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I'm Engaged.....

LotsawavesLotsawaves Posts: 8,660Registered Users Curl Neophyte
Some of you may remember the thread I started about the bf who was rushing me and smothering me. I had decided to end it. Well, he came over to talk Memorial Day and we got back together. It's been incredible.

He proposed Tuesday evening. He had sent me a dozen white roses to my work. He called when I got home and asked if he could stop by. He looked very serious and he took my hand and went down on one knee and asked me to marry him. I know a little corny, but I loved it.

We are hoping to get married 4/25/2013. A year from the day we 1st met. We both have to have our 1st marriages annulled thru the Catholic church, so this will take some time. We have a priest helping us with the process and we are starting couples counselling in 2 weeks.

After 20 years I have finally found my Mr. Right......
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  • Like.AustraliaLike.Australia Posts: 2,544Registered Users
    Wow, congratulations!

    So, you just met him in April of this year? Sounds like quite a whirlwind.
  • The New BlackThe New Black Posts: 16,738Registered Users
    Best of luck in your relationship, Lotsa. But I think annuling a marriage that produced three kids is honestly silly.
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  • claudine19claudine19 Posts: 4,486Registered Users
    Congrats, Lotsa!

    I wish you every happiness.
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  • rouquinnerouquinne Posts: 13,499Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    i'm concerned....

    you seemed to have some serious misgivings about him only a month ago to go by your previous post.

    http://www.naturallycurly.com/curltalk/non-hair-discussion/144623-im-torn-about-man.html

    you also said in that thread that you wanted to "take it slow"... this doesn't sound slow.
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  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Posts: 31,258Registered Users
    I thought my husband was smothering when i first met him...and i almost broke it off the first week. But, what i found out was that he was just NICE. For a woman used to being mistreated by men, nice felt wrong...at first. Once i let myself go, i found i rather liked nice, and being treated well.

    I hope it's similar with your new nice man.

    I also think it's silly to annul a marriage that produced children, but that's just my non-religious opinion.

    Good luck to you.
  • xcptnlxcptnl Posts: 15,678Registered Users
    If you are happy that is good. I am glad the wedding is more than a year away based upon your earlier concerns with this relationship. What did he stop doing that made you change your mind about him? I am surprised that you have done a complete 180 with this guy. You were pretty adamant he was not the one for you.
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  • jeepcurlygurljeepcurlygurl Posts: 19,250Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    It does seem like a quick turnaround, but hey, anyone can change their mind.
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  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Posts: 17,495Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Oh, the guy who turned your butt out! LOLOL

    Congratulations and best wishes.

    FYI - Catholic annulment doesn't try to say the marriage didn't happen or wasn't valid...just that it wasn't a true covenant w/ God due to various pre-existing conditions.

  • LotsawavesLotsawaves Posts: 8,660Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    I understand the concerns and confusion. It wasn't so much that he changed, but I did. When I broke it off I really missed him. I'm glad he called wanting to talk in person. By talking to him I realized that I was afraid and had a wall up. Like RCW I wasn't use to a NICE man. I wasn't use to someone wanting to be with me and call me everyday. I've gotten pretty independant and into myself because of being single for 20 years. I also have trust issues especially becuz of my x-husband.

    I decided to just flow with it and follow his lead and it's been wonderful. People may see us as moving very fast, but it just seems right. I know couples who have gotten engaged after just a few months. I think there should be more concern if we decided to marry after just a few months. We both want a year to continue building our relationship and doing the counselling. We made mistakes in our 1st marriages and don't want to do the same again.
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    Every person has a unique connection to the Creator that can never be extinguished, and every person has a great soul that can manifest important things in our world. To make a person feel less than they are because of something inside themselves, be it faith, race, or sexual orientation, is the greatest sin of all."
  • greenjumpergreenjumper Posts: 891Registered Users
    Congrats! I wish you all the best.

    I agree about the "nice" thing. I have seen an a lot if suspicion of people who are "too nice". It's kind of sad. Whether it's because people are not used to kindness or because they think there is some sort if ulterior motive.
  • NinjaCookieNinjaCookie Posts: 99Registered Users
    Congrats, Lotsa! I'm sure you and your fiancé will have many years of happiness!


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  • DedachanDedachan Posts: 1,644Registered Users
    Congratulations, Lotsa. That's wonderful news.

    We often take each other's words for fact and forget that we too make mistakes or misinterpret things. I can believe that you were freaking out about a perfectly great guy.

    Go make each other happy. :thumbup:
  • inheritedcurlsinheritedcurls Posts: 2,954Registered Users
    Congratulations!!!
  • B-wavyB-wavy Posts: 1,733Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Good for you, Lotsa, you deserve a nice guy. Congrats and many years of happiness!
  • roseannadanaroseannadana Posts: 5,632Registered Users
    Congrats Lotsa!

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  • adorame06adorame06 Posts: 572Registered Users
    Congratulations!
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  • KurlyKaeKurlyKae Posts: 3,413Registered Users
    Congratulations, lotsa, I'm so very happy for you!
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  • curlypearlcurlypearl Posts: 11,970Registered Users Curl Novice
    How exciting! I wish you the very best Lotsa. Keep us posted!
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  • SariaSaria Posts: 15,963Registered Users
    Well, it sounds like you're happy and sure about this, so congratulations!
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  • spring1onuspring1onu Posts: 16,528Registered Users
    Lotsa, congratulations to you!
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  • EilonwyEilonwy Posts: 12,389Registered Users
    Congrats and best wishes :)
  • CurlyCanadianCurlyCanadian Posts: 10,780Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    Congrats Lotsa!!! I hope this is the happiness you've been looking for :)
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  • goldygoldy Posts: 5,455Registered Users
    Congratulations.
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  • WiregirlWiregirl Posts: 1,695Registered Users
    Lotsawaves wrote: »
    I understand the concerns and confusion. It wasn't so much that he changed, but I did. When I broke it off I really missed him. I'm glad he called wanting to talk in person. By talking to him I realized that I was afraid and had a wall up. Like RCW I wasn't use to a NICE man. I wasn't use to someone wanting to be with me and call me everyday. I've gotten pretty independant and into myself because of being single for 20 years. I also have trust issues especially becuz of my x-husband.

    I decided to just flow with it and follow his lead and it's been wonderful. People may see us as moving very fast, but it just seems right. I know couples who have gotten engaged after just a few months. I think there should be more concern if we decided to marry after just a few months. We both want a year to continue building our relationship and doing the counselling. We made mistakes in our 1st marriages and don't want to do the same again.

    Lotsa, I am so fricken happy for you I could scream! Congratulations.....and yes nice men are hard to get used to! I just met one myself online!
  • DevushkaDevushka Posts: 1,080Registered Users
    Wishing you lots of happiness. ;-)
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  • wild~hairwild~hair Posts: 9,890Registered Users
    Awesome! I'm very happy for you. :love7:

    I'm glad you're taking the engagement slow and doing counseling. I've done some with my SO starting just a few months into our relationship and we are so much stronger for it. We're celebrating our two-year anniversary in a couple weeks. We just had a session today and I think we pretty much have it down. At this point we just go for "maintenance" and if there's a tricky issue we cannot figure out on our own.

    I used to think that if you needed counseling to make it work in the beginning stages of the relationship, it meant you weren't supposed to be together. I don't think that at all now.
  • SpringcurlSpringcurl Posts: 8,002Registered Users
    Great! Congratulations!
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  • CurliLocksCurliLocks Posts: 10,572Registered Users Curl Dabbler
    I'll admit I was shocked to read this, but if you truly had a change of heart and were just scared silly before, then I can understand. Congratulations! :)
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  • CanItBeChristineCanItBeChristine Posts: 6,343Registered Users
    What wonderful news!!!! He sounds like a great guy!!
  • theliothelio Posts: 5,374Registered Users
    Congrats and Good luck!!!
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