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Natural Hair Advice That Didn't Work for Me

I decided to post this sort of rant about some pieces of common natural hair advice that didn't work for me. Doesn't mean these things wont work for you - but it's a lesson that you have to do you.

1. No shampooing. I have the oilest scalp on the planet and it flakes too. The worst of both worlds. While I love the idea of co-washing my way into soft hair frankly my scalp hates when it doesn't get good scrub.

2. No trimming. Even when my hair was straightened I always knew when I needed a trim. My hair would start acting and looking funny. This has been the same since it was natural - sometimes my ends just give up on me.

3. Wear protective styling. I tried this for 4 months and honestly I still had really dry and crunchy ends and my head hurt from all the bobby pins. Now I wear my hair out almost every day and as long as I moisturize I'm fine.

4. No combing. Some people can finger detangle and some people can't. But I'm talking mid-week third or fourth day hair that is tangled as all heck and spraying on some magical water is just making it worse. Honestly I have to sometimes just pull out that wide tooth comb.

5. Just let it air dry. Ha! that's the sound my hair makes when laughing at me. Now sometimes this works and sometimes it doesn't - but I have to be careful because re-wetting my hair can cause funky mildewy scalp and trying to style hair when it was supposed to air dry often just ends up with frizzy hair.

That's my list. Let me know what natural hair advice you had to reject.

Comments

  • atuneatune Posts: 4Registered Users
    As a bonus let me add
    Use protein: Nope my hair hates it. Just ends up straw like and brittle. Matter fact trying to do a protein treatment let me down the path of dry hair which I've been struggling to come back from for a year.
  • KorkscrewKorkscrew Posts: 1,834Registered Users
    I totally agree that all these "hair rules" don't/can't apply to every person. You make a great case for the numerous exceptions. Fact is, curly hair takes work, and no one-fits-all formula can erase that fact.

    Great posts!
  • raindearraindear Posts: 356Registered Users
    Not only is this not a "one size fits all" sort of world, it is also a "nothing, with the possible exception of water works for everyone" sort of world. And, even water seems to differ for many. Some love hard water, some love soft water, some use filtered/distilled water on their hair. You will see a broad spectrum of commentary on every conceivable product/ingredient/method out there. We can start with our hair properties to try to narrow our choices, but inevitably we will still have to experiment to find which things will work for us for ourselves.
    Be Happy!

    Type:2b/3ab?
    Texture:Medium/fine
    Porosity:Normal
    Elasticity:Normal

    Experimenting with too many products to name here. All this great info keeps my head spinning. :happy6:
  • juanabjuanab Posts: 4,037Registered Users
    raindear wrote: »
    Not only is this not a "one size fits all" sort of world, it is also a "nothing, with the possible exception of water works for everyone" sort of world. And, even water seems to differ for many. Some love hard water, some love soft water, some use filtered/distilled water on their hair. You will see a broad spectrum of commentary on every conceivable product/ingredient/method out there. We can start with our hair properties to try to narrow our choices, but inevitably we will still have to experiment to find which things will work for us for ourselves.

    This!!!

    texture - medium/fine, porosity - low/normal, elasticity - normal
    co-wash - NaturelleGrow Coconut Water or Marshmallow Root, Slippery Elm Bark & Blue Malva Cleansing Conditioners
    LI - KCKT mixed w/ SM C & H Curl & Style Milk
    DC - NG Mango & Coconut H2O or Chamomile/Brdck Root
    Gel - SM souffle (winter), KCCC (summer) or CR Naturals Aloe Whipped Butter Gel (year round)
    Sealers - Virgin Coconut Oil, Avocado butter, Aloe butter
    Ayurvedic treatments - Jamila Henna, Sukesh, Aloe Vera Powder, Hibiscus Powder
    .


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  • artemis513artemis513 Posts: 666Registered Users
    Most of the natural hair "perspective" in general doesn't work for me lol. I tend to side eye every company that stays hard-focused on transitioners, and our hair having to be something you need to overcome or get through. What about those who have always been natural who are just finally embracing their hair, or those regular naturals who want to keep it laid-back? Everyone starts from a different place, and I think that should be applauded just like those who do a big chop and start with just an inch of hair...

    Anyhoo, I agree with what you said about the trimming and the protective styling. I think trimming is a preventative measure if it's done properly but what properly means is gonna be different for everyone, so the rule on that is just a guideline to me. And the PS only worked when I had relaxed hair, which is why the term was sort of created in the first place before it evolved into what we know it now to be.

    I like to practice "benign neglect" and wash n go's help me do that. If I want to be extra lazy and wear twists then I do, but not because it's a PS, but because being lazy lol.

    Editing to add: Sealing. Well not the way most people do it. I like to oil my hair regularly in between rinse/wash days versus sealing my leave-in with oil. That just doesn't work for me at all, so I found a way to use oils that does.
    4a/3c, fine strands, low porosity, medium density
    Last relaxer: Jan 2010 - BC'd: 2/27/11
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  • FmasuhrFmasuhr Posts: 1,354Registered Users
    nice thread! i too have a little list:
    1) lots of product, aka gel! i did try this, n sometimes i still do cause i think i might give it another go, but everytime im always dissapointed.

    2)co washing: tried and tested as well! though i did try it at the start when i was still learning. i do really like the idea of washing and moisturising your hair at the sme time, it just doesnt get the job done. i use a nice gentle low poo once every 3 or 4 days.

    3) olive oil. while this isnt really a rule, i thought id add it anyway cause its quiet a popular one. i too have tried it for a long time, though its really not my thing though my hair LOVES almost every other oil.

    my hair: 3b, high porosity, high density and coarse hair (i think i finally figured that all out)
    my hair loves conditioner only styling!
    Oils and my own procuts are my hairs best friend
    my hair goal length is bra strap length when curly.
    :hello1:
  • NvmbrCurlssNvmbrCurlss Posts: 732Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Finger combing
    Gel
    Sealing in a separate step
    [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]3B, Fine, Normal P, Normal E, Low-Med D
    LowP: Kinky Curly Come Clean (50% EVOO)
    NoP: As I Am CC
    RO: Suave Coconut, VO5 Shea Cashmere
    LI: KCKT or CJBCLI or HETT/HENOYF (w/ 8 drops GSO)


    "To much is given, much is expected"
  • JohariJohari Posts: 673Registered Users
    Actually if you use a lot of products or oil you don't have to skip shampoo esp if you have an oily scalp...id say dilute the shampoo if you think its too drying.

    And comb you hair in the shower,I'm really lazy with combing but I always comb it when it has conditioner in it.Sometimes during the week I wet it and comb it then braid it because it helps prevent tangles.
  • KorkscrewKorkscrew Posts: 1,834Registered Users
    Johari wrote: »
    Actually if you use a lot of products or oil you don't have to skip shampoo esp if you have an oily scalp...id say dilute the shampoo if you think its too drying.

    This. It's a creative middle-of-the-road approach, somewhere between COwashing and using commercial shampoo.
  • JohariJohari Posts: 673Registered Users
    Korkscrew wrote: »
    Johari wrote: »
    Actually if you use a lot of products or oil you don't have to skip shampoo esp if you have an oily scalp...id say dilute the shampoo if you think its too drying.

    This. It's a creative middle-of-the-road approach, somewhere between COwashing and using commercial shampoo.

    Ya because I feel like its not clean if I do a deep conditioner esp with eggs,mayo,oil ect.But really a little shampoo goes along way esp if your hair is already wet.
  • MissKrisMissKris Posts: 288Registered Users
    1. The "no combing" idea is out of the question for me. That's all I'mma say.....I just need my wide tooth, thank you.

    2. Co-washing and conditioner-only styling......ABSOLUTELY NOT! Never tried it. Curlies do this for the curl definition. I'm a zigzag natural and my hair will not curl no matter what I do to it.

    3. "Beware of too much protein..." Puh-leeeze! My hair's gotta have it! (Shout out to Spike Lee)

    4. Absolutely NO wash n gos......again, my hair doesn't curl.


    Birth Feb 1984, First press 1990, First relaxer 1992, Last relaxer Oct 2006, BC Sept 2007, 4c.....

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