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Tattoos, Piercings & Professionalism...

Butterfly_CurlzButterfly_Curlz Posts: 955Registered Users
So let me start by saying I have MANY body piercings and tattoos. However I took caution over the years to make sure that they were always in places that I could conceal while at work.

However, I am about to get another piercing in a few days (a monroe) and have been having frequent convos w/my friends who work in the same line of work I do (counseling/therapy) about how to conceal/make this 'work appropriate'.

On the one hand, part of me doesn't care, bc its me not my piercing that's providing you therapy but on the other hand I do realize that appearances mean a lot and that is why I have researched barbells that look very much like a 'mole' when they are in (small, black in color,etc)...some of my professional friends say go ahead (a lot have tattoos/nose rings,etc) and swap them out for smaller versions while at work, while others just don't agree...

At the end of the day I know its ultimately my decision, however my thing is where is the line btwn what you want personally and keeping things professional? There has to be some balance right...any thoughts/suggestions and do any of you have piercings/tattoos and what line of work do you do?
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  • NejNej Posts: 2,444Registered Users
    It depends on the kind of people you see. Tattoos and piercings are slowly becoming a non issue, Theodore it depends on who your clientele are and your relationship with them.


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  • Butterfly_CurlzButterfly_Curlz Posts: 955Registered Users
    Nej wrote: »
    It depends on the kind of people you see. Tattoos and piercings are slowly becoming a non issue, Theodore it depends on who your clientele are and your relationship with them.


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    Well for the upcoming year I will be working in a middle school. However after I receive my license (which should be in the fall after I pass exams hopefully:thumbright:) I will be going into private practice and will be seeing clients of all ages/issues but again in my own practice.

    However I do agree, it will ultimately come down to my relationship w/them. I did find some very nice 'discreet' jewelry on bodycandy.com so I will more than likely be getting the jewelry that I will wear while at work from there.
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  • sleepymekosleepymeko Posts: 1,002Registered Users
    I'll say wait until you have your private practice. I would think schools would have a strict policy on appearances (tattoos, piercings, etc.).

    If it's your business, then no one can really tell you what to do, right?

    But for me, personally, I would be kind of bothered if my therapist or whatever had facial piercings (minus nose piercings if it was for religious/cultural reasons). I just kind of think it's a little, unprofessional? Monroes are also my least favorite piercing. Whenever someone has it, I keep thinking that "there is something on that person's face.." until I realize it's a piercing and I just can't stop looking at it because it's so unattractive to me. It looks like a giant pimple or something. IDK what it is. I just keep staring because I'm thinking about someone having a giant pimple on their cheek, and then I realize it's a piercing so I start wondering why someone would get a piercing on their cheek, etc.

    It's a distraction!

    IDK it's hard to explain. Facial piercings are very distracting, you know? It takes me a long time to have a conversation with someone w/o staring at the piercings.
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  • Butterfly_CurlzButterfly_Curlz Posts: 955Registered Users
    sleepymeko wrote: »
    I'll say wait until you have your private practice. I would think schools would have a strict policy on appearances (tattoos, piercings, etc.).

    If it's your business, then no one can really tell you what to do, right?

    But for me, personally, I would be kind of bothered if my therapist or whatever had facial piercings (minus nose piercings if it was for religious/cultural reasons). I just kind of think it's a little, unprofessional? Monroes are also my least favorite piercing. Whenever someone has it, I keep thinking that "there is something on that person's face.." until I realize it's a piercing and I just can't stop looking at it because it's so unattractive to me. It looks like a giant pimple or something. IDK what it is. I just keep staring because I'm thinking about someone having a giant pimple on their cheek, and then I realize it's a piercing so I start wondering why someone would get a piercing on their cheek, etc.

    It's a distraction!

    IDK it's hard to explain. Facial piercings are very distracting, you know? It takes me a long time to have a conversation with someone w/o staring at the piercings.

    I COMPLETELY see what your saying and that is why I have been going back and forth with my decision so much. I have a few moles on my face already but they aren't 'noticeable' from far away but I'm sure no matter how small of a piercing I put in, that it will still be noticeable & like you said...while I'm sure the kids I'm working with won't care, I'm not so sure about the school you know? I checked out the 'dress code' and it says nothing about 'piercings' specifically but IDK.

    I do have a friend who has an actual mole on her face that's bigger than any of mine and she has clients/co-workers alike that try to 'swipe' it off of her face all the time bc they think she has 'something' on her. LOL.

    Btw...the piercing I am/would be getting IS NOT in the cheek...its right above the upper lip right where a beauty mark would be. I have a beauty mark on the other side of my face and I actually like the cheek piercing as well but for my line of work, I do agree that a piercing in my cheek would absolutely be a complete distraction.
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  • irociroc Posts: 7,890Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Monroe's are kind of hit or miss. Somepeople they look great on. Most they do not.

    I got my lip done over a year ago BC I really wanted it, but once I had it I decided it just messed up my face and I took it out.

    I have my nose done, and I think anything else would be too much. Dermals can be cute, but they just grow out.

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  • SaraNoHSaraNoH Posts: 827Registered Users
    I agree that you should wait until you're in your own private practice. Schools can be very tricky, especially elementary and middle schools. Are you able to ask someone specifically about their policies (written or not) about facial piercings? Then at least you can be as informed as possible.
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  • Butterfly_CurlzButterfly_Curlz Posts: 955Registered Users
    iroc wrote: »
    Monroe's are kind of hit or miss. Somepeople they look great on. Most they do not.

    I got my lip done over a year ago BC I really wanted it, but once I had it I decided it just messed up my face and I took it out.

    I have my nose done, and I think anything else would be too much. Dermals can be cute, but they just grow out.

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    That right there is a fear I have too...I don't want to spend the $, time getting it done,etc just to say 'oh crap I don't like it' and end up taking it out in like a month. IDK...this is not an easy decision...now that I'm older (out of undergrad/grad school...well for the 1st time at least & have a child) I think too much! LOL.
    SaraNoH wrote: »
    I agree that you should wait until you're in your own private practice. Schools can be very tricky, especially elementary and middle schools. Are you able to ask someone specifically about their policies (written or not) about facial piercings? Then at least you can be as informed as possible.

    I agree. I got tired of trying to 'find' the answer on my own and after I read your post I sent my supervisor an email and just asked her about it (company & school policies). So I won't head to the tattoo shop until I hear back from her.

    Thanks everyone for all of the advice/input and I'll let you know what she said/what my final decision is!
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  • sleepymekosleepymeko Posts: 1,002Registered Users
    No problem!

    I actually had my nose pierced, but had to get it removed because I got a little bump from it. I want to get it again, but I'm almost done with college and after thinking about it, I think it probably won't be a good idea because I don't want it to stop me from getting a job (and I don't want to take it out either if my job requests it).
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  • irociroc Posts: 7,890Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    I think if anything someone could get away with a nose piercing, but a Monroe or other facial piercing is going to come off as unprofessional.

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  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Posts: 17,495Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    My nose has been pierced for almost 25 yrs. Sometimes I took the jewelry out for interviews and sometimes I left it in. But whenever I'm wearing jewelry in it, it's always tiny.

  • Butterfly_CurlzButterfly_Curlz Posts: 955Registered Users
    sleepymeko wrote: »
    No problem!

    I actually had my nose pierced, but had to get it removed because I got a little bump from it. I want to get it again, but I'm almost done with college and after thinking about it, I think it probably won't be a good idea because I don't want it to stop me from getting a job (and I don't want to take it out either if my job requests it).

    I know the dilemma! Lol
    iroc wrote: »
    I think if anything someone could get away with a nose piercing, but a Monroe or other facial piercing is going to come off as unprofessional.

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    I agree. Most of the people in my field that I have seen w/'facial' piercings have been limited to nose piercings and nothing else. Again I know I would keep the jewelry small and black in color but it could still be an issue...so I'm still waiting on an answer from the supervisor.
    My nose has been pierced for almost 25 yrs. Sometimes I took the jewelry out for interviews and sometimes I left it in. But whenever I'm wearing jewelry in it, it's always tiny.

    This was the only thing I looked at as an option(s). If I get it done, keep the jewelry SMALL and discreet while its in or else take it out when I go for an interview. Seems like a reasonable option to me!
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  • Butterfly_CurlzButterfly_Curlz Posts: 955Registered Users
    So I decided to go ahead and get the piercing done on Tuesday. Then fast forward to yesterday and I ended up getting it removed:hmph:. I don't know if my body was starting to reject the piercing or if it was just due to the uncontrolled swelling, but the top of the barbell was starting to get pushed back and it was making the top of the hole larger and since I am allergic to all NSAIDS and can do nothing for the swelling other than suck on ice/hold an ice pack up to my face every 15mins I decided to let it go before it got any worse/I ended up with a nasty scar on my face.

    My doc said my body was rejecting it, the piercer said it was healing fine... All I know was, I saw the hole beginning to get bigger and I wasn't going for it so I said I wanted to stop the madness NOW! I guess it was all for the best in the end.
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