Help a straight haired mama out.

MyCurlyGirlMyCurlyGirl Registered Users Posts: 1
Hi! This is my first post here and I could really use some advice. My 3 year old daughter has gorgeous curls and I have no idea how to manage them. The more I do the crazier her hair looks. I've attached a pic (hope it worked!) where you can see how she kind of has two heads of hair going on. Is it possible to have curly-stright hair? Some info:
-I've never cut it. (Should I?)
-It's very fine.
-I use Ouidads Kurly Kid shampoo and cond.
-The bottom has tight ringlets the top is almost stright. (Does that mean these are just baby curls and her hair will go straight if I cute them off?)

Thank you:love7:


  • subbrocksubbrock Registered Users Posts: 8,212
    Have you checked out the Curly Girl book?

    Sent from my SPH-D710 using CurlTalk App
  • etosetos Registered Users Posts: 221

    what a beautiful hair your daughter has!

    there's a lot to learn about how to handle curly hair! Most of the curlies here are fan of the Curly Girl (CG) method, witch includes no sulfates (found in most shampoo's, yes even in most shampoo's 'for curly hair') and no silicone's. Because curly hair is very easy dry and damaged, it is best to wash with conditioner or a shampoo without (harsh) sulfates and use a lot of conditioner. Because you skip the sulfates, you can't use silicone's because you can only get silicones out of your hair with sulfates. If you use silicones but no sulfates, the hair becomes limp because of the build-up from the silicones. Also brushing/combing curly hair is not a good idea, unless the hair is soaking whet and full of conditioner when you are detangling it.

    I would really recommend the curly girl book, what subbrock also said. But also a lot of information on this website is very good. Maybe look for some articles about 'no shampoo method'.

    I know MopTop has some products for curly, child hair (it goes with the name 'fuzzy duck'). They are silicone and sulfate free. Before you are using them on your daughters hair, wash one more time with a shampoo with sulfates (and no silicones) to remove possible silicone build-up. After that you can start with using only sulfate and silicone free products on your daughters hair.

    good luck!
    highlighted 3a hair. Fine strands, medium to high density. Probably high porosity. Growing uit bad layering and aiming for waist lenght!

    Pre-poo: coconut oil
    wash: CJ Daily fix or SheaMoisture Coconut&Hibiscus
    RO + LI: different every time
    Styler: CJ Pattern Pusha, CJ CIAB

    dislikes: glycerin in low dews, scissor happy stylists, magnesium sulfate

    (modified) CG since june 25, 2012
    Hiarfinity + extra MSM since March 5., 2014

    SL - APL - BSBL- BSL - MBL - WL (stretched)
  • masona23masona23 Registered Users Posts: 2
    Your daughter is beautiful!

    I just wanted to say that it absolutely is possible to have straight hair on top and curls on the bottom. I had this for most of my childhood (I also have very fine curly hair and a straight-haired mom who wasn't sure how to handle it). It might be because her hair is weighted down at the bottom, which cutting it might help if you can find someone you trust to cut it!
  • generositytgenerosityt Registered Users Posts: 245
    What a beautiful little girl and her hair and hair color are amazing!
    My daughter is 5 and I cut her hair (mvself) twice. Every time it grows in a different state! the first time it was baby hair, big wild curls, I cut it off and it came out really tight ringlets, I cut it again last year (she was 4) and it's growing now as this loose curls, still curl but looser than it was after the first big chop. Now her hair is all even (before it was always this baby hair, some places are full, some are really thin, now it's all thick) so I will never cut it again unless she wants to.
    I rarely use shampoo in her hair. Her hair feels really dry after I do (which convinced my husband to give up shampoo when he gives her her bath). I do conditioner wash, I put lots of conditioner in her hair and cleanse the scalp with my finger tips in circular motion. Her hair is very fine and really easy to detangle so I don't add extra conditioner to it, I just detangle really quick (I don't want the dirt to settle again on her scalp) and quickly wash out the conditioner and the dirt. When I'm done with her shower I dry her hair with a towel, add about a pea size conditioner to it and brush it with a denman brush to help the curls formation. Then I take a little bit (really a small dot in my palm) of olive oil or coconut oil and seal the moisture in her hair. And then we're done for two days or three days. I only freshen the curls with a dot of oil in my palm and rake through it the next day, if it's too frizzy then it's time for a cute little style, pig tales, pony tale and a flower, a braid or two in front, etc. anything will look cute on her at this age.
    Basically I don't mess much with her hair, and I let it do its own thing. I just make sure we're using only healthy stuff (no silicones, no alcohols, only natural products) on her hair.
    Your daughter's hair is even finer than my little one's. I think if you limit the use of the shampoo to only once or twice a month, you will see a big difference in her hair and I wouldn't worry much about some frizzy days. She's cute as a button so some flyways will not matter much.
    A Mediterranean 3b lady
    In love with my curls, love love love
    CG since Nov/07

    Co-Wash: VO5, Tresemme naturals, Fructis naturals
    Cond: Nature's Gate conditioners
    Stylers: Lotions made at home with coconut oil, honey, AVG, vegetable glycerin, OO, and EO.
    Gel: LA Looks sports gel for high humidity days.

    Hair goal: Waist length healthy curls

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