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Why are you transitioning?

coconillacoconilla Posts: 46Registered Users
Why did you all decide to go natural?
Was there a defining moment or was it just because you realised your hair was getting damaged?
What was the hardest thing when you first started?

For me, I stopped relaxing because I started heat straightning, then after a while, not on purpose, just straightened less and less because I was busy, then i noticed how badly damaged my hair was and started googling about natural hair and went from there. I saw so many people on these forums and YouTube with beautiful natural hair, and I realised I didn't really have "bad hair", nobody does, me and people with bad hair would have "good hair" if we care for it, not straighten it because it seems easier.

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  • liyahjayliyahjay Posts: 15Registered Users
    The reason for my transition is my desire to restore my hair's health and growth. I've been getting perms since I was 9 or 10. I was 21 when I decided to go natural. Didn't know if it was something I really wanted to do because transitioning is a big step and going natural is a different world from what I was used to. My last perm was in February 2011, after I had a bad experience with a sew-in weave. My hair grows so fast, so I had my new growth straightened til May, when I got my senegalese twists. Kept them in til August, and I loved them, but I made the mistake of washing my hair before coming it out. Painful experience. In October, I realized that my hair was half relaxed half natural, so I got the big chop. Thought I would realize what I'd done and be overwhelmed with regret, but honestly I wasn't. I loved my mini afro. From October to now, my hair has been growing like wildfire, and is now a full grown afro. I wash it every two weeks, oil my scalp every week, and plait my hair every night. Getting marley twists this weekend, and I'm so excited. Made a lot of mistakes during my transition, but I don't regret them. Without the mistakes, you can't learn from them.
    :afro:
    Hair type: 4b/4c
    Last perm: February 2011
    Big Chop: October 2011
    Reason for Transition: 1. perm chemicals are my hair's arch nemesis 2. desire to restore health and growth
  • PearlsForCurlsPearlsForCurls Posts: 86Registered Users
    Hey there! I am transitioning because I'm ready to embrace my hair without chemicals. I workout daily, and I used to dread it or even stop for about a week when I got relaxers. Total killjoy haha. Also, I've been getting relaxers since I was FOUR years old...I am 21 now (thanks mom!) Lol. Relaxed hair is all I really knew! I actually used to wear my hair curly WHILE I had a relaxer! Here is a photo below (I'm on the right)

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    I actually started on accident. I just kept procrastinating getting my touch up because I was on a roll with working out and losing weight. I'm almost five months out and I'm loving this journey. I think the hardest part is actually trying not to become a Product Junkie, lol I want to try everything!

    But so far I have had kinky twists and next week I am getting flat twists!

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    Now fully natural!:thumbright:

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  • coconillacoconilla Posts: 46Registered Users
    Liyahjay... more brave than me! I'm still trying to pluck up the courage to cut of all my damage. You've got guts. Did you find it grew faster after you got your big chop?
    Can't believe it grew so fast, you're lucky lol, and it looks so lovely and thick aswell.

    Pearlsforcurls... I started relaxing at the same age, my sisters did mine though, I've told them I'll never forgive them lol. I think when you start so young your hair gets messed up forever, I've got some funny bits in the front that people say is because of relaxer.
    Your curls are really nice, I could never get mine to be as defined as that lol.

    Well good luck to both of you anyway :)


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  • MissKrisMissKris Posts: 288Registered Users
    My transition has been complete for quite some time but I'd like so share anyway. My last relaxer was October 2006. I realized that I needed so much product for styling that it could break my pockets. On top of that, my hair wasn't growing like I wanted. I figured that since I had been on chemicals and unhealthy styling aids for most of my life, I'd have to start from scratch. I started with tree braids and kept that up for several months. In between braid styles I'd wear a pashmina with the knot off slightly to the side. September 2007 was the big chop. I then began wearing a fro with cornrows in front. Since then I've liked changing it up with wigs, sew-ins, braids, and the pashmina.

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  • anonymous_114091anonymous_114091 Posts: 126Registered Users
    It's something I fear and am curious about. I'm tired of wondering what my natural hair is like, and I am tired of dealing with two different textures no sooner than a month after relaxing, so I'm going for it.

    Oh, I'm new, btw. Hi! :wave:
    *BIG CHOP: September 22, 2012* :afro:
    *Last Relaxer: April 15, 2012* :p


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  • curlangel0690curlangel0690 Posts: 172Registered Users
    I am transitioning from heat damaged hair from my flat iron. I had an unfortunate accident at work about a year and a half ago where a bunch of metal signs fell on me and I damaged the nerves in my right arm leaving me unable to use my right hand for about 2 months. As a result I couldn't hold a flat iron, hair dryer or anything else. It was kinda sucky especially when I had to have hubby do my hair for me(which is pretty much as scary as it sounds). During that time I realized how much I had missed my curly hair. When I got better I straightened my hair once more. The smell of burning hair and the lack of curls made me sad. That was the end of that for me. I put away the flat iron and dryer and started to research how to fix my hair. That led me here and a year and a half later I am a die hard curly. I always thought I had 3a/b hair until I started taking care of it and found out that the new growth I was growing was a strong 3c. Now I am so in love with my hair and in a few more months I'm gonna BC. I'm so excited! I think those metal signs were the universes way of knocking some sense into me, lol.
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  • liyahjayliyahjay Posts: 15Registered Users
    @coconilla it definitely grew faster after I cut it because I did away with perm chemicals and the damage and kept my scalp moisturized. Moisture is key for health and growth
    :afro:
    Hair type: 4b/4c
    Last perm: February 2011
    Big Chop: October 2011
    Reason for Transition: 1. perm chemicals are my hair's arch nemesis 2. desire to restore health and growth
  • MissKrisMissKris Posts: 288Registered Users
    Amen! Plus consistency...

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  • bluedreamsbluedreams Posts: 8Registered Users

    I’ve been natural for quite a while now, but the main reason I went was because I realized the relaxers were damaging my hair worse each time I used it. I never wanted my hair full straight, just long, so I’d purposely sabotage the relaxing afterward to leave some curl left in my hair. I’m really low key when it comes to taking care of my hair…so this do-it-yourself mess that I went through to get some length while burn my scalp and frying my ends started to just not be worth it. I don’t remember why I decided to stop, I was just sick of it.
    The hardest part was, by far, letting it go back to “normal.” I wasn’t used to seeing my hair that curly and the ends remained fried. I couldn’t trim my hair for a long time because I wasn’t willing to do the big cut without a good amount of length already established. Cutting it really meant stages of cuts over time. It also took a while to learn what did and did not help my hair. For example, mousse. At first it makes my hair look great. But soon it’ll make my hair frizz. I had to live with “short” hair for a long while (short being just above my shoulders). And the fact that the back of my hair is curlier that the front…which made it trickier to cut or style
    But I love the surprises that came with it. Like the first time I tried a deep conditioning recipe and learned that when moisturized and wet my hair would bounce when I jumped. The compliments increase dramatically. Turns out sabotaged relaxed hair comes out stringy looking on my head. My hair now looked fuller and healthier. It was softer and vibrant to the very ends. My hair needed less product to make this happen. And when I finally cut my last dead ends, my hair grew FAST. It’s now an inch below my collar bone and I hope to get it to just below my chest.
  • mixedecuamixedecua Posts: 46Registered Users
    I wanted to transition because i hated the feeling of being a prisoner to perms(if that makes any sense).i wanted my hair to be free without having to worry about getting a perm.i also hated how thin and barbie doll like my hair looked when i straightened it.i want a natural look.i also realized my hair was pretty in its natural state and i didnt need a perm
  • rae_ofsunshinerae_ofsunshine Posts: 5Registered Users
    I'm 17 and I started getting relaxers when I was about 5 years old :sad10:. I've never known my true texture and my relaxed hair has always been very thin and boring. So I decided to make a change. I've been transitioning since May 18, 2011:wav: yay ! My hair is a LOT longer and my braidouts look a hundred times better !! I can't wait to get rid of those ends though !
    :afro: Striving towards BIG HAIR :afro:
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  • nownatural2nownatural2 Posts: 9Registered Users
    As with the other posts I too got fed up of having to relax all the time, plus I became more & more concerned about the amount and type of toxic chemicals that go into relaxers and how these obviously go directly into the bloodstream through the hair follicle.

    You only have to imagine this going into your bloodstream every six weeks for the rest of your life and its enough to put you off for life!
    Even worse is reading that children as young as 4 or 5 are using them..:sad8:

    Black people were the first people on this earth, we are the original kings and queens "the people that do not burn under the sun and the keepers of water" (under Africa is enough water for the whole continent if not the world, ironic that they are dying of thirst isnt it? accident or on purpose?)

    unfortunately many factions work very hard to keep this conscious knowledge from us, including saturating us with mind numbing chemicals in any way possible to keep us from even asking a question. Deep but true.

    We have to wake up and it starts by going back to our roots (literally!)

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    AND START LEARNING!

    To me its way deeper than just transitioning the relaxer, its about the fact we should never have wanted to have straight european hair in the first place and why we define our hair as ugly.
    I used to hate my hair so much and wished it was longer, silky-er, straighter...now I love my natural hair so much & it FEELS right!
    This is what my hair was born to be.
  • RingletTeenLoveRingletTeenLove Posts: 116Registered Users
    Chemicals , other than hair dye , make my hair fall out. Bald spots and every thing. I first had a perm (relaxer) when I was 11 and it worked for about 5 months then I transitioned but I kept straightening. Then my hair would stay straight for long. So I got a texturizer when i was 13 and my hair fell out in like a week. So now that I'm 14 and almost done my process my hair is strong a gorgeous:)

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  • NaeShelleNaeShelle Posts: 49Registered Users
    Nothing really new here on my end, but, I'm transitionion because of personal (I was tired of having relaxers on my head four or five hours at a time just to get my kinky newgrowth to lay down - which it never did for more than a few days) and medical (my chronic migraines would get worse before I got a realxer due to me stressing myself out and then after I got one due to the chemicals reacting negatively with my body) reasons.
    December 21, 2011 - Last Relaxer
    April 1, 2012 - Transitioning Began
    March 30, 2013 - Big Chopped

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  • adthomasadthomas Posts: 5,525Registered Users
    NaeShelle wrote: »
    Nothing really new here on my end, but, I'm transitionion because of personal (I was tired of having relaxers on my head four or five hours at a time just to get my kinky newgrowth to lay down - which it never did for more than a few days) and medical (my chronic migraines would get worse before I got a realxer due to me stressing myself out and then after I got one due to the chemicals reacting negatively with my body) reasons.

    Please tell this is a typo.
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  • RimiRimi Posts: 2,001Registered Users
    adthomas wrote: »
    Please tell this is a typo.

    Lol yeah that's crazy! NaeShelle I'm surprised your hair didn't fall off after having a relaxer on it for 5 hours!
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  • InimitableInimitable Posts: 148Registered Users
    I went natural for many different reasons. My hair was constantly breaking and I knew it would grow longer than it was. When I was a kid, I had long thick hair. After the relaxers, I have thin short to medium length hair. I wanted my wraps to be full and bouncy; I was able to get the bouncy look, but not the full look with a relaxer. Then it seemed like my hair broke off as much as it was growing and I never was able to hold onto any length. Then I had my daughter. I knew I was not going to relaxer her hair, EVER! Then I thought how I can convince her that her hair is beautiful and lovely etc... when my own hair was relaxed. I transitioned for a few months only because I couldn’t get to the salon soon enough. Then, I big chopped and haven’t looked back since. Besides, straight hair is a bit boring to me. I like standing out in the crowd.
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  • NaeShelleNaeShelle Posts: 49Registered Users
    adthomas wrote: »
    Please tell this is a typo.

    I'm the only person in the house (in my "direct" family, including first cousins and all) that has my thick hair type. They didn't know what to do with it, so, they slapped a relaxer on it and had me sit with it for however long they thought it would take to actually make it lay down.

    Which it never did, though, it only got that "bad" when I got older. When I turned about seven or eight is when I had to sit with it on for more than an hour or two. When I was younger, and started getting my relaxers at two, it was thirty minutes to an hour and a half.

    But, hindsight is 20/20.
    December 21, 2011 - Last Relaxer
    April 1, 2012 - Transitioning Began
    March 30, 2013 - Big Chopped

    High Density. Medium-Low Porosity. Kinky. Shoulder Length.

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  • RoadDamon35RoadDamon35 Posts: 16Registered Users
    I have been getting my hair relaxed since I was 5 years old. My mom would do all my relaxers. One day I told my mother If something ever happens to you I will go natural. Because I would trust no one with my hair but her. Well on May 14th my mother died. And the last perm she gave me was April 2. This is when my natural journey began.

    Ironically enough my 12 year old daughter is natural. I was so about to put a perm in her hair. All my creme crack sisters were encouraging me to. But I resisted. Now I'm happy I didn't. We can be on this journey together. Finding out the truth about our hair. Learning and exploring our hair.
  • MissKrisMissKris Posts: 288Registered Users
    I have been getting my hair relaxed since I was 5 years old. My mom would do all my relaxers. One day I told my mother If something ever happens to you I will go natural. Because I would trust no one with my hair but her. Well on May 14th my mother died. And the last perm she gave me was April 2. This is when my natural journey began.

    Ironically enough my 12 year old daughter is natural. I was so about to put a perm in her hair. All my creme crack sisters were encouraging me to. But I resisted. Now I'm happy I didn't. We can be on this journey together. Finding out the truth about our hair. Learning and exploring our hair.

    God knows just what we need, huh?? I'm glad for the both of you tho. Particularly your baby. She won't have to learn the hard way now...

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  • dreamaker9729dreamaker9729 Posts: 7Registered Users
    Everytime i get a relaxer my hair is either under/over processed or it gets to mbl and they cut it to should length again..I hate scissor happy stylist. So i decide hey let me see what God bless with me under this straight thin mess maybe i might like it.. Im almost 10 months post going for 2 yrs transitioning...
  • willowlovewillowlove Posts: 4Registered Users
    I went natural because I was tired of the heat damage to my hair, and paying top dollar for weaves. I wanted to wear my curls out and I am so glad that more and more beautiful women are deciding to join the movement. And yes you are right who said our hair was "bad"? Our natural hair is and always be beautiful. :)
  • lunasouseisekilunasouseiseki Posts: 4Registered Users
    Hey there! I am transitioning because I'm ready to embrace my hair without chemicals. I workout daily, and I used to dread it or even stop for about a week when I got relaxers. Total killjoy haha. Also, I've been getting relaxers since I was FOUR years old...I am 21 now (thanks mom!) Lol. Relaxed hair is all I really knew! I actually used to wear my hair curly WHILE I had a relaxer! Here is a photo below (I'm on the right)

    60254403-18a9-527d.jpg

    I actually started on accident. I just kept procrastinating getting my touch up because I was on a roll with working out and losing weight. I'm almost five months out and I'm loving this journey. I think the hardest part is actually trying not to become a Product Junkie, lol I want to try everything!

    But so far I have had kinky twists and next week I am getting flat twists!

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    This is totally me! I workout almost everyday but it was so annoying trying to work out after getting my hair relaxed. It was pretty much a waste of a treatment.
  • lunasouseisekilunasouseiseki Posts: 4Registered Users
    When I use to get my hair relaxed it would be super manageable. But as I got older it got dry and brittle and would just never grow because it would break off. I've been meaning to transition for a while but I never had the confidence. My boyfriend now is very supportive of me exploring my natural locks so I'm rather excited. I'm just scared though, I hate the afro look, so I'm hoping for curls.

    Fingers Crossed!!
  • sakiohmasakiohma Posts: 104Registered Users
    I just simply thought that natural hair was beautiful.

    What stopped me from going natural for so long was the fact that I was scared I wouldn't know how to care for it. I did a program called AmeriCorps NCCC were I was away from my hair stylist for a year and was basically forced into transitioning. I would gradually feel my new growth and I became obsessed with it. I ended up relaxing once I was done with NCCC and I was a bit upset with myself. Immediately after that, I decided to restart my transitioning phase and I've been transitioning for about 20 months so far :)

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  • 7OH4_QC7OH4_QC Posts: 57Registered Users
    As most, life just started coming too fast and my relaxed hair just wasnt keeping up! About 10 months ago was my last relaxer (12/2011), I straightened and roller set for a while before the new growth took over. Right now I have a little over 2 inches remaining in my transition. Over all its been a decision I STILL debate with myself about, but I dont regret the road I took. My daughter is 7, the age I was when my mom first relaxed my hair. She has GORGEOUS shoulder length curls (I'm talking beautiful, naturally hydrated bounce) and I would hate her to tame that with man-made chemicals, (that the media will confirm is contributing to our early demise). To look in the mirror and truely EMBRACE yourself, as is, is true love!

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  • Y3ssi88Y3ssi88 Posts: 132Registered Users
    I just felt it took me too much time to flat iron my hair too last for a couple of days, and I realize how much heat damage my hair was getting. Also the smell of burnt hair was no pleasant. It was difficult at the beginning, but I learned to deal with it after trying a lot of tech. Now I love my curls.


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