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5 Things a Stylist Should NEVER Say to a Curly Client

MichelleMichelle AdministratorPosts: 724Moderators Curl Neophyte
We're doing an article on some of the things a stylist should never say to a curly client. We'd love to hear your ideas.

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  • belwillcoilybelwillcoily Posts: 303Registered Users
    Michelle wrote: »
    We're doing an article on some of the things a stylist should never say to a curly client. We'd love to hear your ideas.

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  • *Marah**Marah* Posts: 8,032Registered Users
    "Your hair texture is very coarse.. I suggest a silkener, texturizer, relaxer, or keratin treatment." Don't offer the client chemical services to alter their curls or kinks that they didn't specifically ask to have done first. I just think doing that suggest automatically that their hair is unacceptable in it's natural state..which is hurtful.
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  • adthomasadthomas Posts: 5,525Registered Users
    *Marah* wrote: »
    "Your hair texture is very coarse.. I suggest a silkener, texturizer, relaxer, or keratin treatment." Don't offer the client chemical services to alter their curls or kinks that they didn't specifically ask to have done first. I just think doing that suggest automatically that their hair is unacceptable in it's natural state..which is hurtful.

    Exactly. This is part of reason I havent been to a salon in more than 3 years. If a stylist were to even mention any kind of chemical treatment to me without me inquiring first I might not be so nice. And I dont like not being nice so I dont go. I trim my own hair and if I decide to get a major cut I have relatives who can do it.
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  • FabledBeautyFabledBeauty Posts: 145Registered Users
    Heres a good one.. dont just stare at my hair and say well... "we can take about two inches off"... let me stop you right there.. pick up those snips and ill take your hand off...some stylists are so intimidated by natural hair especially in a wash n go they immediately assume hell is breaking loose..and stylists already treat a trim like its sheep shearing time...
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  • Prototype_KPrototype_K Posts: 59Registered Users
    "Oh! Here for a touch up? When was the last time you relaxed your hair?" :angryfire: I got that a couple of months ago
  • HomeGrownHairGirlHomeGrownHairGirl Posts: 296Registered Users
    *Marah* wrote: »
    "Your hair texture is very coarse.. I suggest a silkener, texturizer, relaxer, or keratin treatment." Don't offer the client chemical services to alter their curls or kinks that they didn't specifically ask to have done first. I just think doing that suggest automatically that their hair is unacceptable in it's natural state..which is hurtful.


    I totally agree! :thumbright: It is rude and offensive to automatically assume someone wants straight hair just because their hair is curly/coily/etc. It's like if a red-head client came in, and the stylist--without provocation--immediately suggested they go blond!
  • soleilmoncursoleilmoncur Posts: 1,194Registered Users
    "Oh! Here for a touch up? When was the last time you relaxed your hair?" :angryfire: I got that a couple of months ago

    To be fair if you are transitioning I would ask that too as a stylist.
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  • happyfacehappyface Posts: 845Registered Users
    *Marah* wrote: »
    "Your hair texture is very coarse.. I suggest a silkener, texturizer, relaxer, or keratin treatment." Don't offer the client chemical services to alter their curls or kinks that they didn't specifically ask to have done first. I just think doing that suggest automatically that their hair is unacceptable in it's natural state..which is hurtful.

    +1 the same goes for heat to alter curls or kinks if they didn't ask first. I hate when they say, "You should at least let me flat iron it so you can see how long it is." Personally I don't care how long it is straight if I never wear it straight.
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  • soleilmoncursoleilmoncur Posts: 1,194Registered Users
    "I only work with customers with x-y-z type hair. Maybe you would have better luck with someone who has your type of curly hair."
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  • adthomasadthomas Posts: 5,525Registered Users
    "I only work with customers with x-y-z type hair. Maybe you would have better luck with someone who has your type of curly hair."

    I think this is a good thing. Gives you warning to run before they jack your hair up.
    A few people have admired my twistout hair and ask me if I do twists for other people. I said no and they told me stylists around here refuse to do it. Odd to me since it would be quicker than braiding.
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  • NstinctiVnaturNstinctiVnatur Posts: 127Registered Users
    1. You sure you never had a relaxer?

    2. Oops!

    3. Your hair is too nappy for...

    4. I'm going to get marcel on you.

    5. (Saying nothing but assuming you want your hair bone straight).
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  • BlackAngelPlayahBlackAngelPlayah Posts: 1,419Registered Users
    "Oh! Here for a touch up? When was the last time you relaxed your hair?" :angryfire: I got that a couple of months ago

    To be fair if you are transitioning I would ask that too as a stylist.

    In this day of natural love, I'd let the client ask for it.

    I didn't go to stylist relaxed. Not going as a natural. Too many horror stories. >_<


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  • NinjaretteNinjarette Posts: 3,982Registered Users
    adthomas wrote: »
    "I only work with customers with x-y-z type hair. Maybe you would have better luck with someone who has your type of curly hair."

    I think this is a good thing. Gives you warning to run before they jack your hair up.
    A few people have admired my twistout hair and ask me if I do twists for other people. I said no and they told me stylists around here refuse to do it. Odd to me since it would be quicker than braiding.

    Me too, cuz I don't want you to try and "fake it till you make it", on my head. Don't be proud. Let me know you have no idea what to do, so I can go to someone who does.
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  • claudine19claudine19 Posts: 4,486Registered Users
    "You'd look great with a blowout."

    "Your hair is uneven; one side waves differently than the other."

    "The last stylist did a bad job."

    "Why do you want to wear it wavy?"

    "How do you feel about adding some blonde streaks?"

    and the absolute worst thing to say, imo, is:

    "Now which one of us is the expert here, you or me?"
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  • BugEyeZBugEyeZ Posts: 314Registered Users
    "It hardly seems worth all that trouble growing your hair out!"
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  • JewelCurlsJewelCurls Posts: 191Registered Users
    "I'm going to comb this out to see you pattern better (dry)."

    So breaking up my curl pattern is going to show you my curl pattern?
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  • CandiiMamiiCandiiMamii Posts: 118Registered Users
    A lot of these things sound so horrible! I hope I never have to deal with any of those. I've had (dominican) stylist try to talk me out of a cut, I should just trim and let it grow longer. I've had multiple stylist (and many other people) talk me out of dying my hair, because it is already a 'color' (med brown w/ natural highlights). the last time I got my hair pressed (by a black woman) she was upset, look at the lady in the next chair she is about get her hair dyed your color and bought 2 packs of weave that is the same texture as yours, and here you come asking me to press it out and clip off some length. Lol I guess my story offers some hope for others. I've never had a bad experience.
  • adthomasadthomas Posts: 5,525Registered Users
    Looking back I can only think of one or two hairdressers I had whose hair looked good to me. They had a short old Toni braxton style. Everyone else's head looked a mess but I grew up hearing stylists spent so much time doing other people's hair they dont like to fool with their own.
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  • itsKelCeeEeeitsKelCeeEee Posts: 1,084Registered Users
    "I only work with customers with x-y-z type hair. Maybe you would have better luck with someone who has your type of curly hair."

    I must respectfully disagree. I'd much rather someone admit to me they're not capable of doing my hair than for them to attempt to do it, screw it up, and me walk out with jacked up hair.
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  • penguinsamapenguinsama Posts: 20Registered Users
    adthomas wrote: »
    Looking back I can only think of one or two hairdressers I had whose hair looked good to me. They had a short old Toni braxton style. Everyone else's head looked a mess but I grew up hearing stylists spent so much time doing other people's hair they dont like to fool with their own.


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  • stacie1285stacie1285 Posts: 4Registered Users
    I walked into a hairdressers as I'd seen a set of combs in the window I wanted. My hair was curly from a twist out and it looked cuuuute.

    The stylist came running up to me soon as I walked in and she goes "Wow, I'll just start mixing up the relaxer... Virgin hair costs more, by the way. Or *eyes lighting up greedily at the thought of making more money* you could have a weave?"

    Worst part? Her hair looked jacked. If you have a weave sewn in that does not match a) the texture, or b) the colour of your own hair, please do not think you can put it in a huge updo. Catching glimpses of straight red Korean hair, tracks, thread and the uncared for knots of your natural hair all at the same doesn't fill me with confidence that you know how to do a damn thing with my head.

    I've heard some rough things said from customers to stylists too, but that's a different thread ;-)
  • penguinsamapenguinsama Posts: 20Registered Users
    stacie1285 wrote: »
    i walked into a hairdressers as i'd seen a set of combs in the window i wanted. My hair was curly from a twist out and it looked cuuuute.

    The stylist came running up to me soon as i walked in and she goes "wow, i'll just start mixing up the relaxer... Virgin hair costs more, by the way. Or *eyes lighting up greedily at the thought of making more money* you could have a weave?"

    worst part? Her hair looked jacked. If you have a weave sewn in that does not match a) the texture, or b) the colour of your own hair, please do not think you can put it in a huge updo. Catching glimpses of straight red korean hair, tracks, thread and the uncared for knots of your natural hair all at the same doesn't fill me with confidence that you know how to do a damn thing with my head.

    I've heard some rough things said from customers to stylists too, but that's a different thread ;-)

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  • AdraMierAdraMier Posts: 108Registered Users
    One of my friend told me that she wish to know what her stylist used the product or whatever on her hair, becasue hair looks good on her. That was her opinion about her own hair. her opinion counted.

    HOWEVER, her stylist should not say, "I can not tell you what I did with your hair, that is my secert." Her comments turn me off big time, I kept that opinion to myself. I can not say anything to her, becasue she was my boss.:roll: I never forget that comment.

    Guess WHAT?? She went back to the same stylist. DUH???????
  • SamiSami Posts: 94Registered Users
    Something a stylist should never say to any client: oops!

    Gahh, happened to me once:/ lost about 5 inches when I was only going for a 1 inch trim...
  • FabledBeautyFabledBeauty Posts: 145Registered Users
    Insult to injury... this woman wasnt even a stylist yet she was itching to get her fingers on my head... but a few months back she was looking at my hair in barely concealed horror and said "well do you want me to perm it for you? or you would look FABULOUS In locs..." no offense to those with locs but if I wanted a style that permanent I would have gotten them and theres a reason I went NATUAL in the first place...

    I wanted to chew her hand off...Stop touching other peoples hair WITHOUT asking for ONE!
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