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Poll- Do you let your S.O. touch your hair?

DH can't really get why hands are off limits in my hair. He wants to run his fingers through it, and I'm like, "But they'll get stuck and tangled and then we're REALLY in trouble!"

SO - do you let yours play with your hair or is it stictly off limits to all but your stylist?
If you're not going to make your dreams epic, why bother to dream anything at all? -Scott Miller
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  • cyndicyndi Posts: 3,341Registered Users
    When I had a SO, he knew not to touch my hair unless we weren't going anywhere the rest of the evening.
    I think that I deceive genius.:happy10:
  • NetGNetG Posts: 8,116Registered Users
    Usually, if a guy starts wanting to play with my hair, we won't be going anywhere and it's about to get more messed up anyway.....

    I would mind if my hair were to the point where a guy couldn't play with it. Touchable is an absolute necessity, higher priority than appearance for me.
    The pews never miss a sermon but that doesn't get them one step closer to Heaven.
    -Speckla

    But at least the pews never attend yoga!
  • aladyfortyaladyforty Posts: 10Registered Users
    my hubby walks past when Im sitting watching Tv and messes my hair up like Im some little kid :D He knows I really hate this
    3 to 3A, a mess of layers of different lengths, I just want to get it looking good at whatever length.
  • jennifer ^v^jennifer ^v^ Posts: 16Registered Users
    Ha. He can go at it all he wants...but he's been warned that he's going to have a bit of an issue untangling himself afterwards. One time, he tested the mangle factor while I was sleeping, and I awakened to him wriggling his fingers and looking at his hand as if it had been swallowed by the Hair Blob.

    :shock:

    A quarter bottle of conditioner later, he said that he then believed me. Now, he just pets my head rather apprehensively whenever he gets the urge to run his fingers through my hair.
  • AmsterdamAmsterdam Posts: 3Registered Users
    This is not really an issue with a curly SO. Who uses gel and lets his hair airdry crunchy and then scrunches - HIS way, not my way. ;)
    3b/c, corkscrew? Thick (as in: a lot), dark brown, medium texture, around shoulder length.

    In the meantine... I've had the haircut of my life at Toni & Guy and feel much better about my hair than when the pics were taken. :)
  • curls&swirlscurls&swirls Posts: 70Registered Users
    If I'm getting ready to go out and he reaches for my hair I duck. Otherwise, he can play with it all he wants because who cares? And if I need to go somewhere suddenly and my hair looks bad, I'll wear a scarf or a hat.
    Don't keep up with the Joneses....drag them down to your level--Quentin Crisp
  • curly kirancurly kiran Posts: 1Registered Users
    I generally don't let my boyfriend touch my hair. The mainnthing he doesn't understand is that he isn't allowed to come anywhere near my hair when its wet. When its dry i don't mind him touching it if we're not going anywhere. But if we end up going somewhere i have to tie it up. I think he just finds the whole thing quite funny!
  • JessicurlJessicurl Posts: 401Registered Users
    I generally don't let my boyfriend touch my hair. The mainnthing he doesn't understand is that he isn't allowed to come anywhere near my hair when its wet. When its dry i don't mind him touching it if we're not going anywhere.

    These are the exact rules at our house. :) NEVER touch it while it's wet, also NOT if we're going out - if we're just staying in, sure - but don't make fun of me after you've messed it all up. ;)
    If you're not going to make your dreams epic, why bother to dream anything at all? -Scott Miller
  • MeekoMeeko Posts: 7Registered Users
    Maybe it's just the way my hair is but it seems to look pretty much the same no watter how many times people pulls , prod , pat , or mess around with it.
    I don't have an S.O but a few of my friends often play around with my hair and it doesn't really bother me unless they're really rough with it , because it hurts. But it doesn't really seem to look very different afterwards.
    Maybe the definition of home is the place where you are never forgiven, so you may always belong there, bound by guilt. And maybe the cost of belonging is worth it.
  • ravenqtravenqt Posts: 2Registered Users
    My hubby loves to play in my hair too and I don't mind...it's kind of soothing actually :) .
    Natural since August 2002
    Hair type- 3C with some 4A in the front and 3A at the nape.
  • JessicurlJessicurl Posts: 401Registered Users
    Maybe I'm just scarred from college when my friends used to love to play "How big can we make Jess's hair?" It was always quite a sight after THAT little party game. :)
    If you're not going to make your dreams epic, why bother to dream anything at all? -Scott Miller
  • pixelpixel Posts: 43Users Awaiting Email Confirmation
    Jessicurl wrote:
    I generally don't let my boyfriend touch my hair. The mainnthing he doesn't understand is that he isn't allowed to come anywhere near my hair when its wet. When its dry i don't mind him touching it if we're not going anywhere.

    These are the exact rules at our house. :) NEVER touch it while it's wet, also NOT if we're going out - if we're just staying in, sure - but don't make fun of me after you've messed it all up. ;)

    Same here!! :D
    Very fine 3c with a little 4a sprinkled in at the crown to make things interesting!
  • inheritedcurlsinheritedcurls Posts: 2,954Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    ravenqt wrote:
    My hubby loves to play in my hair too and I don't mind...it's kind of soothing actually :) .

    I'm with you ravenqt. I love to have my hair played with. Needless to say...I'm a ball of frizz later but a ponytail fixes that. :wink:
  • ravenqtravenqt Posts: 2Registered Users
    inheritedcurls,

    Yeah, my hair is all over the place afterwards too :D, but it's all worth it in the end :wink:.
    Natural since August 2002
    Hair type- 3C with some 4A in the front and 3A at the nape.
  • Confused CurlyConfused Curly Posts: 229Registered Users
    Thankfully, I don't have an SO now since my hair is all hard and damaged and just plain ugly. Bleach will never again touch my hair.

    Normally, I love to have a guy run his fingers through my hair. I try to use as little product as possible. I actually do finger tests on it on my own. Guys are the reason I avoid gel when my hair is healthy. I love soft touchable hair and I hate that gelled up crunchy look.

    Granted, my hair is not all that curly and once it is dry it isn't very tangled, so it is not that hard to get back in shape if it is looking good. If it is looking bad, it can't look worse so it is not an issue.

    Outside the state of Florida, my hair is not capable of big. Thank heavens!
    Do you know why they call it "PMS"? Because "Mad Cow Disease" was taken.
    --Unknown, presumed deceased
  • rubyloxxrubyloxx Posts: 88Registered Users
    cyndi wrote:
    When I had a SO, he knew not to touch my hair unless we weren't going anywhere the rest of the evening.

    yup!
    3 b/c curls with bangs.
  • ArwynNArwynN Posts: 4Registered Users
    I've only dated two guys that openly admired my hair :cry: Even then, touching was not so much an issue, I think men are somewhat intimidated by my hair. My current SO is not into touching in general :? I'm with the other(s) that said touch-ability is a big priority, maybe one day I'll get a man that takes advantage of all the hard work I do to make my mane soft and touchable. That said, moderate touching is okay with me IF my hair is COMPLETELY dry. When wet, hands off! :wink:
    3a/b hair, mid-back length
    CG since 06/03/03
    WWBD?
  • curlyamzippitycurlyamzippity Posts: 65Registered Users
    My husband LOVES playing with my hair. Not touching it or running hands through it, but playing with it. he takes a curl, stretches it and watches it bounce back. he sticks it in my ears. he laughs when the front top (which is VERY frizzy) sticks straight up in the air. he positions the front in different vertical positions and laughs when it doesnt move. (this happens best when it's dry and there's no product in it.) he just likes playing with the curls. Especially watching them bounce after he lets them go! He really likes when my hair is in a braid and he can stick the end of it in my ear. (he's just a big child!!) :D

    So, I dont let him play with them when they're wet. IF he did, the gel would lose hold and ruin the curl. I'd end up with all frizz!!
    Most of the time, though, he can play with them. I dont mind, even if we're going somewhere. It only happens once every few years that we're going somewhere important enough for me to veto playing with my hair!!

    By the way, I have a bonnet that attaches to my hair drier for deep conditioning. He loves it because it looks so funny!!! (it scares the cat, though! ) :D
    3b
    Pooless since 2/9/04
    Fav. Products: Elucence condish, Jessicurl Aloeba, Biotera Gel, Jessicurl Too Shea
  • AmsterdamAmsterdam Posts: 3Registered Users

    By the way, I have a bonnet that attaches to my hair drier for deep conditioning. He loves it because it looks so funny!!! (it scares the cat, though! ) :D

    Yep, did that today with Fekkai's Shea Butter Mask on and my boyfriend cracked up laughing so much he had to put down the phone. He did raise his thumb while doing this, he thought it was cool.
    3b/c, corkscrew? Thick (as in: a lot), dark brown, medium texture, around shoulder length.

    In the meantine... I've had the haircut of my life at Toni & Guy and feel much better about my hair than when the pics were taken. :)
  • SherryLSherryL Posts: 82Registered Users
    I chose: "Sure, why not?"

    I love letting my husband touch my curls... but the key thing is that he knows "how" to touch my curls. He knows to "cup" them rather than run his fingers through them. He is well trained. ;)
    3a, BSL, color treated/highlighted, fine strands (but lots of them), high porosity
    Routine: Modified CG, protein lover
    Location: South Florida

    :walk:
    I'm a curly-headed runner, triathlete and foodie! Sweat, chlorine, sun... my hair gets tortured by it daily. It somehow always manages to 'bounce' another day!
  • JessicurlJessicurl Posts: 401Registered Users
    Meezer wrote:
    he knows "how" to touch my curls. He knows to "cup" them rather than run his fingers through them. He is well trained. ;)

    See, now THAT is a guy who gets it! I tried explaining that once.... :roll: 8)
    If you're not going to make your dreams epic, why bother to dream anything at all? -Scott Miller
  • Kell50Kell50 Posts: 1Registered Users
    My husband wants nothing to do with my hair when it's wet. If his arm brushes against it, he jumps back and acts like he just touched anthrax or something.
    He tries to be affectionate by un-curling my curls, and if I'm not going anywhere, I'll grit my teeth, force a smile, and try to keep from pushing his hand away. :shock:
    3C in the front, 3A in the back in No. Virginia
  • ManxCatMomManxCatMom Posts: 1Registered Users
    I let him touch it, but not run his fingers through it 'cause that hurts and turns it into a frizzy mess.

    My cats are allowed to do whatever they want however--lying on my hair, kneading it--everything goes! You can tell where my priorities are :wink:

    --Jill
    Curlyara got me right between the eyes!
    snowball.gif
  • AustinAustin Posts: 37Registered Users
    Anytime he wants. Life is too short not to let him touch my hair.
    "Time wounds all heels."
  • blanclilablanclila Posts: 107Registered Users
    I've noticed that mine will stroke my hair (sort of like you'd stroke a cat) when I'm wearing it straight or wavy and I haven't obviously put product on it. If it's wet or gelled-up or pomaded, or I've styled it curly (which usually involves gel), he doesn't seem to want to touch it. I think he just doesn't like the feel of it when I've used product. Not that I blame him, I don't like to touch his hair when it's pomade-slicked down either. :P
    wavy / coarse / thick
  • curlie_gurliecurlie_gurlie Posts: 18Registered Users
    I can't keep my own hands out of my hair. I love the way it feels. That is probably why it's always a little frizzy, but if I can't play with it, it is not fun! :D

    I always let people touch it even though it makes it frizzy. I would rather have frizzy hair than be a big grouch.
    Why try to fit in when you were born to stand out?
    Member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints.
  • brownilocksbrownilocks Posts: 28Registered Users
    He can play with anything he wants! :P
    3c fine-textured shoulder-length spirals with layered cut. I Like Pantene relaxed & nat. condish, biolage gelee, and Suave aloe gel. Cutting my own hair these days, and I'm a plopper too!
  • rubyloxxrubyloxx Posts: 88Registered Users
    the shorter my hair...the less it gets messed up.... so now I wouldnt really mind... but I don't have an SO... so I go to mom. :) She has the nice long fingernails. Haha.
    3 b/c curls with bangs.

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