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The Black nod, can you explain it?

sleepymekosleepymeko Posts: 1,002Registered Users
When I was back at school, my Caucasian friends made comments that I "knew" every Black person on campus because I would always greet one whenever I saw one (or they greeted me). I tried to tell them that I did not know ALL of them, just a lot of them. But I would also do a "nod", "smile" or a "hello", when I walked past a Black person I did not know.

I tried to explain it the best way I knew how. The majority of my school is Caucasian and only 3% of the student body is of African descent. 3% out of 20,000 students is very small. So in a way, I was trying to explain that seeing another Black person was relieving sometimes. Especially since I could be the only Black person in a 300 person lecture hall.

The best way I tried to explain it to a male White friend was that, he would do the same thing if there was such a small percentage of White people at our school.

But I am curious what are the origins of the "nod". Because I noticed this is done all over the country and is sort of a kinda of mutual silent acknowledgement. Does it have roots in slavery? But if that's so, why do African immigrants do it too?

I tried Googling but couldn't find anything. I'm curious.
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  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Posts: 17,495Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    You're overthinking it. It's called "a greeting."

  • roseannadanaroseannadana Posts: 5,632Registered Users
    Huh. I smile, nod, and say hello to people when I pass them in the hall. It's called being polite and well mannered.

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  • sleepymekosleepymeko Posts: 1,002Registered Users
    You're overthinking it. It's called "a greeting."

    I don't think it's overthinking when my non-Black friends started making comments about this and why do we always nod at each other.
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  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Posts: 17,495Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    sleepymeko wrote: »
    You're overthinking it. It's called "a greeting."

    I don't think it's overthinking when my non-Black friends started making comments about this and why do we always nod at each other.

    You know what you're supposed to say in response, right? Plz tell me you know what you're supposed to say!:tongue8:

  • roseannadanaroseannadana Posts: 5,632Registered Users
    It seems natural to acknowledge people who are like you. Haven't you ever seen the interaction between two babies in the store? Even babies zone in on other little ones and do the "baby nod". :). It's just human nature.

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  • JosephineJosephine Posts: 14,175Registered Users
    Yea a nod is not race specific, just a greeting..

    I was a minority in my school and I did not specially acknowledge the few people of my race there. I'm socially kinda wierd and aloof though. Do most people do this?
  • sleepymekosleepymeko Posts: 1,002Registered Users
    It seems natural to acknowledge people who are like you. Haven't you ever seen the interaction between two babies in the store? Even babies zone in on other little ones and do the "baby nod". :). It's just human nature.

    Yea, that was my response to my friends. I was just wondering if there was any other type of background or origin to it, though.
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  • sleepymekosleepymeko Posts: 1,002Registered Users
    Josephine wrote: »
    Yea a nod is not race specific, just a greeting..

    I was a minority in my school and I did not specially acknowledge the few people of my race there. I'm socially kinda wierd and aloof though. Do most people do this?

    I didn't start noticing it until recently, mainly because there is such a very very very small Black population where I go to school (both school and even more the town).
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  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Posts: 17,495Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    No, Black folks definitely nod at each other. But it's not like some covert secret society language. It's just a greeting among "family."

  • coilynappcoilynapp Posts: 4,233Registered Users
    No, Black folks definitely nod at each other. But it's not like some covert secret society language. It's just a greeting among "family."
    THIS.

    A lot of my white friends would always comment on how I know EVERYBODY, whenever we would walk passed a black person and I would nod.

    There are no roots in it, just a thing among "family" like Spiderlashes says.
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  • midgimidgi Posts: 2,409Registered Users
    This reminds me of when my first roommate in college seriously asked me why black people sing all the time. :roll:

    You should just tell them, you're just saying hello. If anyone is over-thinking anything, THEY are. Who cares if you greet other black people. What's the big deal?
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  • vegas_curlsvegas_curls Posts: 857Registered Users
    midgi wrote: »
    This reminds me of when my first roommate in college seriously asked me why black people sing all the time. :roll:

    You should just tell them, you're just saying hello. If anyone is over-thinking anything, THEY are. Who cares if you greet other black people. What's the big deal?


    +1 to the bolded. And if they persist in asking, dust off the phrase from the 90's - "It's a black thing, you wouldn't understand." :laughing6:
  • slinky1slinky1 Banned Posts: 1,612Banned Users
    Forget what I just said.

    I understand it may be comforting to you to see other black people, but I don't want you to think that you should feel uncomfortable if you were the only one there. Just because you look different doesn't mean people see you as different.
    ;)
  • midgimidgi Posts: 2,409Registered Users
    Seriously, Slinky.
    I just want to do what I want to do when I want to do it.
  • slinky1slinky1 Banned Posts: 1,612Banned Users
    midgi wrote: »
    Seriously, Slinky.

    Even that was all true, I changed my response before you replied again.
    ;)
  • midgimidgi Posts: 2,409Registered Users
    Why post it at all if you're just going to edit? Obviously, that's how you really feel.
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  • sleepymekosleepymeko Posts: 1,002Registered Users
    slinky1 wrote: »
    Forget what I just said.

    I understand it may be comforting to you to see other black people, but I don't want you to think that you should feel uncomfortable if you were the only one there. Just because you look different doesn't mean people see you as different.

    Uuuh... What? I don't feel uncomfortable around non-Black people. I'm part-White, there's White people on both sides of my family, my step-father is White. The only thing that makes me uncomfortable is people who are ignorant and refuse to see that not everyone is treated equally in this country. Especially when it comes to the treatment of women and POC.

    The only reason I may choose to hang out with Black people more often is because of cultural differences, but I don't pick my friends based on race since I myself am multiracial anyway.

    Confused.
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  • sleepymekosleepymeko Posts: 1,002Registered Users
    midgi wrote: »
    Why post it at all if you're just going to edit? Obviously, that's how you really feel.

    What did she say?
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  • slinky1slinky1 Banned Posts: 1,612Banned Users
    midgi wrote: »
    Why post it at all if you're just going to edit? Obviously, that's how you really feel.

    Well, it's late at night and I'm stressed. I realized that people can be ashamed of me for reasons other than my skin color and that men of all races are friendlier of women of all races. It's a gender thing more than a race thing.
    ;)
  • midgimidgi Posts: 2,409Registered Users
    Ok.
    I just want to do what I want to do when I want to do it.
  • slinky1slinky1 Banned Posts: 1,612Banned Users
    sleepymeko wrote: »
    slinky1 wrote: »
    Forget what I just said.

    I understand it may be comforting to you to see other black people, but I don't want you to think that you should feel uncomfortable if you were the only one there. Just because you look different doesn't mean people see you as different.

    Uuuh... What? I don't feel uncomfortable around non-Black people. I'm part-White, there's White people on both sides of my family, my step-father is White. The only thing that makes me uncomfortable is people who are ignorant and refuse to see that not everyone is treated equally in this country. Especially when it comes to the treatment of women and POC.

    The only reason I may choose to hang out with Black people more often is because of cultural differences, but I don't pick my friends based on race since I myself am multiracial anyway.

    Confused.

    Not everyone is treated equally in this country because we are human beings with flaws and life is not fair. People who don't treat you the same because you are black are the same people who will treat someone differently because of their hairstyle or the car they drive. Those people will never go away. People who make fun of the disfigured people they see in church. They're all part of the potpourri.
    ;)
  • sleepymekosleepymeko Posts: 1,002Registered Users
    slinky1 wrote: »
    sleepymeko wrote: »
    slinky1 wrote: »
    Forget what I just said.

    I understand it may be comforting to you to see other black people, but I don't want you to think that you should feel uncomfortable if you were the only one there. Just because you look different doesn't mean people see you as different.

    Uuuh... What? I don't feel uncomfortable around non-Black people. I'm part-White, there's White people on both sides of my family, my step-father is White. The only thing that makes me uncomfortable is people who are ignorant and refuse to see that not everyone is treated equally in this country. Especially when it comes to the treatment of women and POC.

    The only reason I may choose to hang out with Black people more often is because of cultural differences, but I don't pick my friends based on race since I myself am multiracial anyway.

    Confused.

    Not everyone is treated equally in this country because we are human beings with flaws and life is not fair. People who don't treat you the same because you are black are the same people who will treat someone differently because of their hairstyle or the car they drive. Those people will never go away. People who make fun of the disfigured people they see in church. They're all part of the potpourri.

    What.
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  • slinky1slinky1 Banned Posts: 1,612Banned Users
    [QUOTE=sleepymeko;1982029.

    The only reason I may choose to hang out with Black people more often is because of cultural differences[/QUOTE]

    This is a big reason why some white people treat blacks differently. Because they see them isolating themselves and it makes them feel uncomfortable. We don't understand why you do that so much. Just because your day in the life is different doesn't mean that people aren't interested.
    ;)
  • slinky1slinky1 Banned Posts: 1,612Banned Users
    sleepymeko wrote: »
    slinky1 wrote: »
    sleepymeko wrote: »

    Uuuh... What? I don't feel uncomfortable around non-Black people. I'm part-White, there's White people on both sides of my family, my step-father is White. The only thing that makes me uncomfortable is people who are ignorant and refuse to see that not everyone is treated equally in this country. Especially when it comes to the treatment of women and POC.

    The only reason I may choose to hang out with Black people more often is because of cultural differences, but I don't pick my friends based on race since I myself am multiracial anyway.

    Confused.

    Not everyone is treated equally in this country because we are human beings with flaws and life is not fair. People who don't treat you the same because you are black are the same people who will treat someone differently because of their hairstyle or the car they drive. Those people will never go away. People who make fun of the disfigured people they see in church. They're all part of the potpourri.

    What.

    There will always be evil people who choose to be evil, but they're not the majority and people shouldn't use them as examples to represent the whole.
    ;)
  • midgimidgi Posts: 2,409Registered Users
    Slinky, you're digging yourself into a huge hole...
    I just want to do what I want to do when I want to do it.
  • slinky1slinky1 Banned Posts: 1,612Banned Users
    midgi wrote: »
    Slinky, you're digging yourself into a huge hole...

    I don't think I am.

    Explain why you think I am.

    White people really feel that way.

    How are things ever going to change from a racial standpoint if you avoid white people and where white people are because of "cultural differences".
    ;)
  • midgimidgi Posts: 2,409Registered Users
    Do you speak for all white people?
    I just want to do what I want to do when I want to do it.
  • sleepymekosleepymeko Posts: 1,002Registered Users
    slinky1 wrote: »
    [QUOTE=sleepymeko;1982029.

    The only reason I may choose to hang out with Black people more often is because of cultural differences

    This is a big reason why some white people treat blacks differently. Because they see them isolating themselves and it makes them feel uncomfortable. We don't understand why you do that so much. Just because your day in the life is different doesn't mean that people aren't interested.[/QUOTE]

    What in the world?
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  • sleepymekosleepymeko Posts: 1,002Registered Users
    @Slinky1 I wonder about you sometimes.
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  • midgimidgi Posts: 2,409Registered Users
    slinky1 wrote: »
    [QUOTE=sleepymeko;1982029.

    The only reason I may choose to hang out with Black people more often is because of cultural differences

    This is a big reason why some white people treat blacks differently. Because they see them isolating themselves and it makes them feel uncomfortable. We don't understand why you do that so much. Just because your day in the life is different doesn't mean that people aren't interested.[/QUOTE]

    Comments like the bolded.
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