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Help! What birth control

GoddessCurlsGoddessCurls Posts: 1,537Registered Users
I am 33...don't have kids...never want them. I have paraguard IUD now this is my second one...the first one was fine, this one is giving me crazy heavy periods and spotting...it's all like half the friggin month. So I was thinking about mirena, tubal ligation or essure, which is permanent too. Anyone have any experience with this stuff...any suggestions. This has got to stop!!

Thanks I'm advance!


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  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Posts: 17,502Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    I had Essure performed a little over three years ago.

    I would not reccommend that you sterilize yourself, under those circumstances, but of course that's for you to decide.

    But so far, the essure has worked OK for me.

  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Posts: 31,258Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    My personal favorite is vasectomy.
  • midgimidgi Posts: 2,409Registered Users
    LOL :lol:
    I just want to do what I want to do when I want to do it.
  • poisonivypoisonivy Posts: 1,551Registered Users
    What is essure?
  • Corrina777Corrina777 Posts: 3,193Registered Users
    poisonivy wrote: »
    What is essure?

    Dr goes in with hysteroscope (transvaginally) and occludes the fallopian tubes.
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  • mrspoppersmrspoppers Posts: 7,223Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Since you've already had Paragard with relatively good results, I'd go for Mirena. Once the hormones kick in, you get very light periods. It's almost a dream come true.

    There are definitely side effects with tubal ligation (I can't remember if they're similar with essure) so you should really do some research before going that route. Plus, it's a surgical procedure, which is no fun.
    When are women going to face the fact that they don’t know their own bodies as well as men who have heard things?

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  • GoddessCurlsGoddessCurls Posts: 1,537Registered Users
    Thanks...just with hormones I worry cause ur body is being tricked into thinkin it's preggers for long periods of time....and that worries me


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  • GoddessCurlsGoddessCurls Posts: 1,537Registered Users
    I mean the bleeding I'm getting now is just worrisome...and such a bother


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    Back on Cones,so now my routine is,wash with Deva No-Poo every other day or so. Occasionally use 365 sulfate free,maybe use low sulfate shampoo mixed with conditioner once every two weeks are longer. I condition with Aussie Moist or HEHH. I style with a little GF TN,and finish up with tons of GN Pure Clean Smoothing Cream. No frizz...slippy, happy hair.
  • crimsonshedemoncrimsonshedemon Posts: 2,098Registered Users
    I had Paragard for 12 years and then had Mirena inserted. LOVE Mirena. I don't tolerate hormones well but do great with Mirena. I haven't had a period since it was inserted. Had 2 days of very light spotting last week.. first time in 3 years. I will be replacing it early if the spotting becomes routine.
  • subbrocksubbrock Posts: 8,212Registered Users
    I had a tubal ligation a little over a year ago and haven't had too many adverse side effects. I had never had surgery before so healing was a bit rough for me--my belly button hurt/was tender for at least a week or 2. Since the surgery though I have had insanely heavy periods. In the first 3 or 4 days I soak through an overnight pad in an hour. I feel perfectly fine, no cramps, no fatigue, and no pain which is surprising considering how much I'm bleeding. This is the first month where I haven't had the ridiculously heavy flow (thank God).

    Blame it on the cell phone...
  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Posts: 17,502Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    mrspoppers wrote: »
    Since you've already had Paragard with relatively good results, I'd go for Mirena. Once the hormones kick in, you get very light periods. It's almost a dream come true.

    There are definitely side effects with tubal ligation (I can't remember if they're similar with essure) so you should really do some research before going that route. Plus, it's a surgical procedure, which is no fun.

    No side effects w/ Essure and it's all done vaginally. No recovery time. No pain (other than maybe a day of slight cramping for some women).

  • irociroc Posts: 7,890Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    I had the Paraguard for a year and a half. I had horribly heavy periods, headaches, cramps, 20 lbs of weight gain, and ended up with
    p.i.d.

    Hormones are impossible for me. The last time I tried Yaz BC I have PMDD, and that was a bad experience too.

    I won't do a tubal ligation BC I have enough problems with hormones and my period. When my mom had it done, yes, it made all that worse.


    I finally got a diaghram a few months ago (yay!). For me, its been the best form of birth control I've had. The sizing process was awkward, and it took a couple of practices for me to learn to use it, but now its so easy. There's no harm in leaving it in for a while, so sometimes I'll put it in if I think we might get frisky. If we don't, I remove it later. No big deal. It doesn't irritate or bother me at all. No side effects.

    I dont use spermicide (bc those chemicals are harsh) but I track my cycle so we are extra careful on fertile days, less when its safe, and I can use it on those last couple days of my period to reduce the mess.



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  • GoddessCurlsGoddessCurls Posts: 1,537Registered Users
    I've heard of people having a "syndrome" after tubal ligation. Man I hate this...guys have it so friggin easy. The Essure looks like a very interesting option tho.


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  • irociroc Posts: 7,890Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    I've heard of people having a "syndrome" after tubal ligation. Man I hate this...guys have it so friggin easy. The Essure looks like a very interesting option tho.


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    The only reason I don't want to do that is because my body clearly did not like having the iud. I think it was against having something foreign implanted. I personally didn't want to go through that again.

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  • GoddessCurlsGoddessCurls Posts: 1,537Registered Users
    This sucks! I'm gonna have to go to my Gyno..ask her and figure out a better alternative. This IUD is driving me nuts...I can't handle the periods!


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  • SpiderSpider Posts: 3,380Registered Users
    I had a tubal in November during a csection. I had post partum bleeding for a few months. Stopped in March, started again first week of April and it's been ypretty constant since. It will be pretty heavy as well but almost constant spotting with just one or two days reprieve . Sigh... Used to be very regular.
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  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Posts: 17,502Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    @ Spider and Subbrock and any other boardie who had a tubal within the last 5 yrs:
    Why didn't you choose Essure? My gyn gave me the option of either but said Essure was the better choice. What did your gyns say?

  • MoppyTMoppyT Posts: 998Registered Users
    I think a lot of people are freaked out by the notion of the coil being placed and then just staying there. I've also heard lots of people say things like "but what if it gets loose and punctures something?" Not sure if that applies to anyone here, just people I've spoken to IRL.

    I plan to get Essure this year sometime (I kinda put my whole life on hold for grad school, but now I'm done).

    @SL5000 How was the confirmation test after you got Essure? I've heard it's worse than the procedure itself.
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  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Posts: 17,502Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    MoppyT wrote: »
    I think a lot of people are freaked out by the notion of the coil being placed and then just staying there. I've also heard lots of people say things like "but what if it gets loose and punctures something?" Not sure if that applies to anyone here, just people I've spoken to IRL.

    I plan to get Essure this year sometime (I kinda put my whole life on hold for grad school, but now I'm done).

    @SL5000 How was the confirmation test after you got Essure? I've heard it's worse than the procedure itself.

    Worse than the procedure? No, it was just a regular x-ray...doctor presses on your abdomen for a few seconds.

    The procedure was a piece of cake, too. It takes 10 minutes, no pain, no incisions, no bleeding.

  • MoppyTMoppyT Posts: 998Registered Users
    MoppyT wrote: »
    I think a lot of people are freaked out by the notion of the coil being placed and then just staying there. I've also heard lots of people say things like "but what if it gets loose and punctures something?" Not sure if that applies to anyone here, just people I've spoken to IRL.

    I plan to get Essure this year sometime (I kinda put my whole life on hold for grad school, but now I'm done).

    @SL5000 How was the confirmation test after you got Essure? I've heard it's worse than the procedure itself.

    Worse than the procedure? No, it was just a regular x-ray.

    The procedure was a piece of cake, too. It takes 10 minutes, no pain, no incisions, no bleeding.

    Thanks. I had read things about the xray tech forcing the liquid (forgot what it's called) in to prove that the tubes were completely blocked, and that being a painful experience.

    I'm sure that, like all things, for every bad experience you can find there are dozens of good ones that no one felt compelled to write about.
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  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Posts: 17,502Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    MoppyT wrote: »
    MoppyT wrote: »
    I think a lot of people are freaked out by the notion of the coil being placed and then just staying there. I've also heard lots of people say things like "but what if it gets loose and punctures something?" Not sure if that applies to anyone here, just people I've spoken to IRL.

    I plan to get Essure this year sometime (I kinda put my whole life on hold for grad school, but now I'm done).

    @SL5000 How was the confirmation test after you got Essure? I've heard it's worse than the procedure itself.

    Worse than the procedure? No, it was just a regular x-ray.

    The procedure was a piece of cake, too. It takes 10 minutes, no pain, no incisions, no bleeding.

    Thanks. I had read things about the xray tech forcing the liquid (forgot what it's called) in to prove that the tubes were completely blocked, and that being a painful experience.

    I'm sure that, like all things, for every bad experience you can find there are dozens of good ones that no one felt compelled to write about.

    I eta'd that the doctor presses on you for a few secs but not in a painful way...just firmly.

  • MoppyTMoppyT Posts: 998Registered Users
    ^ Ah, I see it now. Good to know, thanks again!
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  • subbrocksubbrock Posts: 8,212Registered Users
    @ Spider and Subbrock and any other boardie who had a tubal within the last 5 yrs:
    Why didn't you choose Essure? My gyn gave me the option of either but said Essure was the better choice. What did your gyns say?

    To be honest, I don't remember hearing too much about tubal vs. Essure. My OB/GYN was just really focused on talking me out of anything of the sort (but I guess that's another can of worms). And mentally I wasn't in a place to split hairs about the subject. I just wanted to make sure I had no more children. Tubal, Essure, hysterectomy, magical elves--I didn't/don't care. As long as it works, I'm good. :)

    After looking at the difference between the 2 procedures and experiencing one first hand, when all goes as planned and there are no complications, are the two more similar than they are different? The benefits of Essure are that there is no surgery and I think it's effectiveness rate is 1% higher than a tubal ligation, am I missing another important detail?



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  • GoddessCurlsGoddessCurls Posts: 1,537Registered Users
    I'm just scared of the whole surgery recovery time possible issues with tubal. I will definitely be talkin to my Gyno about Essure...it sounds perfect.


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  • jeepcurlygurljeepcurlygurl Posts: 19,757Registered Users, Curl Ambassador Curl Virtuoso
    I got myself spayed in my twenties and it was one of the best things I ever did for myself.
    Outpatient surgery, home in a couple hours, back to work the next day, teeny tiny scar.
    And a lifetime of being in control of my own body and never having to worry about pregnancy or the side effects of some birth control methods.

    Not sure why anyone is having side effects with a tubal. You still lay eggs, you still have periods, you still have hormonal changes, same as you ever did. I haven't had any side effects in 30+ years. Any changes in my periods have been from age, not my tubal.
    --I'm located in Western PA.
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  • irociroc Posts: 7,890Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Because every body reacts different to things. Changing the natural process of the body or something inside of it always has the possibility of side effects.

    Many people report heavier, longer, more painful periods after a tubal ligation.

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  • jeepcurlygurljeepcurlygurl Posts: 19,757Registered Users, Curl Ambassador Curl Virtuoso
    I didn't say there couldn't be any. I just don't understand why there would be. The egg is just getting stuck. Nothing else is different so I don't see how it's changing a natural process. Eggs don't always make it to the uterus even without the tube being tied.

    It's just something I don't understand, which is why I said I said I didn't get it. But I think after 30 years, it's probably too late for me to worry about so I won't bother looking it up. : )
    --I'm located in Western PA.
    --I found NC in late 2004, CG since February 2005, joined the forums in May 2005, started going grey in late 2005.
    --My hair is 3B with some 3A, currently at mid back length when dry,  texture-medium/fine, porosity-top is low, middle is medium, ends are porous, elasticity-normal.
    --My long time favorite products are Suave & VO5 conditioners, LA Looks Sport Gel, coconut oil, honey, vinegar.
    --My CG and grey hair progress -- http://www.naturallycurly.com/curltalk/going-gray/179328-jeepys-grey-hair-progress.html
    --My article at NaturallyCurly about going grey. Yes, it's in the senior section. : / -- https://www.naturallycurly.com/curlreading/seniors/how-i-went-completely-gray-and-loved-it
  • irociroc Posts: 7,890Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    I didn't say there couldn't be any. I just don't understand why there would be. The egg is just getting stuck. Nothing else is different so I don't see how it's changing a natural process. Eggs don't always make it to the uterus even without the tube being tied.

    It's just something I don't understand, which is why I said I said I didn't get it. But I think after 30 years, it's probably too late for me to worry about so I won't bother looking it up. : )


    I know, its like everyone telling me, 'but there aren't any side effects to the copper iud BC its not hormonal'. Well, I get that, but there was for me! I assumed it was just my body responding to having something foreign implanted in there. I even had a gyno look at it, but he swore it was in there correctly, so it wasn't the problem. But it was. So I just took it out myself.

    Maybe I'm just super sensitive to body changes.

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  • jeepcurlygurljeepcurlygurl Posts: 19,757Registered Users, Curl Ambassador Curl Virtuoso
    Quit being so sensitive IROC! : )

    Anyway, I would have done research on Essure and other options if it had been available way back in caveman days, but probably would have still gone with the surgery. I wanted something that felt very permanent.
    --I'm located in Western PA.
    --I found NC in late 2004, CG since February 2005, joined the forums in May 2005, started going grey in late 2005.
    --My hair is 3B with some 3A, currently at mid back length when dry,  texture-medium/fine, porosity-top is low, middle is medium, ends are porous, elasticity-normal.
    --My long time favorite products are Suave & VO5 conditioners, LA Looks Sport Gel, coconut oil, honey, vinegar.
    --My CG and grey hair progress -- http://www.naturallycurly.com/curltalk/going-gray/179328-jeepys-grey-hair-progress.html
    --My article at NaturallyCurly about going grey. Yes, it's in the senior section. : / -- https://www.naturallycurly.com/curlreading/seniors/how-i-went-completely-gray-and-loved-it
  • GoddessCurlsGoddessCurls Posts: 1,537Registered Users
    Yeah...the Essure is permanent. I really just want my normal period back...it was never like this... Not even with the first paragard


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