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Anyone else feel like teens don't really appreciate curly hair?

luluusluluus Posts: 50Registered Users
well i'm 17 and in high school obviously. I used to not be able to leave the house without straightening my hair but then i just didn't have time one day so i left it curly and ever since i've liked to leave it curly (i still do straighten sometimes though). I feel like people my age don't really like curly hair? well I guess some girls do because I get compliments from girls but maybe guys don't? I don't see why not. Seems like they go for the more boring type of hair. Well anyways I'm kind of off topic but do you guys feel like people or teens specifically don't really appreciate curly hair? And does that affect your choices on how to leave your hair at all?

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  • CurlyKiKi97CurlyKiKi97 Posts: 33Registered Users
    I had the same problem girls at my high school are always saying to flat iron my hair but I love my curly hair. My dad really doesn't care. But my mom and grandma always pressure me to straighten it. It gets annoying but I just ignore it and keep going. :)
  • lj_princesslj_princess Posts: 46Registered Users
    In high school teenagers seem to like all looking the same. Verry lame i know! i graduated a year ago but back in my HS days girls seemed to copy each other to the point it became some sort of uniform...poker straight hair included. Curly hair is gorgeous, they might just find it different since it's not the straight hair theyre used to. As for the parents issue, i think saying you look like a gypsy is a compliment. they're very pretty :toothy8:
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  • Always@nightAlways@night Posts: 566Registered Users
    I agree, i'm 18 and the girls in my graduating class. I'd say about 85%, had relaxed hair, that they wore with long weaves. Everyone was always asking me why i didn't wear weave6cea252d-0a53-96f4.jpg or why i stopped straightening my hair, or that maybe I should try a relaxer. I always said, i liked my hair how it was and didn't see the point. They would talk and point (like grade school children) whenever I wore my hair curly down or even in a bun. I remember one girl asked me "who do you think you are?" because I was "different". I was so shocked i couldn't even answer I was too busy laughing my head off.
    As far as parents go my father isn't one to tell me how to wear my hair, but my mother on the other and is always saying I should flat iron it. She was so angry i didn't for graduation. I thought I looked fine, hopefully in college I will be surrounded by more open minded mature "young adults". (:
  • Always@nightAlways@night Posts: 566Registered Users
    Why that picture appeared in the middle if my message I don't know, but that was how i looked on graduation.
  • bryana.solomonbryana.solomon Posts: 2Registered Users
    i hardly ever straightend my hair during high school (i just graduated), and on the few days i did people would gush over how much better i looked. i quote "it doesnt look like you are stuck in an '80s flashback." rude.
  • SaraNoHSaraNoH Posts: 827Registered Users
    Of course. Part of being a teenager is that whole wanting to be like everyone else phase, but hey, everyone grows out of it and decides they couldn't care less about what others think. I noticed that in middle school and the beginning of high school no one wanted curly hair, but at the end of high school people were complimenting me on it, so we do change.

    If you rock your curly hair then maybe everyone around you will loosen up. You're "ahead of the game" so to speak :)
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  • ultracurlzultracurlz Posts: 212Registered Users
    at my school they are like

    :eek: "YOU HAVE A FRO!?!?!" and I'm like

    :afro: "Why, yes I do. thank you for noticing" ;D. then they are all

    "Straiten it" :happy2: and I go


    :hmph: "NO." :hmph:


    It happened once a month the entire year...... XP XD
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  • jubellsjubells Posts: 38Registered Users
    Why that picture appeared in the middle if my message I don't know, but that was how i looked on graduation.

    Omg my mom was upset I didn't straighten for graduation! And this girl kept talking about how it made me look childish that I didn't have it straight and some people were making fun of it calling it a mullet (I had a puff in the back) honestly I'm done with caring about what ANYONE thinks of my hair I loved it when it was relaxed and straight, I got bored and I love it even more now! It's sadly now I get complaints for how I wear it. But I figure anyone who has something negative to say is too ignorant for their own good. I won't run and slap on a relaxer or straighten for anyone.


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  • ImaginaryImaginary Posts: 6Registered Users
    Yea most teens don't appreciate curly hair as much as straight hair. Honestly, straight hair gets boring sometimes, it's just... Blah xD
  • CaitlinEQCaitlinEQ Posts: 1Registered Users
    Honestly I love my curly hair now! I'm sixteen and for YEARS I hated my hair because I never knew how to manage it! There was a whole year that all I did was straighten it and maybe wore it curly once a semester. Boy did I under appreciate my hair!

    And you know what? After years of my relatives telling me that they loved my curly hair and it fit my personality better I started accepting it and just let my hair be curly at the beginning of this past school year. And honestly? I love it SO much!

    And it isn't necessarily that guys don't like curly hair. My boyfriend, for one, LOVES my curly hair. When I complain about it he goes on and on about how he'd rather see my hair curly and natural than straightened any day and I love it! It's all about finding the RIGHT guy! :happy3:
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  • damesdames Posts: 11Registered Users
    I disagree with many of the above posters idea that every girl in high school wishes to look the same. I strongly and most simply believe straight or relaxed hair is simply 'in style' at the present time. This doesn't mean that one girl in high school wants to look more like the straight-haired popular girl; the whole world follows 'trends' at one time or another. During the 50's and 60's it wasn't just high school girls who wanted a full head of curly hair. Beyond that, some girls with curly hair simply wish to have straighter hair for many different reason, including, yes, if it is the latest trend or not, but also things such as what hairstyle they like, which one works best with their facial features, even managebility if they find keeping their natural curls looking decent is too much work. You hear the same story from both sides; girls with curly hair wants straight hair, girls with straight hair want curls. Ladies, don't fool yourself into thinking you're rebellious by wearing your hair different, possibly natural despite everyone else. Friends shouldn't bug you about it, though, in fact it's nobody else's business how you wish to wear your hair, and it goes both ways, what do you care if your curly-haired friend wants to relax her hair? Sure, even she may not know why she's doing it, but you live and you learn, so best just to let these small things slide and enjoy your hair, however you wish to wear it. This coming from a girl who had crazy wiry 'curly' hair all her life, and through the majority of high school, who has only in recent years discovered the secret to keeping her hair healthy and moisturized only to find that she, in fact, has much flatter, wavier hair than she could ever have before imagined! I was so pleased to find that my hair is straighter than I ever thought possible, curly hair just does not suit me, not my facial features, not my personality, not my get-up-and-go lifestyle. It's not that I want to look like anyone else or adhere to anyone else's idea of beauty, it simply suits me and what I want from my hair. Who knows, maybe if I was someone different with a little more time on her hands and a little more patience I would wish for curly hair when I had straight. The nasty rude comments go away when you get out of high school, there's no need to turn around and give them the same. Feel sorry for them that they'll never appreciate nor experience how it feels to have curly hair.
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  • RingletTeenLoveRingletTeenLove Posts: 116Registered Users
    I just graduated middle school and they do the same thing there -___- ugh its annoying...
  • Leah13Leah13 Posts: 25Registered Users
    I'm 17, about to turn 18 soon. I'm in college now but when I was in high school I felt pressure to straighten my hair because every other girl did too. Of course now I know better and I LOVE my curly hair. :D Some girls just really don't feel comfortable with their natural hair which is sad because natural hair is so beautiful :)
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  • Leah13Leah13 Posts: 25Registered Users
    I agree, i'm 18 and the girls in my graduating class. I'd say about 85%, had relaxed hair, that they wore with long weaves. Everyone was always asking me why i didn't wear weave6cea252d-0a53-96f4.jpg or why i stopped straightening my hair, or that maybe I should try a relaxer. I always said, i liked my hair how it was and didn't see the point. They would talk and point (like grade school children) whenever I wore my hair curly down or even in a bun. I remember one girl asked me "who do you think you are?" because I was "different". I was so shocked i couldn't even answer I was too busy laughing my head off.
    As far as parents go my father isn't one to tell me how to wear my hair, but my mother on the other and is always saying I should flat iron it. She was so angry i didn't for graduation. I thought I looked fine, hopefully in college I will be surrounded by more open minded mature "young adults". (:

    I really don't get why people would make fun of your hair! It's gorgeous! I absolutely love it :) Just had to say that haha :P
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  • greyergreyer Posts: 3Registered Users
    I guess I'm lucky because I love my curly hair and I never get any negative compliments at school. In fact, I get compliments all the time. People seem to love curly hair where I'm from. Not very many people in my grade wear their hair naturally curly but tons of people curl their hair with curling irons which is not even close to the same thing as curly hair in my opinion. At girl's state I made a new friend who had crazy insane curly hair (she had even had it chemically straightened and it was still very curly) and everyone loved her hair there. She said that she got so many compliments at girl's state. At my high school everyone always asks me if my hair is naturally curly and they are usually jealous. I think people around here love curly hair but those who do have curly or wavy hair just don't want to take the effort to do it. I do think curly hair is unappreciated but I don't have any problems where I live.
  • TangledToriiTangledTorii Posts: 164Registered Users
    To me it seems like to be "cool' you have to have straight hair. I just finished grade 9 and I find it so annoying because everyone always tells me they like my hair when I straighten it but say nothing when its curly. Adults however, tend to tell me they love my hair so I think it really is a teenage thing.

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  • curly lockzcurly lockz Posts: 30Registered Users
    I used to get bullied alot because I didn't know how to take care of my hair and it was a frizzy big ball of fluff. Now that i'm in high school and cone and poo free I get compliments all the time though. People seem to love my hair, but often ask me if i'm ever going to straighten it.. so its a mix. I do get alot of compliments from adults though. I love my hair no matter what though, if only it didnt make me look even younger then my age.. Since i'm very petite with a young looking face already.
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  • TangledToriiTangledTorii Posts: 164Registered Users
    I used to get bullied alot because I didn't know how to take care of my hair and it was a frizzy big ball of fluff.

    +1

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  • applesandafrosapplesandafros Posts: 328Registered Users
    In high school some people loved it but a lot of people thought it looked better when it was straight. I think now straight hair is the thing. Hopefully in a couple years big hair will be back in style.
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  • CurlyCutie1394CurlyCutie1394 Posts: 348Registered Users
    I love my hair now that I know how to take care of it but before I would get it flatironed ever 2 weeks and it was so plain. One day after school let out for summer I washed my hair and haven't looked back. I dnt care if other ppl talk about it because it's my hair I wear it how I want if they dnt like it too bad.
  • xoCairoxoCairo Posts: 4Registered Users
    I'm going into 11th grade and as far back as I can remember, people have always wanted to straighten my hair, and they still do. Personally, I don't like it straight; it's never looked interesting or good. When I was younger, it used to irritate me whenever anyone wanted to straighten my hair, so I never let anyone do it and I never did it myself. But as I got older I stopped being so against it and I'm willing to let people straighten it if they want, but I rarely do it myself. I don't like it straight, and I don't have the time. So I'm not really influenced by other people's thoughts on my curls any more, I just don't like it straightened. Also, I think teens are more open to curly hair than elementary or junior high kids. Yay!
  • bre_bre_ Posts: 32Registered Users
    I adore my curly hair now. I use to hate it though. Use to flat iron it all the time. Thanks to natural curly. I learned how to maintain the frizz and still am learning. I sometimes feel uncool or ugly though with curly hair. But oh well! God gave me curly hair. Its just hair. Atleast we have hair.<3

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  • whovianwhovian Posts: 7Registered Users
    I'm a rising sophomore and I feel like everyone wants to blend in with each other, stick straight hair included. I used to feel very frustrated over my big hair, and the people I was closer to said that my hair was pretty but that they could not handle wearing it themselves. Those who aren't as close to me think that I'm crazy and that I should just wear it straight. They also pick on me because my hair is so much bigger than theirs. I personally think I look awful with straight hair so I just don't care about what they say.

    But I definitely think that many people don't appreciate curly hair. Especially the boys, who think that my hair comes from outer space.
  • Lili_ExLili_Ex Posts: 4Registered Users
    Back when I was in junior high and high school, I've had girls suggest to me all the time that I should try straightening my hair. Never did of course, because 1) I like the way my hair was, 2) All my friends and family adored my curls and 3) I don't think my face shape could pull off straight hair. :P

    After both my junior high and high school graduations, I realized almost everyone was a hypocrite or something because all the girls got really expensive perms. xD
  • Kurlygirly0204Kurlygirly0204 Posts: 50Registered Users
    I feel like people think that straight hair is the "normal" thing, as most people around us have straight, wavy hair.
    They don't understand, nor appreciate it, because it's unfamiliar and strange to them.
    I'm only 13.
    I'll be starting eighth grade this year, and I intend to keep my hair curly for graduation, and all through high school. I'm not even straightening it for my 8th grade farewell or prom.
  • Kurlygirly0204Kurlygirly0204 Posts: 50Registered Users
    Lili_Ex I agree, my face shape doesn't look good with straight hair. I look better with curly hair, and o believe there's a reason we were born with this hair, so why should we change it.
  • bringingcurliesback?bringingcurliesback? Posts: 1,307Registered Users
    luluus wrote: »
    well i'm 17 and in high school obviously. I used to not be able to leave the house without straightening my hair but then i just didn't have time one day so i left it curly and ever since i've liked to leave it curly (i still do straighten sometimes though). I feel like people my age don't really like curly hair? well I guess some girls do because I get compliments from girls but maybe guys don't? I don't see why not. Seems like they go for the more boring type of hair. Well anyways I'm kind of off topic but do you guys feel like people or teens specifically don't really appreciate curly hair? And does that affect your choices on how to leave your hair at all?

    I had really curly hair as a child and my mom grew it long until I was in sixth grade because it was more manageable that way- and of course it looked almost straight/wavy because she always braided it. So at the start of jr. highschool my older cousin got my hair cut because she convinced me that long curly hair was just ick. So she took me to the salon and ever since seventh grade I had been straightening my hair to look just like every other look alike alien in school (all the "popular" girls had stick straight hair, and it seemed like all the guys digged too). Then in ninth grade we had swimming in p.e. and I was like aaaaaahh!!! what will I do? So that day I stepped into the pool with my straight hair avoiding the water like a cat, and after I washed it I put in some mousse and everybody was like did you get a perm just for swimming?? Ummm no, this is my natural hair, but I usually straighten it. :O
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