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Do you have days when you feel like people are staring at you for no reason?Update#24

DedachanDedachan Posts: 1,644Registered Users
It freaks me out when it happens.

I noticed older women are usually less unabashed about staring too. And they look very serious doing it. Which makes me think it's a look of disapproval.

Or maybe it's all in my head.

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  • HipsterSoulHipsterSoul Posts: 1,017Registered Users
    Sometimes. I usually try to ignore them or stare until they tell me what they are looking at. Or chalk it up to plain old jealousy(especially when I have my hair out).
  • CurlyCanadianCurlyCanadian Posts: 10,862Registered Users, Curl Ambassador Curl Connoisseur
    Or chalk it up to plain old jealousy(especially when I have my hair out).

    LOL

    This is what I do!!!! I'm hot, they just can't help but stare :lol:
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  • DedachanDedachan Posts: 1,644Registered Users
    Sometimes. I usually try to ignore them or stare until they tell me what they are looking at. Or chalk it up to plain old jealousy(especially when I have my hair out).

    If my hair is out, then I assume that's what it is. But if not, I get paranoid. It makes little sense to me that a random stranger would be jealous.

    What probably happens is that I happen to notice one person stare, it makes me self-conscious, and for the rest of the day I notice looks from strangers that are probably nothing but me crossing their field of vision by chance.

    It's paranoid, but narcissistic too.
  • MoppyTMoppyT Posts: 998Registered Users
    Give 'em a big smile and a wave. That's what I do. They always get suddenly very interested in their phone, or the sky or whatever when they know you've caught them.

    We call the man who lives next door "staring guy." I have a lot of experience with this.
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  • roseannadanaroseannadana Posts: 5,632Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    If its older women, rest assured we are not staring at you. Our distance vision is usually not that great! You look blurry. :)

    I was born to be a pessimist. My blood type is B Negative.
  • HomeGrownHairGirlHomeGrownHairGirl Posts: 296Registered Users
    I normally ask "What are you looking at?"

    Sometimes the person will tell me what it is, or ask a question about my hair/clothes. Other times they will sheepishly look away.

    Staring is one of my biggest pet peeves. I am sorry but if someone is rude enough to stare/gawk; then I feel like I have license to be direct as well. Lol;-)
  • goldencurlygoldencurly Posts: 2,385Registered Users
    If its older women, rest assured we are not staring at you. Our distance vision is usually not that great! You look blurry. :)

    Bwahahahaha!

    Um, I have been known to stare. I am an artist who is good with drawing, painting and sculpting but have zero fashion sense, so when I see a lady put together in a way I like, I am taking mental notes in my head. If I get busted staring, whether I get a nasty look or an inquisitive one, I fess up and say, "I love your _________" fill in the blank be it hair, scarf, dress, boots, whole ensemble, etc.

    Errr, if I am staring at you from behind a sketch pad, yep, I am sketching you! I love doing 30-90 second sketches. In all the years I've done that, I've only been caught by the unknowing model a couple of times. Normally passers-by notice and I flip the page and find a new object de art.

    I make funny faces at anyone I catch staring at me. I never assume they are jealous of me. I assume they are amused with something retarded I am doing :shock:
  • StarmieStarmie Posts: 6,760Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    This happens to me at times, makes me feel quite paranoid. This last Monday I was grocery shopping and I swear I saw at least half a dozen people staring at me (if not actually staring it was definitely looking for longer than I would consider normal). I became convinced that I must have something on my face but there was nothing out of the ordinary that I could see. Maybe there's just lots of strange people around here!
    3b in South Australia.
  • OBBOBB Posts: 4,174Registered Users Curl Neophyte
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    i get stares all the time in VN its tough being THIS hot
  • DedachanDedachan Posts: 1,644Registered Users
    If its older women, rest assured we are not staring at you. Our distance vision is usually not that great! You look blurry. :)

    Funny. Obviously I don't mean it as a generalization, just that I noticed a certain type of woman, usually in her 60's, that likes to stare.

    I don't know if this is common in the States, but usually when you go to a smaller town in Brazil, there are some women who like to sit right outside their houses or who just lean at their windows and do nothing but stare at the street and watch people go about their business.
  • alacurlalacurl Posts: 1,199Registered Users Curl Novice
    Yes, people sometimes stare at me weirdly. I noticed it years ago. My then-boyfriend said I was "just imagining it," or that they were checking me out (uh, no; I know what checking out/flirting looks like!). And then one day HE noticed it. We chalked it up to me being a redhead. Apparently some people believe redheads are witches.
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  • ursulaursula Posts: 1,461Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Like Dedachan said, I feel both paranoid and narcissistic for thinking that people are staring at me, but, yes, people are staring at me! I think I am very average looking--not beautiful or ugly enough to be noteworthy--and I dress in a very average and boring way that doesn't draw attention. No one has ever commented on my hair (my sister, on the other hand, gets hair compliments literally daily...). Black people are not a rarity around here, so it's not that. I really don't know what it could be. These days, I've been thinking that maybe it has something to do with my demeanor or gait. Something intangible like that.
    alacurl wrote: »
    Yes, people sometimes stare at me weirdly. I noticed it years ago. My then-boyfriend said I was "just imagining it," or that they were checking me out (uh, no; I know what checking out/flirting looks like!). And then one day HE noticed it. We chalked it up to me being a redhead. Apparently some people believe redheads are witches.

    Umm, I might be guilty of this! Here I've been complaining about people staring at me and now I realize that I probably do stare at redheads. I love red hair, especially red curly hair. There have been many times where I've been on the verge of telling someone that I love her hair but shyness keeps me from doing it.
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  • StarmieStarmie Posts: 6,760Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    Oh dear, maybe I'm guilty of that too. My boys are both redheads and I do tend to notice and look at other redheads (though generally just children).
    3b in South Australia.
  • HoneycurlsHoneycurls Posts: 1,889Registered Users
    Dedachan wrote: »
    It freaks me out when it happens.

    I noticed older women are usually less unabashed about staring too. And they look very serious doing it. Which makes me think it's a look of disapproval.

    Or maybe it's all in my head.

    Yes, people have always stared at me--especially when I was younger and living in a very ethnically homogenous area. But, people still do it today--my husband tells me about it only if I ask him because he knows how much I hate it. When we first met, he thought I was being paranoid...until he started going out in public with me and saw with his own eyes. As a result of a lifetime of this, I am very self-conscious now and it adds tremendously to my social anxiety, so I tend to look through people when I'm out in public--as if I don't see them--so that I don't have to see peoples' eyes lingering on me. It makes me very unobservant of others, unfortunately. I also try not to stare or appear to be staring at others because I know how uncomfortable it makes me.

    Because of my background, the list of possible "whys" doesn't interest me.
    OK, I admit it.....I'm an alias! I wasn't born with the name Honeycurls!
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    I so busy runnin' allllllll over the place and ain't nobody chasin' me! :confused5::laughing5::jocolor:
  • claudine19claudine19 Posts: 4,486Registered Users
    People do stare at redheads --- sometimes nicely, sometimes not.

    When it happens to me I assume I'm doing or wearing something weird even for me, and I just carry on. I often think it could be the pine needles that always fall in my hair, as well. Or that they overheard me singing or talking to myself or my dogs in public.

    I like moppy's suggestion, though.
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  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Posts: 17,502Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    I normally ask "What are you looking at?"

    Sometimes the person will tell me what it is, or ask a question about my hair/clothes. Other times they will sheepishly look away.

    Staring is one of my biggest pet peeves. I am sorry but if someone is rude enough to stare/gawk; then I feel like I have license to be direct as well. Lol;-)

    I'm kind of a starer. Usually, it's at hair or clothing. Sometimes admiringy. Sometimes horrified. Yeah, kind of expectingto get told one of these days. Surprised it hasn't happened already. LOL

  • SystemSystem Posts: 39,059 Administrator
    /\ admire, that's a better description of what I do.
    Starmie wrote: »
    Oh dear, maybe I'm guilty of that too. My boys are both redheads and I do tend to notice and look at other redheads (though generally just children).
    I so tend to notice redheads more and would look (not leer) more than I would other hair colors. It's because I love red hair and think it's the most beautiful of hair! X 1000 if it is red curly hair.

    I have people stare at me all the time and at first it unsettled me but then I realize why. It's very unusual it my area for people to have vibrant hair colors. As in blue! :)
  • irociroc Posts: 7,890Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    I often think I catch people staring at my boobs, but that's probably BC they're staring at my boobs.

    Someone who paid for them to get stared at might appreciate it. I do not.


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  • JohariJohari Posts: 673Registered Users
    I thought I was the only one! I hate getting stares too and I've gotten paranoid.And I use to walk with my head up but now sometimes I look down to avoid it.Also I see people that will put their head down as they pass me by to avoid looking at me I guess.
    Before I got to drive I was really paranoid and worried about what people in their cars thought of me.Later I realized that was stupid but no one really pays that much attention or has the time.

    But I notice mostly women in their 20s-30s staring or guys and of course children.I don't have the guts to say what are you looking at and sometimes if you catch them staring they just look away and then go back to staring.And I don't think its my hair since its up 99% of the time,but it might be my eyes I've been told they look sad,sleepy or 'evil' eyes.
  • SystemSystem Posts: 39,059 Administrator
    I get stared at a lot because ppl are usually trying to figure out "what" I am.

    Race/ethnicity-wise, that is.

    Especially if I am with Asians. I think they assume that I must be part-Asian...but not quite......

    I see their eyes skitter from me to my companions, then back again...the confusion seems downright painful for some, smh.





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  • curlyhoneybcurlyhoneyb Posts: 267Registered Users
    I normally ask "What are you looking at?"

    Sometimes the person will tell me what it is, or ask a question about my hair/clothes. Other times they will sheepishly look away.

    Staring is one of my biggest pet peeves. I am sorry but if someone is rude enough to stare/gawk; then I feel like I have license to be direct as well. Lol;-)

    Wow, you're really bold! I notice people staring at me all the time but I would never be outspoken enough to say something about it. Has anyone ever been defensive when you ask them what they're looking at?
  • curlyhoneybcurlyhoneyb Posts: 267Registered Users
    I get stared at a lot because ppl are usually trying to figure out "what" I am.

    Race/ethnicity-wise, that is.

    Especially if I am with Asians. I think they assume that I must be part-Asian...but not quite......

    I see their eyes skitter from me to my companions, then back again...the confusion seems downright painful for some, smh.

    Me, too! I swear this happens on a daily basis...so freaking rude. I'm not sure why race/ethnicity matters so much to people, but it does.
  • Fifi.GFifi.G Posts: 15,490Registered Users
    I love to people watch, but I am wearing sunglasses 99% of the time, so no one knows. I am typically just admiring something about what they have on, or enjoying the way they interact with friends or kids, etc. If someone looks really sad I am wondering what might be wrong, so I am sure I would have a more puzzled or inquisitive look on my face.

    With that said... Yes, I notice people doing the same with me. In most cases I assume it's just another content watcher, until proven otherwise (or unless I know them and know better).

    I have had my most unusual encounters with older women. One day a woman in her 80's (I am guessing) kept a fixed gaze on me for over 10 minutes. She got out of the car she was sitting in, walked over to me, and started walking in circles in front of me, non stop. Her family saw her and put her back in the vehicle. She had a reason for doing it. She saw something, good or bad and was responding. That was a strange day.
    When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

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