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eboleoeboleo Registered Users Posts: 6
I am so excited about this site. I am a newbie of African-American descent. I got my first relaxer when I was 7 years old and kept it until I had my first child at 20. I did a press & curl for a year or so, but was having a miserable time combing out my hair when it was wet. :cry: Eventually, I transitioned into a semi-relaxer (at least that's what I call it since it didn't make my hair bone-straight) by Gueye that I used on and off for about 4 years and a good flat iron.

Now, it's been about 4-5 years since I've been relaxed and have been doing the press and curl thing. I'm tired of it. I want to wear my hair natural, but it has a funky curl pattern: from root to middle of my strand it's like 4b (and beyond) and from the middle to end its 3b. When it's wet after a fresh wash, it looks like a frizzy fro with curly tips - not cute.

I've learned some things on this site like no brushing, no-poo, and scrunching, but all of that seems a bit scary to me. My hair mats when it's wet so air drying sounds terrifying. :roll:

Can anyone give a sista some advice on how to dodge the fear and try something that might actually work?

4a/4b; relaxer free since Fall 2001


  • SuburbanbushbabeSuburbanbushbabe Registered Users Posts: 15,402 Curl Neophyte
    If those ends are still relaxed, why not have them cut off and your ends can be consistent with the rest of your natural hair?
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  • kdcreighkdcreigh Registered Users Posts: 736
    Hi and welcome! :D

    Your ends might be less curly because of all of the press-and-curl. My cousin had this problem when I was growing up. Her roots were natural and her ends were bone-straight.

    I recommend weekly intense deep conditioning treatments. This will help to repair and soften your hair. You might also need to trim off some of the ends.

    I had a problem with my hair being dry and coarse after I took out my braids (after braiding continuously for 5 years). My hair feels completely different now - it is much softer and more manageable. I trimmed off about an inch of my ends and I've been doing [buylink=]weekly deep conditioning treatment[/buylink]s for about 2 months.

    I've also been doing the modified Curly Girl (CG) method. If you're curious, there is a section called "going shampoo-less" that talks about this. Don't be afraid - it's not as gross as it sounds! :lol: Good luck!

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  • eboleoeboleo Registered Users Posts: 6
    Thanks for the advice and support. I am going to try a natural look for the first time today. I will report back to tell you all how it turns out. :P
    4a/4b; relaxer free since Fall 2001

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