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Pen Pal what ever happened to having those?

JohariJohari Posts: 673Registered Users
Maybe its just my schools but I never had a pen pal.Like now I'm taking French and in the textbook they talk about pen pals but weren't not actually getting real ones.
I thought it'd be kind of cool to have a pen pal but maybe my school doesn't do them for safety?

But anyways is there anyway to get one because I want to know what its like in other areas or countries outside of my state.
-And did you school ever have a pen pal assignment?

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  • SariaSaria Posts: 15,963Registered Users
    The internet happened. :p

    I had a couple. I thought it was kind of boring, really.
    It could still be done via email, though, and I actually think it could make it better. In fact, I know some kids still have them via email.
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  • kaybkayb Posts: 5,054Registered Users
    I still have "e-pals." There is a guy in Argentina I speak to regularly and one in Macau. I don't have the pen pals I did when I was a kid, but I miss them :(
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  • LadyV69LadyV69 Posts: 3,397Registered Users
    I had a couple of those as a kid, but then, I came of age before the internet (I'm ancient). Why wait weeks for somebody to write back to you when they can respond to you within minutes or hours?

    You can still have them, only not by snail mail. I think there are at least a couple of sites where you can have e-pals.
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  • DepressedCurlsDepressedCurls Posts: 836Registered Users
    I had a pen pal. Amazing one. For 4 years...he's now my boyfriend. Of almost one year. :) although we make trips now and text and talk on the phone, we still write. Very romantic..

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  • JohariJohari Posts: 673Registered Users
    Lol the internet.But not everyone has a computer at home and pen pals is old tradition(well I don't know if it is but still).
    Maybe its just my school system in the area I live in but during grade school I never had a school bus pick me up from home(except pre-school).I had to walk to school or take the public bus since I didn't have a family car but I was thinking back about how in tv people have a school bus.
  • mrspoppersmrspoppers Posts: 7,223Registered Users
    When I was a kid in the 70s, teachers would do pen pal exchanges with classes in other parts of the country or world. I got a couple pen pals that way but they never really lasted. When I was in the 5th or 6th grade, I was pen pals with my cousin in England. That was kind of fun and we wrote for a while.

    These days there are all these privacy concerns and nobody uses the mail. Email does seem smarter.
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  • JohariJohari Posts: 673Registered Users
    ^id just be afraid of inappropiate pictures with email.

    But I'm kind of tempted to pen pal people in jail because many people probably don't write them and they're all alone...maybe I've been watching too much tv but I feel sorry for them.Like there's a show on A&E called 'beyond scared straight' that sends at risk teens to jail to hopefully make them change their ways.
  • The New BlackThe New Black Posts: 16,738Registered Users
    The Internet and email
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  • medussamedussa Posts: 12,993Registered Users
    My school never had a pen pal assignment. When I was 12, a magazine I used to read called Teen Magazine ran a "Meet Your Astrological Pen Pal" piece. You had to tape 50 cents to a form and check off the attributes you wanted in a friend. I got the name of a girl named Johanna, who lived in Newark, NJ. We corresponded for a bit, but she kind of fell of the face of the earth. I was really disappointed. Shortly after, I received a letter for a girl from Redgranite, WI. I guess they sent me Johanna's name and address, and sent mine to the girl in WI. We became fast friends. We corresponded from 1981 until 1987, when I flew out to meet her. Then we met again when I was the maid-of-honor at her wedding in 1991. In 1998 she came to NYC when she was in my wedding.

    We no longer write to each other, but keep in touch through FB and send each other cards at Christmas/birthdays.

    I wouldn't feel comfortable with someone in prison having my name and home address.
  • Fifi.GFifi.G Posts: 15,490Registered Users
    I had a pen pal in 4th or 5th grade. It was part of our English class. He was one year younger than me, from Stockholm Sweden, and really nice. We exchanged several letters. I still remember little details, but can not remember his name. We both loved the movie Duck Soup, and referenced it often. We had several things in common. It was fun talking to him. As others said, the Internet happened. Hand written letters and trips to the library soon died.

    Just a funny side note about my pen pal: Years later I read an interview with Alexander Skarsgard (Eric Northman) saying his favorite movie is Duck Soup. He has loved it since childhood. He is from Stockholm, and a year younger than me. I often think... What are the chances?? Even if it wasn't him, I will pretend it was. Lol.
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  • Fifi.GFifi.G Posts: 15,490Registered Users
    Johari wrote: »
    ^id just be afraid of inappropiate pictures with email.

    But I'm kind of tempted to pen pal people in jail because many people probably don't write them and they're all alone...maybe I've been watching too much tv but I feel sorry for them.Like there's a show on A&E called 'beyond scared straight' that sends at risk teens to jail to hopefully make them change their ways.

    Please trust me when I say, no you don't. I've had/have friends in prison that I've written. People I have known for 20 to 30 some years. I thought it would be a nice gesture to check in from time to time, let them know what was going on at home, etc... because very few people go to see them or write them.

    Prison does a number on people. They are beyond bored, in a stressful situation, and this wears on the mind. Before you know it they start sending letters once a month, once every two weeks, once a week, and then every single day-respecting a reply on all of them. It's exhausting enough with people you know. Forget a stranger (and the added) danger!
    When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

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  • SarcasmIsBeautySarcasmIsBeauty Posts: 5,640Registered Users
    I had a pen pal in the 3rd grade. I don't remember much about it.

    My bf had a pen pal too but his school had them write to prisoners :(
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  • EilonwyEilonwy Posts: 12,389Registered Users
    Johari wrote: »
    But I'm kind of tempted to pen pal people in jail because many people probably don't write them and they're all alone
    I wouldn't do that. It's very easy for the person in jail to manipulate you.

    I agree that our prisons are awful, but there are safer ways to help out.
  • mrspoppersmrspoppers Posts: 7,223Registered Users
    Eilonwy wrote: »
    Johari wrote: »
    But I'm kind of tempted to pen pal people in jail because many people probably don't write them and they're all alone
    I wouldn't do that. It's very easy for the person in jail to manipulate you.

    I agree that our prisons are awful, but there are safer ways to help out.
    Seriously, have you seen those prison pen pal sites? Also, there is no way in hell I'd let a minor be a pen pal with an adult convict.
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  • cymprenicympreni Posts: 9,609Registered Users
    A safer option would be soldiers. There are probably quite a few that don't have families or a lot of friends to write to them.
  • StarmieStarmie Posts: 6,675Registered Users Curl Dabbler
    I had penpals when I was young, it wasn't done through school though, I think there was some international penfriend organisation that you could write to with your details and they would put you in touch with people. I had three - one in New Zealand, one in Sweden and one in Italy. The NZ and Swedish one I kept in touch with for a few years, the Italian not so long. I still remember their names and even the address of the Swedish girl! It just sort of fizzled out, nothing to do with the internet, this was back in the 70's.
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  • LadyV69LadyV69 Posts: 3,397Registered Users
    I'm with some of the others that having a pen pal in prison wouldn't be safe, especially for a minor. Prisoners are often master manipulators. It can be difficult enough for some grown women to resist them. Minors don't often have the maturity or experience to establish boundaries or to recognize whether or not they're being played with. Doing it with a soldier is a far better alternative.
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  • JohariJohari Posts: 673Registered Users
    over email my real home address wouldn't be given out,but maybe I shouldn't try now since I saw a lifetime movie about that.
  • EilonwyEilonwy Posts: 12,389Registered Users
    Johari wrote: »
    over email my real home address wouldn't be given out
    There are problems besides having someone break into your house. Prisoners often convince the people who write to them to do dangerous things.
  • murrrcatmurrrcat Posts: 9,596Registered Users
    Fifi.G wrote: »
    I had a pen pal in 4th or 5th grade. It was part of our English class. He was one year younger than me, from Stockholm Sweden, and really nice. We exchanged several letters. I still remember little details, but can not remember his name. We both loved the movie Duck Soup, and referenced it often. We had several things in common. It was fun talking to him. As others said, the Internet happened. Hand written letters and trips to the library soon died.

    Just a funny side note about my pen pal: Years later I read an interview with Alexander Skarsgard (Eric Northman) saying his favorite movie is Duck Soup. He has loved it since childhood. He is from Stockholm, and a year younger than me. I often think... What are the chances?? Even if it wasn't him, I will pretend it was. Lol.

    You should ask him!!

    I had one in middle school and we met at a park....I mean everyone had one so like my middle school and theirs met. I didn't really mesh with mine. I write my friend back home letters. I like to write letters it's fun. Lol! Snail Mail rules.
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  • B-wavyB-wavy Posts: 1,733Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    I had a penpal in grade school, but the letters dwindled off in a couple of years. When my family moved from PA to MD then to VA, I corresponded with those friends for several years. Then, as others have already noted, the internet happened - *boom* - no more letter writing. That is, until this past year when I reconnected with two of my cousins. One doesn't have internet access, so she and I have started writing letters. We speak on the phone fairly often, but we were reminiscing about when we used to exchange letters all those years ago and decided to begin again. I really enjoy it - it's a very different experience than firing off an email or text.
  • JohariJohari Posts: 673Registered Users
    Yes I miss how there's few direct contact like instead of a phone call my friends would rather txt.
    And maybe its just people my age but when you start "talking" to a guy he texts not calls.Its hard to get to know someone through texting.
  • Fifi.GFifi.G Posts: 15,490Registered Users
    murrrcat wrote: »
    Fifi.G wrote: »
    I had a pen pal in 4th or 5th grade. It was part of our English class. He was one year younger than me, from Stockholm Sweden, and really nice. We exchanged several letters. I still remember little details, but can not remember his name. We both loved the movie Duck Soup, and referenced it often. We had several things in common. It was fun talking to him. As others said, the Internet happened. Hand written letters and trips to the library soon died.

    Just a funny side note about my pen pal: Years later I read an interview with Alexander Skarsgard (Eric Northman) saying his favorite movie is Duck Soup. He has loved it since childhood. He is from Stockholm, and a year younger than me. I often think... What are the chances?? Even if it wasn't him, I will pretend it was. Lol.

    You should ask him!!

    I had one in middle school and we met at a park....I mean everyone had one so like my middle school and theirs met. I didn't really mesh with mine. I write my friend back home letters. I like to write letters it's fun. Lol! Snail Mail rules.

    If I ever have the chance, I will. I will also ask if he wants to be pen pals again ;) ;) ;) Know what I mean? Rotfl.

    I still like hand written letters and snail mail too. It's a little more personal, and adds some suspense.
    When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

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  • SpiderSpider Posts: 3,380Registered Users
    I had two pp in HS- Cathy from Wisconsin and Murielle from France. That was back in the 80's but I did try to find them on Facebook just out of curiosity.

    There's just something lost via Internet / email letters. My husband just got back from a year's deployment and we messaged/ texted almost everyday. But i really cherish his handwritten letters from basic which is the only way he could communicate home.
    So much time, emotion, thought into those letters when you have the ability to put down thoughts and dreams that seem out of context in the immediate response mode like text.
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  • JohariJohari Posts: 673Registered Users
    ***UPDATE

    I had sent like 20 emails to people on this one site but only 1 responded and he was from Nigeria,i was hoping for it to be someone from a country i wanted to visit one day.I guess its better to travel than have a pen pal but I'm playing a game on my phone and its kind of like having a pen pal but i didnt know it was like that at first.

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