisture is good too.

    Do you know your hair's properties (porosity, texture, etc)? This site is very useful: Live Curly Live Free - Curly Hair Basics Figuring that out will help you find products that will work well for you – just check the signatures of users on this forum to find a "hair twin". And ask lots of questions!

    Wow! What a nice site! That's really great :) Judging by what it tells me, I'd have fine hair, normal porosity. It feels a lot thicker when its curly, but that's how it is when its straight. That pic was after not having washed my hair for a bit, so I might post some with different hair washing intervals. On average, this seems disgusting, but I only was it like, once a week. (I'll just have to Photoshop my face out of some pics, because I look like a complete idiot in them haha)
  • ThreehoursThreehours Posts: 8Registered Users
    bossme.jpg
    That's me with my best pigeon friend, Boss, who sits on my shoulder whenever he sees me. Such a good bird <3 He follows me everywhere. This is five days without washing. When I type it out it sounds repulsive!

    jeemyfacelooksstupid.jpg
    That was while I was camping, that was three days without a good wash.

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    And lastly, here's me at the airport, coming back from America! That's washed the night before and dried in a bun.
  • jsuzkelleyjsuzkelley Posts: 610Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    You have beautiful hair! I agree your curls look like Shakira's :) And it's not unusual at all for curlies to go that long without washing. Shampoo can be very drying to curls - have you considered trying a shampoo free method? You might find that it helps reduce some of the dryness/frizz. You might want to also leave some conditioner in your hair to help with moisture and curl definition. Fine hair generally likes protein, and keeping a good balance of protein and moisture is important to help your curls look their best. I also think a gel or jelly type styling product will help give definition and eliminate frizz. I prefer the more natural products - I agree that Shea Moisture is a good brand. I also like kinky curly curling custard as a styler - it gives me good definition/frizz control without making my hair crunchy - but it does have a bit of a learning curve to figure out the right amount and application that works best. I like to use it in dripping wet hair - if I apply it to just damp hair, it feels sticky/producty. Hopefully some of that helps - let us know how things go :)
    2c/3a, botticelli/wavy/'swavy (huh?)
    fine, dense, normal porosity/elasticity, dry climate
    My favorite brands are Kinky Curly, As I am, Curly Kinks, Curl Junkie, and Darcy's Botanicals. Also love sealing with oils (loving argan oil right now) and styling with jelly products (KCCC is my current favorite). Mostly trying to keep it simple!
    [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]

    CG since 12/29/2011 :laughing6:
  • ThreehoursThreehours Posts: 8Registered Users
    jsuzkelley wrote: »
    You have beautiful hair! I agree your curls look like Shakira's :) And it's not unusual at all for curlies to go that long without washing. Shampoo can be very drying to curls - have you considered trying a shampoo free method? You might find that it helps reduce some of the dryness/frizz. You might want to also leave some conditioner in your hair to help with moisture and curl definition. Fine hair generally likes protein, and keeping a good balance of protein and moisture is important to help your curls look their best. I also think a gel or jelly type styling product will help give definition and eliminate frizz. I prefer the more natural products - I agree that Shea Moisture is a good brand. I also like kinky curly curling custard as a styler - it gives me good definition/frizz control without making my hair crunchy - but it does have a bit of a learning curve to figure out the right amount and application that works best. I like to use it in dripping wet hair - if I apply it to just damp hair, it feels sticky/producty. Hopefully some of that helps - let us know how things go :)

    There's a lot of great tips here, thanks! This "Shea Moisture", do you think they sell it in Canada? Everyone recommends it! I had considered going shampoo-less but I'd rather just use mild shampoo or something :colors:
    Thanks everyone for your pro suggestions and stuff :D <3
  • CurlyJ9CurlyJ9 Posts: 23Registered Users
    Do you have Target or Walgreens? That's where I find the SheaMoisture products. I love it! I used it for a deep treatment last week & got super results. And your curly hair is way prettier than your straight hair.

    Sent from my PC36100 using CurlTalk App
    Curly Girl From Texas
    3a-3b
    Low Porosity
    Medium Density
  • jsuzkelleyjsuzkelley Posts: 610Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Hmm...I've read that it's hard to get the same products in Canada that we have here in the US. But here's a link to a thread I found in the swap board for Canada curlies - there are some Canada based websites mentioned where you can order a lot of products geared for natural or curly hair without having to pay international shipping. I have no idea if any of them carry Shea moisture, but you should be able to find some other good, natural, cruelty-free products to try. Here's the link to the thread: http://m.naturallycurly.com/curltalk/showpost.php?p=1379829
    You may also want to consider looking through the Canada swap board to see if there are some products you want to try that someone is getting rid of. HTH!
    2c/3a, botticelli/wavy/'swavy (huh?)
    fine, dense, normal porosity/elasticity, dry climate
    My favorite brands are Kinky Curly, As I am, Curly Kinks, Curl Junkie, and Darcy's Botanicals. Also love sealing with oils (loving argan oil right now) and styling with jelly products (KCCC is my current favorite). Mostly trying to keep it simple!
    [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]

    CG since 12/29/2011 :laughing6:
  • Oats22Oats22 Posts: 48Registered Users
    I hope you find the right combination that you need for your hair to be at its best! You have lovely hair, nice curls, and there's so much you can do to help with frizziness and definition. Have you considered sulfate free shampoos? (has someone said this already?)

    However, I am here to ask...

    How on earth do you have a pigeon friend??! And how do I get one? I want a pigeon to love me, and follow me where I go :(
    Last Relaxer: July 6th, 2012, approx 1:30pm.
    12 months/52.2 weeks/365 days transitioning!



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  • poemaXXpoemaXX Posts: 456Registered Users
    +1 on getting the inside scoop re: the pigeon!! :D
    || 3b; normal porosity; fine/normal texture || CG since Feb 2010 || SD/dandruff prone

    Current Routine BAQ henna 1/month Leave-in OH Hair Dew Cheapie Conditioner Tresemme Naturals Moisturizing
    Old Stand-bys extra-virgin coconut oil Protein AO GPB; Moisture AO HR Style AOMMJ – Kept for troubleshooting.
    Waiting to try extra-wide curlformers SD treatment H&S Clinical Strength

  • ThreehoursThreehours Posts: 8Registered Users
    Hm, no there's no Target or Walgreens in Canada. I'll look around to see if I find some.
    And about the pigeon friend, I'm a pigeon rescuer, in fact - today is the anniversary of getting my first pij, two years ago. So of course, I chill out with them a lot. Eventually, they get used to you (I don't know how they don't find it weird that I kidnap their injured friends), and there you have a pigeon friend! I do anything from a quick syringing to surgery.
  • Knotty_MaddyKnotty_Maddy Posts: 518Registered Users
    I'm in Canada too, so I feel your pain on lack of product :( I have been using TiGi products (which are full of 'cones, but not sulfates, and they don't test on animals as far as i know) You could also try Suave products, if you are out West here like me, Save On has them. Many people here co-wash with Suave. L'Oreal also has has a line of shampoos and conditioners without sulfates, called EverStrong, EverPure, EverSleek and etc. They also have a co-wash product called EverCreme. Every pharmacy across Canada has them. Save-On also has Renpure Argan Oil shampoo and condish, as well as other organic items. Rexall Drugstore in the West of Canada has Abba pure lines and Aubrey Organics.

    You have lovely hair, it has the same curl pattern as mine :) I see *nothing* wrong with your hair - I agree with other poster that people just like different things, that is the only reason they commented on your straight hair.

    You can be who you are, and people will still love you anyways :) Let your freak flag fly! I did note the pigeons don't care a jot what you look like - maybe you can take a page from their book :) you are a lovely young girl with lovely hair, eyes and smile. You have it all!
    Finer, mixed with coarser strands, low-porosity, wavy curly whirly hair...3A, 2C hair. Medium thickness, medium elasticity.
    S-shaped hair with corkscrew ends. My hair is even more confused than me ;p
    My hair officially hates protein ;) Once a month is enough!
    Currently a fan of TiGi products, (rock on, TiGi Curlesque styling creme!) but that will soon change - I am a self-avowed product junkie! Yay! :D
    BIG fan of supersoaker method - thanks Rudeechick!
  • dianemary126dianemary126 Posts: 184Registered Users
    You are so pretty!! I love your hair both ways but your wavy curls are very unique and beautiful. Like others suggested, i would say a nice leave in and gel might be helpful but never be ashamed of your pretty natural texture! :)
    Diane
    NYC/NJ
    2c/3a..fine/regular texture..normal porosity..low elasticity..high density..cherub curls

    MONAT all natural hair products are the absolute BEST
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    goals: grow out bad breakage cut and artificial hair color1
    last softener: Sept 2010
    last color: 2.14.15
    last cut/trim: 4.7.15

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  • MojoDojoMojoDojo Posts: 702Registered Users
    Threehours wrote: »
    Hm, no there's no Target or Walgreens in Canada. I'll look around to see if I find some.
    And about the pigeon friend, I'm a pigeon rescuer, in fact - today is the anniversary of getting my first pij, two years ago. So of course, I chill out with them a lot. Eventually, they get used to you (I don't know how they don't find it weird that I kidnap their injured friends), and there you have a pigeon friend! I do anything from a quick syringing to surgery.

    Target just bought a lot of the Zellers locations, so in the near future we should have some.

    But for now, I'd suggest not washing with shampoo daily (maybe once a week or once every two weeks) - but if you must wash daily, do a co-wash (basically the scrubbing motion of shampooing but with conditioner) between actual shampoos. Use a good moisturizing leave in, and either a gel or a curl cream scrunched into soaking wet hair, then plop with a tshirt or microfiber towel (you can youtube it if you don't know how), then let air dry the rest of the way.

    The act of pulling it back into a bun could be causing frizz. I've had that problem in the past.

    I do like the Live Clean line - it's no animal cruelty, silicon/paraben free, sulfate free line, from Canada. Their shampoos are kinda meh, but I liked their conditioner as a leave in, and their gel gave really soft but nice hold. You can find these at any shoppers drug mart, wal-mart, or superstore. Apparently sobey's has them too, though I've never looked.
    I AM THE NEANDERTHAL SLAYER!!!
  • Amazing_JaiAmazing_Jai Posts: 36Registered Users
    I happen to think you're very pretty and your natural hair looks much better than your straight hair :) I too, prefer cruelty free products and also recommend Shea Moisture. I haven't tried Aubrey Organics but I've heard great things about them. Another company that I like (but haven't used in a while) is Cocoa Pink. Curls is good too but is pricey.


    8-)Hey, I tweet about my hair journey too along with other things

    :tongue7:Oh, and my tumblr

    New on my healthy hair journey and developing my regimen. Exploring my inner product junkie
  • Oats22Oats22 Posts: 48Registered Users
    Threehours wrote: »
    Hm, no there's no Target or Walgreens in Canada. I'll look around to see if I find some.
    And about the pigeon friend, I'm a pigeon rescuer, in fact - today is the anniversary of getting my first pij, two years ago. So of course, I chill out with them a lot. Eventually, they get used to you (I don't know how they don't find it weird that I kidnap their injured friends), and there you have a pigeon friend! I do anything from a quick syringing to surgery.

    That is just about the coolest thing I've ever heard of! What a great thing to do to help animals!
    Last Relaxer: July 6th, 2012, approx 1:30pm.
    12 months/52.2 weeks/365 days transitioning!



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    "Right now I'm wearing a 'Darn-I-Went-To-Bed-Without-A-Scarf' and later I'm gonna try a 'Salvage-This-And-Try-To-Look-Presentable.'"

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