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Does your family drive you CRAZY?

The New BlackThe New Black Posts: 16,738Registered Users
Mine does.

Yours? Please discuss.
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  • NetGNetG Posts: 8,116Registered Users
    I'm living with my mother whose mind is going south and who is angry about it and tries to deny it to herself and everyone else. Yeah, she drives me crazy.

    I just remind myself that it was a choice I made to be able to take care of her financially without giving up everything else in my life, and given alternatives it's worth it. Usually.
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  • legendslegends Posts: 3,073Registered Users
    They often annoy me, which is probably more about me being born a curmudgeon than it is about them, but that's mostly it. I don't see the ones who would drive me really crazy all that often, so it works out. And most of the craziness I do encounter doesn't directly affect me, so I just observe and judge.
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  • jeepcurlygurljeepcurlygurl Posts: 19,238Registered Users Curl Dabbler
    My parents and sisters drive me to drink, sometimes literally. I've been the family glue, caretaker, planner, mediator, problem solver, babysitter, etc since I was a kid. It's exhausting and has sucked the life out of me and made me at least slightly crazy.
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  • Parissy198907Parissy198907 Posts: 479Registered Users
    OMG Yes! They drive me insane!

    I'm not even sure were to begin. Had I done everything right the first time and graduated college on time then I would be out on my own by now. So these past few years of annoyance and depression I blame on myself.

    I'm the youngest in the family and also the only girl. Couple that with an overprotective and irrational father and physically and verbally abusive mother and anyone can see why I am prone to depression.

    Because of my parents and the way I was raised I swore off the idea having children of my own. I'm too afraid that I'll mess them up somehow.

    I could go on forever but I don't want to write a book.:neutral:
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  • NejNej Posts: 2,444Registered Users
    Yes. They are great people and love me very much but I find the dynamic very toxic.


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  • theliothelio Posts: 5,374Registered Users
    Don't get me started!:angry5:
  • claudine19claudine19 Posts: 4,486Registered Users
    Oh my, yes.

    It's taken me years to get over feeling sad that I basically don't have any family (only one brother; parents deceased), and am therefore either the "extra" with friends or by myself on holidays (brother travels and is also a bit "challenging"). However, I've grown into it pretty well, though there are still some rough spots.
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  • AjidahkAjidahk Posts: 1,212Registered Users
    Definitely! I was actually gonna start a thread about how I can have my parents loosen the reins on me. I am 25 and my parents are still very OVERPROTECTIVE! I live about 150 miles from them and they still try and keep tabs on me. I love them, but they really do drive me insane sometimes.
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  • NetGNetG Posts: 8,116Registered Users
    claudine19 wrote: »
    Oh my, yes.

    It's taken me years to get over feeling sad that I basically don't have any family (only one brother; parents deceased), and am therefore either the "extra" with friends or by myself on holidays (brother travels and is also a bit "challenging"). However, I've grown into it pretty well, though there are still some rough spots.

    It's too bad you're not here. There's no such thing as "extra" on our holidays, just more people to help save us from an excess of leftovers!
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  • claudine19claudine19 Posts: 4,486Registered Users
    See, I use my vegetarianism as an excuse to avoid being that extra, but it's always nice to be invited.
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  • Fifi.GFifi.G Posts: 15,490Registered Users
    ^ I'm sorry, Claudine.

    My family (like this slow phone) can drive me crazy. The most insanity inducing moments have been provided by my fathers over protectiveness and his need to go off all his medications, for 2 weeks, 2 to 3x a year. He's a diabetic and a vietnam veteran with PTSD and depression. Considering that I am the only one who gets through go him, I have to spend all my time hounding him until he gets back on track. Fun times.

    The other would be my brothers choices in wives. OMG! Awful, awful women. I could write 3 books. If it were not for my nephews and nieces, I would have been arrested- numerous times. At least drunk & crazy, steal your childrens birthday and christmas gift money to buy beer and drugs, was divorced. But she has graduated to stealing her sons tax refunds and going on drunken vacations. *****!!

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  • claudine19claudine19 Posts: 4,486Registered Users
    Oh, it's okay: I read what others go through, and I feel lucky to have peace.
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  • Fifi.GFifi.G Posts: 15,490Registered Users
    ^ true ;)

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  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Posts: 17,495Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    I am an only child and my parents live out of state. they are old now and my father has been very ill for years.

    Mostly, they aren't bad but my mother and I had a falling out several months ago and I am still not over it.

    She's coming out for a seven-day visit tomorrow. I am looking forward to seeing her and so are the kids. But it will be awkward for me, bc she never apologized, I don't think she really understands why I was mad and I am pretty sure the same situation that caused the initial argument will come up again.

    But mostly I like them and I enjoy seeing my extended family...though that doesn't happen too often bec everyone lives so far apart.

  • scrillsscrills Posts: 6,700Registered Users
    My parents and sisters drive me to drink, sometimes literally. I've been the family glue, caretaker, planner, mediator, problem solver, babysitter, etc since I was a kid. It's exhausting and has sucked the life out of me and made me at least slightly crazy.

    This is me, but you forget banker, money lender, go-for and even scapegoat
  • scrillsscrills Posts: 6,700Registered Users
    claudine19 wrote: »
    Oh, it's okay: I read what others go through, and I feel lucky to have peace.

    I think you should come over and be forced to endure the madness with me. There are enought vegetarians that food won't be a valid excuse :wave:
  • claudine19claudine19 Posts: 4,486Registered Users
    Scrills, you know I can't do enough for you. Anytime you need me, I'm there.
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  • LadyV69LadyV69 Posts: 3,397Registered Users
    Yes. To try to make this short as I've ranted about them on this board before, I have been cast as the family caretaker, problem solver, babysitter and money lender for as long as I can remember. I haven't fulfilled all those roles at all times, but all of it drains and angers me. Most of my immediate family don't even live in the same state that I do and they still manage to annoy me at times. I can only distance myself so much before they try to pull me back in (to semi-quote "The Godfather III).
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  • irociroc Posts: 7,890Registered Users
    Yes, which is why I really don't have much 'family' at this point.

    My parents both live out of state, and I don't have relationships with the family members that live around me, so I am actually here alone.

    My mother and I are close, but she can be a little crazy, and bipolar. For the most part we get along, but occasionally she goes through crazy periods and we don't speak. But she's had a disturbing life and I'm the only family she has, so I stick around and deal with it.

    My dad and I get along, but we're not super close b/c of he wasn't around much when I was a child. I talk to him once every 2 weeks usually.

    The rest of my family lives nearby, but they're all a bunch of crazies. Very manipulative, and drama causing people that have some serious issues of their own and I choose not to be around them. I decided a few years ago that they do more harm than good.

    I'm pretty used to being alone, and it's much easier than dealing with the family drama.
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  • jeepcurlygurljeepcurlygurl Posts: 19,238Registered Users Curl Dabbler
    scrills wrote: »
    My parents and sisters drive me to drink, sometimes literally. I've been the family glue, caretaker, planner, mediator, problem solver, babysitter, etc since I was a kid. It's exhausting and has sucked the life out of me and made me at least slightly crazy.

    This is me, but you forget banker, money lender, go-for and even scapegoat

    Oh you can add those to my list also. I just gave my sister money yet again a few weeks ago (the sister who isn't speaking to me because I am evil, bossy, uncaring, and unsupportive. Yeaaaaa, right.)
    --I'm located in Western PA.
    --I found NC in late 2004, CG since February 2005, started going grey in late 2005.
    --My hair is 3B with some 3A, texture-medium/fine, porosity-normal except for the ends which are porous, elasticity-normal.
    --My long time favorite products are Suave & VO5 conditioners, LA Looks Sport Gel, oils, honey, vinegar.
    --My CG and grey hair progress -- http://www.naturallycurly.com/curltalk/going-gray/179328-jeepys-grey-hair-progress.html
  • nynaeve77nynaeve77 Posts: 7,135Registered Users
    My immediate family is great. My extended family has its fair share of crazy, but I don't have to deal with it. My in-laws drive me a little cuckoo sometimes; they're very nice, but are not at all understanding of a person's need for space. If I visit and refuse a snack, my MIL thinks she did something to offend me, when in reality, I just wasn't hungry (for example). It's a little irritating.
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  • curlypearlcurlypearl Posts: 11,970Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Hey Claudine19 -

    I'm officially adopting you. You are now part of my absolutely crazy, nervewracking, nutso family.

    You have a choice - you can be a sister, brother, cousin, grandma, or fairy godmother.

    Or....even better - we will all adopt you as the Official nc.com Relative.
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  • claudine19claudine19 Posts: 4,486Registered Users
    Fairy Godmother!

    I want to be the Fairy Godmother, with my flock of pit bulls.
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  • curlypearlcurlypearl Posts: 11,970Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Whoosshh! Done. Just took a bit of fairy dust sprinkled over you and the pits. :thumright: Bibbity bobbity boo!!!

    Now as fg - you need to memorize all the rules, regulations and privileges pertaining thereto blah blah.

    Welcome to the family!
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  • claudine19claudine19 Posts: 4,486Registered Users
    Thanks!

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  • lexcoupelexcoupe Posts: 100Registered Users
    Girl, OMGosh yes, they are why I'm on anti anxiety meds... Seriously!! I even have fantasies about running off in the night! SMH

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  • Finch00Finch00 Posts: 190Registered Users

    Because of my parents and the way I was raised I swore off the idea having children of my own. I'm too afraid that I'll mess them up somehow.

    Same here.
    I live with my parents and stay in my room most of the time I'm home. If I hear them coming home and I'm in the living room I'll run off to my room to avoid them. My mom always makes rude comments to me that come out of nowhere. If I drop something or mess something up she'll say something like, "Way to go Finch00! Way to **** it up!" in a joking but still offensive way. I'm the only one of my siblings who won't openly insult her back or tell her I wish I was never born like my brother did, so she seems to take her anger at the whole family out on me. Same brother told me she said to him "I had to stop doing drugs because of you!" I wish he was making it up but it wouldn't surprise me.
    My dad just goes on long rants about politics/ illegal immigration/ etc. My brother calls it "ear rape". He just talks at you, even if you're clearly not interested.
  • The New BlackThe New Black Posts: 16,738Registered Users
    OK so the impetus for this thread was a rather confusing and upsetting call with my parents. I called them on July 4th and talked to my mom for a few minutes. Then I talked to my dad for just another couple minutes. Here's part of the conversation. This is actually the end of the conversation when I was trying to get off the phone and it had been pretty pleasant to this point:

    TNB: "OK, well I just called to say 'Hi'. So I'm gonna go. Have a good night."
    Dad: "Did you want to talk to your aunt?"
    TNB: "Um, no, that's OK."
    Dad: "Why not? You should give her a call."
    TNB: "No, that's OK. I'm gonna go. Have a good night. Byyyyyyyeee."
    Dad: "OK, I'll let you go so you can call your aunt. Good night."

    Maybe 10 minutes later my mother calls me back and says:

    Mom: "TNB, did your father say something to upset you? You got off the phone so fast."
    TNB: "No, not all. Why?"
    Mom: "Because you rushed off the phone and it upset your father so bad. Is something wrong?"
    TNB: "No, I just wanted to get off the phone."
    Mom: "Well, if you hate us so bad then you shouldn't even bother!"

    Then she hangs up on me. I asked my husband to run interference, which he did, since he's usually better at these things than I am. He said my mother was crying on the phone with him. Ugh, I don't get it. I haven't spoken to my parents since Wednesday and don't really want to now. There's too much drama. But how did this all happen? Does anyone know? Can you please shed some light on this situation? I'm confused. And what should I do now?
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  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Posts: 17,495Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    senility

  • claudine19claudine19 Posts: 4,486Registered Users
    I would ignore them for a while, since it's hard to deal with irrationality.

    I'm not the most sensitive of family members, though. No patience left over from my own experiences.
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